I don't feel like leaving home and growing up.

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#1 The_Capitalist
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At the moment, I am 20, and a rising junior at the university. I will be graduating in less than two years time (21 months, to be precise). And yet, I never yearned to leave home. I imagine that I will likely still be living my parents and sister in the near future, possibly until my late 20s. Or, perhaps, I might never leave home?

Home is such a comfortable and familar place. My parents buy all of my food, put a roof over my head, and do many other things for me for free.

Is it wrong that I feel this way? I don't think my parents are going to die until I am at least 50. I can see myself living at home indefinitely until either my parents die, or I suddenly have the urge to get married and move away. Or perhaps, I might decide not to get married, living as an unmarried urban professional who elects to do no more than work, and play video games.

Do any of you guys feel this way? Is home so comfortable that you just don't want to ever leave?

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#2 Tetrarch9
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You don't want to get and apartment with your girlfriend or even by yourself. You don't what your missing. Independent living is so much better.
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#3 Kantus_Mage
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I got away at my first chance...
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#4 UniverseIX
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there is nothing wrong with staying there... but you' should be helping with food expenses and doing the chores.
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#5 The_Capitalist
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I guess. I never clashed with my parents, so I really don't mind living with them.

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#6 megagene
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Go for it , dude. This is how I originally imagined 90% of Gamespotters to be anyway.
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#7 POPEYE1716
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being on your own is great. But if your parents are ok with you staying home try and save money since you really have no costs. You could pay off student loans if you have any. Move out when ever YOU are ready.

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#8 cd_rom
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I guess. I never clashed with my parents, so I really don't mind living with them.

The_Capitalist
But ask yourself this, "Do my parents mind if I live with them?" Mine considered me a freeloader by the time I was 8. Besides, living on your own is awesome. I can stay up till 10 o' clock on a school night and nobody says **** about it.
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#9 PerfectCircles
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Hell no, I couldn't get out fast enough.
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#10 topsemag55
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I started learning how to earn my own money at age 12, and I left home to start my own future at the age of 18. Was it scary? No, exhilarating because I was the one making choices for myself.
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#11 UniverseIX
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[QUOTE="The_Capitalist"]

I guess. I never clashed with my parents, so I really don't mind living with them.

cd_rom
I can stay up till 10 o' clock on a school night and nobody says **** about it.

so can people who live with there parents...
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#12 UniverseIX
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[QUOTE="topsemag55"]I started learning how to earn my own money at age 12, and I left home to start my own future at the age of 18. Was it scary? No, exhilarating because I was the one making choices for myself.

you couldn't do that while living with your parents? weird.
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#13 foxhound_fox
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Be prepared. One day when least expecting it, you may be thrust into both the real world and adulthood all at once, and may find it difficult to cope. The fantasy and comfort doesn't last forever, so have a backup plan just in case.
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#14 worlock77
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The Capitalist wants to indefinately live off the labors of others? There's a bit of irony there.

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#15 NerubianWeaver
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I feel the same way. It's probably because it's frowned upon in the western society if you live with your parents even though there's nothing wrong with it :roll:
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#16 TheHighWind
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Heh, when I was your age I was living on my own.. in a chicken coop! (don't ask it was horrible)

Living on your own is so much better though.

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#17 cd_rom
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The Capitalist wants to indefinately live off the labors of others? There's a bit of irony there.

worlock77
Oh snap son. Fetch Ayn Rand on his ass.
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#18 The_Capitalist
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[QUOTE="worlock77"]

The Capitalist wants to indefinately live off the labors of others? There's a bit of irony there.

cd_rom

Oh snap son. Fetch Ayn Rand on his ass.

I made up this username seven years ago, son. Doesn't reflect how I feel currently.

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#19 Overlord93
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Yeah, sometimes I just can't imagine the stress of living on my own. I'm going to give it a year or 2 and try to get things on some sort of course though.
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#20 Whiteblade999
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Why leave if my parents are fine with me staying at home? I'm on good terms with mine and see no reason to leave. Granted once I get my degree and start working I will be saving money for when I do move out and helping pay the bills around here. Don't see it as a chance to mooch like you are now but as a chance to get your life sorted then move out.

