How to Approach a Girl for Dummies

[QUOTE="Video_Game_King"]

[QUOTE="SolidSnake35"][QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]And to be honest....even if you get turned down...that's it. Nothing more happens.SolidSnake35

And the gossiper could spread rumors like "SolidSnake35 (assuming we're all in some Internet high school) has a crush on Jessica Alba" or "Did you hear? Snakey's (nickname) dating Emma Watson (that is her last name, right?)!"

People can be a lot more immature and cruel than you give them credit for.

Well, i need some girl help. So BAM, girl-thread time.

I have no problem approaching girls. I'm fine with that. I also had the perfect first-date setup through a couple years experience. We meet up in town, walk to a really awesome italian restaurant which isn't too expensive, does amazing food, plus is really lively and busy so it's not awkward and you can sit and talk about anything. Then after that, a walk over to a little cafe which hardly anyone in the city knows about because it's hidden away in an awesome place. I get kudos for being aware of such a cool location. We drink coffee/hot chocolate, talk about stuff, i offer to drive her home, the night ends well.

Perfect? Hell yes. But now it's ruined. RUINED. Because it would seem that this is now known as "The Ninja Date" only with my real name instead of Ninja which you cant know because you might hack my computer and steal my megahurtz. I even had two people who i'd taken on the exact same date talking about how great and special they thought it was, laughing about how they didn't think i'd do the exact same thing with different girls.

DAMMIT ALL!

So now i need a new perfect date. Because the girl i'm meant to be going out with on saturday just sent me a text saying "If this is just the ninja date i'm gonna be pissed x"

Well, i need some girl help. So BAM, girl-thread time.

I have no problem approaching girls. I'm fine with that. I also had the perfect first-date setup through a couple years experience. We meet up in town, walk to a really awesome italian restaurant which isn't too expensive, does amazing food, plus is really lively and busy so it's not awkward and you can sit and talk about anything. Then after that, a walk over to a little cafe which hardly anyone in the city knows about because it's hidden away in an awesome place. I get kudos for being aware of such a cool location. We drink coffee/hot chocolate, talk about stuff, i offer to drive her home, the night ends well.

Perfect? Hell yes. But now it's ruined. RUINED. Because it would seem that this is now known as "The Ninja Date" on with my real name instead of Ninja which you cant know because you might hack my computer and steal my megahurtz. I even had two people who i'd taken on the exact same date talking about how great and special they thought it was, laughing about how they didn't think i'd do the exact same thing with different girls.

DAMMIT ALL!

So now i need a new perfect date. Because the girl i'm meant to be going out with on saturday just sent me a text saying "If this is just the ninja date i'm gonna be pissed x"

Ninja-Hippo

:lol: Dude if the girls ever come into the same vacinity of each other...you have to have different dates.

Ninja wall of text

Ninja-Hippo

Can't help you with that, I always have trouble picking a locale for a first date. :P Usually I take them out to dinner, movies (never on the first date though), the bowling alley, miniature golfing, and even a picnic. Hmm, actually that's not a bad idea. Picnic at the park?

:lol: Dude if the girls ever come into the same vacinity of each other...you have to have different dates.

LJS9502_basic

But i went out with them like eight months apart. And it's a really good first date. :cry:

may I add my words of wisdom?

[Warning, unformatted rantings of a caffinated brain]

When people ask for relationship advice, the absolute most common response is "just be yourself"

And in my opinion... that is the absolute worst advice one could give. :| By "just being myself" I have ended up not getting any dates, or any girls interested in me on a deep level for 20 years and some change.

But what should the advice be that a questing relationship seeker gets. Well, I don't say "just be yourself" I say "be who you want to be"

They seem quite similar, but are very different. In no way am I telling you to put on a false facade when around girls you're interested in. that's worse advice than JBY. I say "be who you want to be" for one reason, and one reason only. Guys asking for relationship advice have been themselves the whole time.

