Girl help.

So this girl in my class is really cute and I want to get to know her and all that good stuff, problem is there is no time before or during class to talk to her. Would it be too unreasonable to approach her one day after class and be like "hey, I know we don't really know each other but I find you very attractive and I was wondering if maybe you would be interested in talking some time?" That's basically what I'm think about doing, of course not nearly as bare bones. Is that waaaaay to forward or not? I kinda get the feeling she's sort of into me but I'm not 100% sure so I don't want to look like a creep, but honestly I see no other feasible way of getting closer to this girl. I hardly know her but when we make eye contact it's just feels so right. Any help would be great.

"hey, I know we don't really know each other but I find you very attractive and I was wondering if maybe you would be interested in talking some time?" T

BATTOSAI76

So this girl in my class is really cute and I want to get to know her and all that good stuff, problem is there is no time before or during class to talk to her. Would it be too unreasonable to approach her one day after class and be like "hey, I know we don't really know each other but I find you very attractive and I was wondering if maybe you would be interested in talking some time?" That's basically what I'm think about doing, of course not nearly as bare bones. Is that waaaaay to forward or not? I kinda get the feeling she's sort of into me but I'm not 100% sure so I don't want to look like a creep, but honestly I see no other feasible way of getting closer to this girl. I hardly know her but when we make eye contact it's just feels so right. Any help would be great.

BATTOSAI76

Give her a shoebox with a dead kitten in it and a note saying.

'Unlike this kitten my love for you will never die'

It's a surefire success.

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"hey, I know we don't really know each other but I find you very attractive and I was wondering if maybe you would be interested in talking some time?" T

Pirate700

[QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

"hey, I know we don't really know each other but I find you very attractive and I was wondering if maybe you would be interested in talking some time?" T

Pirate700

That bad huh?:?

[QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

So this girl in my class is really cute and I want to get to know her and all that good stuff, problem is there is no time before or during class to talk to her. Would it be too unreasonable to approach her one day after class and be like "hey, I know we don't really know each other but I find you very attractive and I was wondering if maybe you would be interested in talking some time?" That's basically what I'm think about doing, of course not nearly as bare bones. Is that waaaaay to forward or not? I kinda get the feeling she's sort of into me but I'm not 100% sure so I don't want to look like a creep, but honestly I see no other feasible way of getting closer to this girl. I hardly know her but when we make eye contact it's just feels so right. Any help would be great.

tenaka2

Give her a shoebox with a dead kitten in it and a note saying.

'Unlike this kitten my love for you will never die'

It's a surefire success.

[QUOTE="Pirate700"]

[QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

"hey, I know we don't really know each other but I find you very attractive and I was wondering if maybe you would be interested in talking some time?" T

BATTOSAI76

That bad huh?:?

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[QUOTE="Pirate700"]:lol: Dude...no.

Pirate700

That bad huh?:?

She doesn't stick around after class, she goes straight to the next one and so do I. We walk the same way for awhile but walking and talking would be awkward no?

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[QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

That bad huh?:?

BATTOSAI76

She doesn't stick around after class, she goes straight to the next one and so do I. We walk the same way for awhile but walking and talking would be awkward no?

[QUOTE="tenaka2"]

[QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

So this girl in my class is really cute and I want to get to know her and all that good stuff, problem is there is no time before or during class to talk to her. Would it be too unreasonable to approach her one day after class and be like "hey, I know we don't really know each other but I find you very attractive and I was wondering if maybe you would be interested in talking some time?" That's basically what I'm think about doing, of course not nearly as bare bones. Is that waaaaay to forward or not? I kinda get the feeling she's sort of into me but I'm not 100% sure so I don't want to look like a creep, but honestly I see no other feasible way of getting closer to this girl. I hardly know her but when we make eye contact it's just feels so right. Any help would be great.

Kevlar101

Give her a shoebox with a dead kitten in it and a note saying.

'Unlike this kitten my love for you will never die'

It's a surefire success.

I know what you mean, as soon as I hit submit I realised that he should use a puppy instead of a kitten.

[QUOTE="Kevlar101"][QUOTE="tenaka2"]

Give her a shoebox with a dead kitten in it and a note saying.

'Unlike this kitten my love for you will never die'

It's a surefire success.

tenaka2

I know what you mean, as soon as I hit submit I realised that he should use a puppy instead of a kitten.

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[QUOTE="Pirate700"]You don't ask someone out for a talk. Just talk to her after class or something.

Kevlar101

She doesn't stick around after class, she goes straight to the next one and so do I. We walk the same way for awhile but walking and talking would be awkward no?

