So basically we've fallen under some hard times and about five years ago my dad became a heavy drinker. Coeincidentally, this is when he says my mom started going downhill in their marraige. When he drinks, he gets violent, scary, and forgets most of what happened the next day and just remembers the angry parts. He says my mom doesn't love him when she falls asleep on the couch instead of in bed when he's drunk and calls her lazy and crap. Last night he just flipped and said he wanted to end it. My mom fell asleep crying and howling like a child in my arms. It's moments like that where a spouse is supposed to be there for each other but he just comes out and starts yelling some more. This morning I woke him up and said pretty much everything I've been feeling for the past five years. About drinking, how he treats her, how he refuses to seek help. I told him he has no where to go but he doesn't care. All he remembers is the bad stuff that happened last night. That very same yesterday before the alchohol kicked in he said he loved her dearly. And she's always loved him. But he's always had a problem with thinking that he's always right, even when you prove him wrong. It's far from a perfect marraige but mom doesn't want out, and I don't think he truly does either, but is too drunk and bitter to know that. Advice?
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