Be who you want to be. Essentially means:

Ask yourself this question: If I were gay what traits would I like to find in a guy?
Buff? Personable? Funny? Intelligent? Kind? etc
Pick 3-4 traits and then mold yourself in your day to day life to exemplify those traits.
Want to be personable? talk to everyone you meet*
Want to be funny? Make everyone you meet laugh*
Want to be more knowledgeable about stuff? READ UP ON THINGS THAT ARE INTERESTING
Want to exemplify kindness? Volunteer.
You know the drill.

And the awesome thing about that, is not only can you use these ideas to pick up girls, you can use them in your every day life to great effect.

Essentially what I'm trying to say is generally improve yourself and people (primarily girls) and opportunities (with said girls) will flock to you.

"What the hell do the asterisks(for teh idortz out there this is an asterisk >*) mean?" Good question. The asterisks, if you'll notice are next to things that are about everyone you meet. Now I don't mean people you're introduced to at parties. People you meet EVERY DAY. People in line next to you at taco bell, people browsing the same isle as you in wal-mart, People sitting next to you at starbucks. Anyone And Everyone You Meet.

"But BD, what if they think i'm an idiot?" haha, silly, silly you. What are the chances of you seeing them again. If you live in any city or town that is on a map, you are likely not to see them again.

"Why talk to everyone." To get you comfortable in your own skin. A person should be comfortable as themselves before they seek the companionship of another. As many know, I'm fugly, but I'm confident enough in my personality that when I talk to someone, they will be generally interested. A cool fact I learned, People Like To Be Talked To.

More to come

[QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]

:lol: Dude if the girls ever come into the same vacinity of each other...you have to have different dates.

Ninja-Hippo

But i went out with them like eight months apart. And it's a really good first date. :cry:

Girls compare notes. Always....

[QUOTE="Ninja-Hippo"][QUOTE="LJS9502_basic"]

:lol: Dude if the girls ever come into the same vacinity of each other...you have to have different dates.

LJS9502_basic

But i went out with them like eight months apart. And it's a really good first date. :cry:

Girls compare notes. Always....

You sound like this one girl commercial, and the dots at the end don't help...:?

may I add my words of wisdom?

[Warning, unformatted rantings of a caffinated brain]

When people ask for relationship advice, the absolute most common response is "just be yourself"

And in my opinion... that is the absolute worst advice one could give. :| By "just being myself" I have ended up not getting any dates, or any girls interested in me on a deep level for 20 years and some change.

But what should the advice be that a questing relationship seeker gets. Well, I don't say "just be yourself" I say "be who you want to be"

They seem quite similar, but are very different. In no way am I telling you to put on a false facade when around girls you're interested in. that's worse advice than JBY. I say "be who you want to be" for one reason, and one reason only. Guys asking for relationship advice have been themselves the whole time.

Be who you want to be. Essentially means:

Ask yourself this question: If I were gay what traits would I like to find in a guy?
Buff? Personable? Funny? Intelligent? Kind? etc
Pick 3-4 traits and then mold yourself in your day to day life to exemplify those traits.
Want to be personable? talk to everyone you meet*
Want to be funny? Make everyone you meet laugh*
Want to be more knowledgeable about stuff? READ UP ON THINGS THAT ARE INTERESTING
Want to exemplify kindness? Volunteer.
You know the drill.

And the awesome thing about that, is not only can you use these ideas to pick up girls, you can use them in your every day life to great effect.

Essentially what I'm trying to say is generally improve yourself and people (primarily girls) and opportunities (with said girls) will flock to you.

"What the hell do the asterisks(for teh idortz out there this is an asterisk >*) mean?" Good question. The asterisks, if you'll notice are next to things that are about everyone you meet. Now I don't mean people you're introduced to at parties. People you meet EVERY DAY. People in line next to you at taco bell, people browsing the same isle as you in wal-mart, People sitting next to you at starbucks. Anyone And Everyone You Meet.

"But BD, what if they think i'm an idiot?" haha, silly, silly you. What are the chances of you seeing them again. If you live in any city or town that is on a map, you are likely not to see them again.

"Why talk to everyone." To get you comfortable in your own skin. A person should be comfortable as themselves before they seek the companionship of another. As many know, I'm fugly, but I'm confident enough in my personality that when I talk to someone, they will be generally interested. A cool fact I learned, People Like To Be Talked To.

