Hating University :(

Hey how is everyone, the past 8 months of my life have been like hell, I firstly started a health science degree which I dropped out of within a month, the gap between was filled with worrying and nothing else, I then started a Bachelor of Arts to become a teacher 3 weeks ago, and to this day I still feel sick in the stomach about it. It's hard to explain but I don't know why I don't like Uni, as soon as I walk into the place I feel sick and then as the day goes on and the work load stacks up all I simply do is come home and cry, I can make like no friends the people don't have the same interests the only thing that they enjoy seems to be reading a book which isn't one of my things :(, I have talked to people been nice but at the end of the day after class the people just walk off without even saying bye or anything. It's like soul crushing to me because I know how much I enjoyed high school, how happy I was and had proper friends, now I feel like Im in hell alone, I haven't stopped fully worrying about Uni for 4 weeks now I have lost all my interests too, I have been waiting for Gran Turismo 5 for eg for around 5 years now, but after starting uni, I couldn't give a dam if it never came out.

Is there any one else who has experienced something similar?

Thanks.

Probably lots, you have to join social clubs in univiersity to meet friends.

I think you need to re-evaluate why you are at university... is it worth it to you? and what would you be doing if you wasn't there?

I think you might have social anxiety, don't do anything rash...seek counseling.

I don't know what i'd be doing without it :(, but I have to say if I knew working would make me feel better I'd work anywhere including factories this soul crushing stuff simply isn't worth it, but there's not much choice.

Probably lots, you have to join social clubs in univiersity to meet friends.

Bluestorm-Kalas

Well your there for a while so might as well make the best of it.

Is it worth drugging up in order to get a degree though, I'm worried it will make many regrets in 4 years time.

I can make like no friends the people don't have the same interests the only thing that they enjoy seems to be reading a book which isn't one of my things :(,dazzzilla

Perhaps college isn't for you. Wasn't for me.

I went through a... "rough patch" when I first went to university, starting with my friends not being there, to hearing rumors about a girl I used to like OD'ing and almost dying, and I ended up trying to quell the loneliness by just watching TV and sleeping in my room, hoping for vacation to come more quickly. Needless to say, that didn't go well and I failed out. Then I made it to the real world without a college degree. It's not good. I ended up returning to college and finally started making friends. A lot of my friends in college just randomly found me on Facebook, or I met people in classes from my department.

What year are you? If you're just in general education type courses, then give it time and keep your chin up. Everything gets better. After two years at my current school, I have nearly 30 friends there (though they just graduated and I have only a few left for my final semester.) My recommendation is to stick with it, because a degree certainly is worth the time spent, and if you join social clubs as others have mentioned it can definitely help. If there's a foreign language you're interested in, take it, as people usually want study partners.

It can be tough. I almost didn't make it at a few low points, but I'm happier than can be now. Hope you feel better soon.

Aw man that sucks, maybe you should take a year or two off for a break. I'm the complete opposite however, I love University, but the thing is I live with 5 of my best friends, so it's a lot easier. If you think Uni is too tough, you might wanna take a break. My little sister has just started her semester and she has the same problems as you.

Yea I know, what you mean, and I miss high school for that reason :(, in fact I miss my whole child hood now, you don't know how good something is until you lose it. If only a time machine exsisted :P. I'm finding my self comming home and doing nothing but crying for a few hours before feeling any better.

Yea I know, what you mean, and I miss high school for that reason :(, in fact I miss my whole child hood now, you don't know how good something is until you lose it. If only a time machine exsisted :P. I'm finding my self comming home and doing nothing but crying for a few hours before feeling any better.

dazzzilla

If somethings making you that unhappy then it isn't worth it. Take a year or 2 out, perhaps work or travel a bit and then reassess. The students on my course who went to university having worked for a couple of years previously had a clear goal of what they wanted to achieve, and ended up with the higher degrees, whereas the rest of us student scum just dossed about and scraped by :P

I live at home which is probably a reason why I'm struggling to make friends but the uni is only a 15min car drive.

I wonder though if I should have taken up distance/online education instead, I thought why not go to uni for the social factor, now I feel like I'd feel less depressed if I was at home :S seeing there are no friends at uni anyways.

I wonder though if I should have taken up distance/online education instead, I thought why not go to uni for the social factor, now I feel like I'd feel less depressed if I was at home :S seeing there are no friends at uni anyways.

dazzzilla

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I wonder though if I should have taken up distance/online education instead, I thought why not go to uni for the social factor, now I feel like I'd feel less depressed if I was at home :S seeing there are no friends at uni anyways.

hockey73

Perhaps college isn't for you. Wasn't for me.Wilfred_Owen

Look for student orgs that are geared toward your interests and find out how to join them. Makes the process of finding new friends a little easier.

hey dude i acutally understand how you feel. I also have the same problem and find it hard to make good long term friends. Though thankfully ive stuck with my school friends and we all hang out more than ever even though we are all in different unis and taking our own walks in life.

