Anyone else not that sexually driven?

Alright, so in all my relationships i've had this mayor issue. Although i like sex, i don't love it. It's not something i need which is really bad for my partners but for some reason i simply don't urge it.

I've been single for about a year and noticed how everytime i have casual sex I feel like "meh". It doesn't do anything for me. Now I haven't had sex for a whole month and honestly, don't miss it.

Yet, for some reason i love watching porn on a daily basis which makes little sense. Anyone else have a low sex drive?

I love sex, but what I love more than sex is having sex with someone I have a real connection with.

I'm 30 and still a virgin so I guess it's safe to say I can't be that sexually driven.

Sex is overrated

oh no, guys :(

every post sad for different reasons

I certainly still enjoy it, but being 41 it's not at the forefront of my mind all the time. I can enjoy a good cuddle session now without wanting to go all out, but if it does happen I'm good.

I do have a Sex addiction and yeah, I'm always having Sex everyday and way more Sex driven. Got my first Sex at 13 and now 32, I guess it just became part of my life hobby :(

That doesn't sound like lack of sex drive, that seems to be porn addiction. There's a lot of people who say that after a few years of watching porn, "the real deal" doesn't even come close to the idea they have of sex; the 2 minutes to find something new and exciting, the lack of performance anxiety, all of that gives them a better feel than actual sex....sex with someone new can be stressful and sex with an habitual partner can be dull so porn can become this refuge from all of that where you get what you want when you want and zero criticism. Some people even report that it starts getting to a point where "regular" porn becomes dull so they have to find something more and more extreme to watch (sometimes to the point of it being illegal).

Now, maybe none of this applies to you but why not go a few months without porn and see if something changes? If it doesn't, it's not the end of the world. I don't have a huge sex drive either, I think porn is "meh" at best and I still have a happy and fulfilling relationship.

Sex? What's that?

spend enough time as a virgin and you'll eventually lose all interest in it

i barely even masturbate anymore

That does sound very interesting. I'll try it out, though i've been awhile without a porn and it's the same effect.

Yeah, if you're married or in a long term, committed relationship and you have access to it pretty much whenever, your every action certainly isn't driven by the thought of "I have an opportunity for sex?! I must take it because who knows when this will happen again!"

-Byshop

To be honest, Porn is very very boring! I watch it the first time, and couldn't never understand why and how anyone could get addicted to it but me, it's just dull.

@needhealing: is your partner a looker, or is she "meh"?

No. No. My girl partners used to be really good looking until i figured i didn't like girls, my guy partners compared to me look much better usually athletic. I'm normal, but really attractive. Get almost any girl I want, though not 100% because of looks. Also have a pretty amazing personality.

This happens regardless of how they look, to be honest.

Hentai is porn.

Have more babies, lots of babies, fill the planet. Passionate sex is pretty sweet.

Hentai is sub for porn, but I never consider actual porn XD

And yes, I'm an Hentai guy :P

But it is actual porn.

Do you take any form of medication that might surpress it? antidepressants for instance?

I have a normal sex drive. But, as everyone here with a family knows, there's nothing like kids that can kill the sex drive.

The thought of having another mouth to feed gives me the shudders, not to mention cleaning up poo and staying awake up to the wee hours. ;)

Withdraw bro :P

But I'm with you though, I have a 10 year old daughter, having one kid is all I ever need in my lifetime and I'm getting to the point I'm too old to start all over again with another mouth to feed.

No need. The moment the kid bangs on the door, demanding to talk to Mommy, everything just goes limp. Pfffffft. ;)

Kinda disagree.

Sneaking into the bedroom while the kid is watching TV and hoping he won't notice right away was fun :D

i think there are always "exception to the rules" cases. Like there may be a someone you think who not only looks really attractive, also with great personality, but just has that "IT" unique factor that will turn your low sex drive into a high sex drive. And that person might be totally specific to your tastes... u just haven't found them yet... but once you do, u won't have this issue

Well, I haven't had sex in months. But I know I have a HUGE sex drive. I just do a good job of enduring it. I'm afraid if I gave in to temptation, to the amount of sex my body wants me to have, I'd end up getting into a lot of trouble. Its hard to find girls who want meaningless casual sex without growing too attached. And jealousy eventually wear its ugly head. Last thing I need is for someone to tell me to check into a sex addict class or inadvertently catch a case from the #metoo crowd.

Its just the curves of a female drives me crazy. Especially when they wear skirts showing off their legs. I get instantly turned on and just have this sudden urge to want to bite them on the thigh....

He He. Sneaking into the bedroom isn't the same as the kid kicking the door and shouting, "What are you doing in there?"

Sometimes, we had to go to a motel to have our fun.

See the contradiction?

Take it from someone who has had sex with multiple women. Once you have sex with more then 10.....you don't care anymore. If you are in a position where you feel you need to get laid then go out on dates and go to bars. Meet attractive women you connect with and get it out of your system. I am not going as hard rn(been busy, but it will pick back up once i am fully moved into my new place), but I don't really fantasize about sex anymore. I think about having romantic connections and being in a good relationship. I still enjoy sex, but I do the way I enjoy a nice concert or trip; it is exhilarating but its temporary and I have to be smart about it.

Look up nofap my friend, will improve your life.

No body loves me :(

Depends on your age. Male sex drives peek in adolesence then tend to trend downwards, whereas female sex drives ramp up.

@davillain-: me too. I admit I tried watching those contents. I enjoyed it quite a bit at first but after a few times, I find it boring because pron is repetitive. That's why I'm trying my best to stop watching pron despite coming back to it every now and then. Hopefully, I'll be able to stop pron watching cold turkey.

I certainly was when I was younger. Anyone that has sex with their g/f's best friend right next to them while they are sleeping is overly sexually driven. Nowadays if I get sex once a week I'm good.

Pretty much spot on.

I haven't been married long but since I was 16 I have only been single for a total of a year till I got married at 25... So never had that hunger that single people have, I more or less had it 2-3 times a week for the majority of my adult life. That being said I am not over it, not at all.

Sex now though is just a time/energy/convenience puzzle for me and my wife as we are both in our early thirties so we are still very much active.

@Mercenary848:

Yes, I am in that group that's well in the double digits of women I've hooked up with, and yeah it seems after that, it's not so big a deal. I don't even try anymore.

You may be right. I met this guy, i probably would love to marry like for real. But it's complicated. But i feel like it maybe the first person i might want to screw a lot just to maintain him a solid relationship. But until that happens, i remain with me weird feeling :(

Also, a lot of people say adolescent is the peak sex drive, is it weird i had no sex drive like at all? I didn't have sex until i was 21 (26 now). Like i had no urgency to do it, despite girls telling me to do it and also guys. I didn't care.

Edit: Wrote this drunk.

Teach your kid to knock first.

Yeah I've been caught, but unless both of you are completely visible, it's easy to hide :P