More to come

blooddemon666

Being who you want to be can often times backfire horribly. I try to be humorous, but often times come across as awkward or unlistened to. Trying to become more powerful/listened to would most likely fizzle due to the fact that nobody would listen to me. Working out to make myself stronger would backfire by making my muscles ache for a week and a half, resulting in no progress whatsoever. Being suave would result in me looking like an utter dick, and imposing would make me seem like a weirdo. Smart would result in you looking like an a-hole to those who are of average intelligence and most likely an idiot referring to whatever they just read a synopsis of to those who actually are smart. And I assume you live in a city and get out often, as this can backfire for those who live in a small community and see the same people often.

Being who you want to be can often times backfire horribly. I try to be humorous, but often times come across as awkward or unlistened to. Trying to become more powerful/listened to would most likely fizzle due to the fact that nobody would listen to me. Working out to make myself stronger would backfire by making my muscles ache for a week and a half, resulting in no progress whatsoever. Being suave would result in me looking like an utter dick, and imposing would make me seem like a weirdo. Smart would result in you looking like an a-hole to those who are of average intelligence and most likely an idiot referring to whatever they just read a synopsis of to those who actually are smart. And I assume you live in a city and get out often, as this can backfire for those who live in a small community and see the same people often.

Video_Game_King

Depends on how much you do it. If you do it in baby steps, that can improve who you are. Example, shy person talks more. But I guess it depends on what you're trying to improve, and how much you do it.

Being who you want to be can often times backfire horribly. I try to be humorous, but often times come across as awkward or unlistened to. Trying to become more powerful/listened to would most likely fizzle due to the fact that nobody would listen to me. Working out to make myself stronger would backfire by making my muscles ache for a week and a half, resulting in no progress whatsoever. Being suave would result in me looking like an utter dick, and imposing would make me seem like a weirdo. Smart would result in you looking like an a-hole to those who are of average intelligence and most likely an idiot referring to whatever they just read a synopsis of to those who actually are smart. And I assume you live in a city and get out often, as this can backfire for those who live in a small community and see the same people often.Video_Game_King

The beauty of being human is that you (should) learn from your mistakes. :|

Baww about looking like an idiot, they'll forget about you as fast as you forget about them (unless you make a total ass of yourself)

Baww about muscle aches, the pain tells you its working.

Of course it's better to try to improve yourself blooddemon. If you're done editing, I'll add it to the OP.the_foreign_guy

[QUOTE="Video_Game_King"]Being who you want to be can often times backfire horribly. I try to be humorous, but often times come across as awkward or unlistened to. Trying to become more powerful/listened to would most likely fizzle due to the fact that nobody would listen to me. Working out to make myself stronger would backfire by making my muscles ache for a week and a half, resulting in no progress whatsoever. Being suave would result in me looking like an utter dick, and imposing would make me seem like a weirdo. Smart would result in you looking like an a-hole to those who are of average intelligence and most likely an idiot referring to whatever they just read a synopsis of to those who actually are smart. And I assume you live in a city and get out often, as this can backfire for those who live in a small community and see the same people often.blooddemon666

The beauty of being human is that you (should) learn from your mistakes. :|

Baww about looking like an idiot, they'll forget about you as fast as you forget about them (unless you make a total ass of yourself)

Baww about muscle aches, the pain tells you its working.

Yea, but humans don't forget, Humans hold grudges, and reputations stick. They don't come off.

See above.

I know how it works, your muscles develop cracks that heal over a period of time. This essentially means you are harming your body. If your throat hurt every time you ate and the pain didn't subside for a whole damn week, you'd be dead fairly quickly.

I think im just too shy to ask a girl out cuz i really dont want to mess up the first impression, because im really picky : /
srsly ive like about 3 girls in the past 4 yearsRabidChocobo1

Yea, but humans don't forget, Humans hold grudges, and reputations stick. They don't come off.

See above.

I know how it works, your muscles develop cracks that heal over a period of time. This essentially means you are harming your body. If your throat hurt every time you ate and the pain didn't subside for a whole damn week, you'd be dead fairly quickly.

