I think I have social phobia ... im on a SERIOUS problem

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#1 DrPickle
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I think I have some severe problems regarding my skills around people. I get nervous quickly and feel like wanting to run away whenever I am around people I don't know about. I usually don't know how to properly interact with any random person so I end up saying something stupid while in a conversation just to remove the doubt of the other person that I am social unactive. People whom I meet end up losing all respect for me by the time I get to finally know them. Although I have low esteem, no confidence and fear of being judged I usually don't show such symptoms around people whom I don't know. I do walk confidently, speak when spoken to, and usually portray an external personality to make other believe that I am one of those proud bragging bastards that believe they are better than everyone else. My speaking and communication skills suck .. thus, when I write I usually express opinions, vocabulary and arguments really great but when compared to speaking people really doubt if I am the same person. I usually prefer to remain alone and silent than around bunch of people who joke and laugh about everything else. Now the problem is, I have this SERIOUS presentation I need to do in college in front of the medical terminology class and I am totally freaking out!!! Not a second goes by without me thinking about what I should do. Im starting to panic! I think im starting to get panic attacks!! The only though that comes to my mind is ... "I can't do this, I can't do this, I can't do this, oh God, I can't do this, no no no, I can't, I can't do this!" to the point im starting to think I should drop out of college and take a year off fixing myself or skip going to the class for a month or so. I think it is sufficent enough to express this amount of problems I have, regarding I have so much more problems within myself such as depression, eating disorder, body disorder, perfectionism, anexity, chronic worrying, aneroxia ... blah blah blah ... that stuff I can't simply go there and accept that I am going to make a fool out of myself, I have this murky sense of "must do everything perfect" kind of judgement that only makes me want to run and hide instead; sad face. Help anyone??!
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you should get over your anxiety
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Pillars will prescribe you some adderall!!

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you should get over your anxietyJandurin
booze helps, as does experience. booze alsohelps get that experience.

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#5 DrPickle
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you should get over your anxietyJandurin
Can't do without alcohol ;(
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#6 tenaka2
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There is an easy way around this, as well as being very nervious also imagine yourself naked. This will help.

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#7 ultimameteora
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Practice your presentation
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#8 DrPickle
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[QUOTE="Jandurin"]you should get over your anxietysurrealnumber5

booze helps, as does experience. booze alsohelps get that experience.

I don't want to ... not that way. I can't feel good about drinking alcohol. I don't want this to be my only option.
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[QUOTE="surrealnumber5"]

[QUOTE="Jandurin"]you should get over your anxietyDrPickle

booze helps, as does experience. booze alsohelps get that experience.

I don't want to ... not that way. I can't feel good about drinking alcohol. I don't want this to be my only option.

why can't you feel good about drinking alcohol
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#10 DrPickle
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[QUOTE="Jandurin"][QUOTE="DrPickle"] I don't want to ... not that way. I can't feel good about drinking alcohol. I don't want this to be my only option.

why can't you feel good about drinking alcohol

Its part of my never ending issues... , Perfectionism.
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[QUOTE="DrPickle"][QUOTE="Jandurin"][QUOTE="DrPickle"] I don't want to ... not that way. I can't feel good about drinking alcohol. I don't want this to be my only option.

why can't you feel good about drinking alcohol

Its part of my never ending issues... , Perfectionism.

have you ever been perfect on alcohol?
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There is an easy way around this, as well as being very nervious also imagine yourself naked. This will help.

tenaka2
THIS may give you a boner Also,i suggest you take some private tutorr to help you with your speech.
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[QUOTE="Jandurin"][QUOTE="DrPickle"] I don't want to ... not that way. I can't feel good about drinking alcohol. I don't want this to be my only option.DrPickle
why can't you feel good about drinking alcohol

Its part of my never ending issues... , Perfectionism.

You could perfect your social issue by also pointing at women and shouting jellyfish when anxiety is highest.

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[QUOTE="DrPickle"][QUOTE="Jandurin"] why can't you feel good about drinking alcoholtenaka2

Its part of my never ending issues... , Perfectionism.

