@theone86 said:
All I can say is that until you've seen someone you care about being constantly taken advantage of because they think they have a moral duty to say yes, you wouldn't understand. I'd say the same thing about them wanting to go to church, how can you tell if they really want to if since they were kids they've gone because they were told they had to?
Okay. I also wouldn't understand the appeal of church since I've been to church and I've gotten nothing out of it. How exactly would you convince me that all churches are bullshit when I've personally seen perfectly happy people whose positive attitudes and generosity seemed to be genuinely influenced by their religion? Alternatively, how would some Churchy religious dude convince me that Jesus has all the answers when I know for a fact that church clearly isn't doing shit for a lot of scumbags?
Can we agree that church is for some people but not for others?
Anyway, there's just a really heavy aspect of elitism/snobbery when it comes to religion (or anti-religion) and it bugs the hell out of me because I feel that the people making the broadest generalizations are probably talking out of their asses. I'm sure that SOME churches are awful. I'm sure that SOME churches are genuinely helpful and don't just, as you say, simply "take, take, take." Because I've kind of seen both. I've also seen people who benefit heavily from church and religion. I've also seen people who get nothing out of it, or worse, have actually been harmed by it. But to paint all of it as being the same thing seems to be willfully ignorant, in my opinion.
Do you think that ALL religious church-going people are only deceived into thinking that they're getting something out of it because they were indoctrinated into the religion at a young age and/or because they believe they have a moral duty to go to church? Do you think that they're ALL brainwashed idiots and that you're the guy who has all the answers for them if they'd just listen and follow?
Me? I'm not that sure that my shit doesn't stink. I personally think that religion and church are bullshit, that's why I don't go. But that's based on the notion that church isn't right for ME. Like many people, religious and non-religious, I only "sort of" have my shit together. There are people far more successful/happy/generous/intelligent/compassionate than me who are actively involved in religion/church and whose involvement in religion/church seems to actually contribute to their being GOOD people. Can you answer this question for me: who the f*** am I to tell them that they're just brainwashed idiots who have been corrupted by the church when by all indications they are objectively BETTER PEOPLE than I am?
This whole anti-religion/anti-church thing seems to be EXACTLY the kind of thing that a religious person might say, only from the opposite perspective. "Oh, that guy rejects god, there must be something wrong with him." Well, how the hell would I as an atheist explain to such a person that I don't NEED god or religion or church and that I'm a good person without them? I probably CAN'T. They wouldn't understand, since they haven't been on that side of things.
In any case, I measure people by WORKS and ACTS over BELIEFS. Beliefs are f***ing easy. You wake up in the morning, you say to yourself, "I love god" or "religion is BS" and suddenly I'm now placing myself above everyone else without having to DO a single f***ing thing. That's way too close to the EXACT same attitude I've picked up from some of the biggest religious hypocrites I've met. I wouldn't want a religious church-goer to categorically paint all non-religious people as naive (or worse) and by that same standard I think it's f***ing bullshit for me to shit all over better people than me when I'm looking in as an outsider from the opposite side of the spectrum. If they're better people than me and they TELL ME that they're happy with religion and church, then who the hell am I to tell them that they are wrong?
Similarly, if I tell some religious Churchy dude that I'm happy as an atheist, who the hell is he to tell ME that I'm wrong? And that my failures as a human being are do to me not being close enough to God? I'd tell that guy to go f*** off because he doesn't know me or my circumstances. He doesn't understand, he can't understand, and he's being an asshole by placing himself on a pedestal because of his BELIEFS.
Different strokes for different folks, dude. Don't talk to me about what you've seen. I've seen church and religion both help people and hurt people. But at the end of the day, that's anecdotal freaking evidence and has zero bearing on whether or not church-goers are all brainwashed morons who only think they like church because they're incapable of making their own life choices.
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