Video_Game_King

As TFG stated, take it in baby steps. I doubt someone standing next to you in line at wendy's will murder you in your sleep for telling a bad joke. They'll look at you like you're in idiot. Whoop DEE ******* DOO!! You'll never see that person again, so why bother what some stranger thinks about you.

Think of it this way, other people, can be your Guinea pigs to determine where you feel comfortable on the "self improvement" scale

[QUOTE="Video_Game_King"]

Yea, but humans don't forget, Humans hold grudges, and reputations stick. They don't come off.

See above.

I know how it works, your muscles develop cracks that heal over a period of time. This essentially means you are harming your body. If your throat hurt every time you ate and the pain didn't subside for a whole damn week, you'd be dead fairly quickly.

blooddemon666

As TFG stated, take it in baby steps. I doubt someone standing next to you in line at wendy's will murder you in your sleep for telling a bad joke. They'll look at you like you're in idiot. Whoop DEE ******* DOO!! You'll never see that person again, so why bother what some stranger thinks about you.

Think of it this way, other people, can be your Guinea pigs to determine where you feel comfortable on the "self improvement" scale

First, small town can create a lot of harm. You may see a coworker in line, and they'll have heard that joke. And who knows, they could be totally evil and absolutely destroy you by giving you the reputation of a bad, bad comedian. And besides, being a comedian makes you look like a total dick.

Guinea pigs bite. These people can screw you over horribly. And there's always bound to be somebody else nearby who knows you and knows many people.

good that I don't have to make a new thread about this:

I recently been talking and doing stuff with the girl I like (note: she doesn't know I like her), then when she returns from the beach and I was asking her if she had a good time, she just randomnly hugs me and says to me: "I love you", you can imagine the shock I was in, I all I did was reply with: "I love you too" and then she just gets all happy kiss me in the cheek and says goodbye...

I haven't talk to her since then (note: It happened yesterday), because I been busy with school and stuff, I hope to be able to chat with through AIM tonight, but I don't know what to do...

help this dummy please.

This thread is an awesome (and hilarious) read!

But reading it and exercising it are two different things.

I used to do a module for my sorority in regards to self confidence and getting people to like you - but I dont know if I'm up to typing it up. Maybe if it becomes apparently needed. Its really easy stuff anyway.

First, small town can create a lot of harm. You may see a coworker in line, and they'll have heard that joke. And who knows, they could be totally evil and absolutely destroy you by giving you the reputation of a bad, bad comedian. And besides, being a comedian makes you look like a total dick.

Guinea pigs bite. These people can screw you over horribly. And there's always bound to be somebody else nearby who knows you and knows many people.

Video_Game_King

You're talking about reputations like they're some terrible thing. Just today I was told by a girl that I went to school with, "I always thought you were a nerd, but you're a pretty cool guy."

You're just looking at the negatives. (I mean srsly... "Guinea pigs bite." o_0) I used to be like you. Always trying to justify the fact that I was a loser. (I still am) But now I'm taking EFFORT to change that.

Its amazing what a little effort and willpower to change yourself can earn you.

This thread is an awesome (and hilarious) read!

But reading it and exercising it are two different things.

I used to do a module for my sorority in regards to self confidence and getting people to like you - but I dont know if I'm up to typing it up. Maybe if it becomes apparently needed. Its really easy stuff anyway.

Sajedene

This thread is an awesome (and hilarious) read!

But reading it and exercising it are two different things.

I used to do a module for my sorority in regards to self confidence and getting people to like you - but I dont know if I'm up to typing it up. Maybe if it becomes apparently needed. Its really easy stuff anyway.

Sajedene

You've returned from bannage?

This thread is an awesome (and hilarious) read!

But reading it and exercising it are two different things.

I used to do a module for my sorority in regards to self confidence and getting people to like you - but I dont know if I'm up to typing it up. Maybe if it becomes apparently needed. Its really easy stuff anyway.