You could perfect your social issue by also pointing at women and shouting jellyfish when anxiety is highest.

interesting yes he is just not properly considering what perfection is it is his perception of perfection that is causing his anxiety
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Dude, you can come on here and ask us for help. We still judge you even if you can't see our face.

If you did it here so easy, go out and do it. You won't do anything with life and what's the point of being a perfect morsal of flesh if no one can take cracks at it? Whacks from a hammer make steel stiff.

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#16 DrPickle
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[QUOTE="Jandurin"] have you ever been perfect on alcohol?

I wish I can think that way ... ! I consider drinking alcohol to be part of my "fun" time, but when it is serious business ... it is serious business. I like to think that this is what has gotten me so far.
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[QUOTE="DrPickle"]I think I have some severe problems regarding my skills around people. I get nervous quickly and feel like wanting to run away whenever I am around people I don't know about. I usually don't know how to properly interact with any random person so I end up saying something stupid while in a conversation just to remove the doubt of the other person that I am social unactive. People whom I meet end up losing all respect for me by the time I get to finally know them. Although I have low esteem, no confidence and fear of being judged I usually don't show such symptoms around people whom I don't know. I do walk confidently, speak when spoken to, and usually portray an external personality to make other believe that I am one of those proud bragging bastards that believe they are better than everyone else. My speaking and communication skills suck .. thus, when I write I usually express opinions, vocabulary and arguments really great but when compared to speaking people really doubt if I am the same person. I usually prefer to remain alone and silent than around bunch of people who joke and laugh about everything else. Now the problem is, I have this SERIOUS presentation I need to do in college in front of the medical terminology class and I am totally freaking out!!! Not a second goes by without me thinking about what I should do. Im starting to panic! I think im starting to get panic attacks!! The only though that comes to my mind is ... "I can't do this, I can't do this, I can't do this, oh God, I can't do this, no no no, I can't, I can't do this!" to the point im starting to think I should drop out of college and take a year off fixing myself or skip going to the class for a month or so. I think it is sufficent enough to express this amount of problems I have, regarding I have so much more problems within myself such as depression, eating disorder, body disorder, perfectionism, anexity, chronic worrying, aneroxia ... blah blah blah ... that stuff I can't simply go there and accept that I am going to make a fool out of myself, I have this murky sense of "must do everything perfect" kind of judgement that only makes me want to run and hide instead; sad face. Help anyone??!

Practice the presentation, then practice it 100 more times. Find someone who you're not comfortable speaking too, and do some test runs in front of actual people.
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Do some workout, exercising... it helps me, it kept my mind off things.
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#20 DrPickle
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Dude, you can come on here and ask us for help. We still judge you even if you can't see our face.

If you did it here so easy, go out and do it. You won't do anything with life and what's the point of being a perfect morsal of flesh if no one can take cracks at it? Whacks from a hammer make steel stiff.

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*shrugs* Its the internetz bro, its different out there ... Maybe I should quit life all together and stay on the internet 24/7 ... at least i will still have a 1% chance of being awesome that way.
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[QUOTE="DrPickle"]*shrugs* Its the internetz bro, its different out there ... Maybe I should quit life all together and stay on the internet 24/7 ... at least i will still have a 1% chance of being awesome that way.

one of us one of us
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[QUOTE="MrGeezer"] Practice the presentation, then practice it 100 more times. Find someone who you're not comfortable speaking too, and do some test runs in front of actual people.

The problem is, I kinda lost motivation. I don't want to do anything other than enjoy the moment right now ... maybe flush my education down the toilet all together.

Ever play The Sims? Practice your speech in front of a mirror and lvl up that Charisma. Level 2-3 should be good for your presentation.

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I've tried that ... gets me down every single time; sad face
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The problem is, I kinda lost motivation. I don't want to do anything other than enjoy the moment right now ... maybe flush my education down the toilet all together.DrPickle
you could join the occupy wall street movement!
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[QUOTE="DrPickle"] The problem is, I kinda lost motivation. I don't want to do anything other than enjoy the moment right now ... maybe flush my education down the toilet all together.