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#21 stanleycup98
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My parents would probably let me live with them for ever. I never have any problems with them and they don't mind looking after me (I don't mind it either). But at some point, even if you don't want to, you are going to have to move out. There is nothing wrong with being 20 and living with your parents in my opinion, but you are getting very close to the age at which you should probably be living on your own. The earlier you start, the better. And just because you move out doesn't mean you can't live at home. My sister has an apartment 30 minutes ago, but she often comes home and may stay for days on end for no particular reason (well, food and laundry may factor into it).
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#22 BranKetra
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Do any of you guys feel this way? Is home so comfortable that you just don't want to ever leave?

The_Capitalist

No, I didn't. Stay home and remain a family man.

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#23 -Vulpix-
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I'm currently 22 and still living at home looking for a job, but I'm hoping I can get a job because I want out of here as soon as possible. I am on good terms with my parents it just I want out of here and as soon as I have the money I'm gone, possibly I'm hoping to move out of the state of Michigan and into either South Dakotah or North Dakotah within a few years if I'm lucky.

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#24 ehhwhatever
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You won't drain their retirement if you got a job and health insurance and take care of them, np.
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#25 cd_rom
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I would think most parent's would dream of their kids growing up and becoming stable successes on their own. You guys are just taking the **** it route.
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#26 sonicare
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You may think it's all great living with your parents, but try bringing home a date to your parents home. Not good.

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#27 topsemag55
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[QUOTE="UniverseIX"][QUOTE="topsemag55"]I started learning how to earn my own money at age 12, and I left home to start my own future at the age of 18. Was it scary? No, exhilarating because I was the one making choices for myself.

you couldn't do that while living with your parents? weird.

What's weird is not having the ambition to take care of yourself once you're old enough.:P My dad taught me to stand up on my own two feet and make something of myself. So I said, "Yes sir" and did it.
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#28 Jagged3dge
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[QUOTE="UniverseIX"][QUOTE="topsemag55"]I started learning how to earn my own money at age 12, and I left home to start my own future at the age of 18. Was it scary? No, exhilarating because I was the one making choices for myself.topsemag55
you couldn't do that while living with your parents? weird.

What's weird is not having the ambition to take care of yourself once you're old enough.:P

hahahaha

There is a time when I think everyone should become independent. Show your parents that they prepared you for the real world.

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#29 DarthJohnova
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I moved out last year for my first year of University and found it hell to be honest; to be fair it was due to reasons other than not being able to cope with being on my own. But I'm moving back home this year and feel great about it. I'll move out when I'm ready. I'm giving my mum my maintenance grant to help with living costs so she's happy, and I don't feel like I'm freeloading.

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#30 CammiTac
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Don't you want independence at all? And have you run this plan by your parents? Living with your parents while you are going to university or looking for a job is one thing, but staying there when you are an adult with your own career is entirely different.

Of course staying where you are comfortable is nice, but if you never leave your comfort zone, you're never going to get anywhere.

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#31 Joshywaa
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I moved out when I was 19, and it was fine.

Sure I had no money and my first apartment was a tiny piece of junk and it took 2 years until I got my s*** together and got a decent paying job(and finally finished school) but it was nice to be able to smoke in bed without mom knocking on my door telling me to "stop f***ing smoking in the f****ing house, josh!!!!"

I think they were happy I left..not that we had a bad relationship, but I'm sure any parent would love for their grown up kid to get out of the house.

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#32 Optical_Order
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I can't imagine living at my parents' house the rest of my life...

That being said I might be living at home until I finish college since I go to a private one 15 minutes away. Saving money.

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#33 TonyDanzaFan
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I'm moving in to my dorm next saturday. I'm so scared. :(
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#34 Omni-Wrath
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Don't be a turtle. Go out and take a challenge.
Living under your parents is easy mode, don't be a casual person be HARDCORE.

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#35 Chris_Williams
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i'm 20 and don't plan on leaving till i finish school and get a nice little job, also knowing my mom should would prefer i live here forever but i wanna move out for sure by 25 but tll then i'm not in a rush

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#36 worlock77
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[QUOTE="cd_rom"][QUOTE="worlock77"]

The Capitalist wants to indefinately live off the labors of others? There's a bit of irony there.

The_Capitalist

Oh snap son. Fetch Ayn Rand on his ass.

I made up this username seven years ago, son. Doesn't reflect how I feel currently.

I wasn't really being entirely serious. In all fairness I think it's fine to remain living with your parents as long as you want (assuming they'll have you that is). I did until my mid-20s. Just be sure to contribute to the household upkeep and expenses.

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#37 nitekids2004
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I'm planning to move out only if:

1. Work/Studies require it (such as studying/working abroad or something)

2. Getting married

The luxuries at home can't just be replaced.