Sajedene

Thanks! Glad you enjoyed it. You're a girl? Yay! People on here can easily talk to you, but when they do irl, it becomes difficult for some reason. If you can post that module, it would be greatly appreciated, but not required.

good that I don't have to make a new thread about this:

I recently been talking and doing stuff with the girl I like (note: she doesn't know I like her), then when she returns from the beach and I was asking her if she had a good time, she just randomnly hugs me and says to me: "I love you", you can imagine the shock I was in, I all I did was reply with: "I love you too" and then she just gets all happy kiss me in the cheek and says goodbye...

I haven't talk to her since then (note: It happened yesterday), because I been busy with school and stuff, I hope to be able to chat with through AIM tonight, but I don't know what to do...

help this dummy please.

luisen123

Sounds like she likes you imo. I would say go ask her out, but don't do it online. It's better in person.

[QUOTE="Sajedene"]

This thread is an awesome (and hilarious) read!

But reading it and exercising it are two different things.

I used to do a module for my sorority in regards to self confidence and getting people to like you - but I dont know if I'm up to typing it up. Maybe if it becomes apparently needed. Its really easy stuff anyway.

LJS9502_basic

You've returned from bannage?

Yup! You're all stuck with me again!

[QUOTE="Video_Game_King"]

First, small town can create a lot of harm. You may see a coworker in line, and they'll have heard that joke. And who knows, they could be totally evil and absolutely destroy you by giving you the reputation of a bad, bad comedian. And besides, being a comedian makes you look like a total dick.

Guinea pigs bite. These people can screw you over horribly. And there's always bound to be somebody else nearby who knows you and knows many people.

blooddemon666

You're talking about reputations like they're some terrible thing. Just today I was told by a girl that I went to school with, "I always thought you were a nerd, but you're a pretty cool guy."

You're just looking at the negatives. (I mean srsly... "Guinea pigs bite." o_0) I used to be like you. Always trying to justify the fact that I was a loser. (I still am) But now I'm taking EFFORT to change that.

Its amazing what a little effort and willpower to change yourself can earn you.

Reputation can be everything. Reputation can prevent you from getting a job. Any way to get around that?

You wish to know why I look at the negative? Not this "world's a bad place" crap, but rather the "it will crush you horribly if you think things are getting better" crap. If you develop any self confidence, any joy or benefit whatsoever, everyone around you will do what they can to stomp it into the ground and make sure your life is Hell. And if I were to even try, it'd backfire horribly and destroy me. Fire Emblem 4 (don't say "video games can't deliver meaningful messages", lest you wish to destroy your credibilty).

But once you earn that, its immediately going to be taken away from you, usually given to some a-hole who doesn't deserve it and will abuse it horribly.

Reputation can be everything. Reputation can prevent you from getting a job. Any way to get around that?

You wish to know why I look at the negative? Not this "world's a bad place" crap, but rather the "it will crush you horribly if you think things are getting better" crap. If you develop any self confidence, any joy or benefit whatsoever, everyone around you will do what they can to stomp it into the ground and make sure your life is Hell. And if I were to even try, it'd backfire horribly and destroy me. Fire Emblem 4 (don't say "video games can't deliver meaningful messages", lest you wish to destroy your credibilty).

But once you earn that, its immediately going to be taken away from you, usually given to some a-hole who doesn't deserve it and will abuse it horribly.

Video_Game_King

Alright, I'm done trying to convince you to take just one or two steps to attempt improvement..

I assume you live in a small town or whatever where reputation is super important. Which is a bull**** excuse too if you just take small baby steps to change, you'll find that a reputation isn't this insurmountable hurdle that is place upon your shoulders like atlas' weight.

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Reputation can be everything. Reputation can prevent you from getting a job. Any way to get around that?

You wish to know why I look at the negative? Not this "world's a bad place" crap, but rather the "it will crush you horribly if you think things are getting better" crap. If you develop any self confidence, any joy or benefit whatsoever, everyone around you will do what they can to stomp it into the ground and make sure your life is Hell. And if I were to even try, it'd backfire horribly and destroy me. Fire Emblem 4 (don't say "video games can't deliver meaningful messages", lest you wish to destroy your credibilty).

But once you earn that, its immediately going to be taken away from you, usually given to some a-hole who doesn't deserve it and will abuse it horribly.

Video_Game_King

Negativity begets negativity.

How can anyone function and progress with thinking like that?

