Long-Distance Relationships Are A Joke

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#1 Posted by black_chamber99 (1696 posts) -

if you're in a long-distance relationship

it won't last; they're not real; you're most likely being cheated on. if not already then you will be.

that is all

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#2 Posted by Kevlar101 (6314 posts) -
SHUT UP!!! JUST SHUT THE FVCK UP!!!!
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#3 Posted by ClassicRockFTW (1106 posts) -

I've been looking so long at these pictures of you...

That the pictures are all I can feel...

LDR's are beautiful

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#4 Posted by l4dak47 (6838 posts) -
SHUT UP!!! JUST SHUT THE FVCK UP!!!!Kevlar101
whoa
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#5 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -
Yeah I can't do em, I require attention.
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#6 Posted by Goyoshi12 (9687 posts) -

Bro, cool story, that was.

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#7 Posted by Laihendi (5871 posts) -

if you're in a long-distance relationship

it won't last; they're not real; you're most likely being cheated on. if not already then you will be.

that is all

black_chamber99
How is it less real? What do you need for a relationship other than communication?
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#8 Posted by BenedictArnold7 (743 posts) -
I am pretty sure everyone alive is aware of the fact that long distance relationships don't work. If you can't have sex there really is no reason to be with someone. Sex is what matters the most. Sex sex sex. Ok?
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#9 Posted by shadowkiller11 (7956 posts) -
Kevlar101
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#10 Posted by deactivated-57d8862626cff (10463 posts) -
Now to an extent I can agree with you. My brother is currently "dating" someone who lives at the other side of the UK, and although possible, he has no way of getting to her in the current situation he's in. In fact I doubt he'll be able to in the next year or so with the way he's headed in life. He's only ever spoke to her through Facebook, so when he's putting up messages and telling everyone she's the one for him and "It's unbelievable how much I love her", I can't help but shake my head. But I hate that whole lovey-dovey attitude anyway. Yuck!
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#11 Posted by PernicioEnigma (5829 posts) -
No sex, no relationship. End of!
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#12 Posted by thegerg (18056 posts) -
[QUOTE="black_chamber99"]

if you're in a long-distance relationship

it won't last; they're not real; you're most likely being cheated on. if not already then you will be.

that is all

Laihendi
How is it less real? What do you need for a relationship other than communication?

Affection, attention, mutual understanding, attraction, caring, love, fun...those are just few examples of some things one might need for a relationship.
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#13 Posted by deactivated-57d8862626cff (10463 posts) -
I guess there's always virtual hugs, and it could always lead to sex. As such; >*hugs* >*kisses* >*sex* >*cigarette*
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#14 Posted by Goyoshi12 (9687 posts) -

I guess there's always virtual hugs, and it could always lead to sex. As such; >*hugs* >*kisses* >*sex* >*cigarette*meconate

Virtual sex.....exactly how does that work?

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#15 Posted by Amster_G (4329 posts) -

if you're in a long-distance relationship

it won't last; they're not real; you're most likely being cheated on. if not already then you will be.

that is all

black_chamber99

So you got cheated on eh? That sucks.

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#16 Posted by dave123321 (35257 posts) -
[QUOTE="Kevlar101"]SHUT UP!!! JUST SHUT THE FVCK UP!!!!l4dak47
whoa

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#17 Posted by deactivated-57d8862626cff (10463 posts) -

[QUOTE="meconate"]I guess there's always virtual hugs, and it could always lead to sex. As such; >*hugs* >*kisses* >*sex* >*cigarette*Goyoshi12

Virtual sex.....exactly how does that work?

It doesn't.
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#18 Posted by jimkabrhel (15622 posts) -

My relationship with my wife survived for a year of us being 2000 miles apart. We were already engaged and confident in our relationship though.

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#19 Posted by dave123321 (35257 posts) -
They require more but are doable. Though tough . Not for everyone. Assuming that people have actually met and stuff(meaning being apart after an established relationship where you were together)
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#20 Posted by jim_shorts (7320 posts) -

They are quite difficult, but I think with enough effort and determination they can work. Obviously two people can't be apart forever, but if two people have to be apart for an extended amount of time it can be done.

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#21 Posted by themajormayor (25260 posts) -
I just hate using skype or talking on the phone. Have nothing against being apart for a while, send some messages and then seeing each other once a month. But she wants me to talk on skype many hours per day. I just don't feel I have enough to talk about with someone so many hours and not being at the same place.
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#22 Posted by General_X (9137 posts) -
Sounds like the OP might be projecting a bit, did someone hurt you OP?
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#23 Posted by Kage1 (6789 posts) -

Depends how long your frank is.

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#24 Posted by MistressMinako (45944 posts) -
Well, if you need to be touched every couple of days by someone then maybe it won't work. The only way they don't work is if one or both people don't want to focus on it. This goes for offline as well. And well you can get cheated on offline as well so I don't see why people bring up "they are cheating on you" as a good reason.
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#25 Posted by Laihendi (5871 posts) -
[QUOTE="Laihendi"][QUOTE="black_chamber99"]

if you're in a long-distance relationship

it won't last; they're not real; you're most likely being cheated on. if not already then you will be.

that is all

thegerg
How is it less real? What do you need for a relationship other than communication?

Affection, attention, mutual understanding, attraction, caring, love, fun...those are just few examples of some things one might need for a relationship.

Okay, but those all possible as long as there is communication, so I think they're all possible in a long-distance relationship.
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#26 Posted by dave123321 (35257 posts) -
Sounds like the OP might be projecting a bit, did someone hurt you OP?General_X
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#27 Posted by Suzy_Q_Kazoo (9899 posts) -

No, they aren't. It just requires a lot more work and trust.