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#38 ZumaJones07
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When/if you get a girlfriend, you may feel different about it. I can't be at home for more than a week without getting antsy to leave again.
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#39 DigitalExile
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The question is why do people need to leave their parents anyway? If it's a matter of not learning how to look after yourself, or being lazy and mooching, there's nothing stopping people from doing that AND living at "home". I don't think living at home with your parents is an issue, but being lazy and not being an equal member of the houshold (i.e. an adult child) is an issue.

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#40 pero2008
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I live at home and I'm 21 but I have a part tiem job and will be starting my 2nd yr junior fall semster on the 29th so I won't be home as much or I'll be doing homework.

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#41 coolbeans90
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The Capitalist wants to indefinately live off the labors of others? There's a bit of irony there.

worlock77

I chuckled for the same reason.

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#42 M4Ntan
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[QUOTE="The_Capitalist"]

I guess. I never clashed with my parents, so I really don't mind living with them.

cd_rom

But ask yourself this, "Do my parents mind if I live with them?" Mine considered me a freeloader by the time I was 8. Besides, living on your own is awesome. I can stay up till 10 o' clock on a school night and nobody says **** about it.

bamf

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#43 martinX3X
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You must have a really nice home. I hate my household family and want to get out as soon as possible and I never want to see them again.

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#44 commonfate
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I'd say it is a financially good move to stay at home till you finish school but I mean come on, everyone has to grow up. If you're able to make money but you don't paypartly for groceries and billsat your age... that's just wrong.

Also, I doubt too many ladies would want to date or marry someone who was 28 (I know you're 20 but I'm thinking years later down the road)and all he ever did was work and play video games.

For now, stay at home and finish school but I think you should at least give living on your own a chance for a few months and see how you like it when you do graduate.

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#45 CHOASXIII
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I am 21 and I still live at home. I am getting a job, so I will be working and living at home and paying rent. So I see nothing wrong with anyone doing it as long as they give their parents some kind of money to help them with bills and living expenses.

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#46 Crazyguy105
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It's your life. Do what you want.

However, make sure your parents really don't mind you staying with them.

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#47 certifieddata
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I know the feeling somewhat, I have a very good relationship with my parents and have worked with them in their business for years, so they get tons of help for pretty cheap lol. Down the road we've planned for me to live in a separate building on the property after me and my dad renovate it and when I do I'll be paying for the hydro, internet, water and satellite as a form of rent, so for my parents whose house will be payed off by then they won't have any other expenses than groceries or other miscellaneous items, which I think is a good trade off especially with the backyard pool and hot tub access.

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#48 imetamonster
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At the moment, I am 20, and a rising junior at the university. I will be graduating in less than two years time (21 months, to be precise). And yet, I never yearned to leave home. I imagine that I will likely still be living my parents and sister in the near future, possibly until my late 20s. Or, perhaps, I might never leave home?

Home is such a comfortable and familar place. My parents buy all of my food, put a roof over my head, and do many other things for me for free.

Is it wrong that I feel this way? I don't think my parents are going to die until I am at least 50. I can see myself living at home indefinitely until either my parents die, or I suddenly have the urge to get married and move away. Or perhaps, I might decide not to get married, living as an unmarried urban professional who elects to do no more than work, and play video games.

Do any of you guys feel this way? Is home so comfortable that you just don't want to ever leave?

The_Capitalist

I have felt the same way...

Still do feel that way alot... Home is just... Home

Its safe and comfortable

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#49 KamuiFei
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I'm 26, full-time job and going to college and I still live at home. Yea, I want to move out, but I'm also realistic. I'm definitely not a freeloader, I pay for food, rent, internet, phone and my car instance every month. Combine all that expense with added utilities and a much higher rent? Not in this economy, with housing costs the way they are. I have a nice home and I'm treated like an adult as if my house was my own. The truth is, the whole "you gotta move out to be an adult and on your own" mentality is simply BS, especially in these hard financial times. "Growing up" and being an adult have nothing to do what house you live in. It doesn't make you a "loser" and it doesn't make you any less a man. It's all about "how" you live, not "where".

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#50 ad1x2
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I left for basic training the day before I turned 18 but if I went to college instead I would have probably left home after I finished. Basically, you need to ask yourself if you want to get laid or not. I have a buddy who decided to live with his mom into his 20s even after he got his degree. Needless to say, he doesn't get laid very often. You're going to have to leave sooner or later if you want a normal life especially if you have children.