"Women decide whether or not they like a guy within 15 minutes of meeting them. That's a full 14 minutes and 59 seconds longer than Youtube viewers". Or maybe the problem is just you =P
how many minutes do women have to impress a man? theres more of them then us.
Actually, that's a widespread misconception. There are actually slightly more males than females on Earth. According to the CIA World Factbook, the sex ratio for the total population on the planet is 1.014 males/female as of this year.
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This is most likely because of higher sex ratios in China and India, the two most populous countries on Earth, having sex selective abortions and female infanticide.
I second this to include myself. Why does the human male have to possess **** tons of confidence and/or money to get a mate? If you lack either of those, you're fucked, and not in the good way. And then society calls you a loser. I know most people on OT don't really like Cracked.com, but there's a good article on there that I can relate to. The third entry is the relevant one about believing in yourself and confidence.
This quote from the article is fucking awesome because it's true: "So in your case, Chad, you have confidence to ask girls out because they have always responded to you in a certain way. You don't know what I'm talking about, because you have never had it any other way. But go back to being a toddler and relive your life as the weird kid, or the fat kid, or the poor kid. Reach age 12 or 13 and see a group of females give you the same look they give to a spider they found in the bathtub. Go back and get familiar with that body language that says, "No one will be happy or relaxed until you leave." Go back and live your life in a universe that bites your hand when you try to reach out to it. Then see what your confidence is like at age 23."
I believe building confidence is somewhat related to learning a new language. When you're really young (less than 10 years old), it's really easy to learn new languages because of the brain's rapid development during those years. After puberty, it becomes increasingly difficult to learn a new language. The same is more or less true about boys building confidence. The middle school and high school years are prime time for gaining confidence, either through playing sports or just trial-and-error talking with girls. If your self-esteem hasn't reached a certain point after high school, it becomes increasingly difficult and stressful to build one's self-esteem and confidence. All the way from K-12, I was the one of the hated kids in elementary school, one the weird kids in middle school, and one of the quiet, awkward kids in high school.
Playing sports was never really an option for me considering how bad my motor skills are compared to some of my peers; I also had bad sportsmanship. I'd get pissed if I fucked up in gym class. I was also a special ed student for my whole public school career. I was never really intelligent or good at anything, save for remembering state capitals, some international capitals, and drawing at a young age. Girls rarely showed interest in me, and if they did, I'd usually **** up and turn them off. Not like it mattered considering high school relationships are almost completely meaningless and I wouldn't even call middle school pairings "relationships". I also struggle with speech a little bit. My mind will often go blank and I'll suddenly forget every word I've ever learned ever and can't find something to say, making me look like an idiot. Shit, it happened to me at work last weekend. My speech is often jumbled up and I can be unorganized when talking about situations sometimes. Attempting to ask out a girl would be fucking terrifying to me. "But what's the worst that could happen? She says no?" Exactly, which would cripple my already low self-esteem.
My best bet is to just try and not care at this point. And it's not like getting a date or getting married is crucial for my survival like food, water, and shelter. It's not gonna kill me.
And now I'm tired of writing, so I'm gonna stop here, LOL. :P
I read that people make their impression of you within the first few seconds of talking to you.
@ gamerguru100 I kinda was like that too. The trick is not caring if they say no. You just move on to the next one. To many chicks out there to be wasting time any one girl.
60% of the fruit flies genes are the same as humans
...and? This slight similarity in genes does not mean the brain's of each function exactly the same chemically; nor does it mean based on their vastly different levels of consciousness and intelligence that fruit flies and woman think the same. This is one small study, drawing one ludicrously large conclusion, that really hasn't been reported in any noteworthy scientific website. Why this is even a thread is beyond me. Unless it is just another sad attempt to negatively portray women.
60% of the fruit flies genes are the same as humans
...and? This slight similarity in genes does not mean the brain's of each function exactly the same chemically; nor does it mean based on their vastly different levels of consciousness and intelligence that fruit flies and woman think the same. This is one small study, drawing one ludicrously large conclusion, that really hasn't been reported in any noteworthy scientific website. Why this is even a thread is beyond me. Unless it is just another sad attempt to negatively portray women.
What the hell is your problem? No it's not to portray women in a bad light, jesus fucking christ. Get over yourself...
Not true, if they come around your neck of the wood often. The only thing that impresses most women are: 1) Your wallet = or your $$ amount. 2) Your looks .. All else falls under luck. So gamers, if you want to have game, find a way to work up those two things. Or else, hope you have a rabbits foot.
I have closer to a foot than not. But it ain't no rabbit.
I only agree that good looking slutty women are interested in your wallet. I know there are good "real" women out there. I met one last year at work. She was married, but she wanted me. I wanted her. Nothing ever happened between us. The last day I saw her before I went to a new job she said. "The only thing that's stopping me is the fact that I made a comittment 15 years ago." If I had more money or not it wouldn't have made a difference. And I wasn't trying to pursue her. I just happened to have to see her at work.