To me, that is just plain fear. Life is risky. You are taking risks as soon as you were conceived. But to just expect the world to be against you not only fuels people to step on you - since you've obviously given up, but it also means that you are just one more person who just takes it.

Yes reputation can be everything - but you can change reputation EASY. Just like how you can change other people around you.

Now I feel motivated to type my module up. lol. Should I just type it in this thread?

Negativity begets negativity.

How can anyone function and progress with thinking like that?

To me, that is just plain fear. Life is risky. You are taking risks as soon as you were conceived. But to just expect the world to be against you not only fuels people to step on you - since you've obviously given up, but it also means that you are just one less person who just takes it.

Yes reputation can be everything - but you can change reputation EASY. Just like how you can change other people around you.

Now I feel motivated to type my module up. lol. Should I just type it in this thread?

Sajedene

good that I don't have to make a new thread about this:

I recently been talking and doing stuff with the girl I like (note: she doesn't know I like her), then when she returns from the beach and I was asking her if she had a good time, she just randomnly hugs me and says to me: "I love you", you can imagine the shock I was in, I all I did was reply with: "I love you too" and then she just gets all happy kiss me in the cheek and says goodbye...

I haven't talk to her since then (note: It happened yesterday), because I been busy with school and stuff, I hope to be able to chat with through AIM tonight, but I don't know what to do...

help this dummy please.

luisen123

A girl hugged you and said she loved you. You like her also. What's the problem? :P

[QUOTE="Video_Game_King"][

Reputation can be everything. Reputation can prevent you from getting a job. Any way to get around that?

You wish to know why I look at the negative? Not this "world's a bad place" crap, but rather the "it will crush you horribly if you think things are getting better" crap. If you develop any self confidence, any joy or benefit whatsoever, everyone around you will do what they can to stomp it into the ground and make sure your life is Hell. And if I were to even try, it'd backfire horribly and destroy me. Fire Emblem 4 (don't say "video games can't deliver meaningful messages", lest you wish to destroy your credibilty).

But once you earn that, its immediately going to be taken away from you, usually given to some a-hole who doesn't deserve it and will abuse it horribly.

Sajedene

Negativity begets negativity.

How can anyone function and progress with thinking like that?

To me, that is just plain fear. Life is risky. You are taking risks as soon as you were conceived. But to just expect the world to be against you not only fuels people to step on you - since you've obviously given up, but it also means that you are just one more person who just takes it.

Yes reputation can be everything - but you can change reputation EASY. Just like how you can change other people around you.

Now I feel motivated to type my module up. lol. Should I just type it in this thread?

I also think it's important to point out that stereotypes (part of your reputation) are something that can work in your favor.

After all, there are girls who are really turned on by geeks like me (albeit I have my own reasons for a lack of a girlfriend) you just gotta find them.

[QUOTE="luisen123"]

good that I don't have to make a new thread about this:

I recently been talking and doing stuff with the girl I like (note: she doesn't know I like her), then when she returns from the beach and I was asking her if she had a good time, she just randomnly hugs me and says to me: "I love you", you can imagine the shock I was in, I all I did was reply with: "I love you too" and then she just gets all happy kiss me in the cheek and says goodbye...

I haven't talk to her since then (note: It happened yesterday), because I been busy with school and stuff, I hope to be able to chat with through AIM tonight, but I don't know what to do...

help this dummy please.

Ninja-Hippo

A girl hugged you and said she loved you. You like her also. What's the problem? :P

Knowing me I would think she was BS'ing me, but I have a bad anxiety problem that I am working on at the moment.....

Knowing me I would think she was BS'ing me, but I have a bad anxiety problem that I am working on at the moment.....

Thechaninator

at least you're taking steps to improve yourself... unlike someone else who posts on this board o_0

...not naming any names or anything :|

[QUOTE="Sajedene"]

Negativity begets negativity.

How can anyone function and progress with thinking like that?

To me, that is just plain fear. Life is risky. You are taking risks as soon as you were conceived. But to just expect the world to be against you not only fuels people to step on you - since you've obviously given up, but it also means that you are just one less person who just takes it.

