coping with loss/grief?

what are some good ways? warning, thread is a bit intense.

A stray cat which i was looking after since birth, was hit by a car. The injury was pretty severe but the cat was still alive and somehow found its way to my house after a day., obviously in pain. The vet quoted me $6k to fix it, which was way out ofmy budget and so I decided to pay to euthanize the cat instead and relieve him of his pain. I obviously feel like I betrayed my cat, and his meowing while he was injured at my house is haunting me.

Im pretty demolished right now, what are some good ways to numb the grief? I started taking a bit of alcohol. A bit of wine and some small portions of hard rum. I know its not a smart idea but its just temporary. Thanks for suggestions.

don't blame yourself. Hang around with people you know, and maybe eventually get a new cat.

It's not just temporary, and if it helps, so much the worse. You do not want your brain to associate alcohol with relief.

I wish I could give you some advice, but frankly, I don't deal with it very well.

• Take one day at a time.
• Liquor
• Realize that all things must come to an end and that you did all you could to help the cat live a long and love-filled life.

If you did all you could to help it then that's all there is to it. Most people wouldn't even consider spending that sort of money on a stray animal in such a situation but you at least seem to have had a desire to do so even though its outside your means. You can beat yourself up over choices you could have made but whats done is done and your choice doesn't seem like a bad one.

Stay off the alcohol, it will in no way help you. It will just make you numb.

First thing you have to do is accept the pain for the loss you had. If you cared and loved the cat, then its OK to feel like crap. You have to accept the pain and the sadness as part of life. We all have to go through it when we lose someone we loved.

Dont bury that behind alcohol. If you have a close friend you could chat with him/her and tell your favorite memories of the cat or you can post it here.

Thats a good way to remember your pet and will probably set you on the path to recovery. We always try to celebrate life and not duel too much on death.

The other thing; you can feel bad for the loss, but you cannot feel guilty. You did everything you could so just let go of that.

take it a day at a time :)

I got advice.

I had a dog at age 4, I wasn't that responsible, which is why I felt bad, but loved him and he died just last year when I was 18, I'm 19 now.

And we grew up together, everything I did, my first kiss, my first day of Middle school, and High school, second grade, first grade...He was there in my life.

I'm revolved around a culture where you have to be a man, but I've seen THE TOUGHEST OF MEN cry over something so dear to them.

My point is, it's very normal to go through pain such as this, you'd be doing the cat wrong if you let it suffer in pain.

Think of it this way, you'll definitely see your friend on the other side!

And I will join my best mate, and my parents (still alive) decades from now.

But for now you'll keep living, and smile that the cat feels no pain along with making a special friend, and is drinking heavenly milk. Pun oh so intended.

Life is so temporary, you'll float away with all the people, and animals, you love.

I feel for ur loss don't drink alcohol just spend time with ur family.

No don't drink. I know it's hard to lose a cat that you loved. But try to do things that make you happy. Going out with your friends and family in the fresh air. And you did what you could for the cat, Don't feel guilty ;)