And in her words too. "Life sucks sometimes, you meet someone you're sexually attracted to and you can't do anything about it except to let them go"
So gamer guys, there is hope. You just have to learn how to talk to a women instead of oogling them!
This hasn't been confirmed in humans. At all. Therefore, it is purely speculative to say that humans interact in the way this study is suggesting.
Because this study is purely about fruit flies, it completely fails to account for human social behaviors, or time differences which might arise from the increased complexity of human interaction.
i guess its true because when I follow the 3 second rule I usually bag the girl, but when I pussy out and stall after initial eye contact I usually get brushed off.
i guess its true because when I follow the 3 second rule I usually bag the girl, but when I pussy out and stall after initial eye contact I usually get brushed off.
Three second rule? Bag the girl? Did you drop her on the floor?
i guess its true because when I follow the 3 second rule I usually bag the girl, but when I pussy out and stall after initial eye contact I usually get brushed off.
Three second rule? Bag the girl? Did you drop her on the floor?
are you seriously perplexed? or trying to sound high and mighty behind a keyboard?
What happens if i go to 15:00.0000012 Does that mean I missed my chance? What time does it start, can I un-subtract some time because I don't count the introduction as trying to impress a girl? If I'm at 14:59.99 then I still have that small chance right?
Not true, if they come around your neck of the wood often. The only thing that impresses most women are: 1) Your wallet = or your $$ amount. 2) Your looks .. All else falls under luck. So gamers, if you want to have game, find a way to work up those two things. Or else, hope you have a rabbits foot.
I have closer to a foot than not. But it ain't no rabbit.
I only agree that good looking slutty women are interested in your wallet. I know there are good "real" women out there. I met one last year at work. She was married, but she wanted me. I wanted her. Nothing ever happened between us. The last day I saw her before I went to a new job she said. "The only thing that's stopping me is the fact that I made a comittment 15 years ago." If I had more money or not it wouldn't have made a difference. And I wasn't trying to pursue her. I just happened to have to see her at work.
And in her words too. "Life sucks sometimes, you meet someone you're sexually attracted to and you can't do anything about it except to let them go"
So gamer guys, there is hope. You just have to learn how to talk to a women instead of oogling them!
Interesting enough. Yes, there are good ones, but hard to find. If you find one, hold on as long as you can. But nobody is perfect. Good advice Mikey132.
@gamerguru100: Maybe your inability to find a "mate" isn't due to a lack of confidence or money. In your post you told us that you have anger issues, you're developmentally disabled, you don't see value in relationships with others (you call them "meaningless"), you suffer from some kind of speech disorder, and you seem to have an all-around anti-social attitude.
Maybe they care less about your wallet, and more about who you are as a person.
I used to have anger issues in elementary and middle school. The only times I really get angry now is when I'm either provoked or if Call of Duty is pissing me off. And check your reading comprehension: I said high school relationships, not all relationships, are meaningless. And middle school "relationships" aren't really relationships.
As for developmental disability, the only thing I have ever been diagnosed with was ADHD back in sixth grade. I was also told that I had a math learning disability in a later grade. I've never been diagnosed with anything other than ADHD, and I've more or less grown out of that. Half the time, I'm just an idiot. I may have a lower IQ than normal, but I can't confirm that without a legitimate IQ test (if there is such a thing). I have never been formally diagnosed with a speech disorder; I simply have trouble talking sometimes. And you obviously don't know what anti-social means. Being anti-social is a personality disorder in which the sufferer has tendencies to manipulate, exploit, or violate the rights of others. Anti-social does not equal anti-socializing.
Co-workers and classmates are pretty neutral towards me, especially classmates since I rarely talk to them. My lack of confidence and money are the primary reasons why I don't have a girlfriend.
You twisted my words a bit and that obviously didn't go unnoticed. I give you a 2/10. Try harder next time.
Not true, if they come around your neck of the wood often. The only thing that impresses most women are: 1) Your wallet = or your $$ amount. 2) Your looks .. All else falls under luck. So gamers, if you want to have game, find a way to work up those two things. Or else, hope you have a rabbits foot.
I think women care more about confidence and money; looks are just an added bonus.
@gamerguru100: Deeper explanation of your inability to control your anger and the psychological issues you're dealing with doesn't mean they don't exist.
Also:
antisocial
[an-tee-soh-shuh l, an-tahy-]
adjective
1.
unwilling or unable to associate in a normal or friendly way with other people.