Uh...I think that's a tad bit more serious than being nervous about a presentation. Anyway, you've just answered how to solve your anxiety problem.
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you should get over your anxietyJandurin
You say it like it's an easy thing to do.
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[QUOTE="Jandurin"]you should get over your anxietyMushroomWig
You say it like it's an easy thing to do.

do it a day at a time IT WILL CREEP BACK and then you sucker punch it while it's not looking works every time
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#28 MrsSolidSnake
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I apparently have social anxiety... I just grow a pair and get over it most of the time.

All I think about is "You'll probably never see them again, ask the question" etc. etc.

Problem solved.

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#29 DrPickle
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[QUOTE="MrGeezer"][QUOTE="DrPickle"] The problem is, I kinda lost motivation. I don't want to do anything other than enjoy the moment right now ... maybe flush my education down the toilet all together.

Uh...I think that's a tad bit more serious than being nervous about a presentation. Anyway, you've just answered how to solve your anxiety problem.

That's exactly why I posted this, I wanted to get the right answer on doing what is right ... I am really demotivated with everything right now. I can stop going to college and just spill my life down the drain ... maybe get drunk too... Its not just about being nervous about a presentation, its my social skills all together. I don't know how many of you actually dropped out of college and went to the army or so, had their life roughed up and had to work really hard for really nothing other than a bunch of couple of hours of sleep. I want to at least work hard for something worth it, well ... at least that's what i wanted to do after high school. But I am coming into realization now that I can't ... I should just drop out of college .. not go to medical school at all .. join the army or flip some burgers for a living, or more likely, for a bunch of a couple of hours of sleep so I can continue living on this **** hole. I am just asking for advice, nothing more, nothing less.
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Pillars will prescribe you some adderall!!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

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after reading more of your issue i think you need adderall, TC
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guys stop putting vagina on a Pedestal, ladies often have the same feelings of inadequacy, just get over it and go bold, that being cock out with 40's taped to your hands with this shirt on

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#32 Jackc8
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You could talk to your doctor about a possible anxiety disorder. I have a general anxiety disorder and it went undiagnosed for 9 years. It made a HUGE difference when I finally got on some medication - improved my quality of life dramatically.

In general though, just realize that people aren't perfect - you're not, nobody else is. You don't have to try and impress people in day-to-day conversation, just be yourself.

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TL;DR but the solution to everything is alcohol. Always alcohol.

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#34 gaming25
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Similar problem... But I dont know, for me personally it isnt a problem of social disfunction, but the stubborness of not wanting to even hear what I have to say. But I know, that isnt what they care for, not even in the least. I dont do the things that I do because they are cool, but rather becuse they have a purpose, not this one dimensional purpose but something that is much deeper than that. But I know they think its just... well when in reality they dont really see what it is I see about about his character, like "how can you be happy about someone who would trash you and make fun of your own charact... err, what? 1234596 malfunction malfunction malfuntion!!!!!!!! Then again they might.

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Why would you post this on a website about games? Are you expecting us to some how help you? If you have a problem you see a doctor.

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#36 rastotm
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Yay for the taboo on psychologists!!!!

Seriously, make a appointment ASAP.

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What you need to do is get some wrist control

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#38 Darthmatt
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Perfectionism is a conceptual delusion. You should try and let it go.

If I can make a suggestion, you should try and find a club or group where you can meet people with common interest. You wont be so nervous finding things to talk about, and maybe make some new friends in the process.

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#39 DrPickle
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I still don't know what I am going to do on the day of the presentation ... meh ... All I can do right now is drink booze and enjoy the moment. My end is near ... so near ...
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Sounds like you're in a bit of a pickle :P All jokes aside I think you need to talk to your teacher about this, if they're aware of the problem they can accommodate you a bit better.
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Sounds like you're in a bit of a pickle :P.tofu-lion91
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Why do people who have legitimately concerning issues ask a bunch of teens on a forum for help? TC, talk to your parents about this.
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Why do people who have legitimately concerning issues ask a bunch of teens on a forum for help? TC, talk to your parents about this.Solid_Snake325
bc some of us have been through college and we know the correct answer is always booze