So what then? Is there anything I can do?

[QUOTE="Kevlar101"][QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

She doesn't stick around after class, she goes straight to the next one and so do I. We walk the same way for awhile but walking and talking would be awkward no?

BATTOSAI76

So what then? Is there anything I can do?

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[QUOTE="Kevlar101"] Maybe a bit.Kevlar101

So what then? Is there anything I can do?

Well thanks for the help. I guess I'll just stay on the alert and hope a good window opens up.

[QUOTE="Kevlar101"][QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

So what then? Is there anything I can do?

BATTOSAI76

Well thanks for the help. I guess I'll just stay on the alert and hope a good window opens up.

[QUOTE="Kevlar101"][QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

So what then? Is there anything I can do?

BATTOSAI76

Well thanks for the help. I guess I'll just stay on the alert and hope a good window opens up.

Also, don't randomly tell her how attractive you think she is. That's really random and awkward. She's not some slut at a bar. It's implied you find her attractive if you ask her out.

We walk the same way for awhile but walking and talking would be awkward no?

BATTOSAI76

That just leaves talking, which is admittedly much trickier - it's a pretty nasty combination of windpipes and vocal chords and subglottal pressure and so on - but don't let all of the jargon fool you. I've seen kids manage it, without even reading the manual (honest!).

Combining the two actions may take a lot of work, but if you really love this girl, it'll be worth every hour of practice you put into it.

[QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

We walk the same way for awhile but walking and talking would be awkward no?

Planeforger

:lol: Made me feel a little better.

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[QUOTE="Kevlar101"] Well the best thing to do is just wait for when you think the time is right. If I was in your situation I would just wait for her to be open to conversation. Despite how slim those chances may be. Im sorry but this is hard to figure out, even for me. HybridPhoenix

Well thanks for the help. I guess I'll just stay on the alert and hope a good window opens up.

So being bold isn't the problem, I just gotta approach it differently.

Also, don't randomly tell her how attractive you think she is. That's really random and awkward. She's not some slut at a bar. It's implied you find her attractive if you ask her out.

Pirate700

Having experience as an awkward teenager some years ago, let me give you some advice. Every relationship I've ever been in has happened naturally. You can't just expect to force yourself on someone, or use a one-liner.

If you really want this girl, make an effort first of all to just say one thing. Shoot, bump into her on purpose if you have to so you can apologize. Anything to open up that first contact. Because after that she will have a mental reference to you, and you can work on talking to her more, building on that success, etc.

If you think about what you're going to say, or try to be too creative in your scheming, either you will never build up the courage, or you will fail. Guaranteed. Let it be natural. Approach it like you have no sexual interest in her at first.

TC, you dont talk to girls very much do you?Kevlar101

Unfortunately no, but I have no anxiety about it or anything, I can communicate with girls fine, I have before, It's just that it's always had a context, I never had to break the ice to such an extreme.

[QUOTE="HybridPhoenix"][QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

Well thanks for the help. I guess I'll just stay on the alert and hope a good window opens up.

BATTOSAI76

So being bold isn't the problem, I just gotta approach it differently.

[This message was deleted at the request of the original poster]HybridPhoenix

Again, I don't think starting a young person relationship works like that. Even at my age if I just went up to a girl and asked her to go out to coffee (I'm 26) it would not only feel awkward to me, but I'm pretty sure she would be put in a no win situatoin as well.

Every time I've been successful, it's been natural.

FOR EXAMPLE. One time I saw this attractive girl in Wal-Mart. Instead of going up and being like "Herp derp, would you haz coffee with me?", I went up and told her I was color blind, and I needed help picking out a non-girly shower curtain. BAM, conversation. I was then able to find out through small talk she was new to the area. That gave me the opportunity to get her number to "show her some local hot spots".

[QUOTE="HybridPhoenix"][This message was deleted at the request of the original poster]UltimoIce

Again, I don't think starting a young person relationship works like that. Even at my age if I just went up to a girl and asked her to go out to coffee (I'm 26) it would not only feel awkward to me, but I'm pretty sure she would be put in a no win situatoin as well.

Every time I've been successful, it's been natural.

FOR EXAMPLE. One time I saw this attractive girl in Wal-Mart. Instead of going up and being like "Herp derp, would you haz coffee with me?", I went up and told her I was color blind, and I needed help picking out a non-girly shower curtain. BAM, conversation. I was then able to find out through small talk she was new to the area. That gave me the opportunity to get her number to "show her some local hot spots".