I went into deeper explanation because you jumbled around my words, dude. And when did I say my problems didn't exist? I'm obviously acknowledging their existence. There are many other people out there with anger issues that would put my so-called "anger issues" to shame. And even with that definition of antisocial, I can generally talk normally and be friendly with people. I don't despise talking with people either, and I don't have speech impediments every time I open my mouth. Asking out girls is a pretty specific ballpark compared to just generally talking to people. Most of the time I get pissed is playing Call of Duty or a similar game. I rarely have outbursts in front of people, and I hold in my anger most of the time.
Are you having trolling withdrawals or something?
-4/10
Feel free to try harder, but I don't have faith in you succeeding.
@gamerguru100: No trolling here. I'm just letting you know that the issues you're telling us about here (developmental disability, psychological illness, difficulty communicating with others, anger issues, etc.) may be playing a larger role in your inability to develop certain types of meaningful relationships than you are willing/able to recognize.
Are you reading what I post, man? I've never been diagnosed with anything except ADHD and told I had a math disability by special ed staff in high school; I've grown out of ADHD, so I can't say I actually have a developmental disability now. Just because I think I have a lower than average IQ doesn't mean I actually have a disability; you have to be diagnosed with that. I would have a hard time talking to girls if I wanted to ask them out, but I can talk to them comfortably about other topics after I get to know them; this applies to guys too. My speech problems aren't crippling, just annoying. And I don't have anger issues anymore, especially compared to my elementary school days.
If I had confidence and money, I could definitely get a girlfriend if I looked in the right places. None of this other crap plays a huge role. Nail that into your head now. You always push on people like this; it's no wonder many users here don't like talking with you. Even if your intentions are neutral or even good, read peoples' posts carefully and use your brain instead of typing blatantly ignorant or trolling comments. Seriously, you've posted things that made me wanna bash my head into a brick wall, and that's not good considering I probably have a couple billion less neurons in my cerebrum than normal. I never used the phrases developmental disability, psychological illness, or (present day) anger issues in my OP; you twisted my words by adding those phrases.
If you can't cram this into your head, then I don't want to keep wasting me breath. Although adding to my post count is always nice.
Why does the human male have to possess **** tons of confidence and/or money to get a mate? If you lack either of those, you're fucked, and not in the good way.
That simply isn't true.
I grew up in an all-boys school and had zero interaction with girls until I was 18. I couldn't have been more socially crippled when talking to girls. I was also most unemployed during my university years, and I'm not all that good looking.
It didn't stop women from being interested in me. It didn't stop me from meeting my amazing girlfriend, the love of my life, who I will marry at some point in the not-too-distant future.
So yeah, the only conclusion I can make about these dating myths is that certain types of guys love to negatively stereotype women to account for their own failings.
Seriously, I think that completely fits the bill. I can only imagine that, when faced with constant rejection, it's much easier to think that the problem must be with women rather than with oneself.It leads to nonsense like "women don't go for nice guys" (they do); "you need to do X or else you'll be in the friend zone" (it doesn't exist); or "women are looking for guys with big wallets, big confidence, and big dicks" (they aren't).
Those sorts of excuses essentially amount to "all women must be superficial because they aren't interested in me", which is a terribly self-centred way of viewing the world, and may provide some strong clues as to why that type of guy remains perpetually single.
@gamerguru100: I guess we can add "argumentative" to the growing list of REAL reasons that you have difficulty developing certain types of meaningful relationships with people.
Jesus horse fucking Christ. I'm being "argumentative" because you're twisting my words around and taking pleasure in all this. Piss off. "Growing list", my ass. Jesus, you're a dick. If I get modded for this, I don't give a crap because it's true.
... The only thing that impresses most women are: 1) Your wallet = or your $$ amount. 2) Your looks .. All else falls under luck. So gamers, if you want to have game, find a way to work up those two things. Or else, hope you have a rabbits foot.
yep. This is ESPECIALLY true after about 25 years of age. By that age girls have mostly figured out how the world works and it's turned them into money grubbing whores. Don't believe me? Go to any nightlife hot-spot and count the gold diggers. Before the age of 25, girls just want to have fun. After that, they start looking at money and financial security. The ones not digging for gold are alpha bitches that have carved out some type of career for themselves. If your real good looking you can land a sugar mama. If not....better earn tons of money. I've been married for 20 years. My wife is one of the few women in the world not like this. They are out there....just a rare find.
Uhh, yeah, they're called first impressions. This rule pretty much applies to all human interaction in some form or another. Would you want to hang out with a guy who just sat their awkwardly and didn't make eye contact with you? No. Sure, he may be a great friend if you gave him a few weeks to warm up to you, but the fact is he was weird when you first met him and people don't want to spend time with weirdo's. With women it's not like you have to blow their socks off with your masculinity and humour the first time you meet them, you just need to make a good first impression (ie. don't be weird). Also, what is with all this "women only care about money and looks" talk? Sure some do, but some don't. People come in all flavours of the rainbow. I've met just as many dickbag cheating men as I have slutty superficial women.
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