My sister met her boyfriend on internship 2.5 years ago. He lives in CA atm and we are in TX. It's completely plausible that once she gradutes she'll live near, if not with him.

Just because you can't make it work TC doesn't mean everyone else can't.

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#28 Posted by thegerg (18056 posts) -
[QUOTE="Laihendi"][QUOTE="thegerg"][QUOTE="Laihendi"] How is it less real? What do you need for a relationship other than communication?

Affection, attention, mutual understanding, attraction, caring, love, fun...those are just few examples of some things one might need for a relationship.

Okay, but those all possible as long as there is communication, so I think they're all possible in a long-distance relationship.

Okay. That has nothing to do with the answer to your question.
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#29 Posted by LJS9502_basic (158870 posts) -
They tend to die out on their own.......
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#30 Posted by WhiteKnight77 (12605 posts) -

It really depends. Military personnel all end up with long distance relationships at one point or two during their career. There are duty stations where spouses cannot go either on a temporary assignment or up to a year. It all depends. Sailors have been doing it for hundreds of years.

Now, if you are referring to internet dating, well, there are exceptions to the rule of them not really working. Fact, partners that want to cheat will cheat. It doesn't matter if you are dating and going places together or are 200 miles apart. If someone cannot make a commitment enough to not cheat on a love interest that they know on the internet, they are not worth getting with them at any time.

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#31 Posted by applesxc47 (10761 posts) -

I've been with my girlfriend who lives 5 hours away for more than 4 months now, and I'm really happy in the relationship, long distance or not.

Trains are helpful, because I can go to her place, she can come to mine, or we can meet up halfway in Melbourne and just enjoy having a day together. Skype is handy too.
Obviously, OP has been hurt, which is fair enough reason to be cynical about LDR's, just don't discount everybody elses relationship based on your own experiences.

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#32 Posted by Swanogt19 (24159 posts) -
Some body is upset because they were recently cheated on
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#33 Posted by leviathan91 (7763 posts) -

Depends on how committed the two are to their relationship. It's not a joke but a reality that I think most couples will have to face in one form or another.

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#34 Posted by NiKva (8180 posts) -
There is slight hope if you knew the person and then they moved away, but not if you never met them.
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#35 Posted by SuperSaiyanLink (19542 posts) -

[QUOTE="Kevlar101"]SHUT UP!!! JUST SHUT THE FVCK UP!!!!l4dak47
whoa

i lol'd

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#36 Posted by Guybrush_3 (8308 posts) -

if you're in a long-distance relationship

it won't last; they're not real; you're most likely being cheated on. if not already then you will be.

that is all

black_chamber99

sounds like someone just got dumped via skype.

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#37 Posted by Chow_Mein_Kampf (6203 posts) -

They work.............

Personally, I don't think I have it in me to make it work, though.............

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#38 Posted by LZ71 (10524 posts) -
Like others have said, it's possible for it to work, it's just that not everyone is willing to make the effort to make it work. Obviously, if you have already put time into the relationship before having to go long distance, it's going to be easier than if you just met on the internet.
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#39 Posted by Laihendi (5871 posts) -

Okay. That has nothing to do with the answer to your question.thegerg
Well I am glad there is nothing to resolve then.
[QUOTE="General_X"]Sounds like the OP might be projecting a bit, did someone hurt you OP?dave123321

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#40 Posted by deactivated-57d8862626cff (10463 posts) -

Your sig looks like a disturbing reaction imageLaihendi
I keep thinking it's Tony Hawk.

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#41 Posted by worlock77 (22552 posts) -

They can work, but it all depends on circumstances and the people involved. For the first couple of years of our relationship my wife and I lived a few hundred miles apart. However we were both adults, both independant, and saw each other in person for at least a few days every month.

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#42 Posted by QueenStef (25 posts) -
too difficult to maintain
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#43 Posted by GulliversTravel (3062 posts) -

I've been looking so long at these pictures of you...

That the pictures are all I can feel...

LDR's are beautiful

ClassicRockFTW
LOL the song was just playing in my head:lol:
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#44 Posted by Vaasman (12735 posts) -

Define long distance.

My roommate in college married a girl from his hometown and that was at least a few hours away.

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#45 Posted by katana_duo (1751 posts) -
Under the right circumstances they could work I suppose, but it requires alot of trust and devotion on both sides. That being said I need something tangible..not just words typed/spoken to me.
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#46 Posted by Planeforger (17087 posts) -
They can definitely work, assuming both parties are mature and not just in it for the sex.
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#47 Posted by applesxc47 (10761 posts) -

They can definitely work, assuming both parties are mature and not just in it for the sex.Planeforger

Actually, a mate of mine said this to me once about long distance: "She's not in it for the dick, because there are quite literally millions of people who are much closer to her than you are, so if she wanted dick, she'd be with them."

It was surprisingly effective

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#48 Posted by LLYNCES (378 posts) -

if you're in a long-distance relationship

it won't last; they're not real; you're most likely being cheated on. if not already then you will be.

that is all

black_chamber99

I agree, but you left out the part where you are probably going to get cheated on either way eventually.


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#49 Posted by muller39 (14949 posts) -

They have a high probability of not working out. That doesn't mean they can't but you have to put in a lot of work. It's not worth it in my opinion.

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#50 Posted by muller39 (14949 posts) -

[QUOTE="Planeforger"]They can definitely work, assuming both parties are mature and not just in it for the sex.applesxc47

Actually, a mate of mine said this to me once about long distance: "She's not in it for the dick, because there are quite literally millions of people who are much closer to her than you are, so if she wanted dick, she'd be with them."

It was surprisingly effective

She could have her cake and eat it too with you knowing too. If you trust her then go for it.