Probably lots, you have to join social clubs in univiersity to meet friends.

Bluestorm-Kalas

This. If you don't, it'll be pretty hard.

There may be other issues at hand here that you are unable to notice yourself, and university may not be the cause of this stress. I know for a fact that it isn't for everyone, but it can be very rewarding for many people. I know I hated it once I started it (not to the same degree as you perhaps) but now, after spending 5 years getting my Bachelor of Arts in Religion, I can't wait to go back for at least 5-7 more years so I can get my Doctorate in Religion and start teaching as a professor.

Go to your university's students association and seek help in figuring out these feelings you are having, perhaps what you have chosen isn't right for you (I can tell you now, ask myself back 5 years ago going into uni, if I could see myself becoming a professor of religious studies as my career and I would outright laugh at you for being ridiculous, that's how much I abhorred religion). University is one of a few ways to become successful in your life, and hey, it might not be for you, but at least try and make it work, because it can be extraordinarily rewarding once you have found your stride.

I don't know what i'd be doing without it :(, but I have to say if I knew working would make me feel better I'd work anywhere including factories this soul crushing stuff simply isn't worth it, but there's not much choice.

dazzzilla

So...do you hate the field that you're studying for? Is that the problem?

Do you just plain not want to be at school right now AT ALL? Is that the problem?

Is the problem really that you don't have any friends? Is that the problem?

You're gonna have to narrow this down. There's a problem here, but you can't help yourself until you are certain of what the problem actually is. Trust me, I'm sort of in the same boat as you, but different.

... I have been waiting for Gran Turismo 5 for eg for around 5 years now, but after starting uni, I couldn't give a dam if it never came out.

dazzzilla

Now there's the problem right there. If you had an Xbox 360 and were waiting for Forza Motorsport 4 instead, everything would be just peachy. :P

I'm going into my 4th year of university and I still have yet to really meet any friends strictly from university and not from work or sports or something. Its hard to make friends when everyone goes to a lecture and they just write notes as the prof talks. Its a little easier to socialize in labs/seminars but I still didn't find myself really getting to know those ppl outside those labs or seminars.

As others have said the easiest way to meet ppl is join some clubs or get on a team or something. I just stick with my friends from high school who went to the same uni as me.

That being said, if u find its not for you, u should get out before u invest too much time. I've spent the last 3 years doing engineering and I HATE it now... but now that I've done it for so long, is it really worth dropping out or switching?

▲ You sound like a whiney kid, grow up. Not everyone is a social parasite like you. ▲

Loco_Live

I have been waiting for Gran Turismo 5 for eg for around 5 years now, but after starting uni, I couldn't give a dam if it never came out.dazzzilla

Holiday. Take one.

Next break just book a plane ticket to some beach, make sure to finish all work so that your not stressed about it and just relax, maybe party (if your the type) and just live your life, dont think about school and stuff.

When you get back you should feel refreshed and motivated.

I live at home which is probably a reason why I'm struggling to make friends but the uni is only a 15min car drive.

dazzzilla

I found my first year at uni to be difficult socially. I mainly stayed around one of my good mates from high school and only made one friend at university because of me doing random courses and not sticking to the formula which most students did.

I have found this year, though, I've got to know a few people in Spanish class, as well as one in Politics. The one in Politics was just a coincidence when we were talking about the election. He asked me what party I follow and I whispered "liberals", and he replied "same here, I work for them, but don't tell anyone". Saying you are a member of the Liberal (conservative) party is a dirty word at university. It's been known that people lose marks just because of political ideological differences in the super left-wing universities of Australia.

You should really just try and join clubs or talk to as many people as possible. Also the unibar is always a great place to meet people, as well as living on campus.

I am going through the same thing actually. I really miss my high school friends, and is taking a long time to adapt to uni life alone. What really bothers me is noticing other people in my lectures who have the privilege of spending their uni days with their high school friends. It keeps reminding me of what I have actually lost when I left high school. The only thing keeping me going at this point is the fact that I am actually enjoying my course at this point and also the times when I do catch up with my high school friends.

are you a dude or a chick? if you're a dude, suck it up and stop crying. finish university, get a job, and prove yourself. if you're a chick, don't worry, it'll get better.