Yes reputation can be everything - but you can change reputation EASY. Just like how you can change other people around you.

Now I feel motivated to type my module up. lol. Should I just type it in this thread?

blooddemon666

I'll also include it in the original post. :)

[QUOTE="Thechaninator"]

Knowing me I would think she was BS'ing me, but I have a bad anxiety problem that I am working on at the moment.....

blooddemon666

at least you're taking steps to improve yourself... unlike someone else who posts on this board o_0

...not naming any names or anything :|

But I'm near perfection....I can't improve anymore....:cry:

[spoiler] Joke....only kidding I am perfect. Kidding..or am I.:o [/spoiler]

[QUOTE="Sajedene"]

This thread is an awesome (and hilarious) read!

But reading it and exercising it are two different things.

I used to do a module for my sorority in regards to self confidence and getting people to like you - but I dont know if I'm up to typing it up. Maybe if it becomes apparently needed. Its really easy stuff anyway.

LJS9502_basic

You've returned from bannage?

Thats what I was thinking lol.

[QUOTE="Thechaninator"]

Knowing me I would think she was BS'ing me, but I have a bad anxiety problem that I am working on at the moment.....

blooddemon666

at least you're taking steps to improve yourself... unlike someone else who posts on this board o_0

...not naming any names or anything :|

Yeah it is a painfully slow process.

I got over my depression within the past year so now it is time to put things in place. I am trying to lose weight and get into shape, trying to pick up and be a responsible adult (gotta love how everything just gets thrown at you all at once), but the one thing I haven't really made much progress on is the way I percieve myself. I am a totally confident person in every way and yet I see myself as completely undateable.

I want to make a move but I am not sure if I should ask this girl at work at and if so I need to try and find a way to get her number and AIM adress which is hard because at fast food you don't really get much chance to talk to anyone 1 on 1 and I also don't know how to bring it up without being too direct and just bringing it out of the blue.....

The other problem is if I do get a GF they have to be completely uderstanding of my anxiety. I don't have the time or money for treatment so it is something I am trying to find a way to fight through on my own. I am still at a point where I dread driving because I always fear my car is gonna fall apart (my tire rods are bent and I need to get them fixed) and while my anxiety isn't sever enough to get in the way of my working or school it is bad enough to kill alot of my socail life (Still have a very tight group of friends with people I have known since Elementary school) and I am sure it is wreaking havoc on my body (I can only assum it is the major factor that caused my hiatial hernia which is a condition I am going to have to deal with the rest of my life.)....

Thechaninator

I'm essentially the same way. I used to be extremely shy. Now that I've worked at it, I'm quite social. As you, I don't see myself date-material (who would want to date the ass end of a cow?)

I agree that it is a very slow process. But I just take it one step at a time. In the back of my head, before I walk out of my house, I think of one thing I want to do before I get home. An attainable goal, nothing extraordinary. For example make small talk with at least 4 people. I live in a small southern city so that's not too difficult.

That sucks about the hernia :( We all have our things to overcome.

Sticky plz. btw this made me "lol"

[QUOTE="Thechaninator"]blooddemon666

I'm essentially the same way. I used to be extremely shy. Now that I've worked at it, I'm quite social. As you, I don't see myself date-material (who would want to date the ass end of a cow?)

I agree that it is a very slow process. But I just take it one step at a time. In the back of my head, before I walk out of my house, I think of one thing I want to do before I get home. An attainable goal, nothing extraordinary. For example make small talk with at least 4 people. I live in a small southern city so that's not too difficult.

That sucks about the hernia :( We all have our things to overcome.

Well I actually have become a LOT more social in the recent year or two. I make a point of talking alot at work and if I am in the 2nd window I actually try and get done with dishes ASAP just so I can talk to people, especially if that girl I mentioned is there.

One of my major problems is I have this thing of wanting to know exactly if a relatioship would work or not before even asking for numbers. I am going to have to go off the deep end at some point and take a chance by jumping the gun in order to get into a relationship and even then there is still part of me that thinks I am not ready for a relationship....

You should just get a girl like I did.

WITH MONEY!

You should just get a girl like I did.

WITH MONEY!

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