[QUOTE="Kevlar101"]TC, you dont talk to girls very much do you?BATTOSAI76

Unfortunately no, but I have no anxiety about it or anything, I can communicate with girls fine, I have before, It's just that it's always had a context, I never had to break the ice to such an extreme.

[QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

"hey, I know we don't really know each other but I find you very attractive and I was wondering if maybe you would be interested in talking some time?" T

Pirate700

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[QUOTE="HybridPhoenix"][This message was deleted at the request of the original poster]HybridPhoenix

Again, I don't think starting a young person relationship works like that. Even at my age if I just went up to a girl and asked her to go out to coffee (I'm 26) it would not only feel awkward to me, but I'm pretty sure she would be put in a no win situatoin as well.

Every time I've been successful, it's been natural.

FOR EXAMPLE. One time I saw this attractive girl in Wal-Mart. Instead of going up and being like "Herp derp, would you haz coffee with me?", I went up and told her I was color blind, and I needed help picking out a non-girly shower curtain. BAM, conversation. I was then able to find out through small talk she was new to the area. That gave me the opportunity to get her number to "show her some local hot spots".

There is always opportunity. This is school, not prison. Is there assigned seating? Is there no way he can bump into her as she's coming into or away from class? Is there a lunch period? I don't buy the "absolutely zero time, sir" thing.

[QUOTE="HybridPhoenix"][QUOTE="UltimoIce"]

Again, I don't think starting a young person relationship works like that. Even at my age if I just went up to a girl and asked her to go out to coffee (I'm 26) it would not only feel awkward to me, but I'm pretty sure she would be put in a no win situatoin as well.

Every time I've been successful, it's been natural.

FOR EXAMPLE. One time I saw this attractive girl in Wal-Mart. Instead of going up and being like "Herp derp, would you haz coffee with me?", I went up and told her I was color blind, and I needed help picking out a non-girly shower curtain. BAM, conversation. I was then able to find out through small talk she was new to the area. That gave me the opportunity to get her number to "show her some local hot spots".

UltimoIce

There is always opportunity. This is school, not prison. Is there assigned seating? Is there no way he can bump into her as she's coming into or away from class? Is there a lunch period? I don't buy the "absolutely zero time, sir" thing.

Just ask her out don't make it over complicated.

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[QUOTE="HybridPhoenix"] He's mentioned that the situation in which he encounters her in don't allow for things like that. He has stated that there's literally no opportunity for conversation. That leaves it as asking her out for coffee which implies interest, or asking for help in the class, which if it isn't true, will seem forced an unnatural. Even asking her to help study when he doesn't know her is a little weird. HybridPhoenix

There is always opportunity. This is school, not prison. Is there assigned seating? Is there no way he can bump into her as she's coming into or away from class? Is there a lunch period? I don't buy the "absolutely zero time, sir" thing.

I suppose we shall. I guess it could take a certain amount of natural swagger to make the natural move seem legit. I always look at it (especially in school when you are going to see that person again) as a marathon, not a sprint. Build a repor, then go in for the kill. Different styles for different people I suppose.

Do not say what you were going to say to her.

First off, how old are you and how old is she?

Do not say what you were going to say to her.

First off, how old are you and how old is she?

ristactionjakso

I'm 19 (yes I know I should be over this behaviour by now) I don't know how old she is but it can't be much different then me, we're both in college.

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Do not say what you were going to say to her.

First off, how old are you and how old is she?

BATTOSAI76

I'm 19 (yes I know I should be over this behaviour by now) I don't know how old she is but it can't be much different then me, we're both in college.

I' m 19 too and I' m no better than you when it comes to girls believe me. I agree with what Ultimolce said though as personally I would feel weird saying a line like "let' s go out for a coffee or sth". Like he said be natural. Try sitting next to her in class or talk to her on your way to the next class (it can' t be that hard). Just approach her and say sth to initiate a conversation and from that point everything will be slightly easier. Your' re lucky to even have a really nice girl in your class-there' s no one that I find attractive in my classes...

Future advice: Don't ask for relationship advice on GS. Many of the users here are kids, and OT has a pretty backwards and anti-social community that probably has zero experience with the opposite sex to begin with.

But you are over thinking things, just talk to her normally. Just be confident and talk to her like you would anyone else, she is new you said so you could ask her where she is from. Tell her you moved from some place (it doesn't have to be true) and that you know what it's like to be new but you'll settle in fine. If you do hit it off then ask her if she wants to hang out with you, then see where it goes. It could turn into a relationship and it wouldn't be awkward at all.

Just be confident and be yourself, if she isn't interested it's not your fault, some people are just odd like that.

Future advice: Don't ask for relationship advice on GS. Many of the users here are kids, and OT has a pretty backwards and anti-social community that probably has zero experience with the opposite sex to begin with.

But you are over thinking things, just talk to her normally. Just be confident and talk to her like you would anyone else, she is new you said so you could ask her where she is from. Tell her you moved from some place (it doesn't have to be true) and that you know what it's like to be new but you'll settle in fine. If you do hit it off then ask her if she wants to hang out with you, then see where it goes. It could turn into a relationship and it wouldn't be awkward at all.

Just be confident and be yourself, if she isn't interested it's not your fault, some people are just odd like that.

ShadowMoses900

>Says GS relationship advice is terrible
>Gives advice

Nice

[QUOTE="ShadowMoses900"]

Future advice: Don't ask for relationship advice on GS. Many of the users here are kids, and OT has a pretty backwards and anti-social community that probably has zero experience with the opposite sex to begin with.

But you are over thinking things, just talk to her normally. Just be confident and talk to her like you would anyone else, she is new you said so you could ask her where she is from. Tell her you moved from some place (it doesn't have to be true) and that you know what it's like to be new but you'll settle in fine. If you do hit it off then ask her if she wants to hang out with you, then see where it goes. It could turn into a relationship and it wouldn't be awkward at all.

Just be confident and be yourself, if she isn't interested it's not your fault, some people are just odd like that.

chaoscougar1

>Says GS relationship advice is terrible
>Gives advice

Nice

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Seems I struck a nerve....

I am one of the few people on here who has experience and lives in the real world. My advice is much better and far more sound than most of the people posting here.

I am one of the few people on here who has experience and lives in the real world. My advice is much better and far more sound than most of the people posting here.ShadowMoses900

[QUOTE="chaoscougar1"]

[QUOTE="ShadowMoses900"]

Future advice: Don't ask for relationship advice on GS. Many of the users here are kids, and OT has a pretty backwards and anti-social community that probably has zero experience with the opposite sex to begin with.

But you are over thinking things, just talk to her normally. Just be confident and talk to her like you would anyone else, she is new you said so you could ask her where she is from. Tell her you moved from some place (it doesn't have to be true) and that you know what it's like to be new but you'll settle in fine. If you do hit it off then ask her if she wants to hang out with you, then see where it goes. It could turn into a relationship and it wouldn't be awkward at all.

Just be confident and be yourself, if she isn't interested it's not your fault, some people are just odd like that.

ShadowMoses900

>Says GS relationship advice is terrible
>Gives advice

Nice

Seems I struck a nerve....

I am one of the few people on here who has experience and lives in the real world. My advice is much better and far more sound than most of the people posting here.

Sure you are
Sure it is
:3

Seems I struck a nerve....

I am one of the few people on here who has experience and lives in the real world. My advice is much better and far more sound than most of the people posting here.

ShadowMoses900

Oh you! I haven't heard too much TERRIBLE advice in this thread, so I don't know what you are reading. And I am old AND have dated a lot of women. Targeting a woman you want to ask out is just a hard thing to do. 9/10 times you end up datnig someone who you never expected or targeted, because you just have a natural connection with someone.

approach her to ask a question and say "wa a tibra ongula mihispa dangata urata, biacha".

Or you could drop a book or pen or something near her, so that she'll pick it up for you.

The more thought you put into it, the more complex you're making the situation for yourself.

Keep it casual, keep it simple. Be spontaneous and embrace mistakes as they will only help to loosen you up and want to do better next time. That's the approach you should have with girls and with anything in life for that matter. The people who'll like you for who you are, are the people you want to keep around - don't forget that bud.

So this girl in my class is really cute and I want to get to know her and all that good stuff, problem is there is no time before or during class to talk to her. Would it be too unreasonable to approach her one day after class and be like "hey, I know we don't really know each other but I find you very attractive and I was wondering if maybe you would be interested in talking some time?" That's basically what I'm think about doing, of course not nearly as bare bones. Is that waaaaay to forward or not? I kinda get the feeling she's sort of into me but I'm not 100% sure so I don't want to look like a creep, but honestly I see no other feasible way of getting closer to this girl. I hardly know her but when we make eye contact it's just feels so right. Any help would be great.

BATTOSAI76

Don't do that.:lol:

There's an appropriate time to do that.

sit behind her in class, then when you feel the time is right... lean forward, and whisper in hear ear: "You gonna cuddle with me tonight"

She'll melt, trust me:D