Angry/ Stressed.... advice?

Obviously this is a game forum, but like all places there are people... so everyone has an opinion...

So what I was going to ask is for some advice as to how to deal with a particular life issue. I am finding myself angry and stressed as hell, angry more than anything. Like I'll be fine, but inside i'll be angry and it doesn't take long for me to snap, I absolutely hate it, i've always had a shorter temper, enjoy throwing controllers when things don't go well in games etc. But having it constantly brewing is something that annoys me to bits, today is when I realised... got to the gym, tiniest thing went wrong, I wasn't doing the exercise properly, I got the S&its threw my phone and walked out drove off leaving my mate there alone.

I don't know what is causing it? in 2010, I had some anxiety issues, which now looking back seem absolutely stupid, I'm sure there is a post on this forum about that too!, I didn't work, I struggled to go to work when I started, I dropped out of uni, had no idea where my life was going. 2013, 3 years later, I am doing university full time in my 3rd year now, I work full time and it does get hectic no doubt... I've managed to buy a new car, and am now saving up for a house deposit and for braces. That is my life situation at the moment, I look back at 2010 and think wow, I've done something but as we all know success doesn't buy happiness..... However on the side there is a girl who I really like, however, I just can't bring myself to tell her, I believe that this is something that is left over from the anxiety... and this is what I think could be pushing this issue more, I see the person once a week and I get worried as that day comes and that worry turns into stress, anger etc.

I am sick of living this way though, as this is a game forum I will say that when I play a video game, I'll be thinking of other garbage in the background meaning that I can't even enjoy it...

How does one deal with all this?

I mean what is good to reduce the stress when uni and work pack out life? How do I find the guts to walk up to this girl? Are there any tips for reducing anger? (This can include vitamins and exercising! but please no psychologist's went to one for the anxiety, was even looking back now a waste of time)

Thanks everyone!

Whoa, slow down there buddy..

First of all, you seem to be having anger management problems. chill brah. If you feel angry just find a way to let it out, whether it be going to the gym, running, beating the crap out of a pillow w/e.. just change scenery and chill out.

As for stress, its the little victories that would make you keep on going. If you find yourself unable to have that motivation back in your head and the inspiration to keep on going then find a way you can reward yourself for doing so much work everytime you get some sh!t done. Trust me, it works.

Better days will come.

Whoa, slow down there buddy..

First of all, you seem to be having anger management problems. chill brah. If you feel angry just find a way to let it out, whether it be going to the gym, running, beating the crap out of a pillow w/e.. just change scenery and chill out.

As for stress, its the little victories that would make you keep on going. If you find yourself unable to have that motivation back in your head and the inspiration to keep on going then find a way you can reward yourself for doing so much work everytime you get some sh!t done. Trust me, it works.

Better days will come.

TehFuneral

Is letting it out good though? I've been told by people not to do it because it becomes a habit or something... but what do I know... I wouldn't be asking if i did! haha.

I seem to struggle with the balance of things, like in 2010, I had so much time to relax, but I hated my life, I honestly did wish it would end back then!, now that I'm working and at uni, I'm finding it very stressful... just can't seem to break even.. I know it'll get better when I'm done with uni and doing what I like not a side job to make up money while I get the degreee.

Go to fight club.

Taking all the legit advice :P. Anyone else got any?

Might try go somewhere by myself to relax for a day or something...

Go to fight club.

tenaka2

[QUOTE="TehFuneral"]

Whoa, slow down there buddy..

First of all, you seem to be having anger management problems. chill brah. If you feel angry just find a way to let it out, whether it be going to the gym, running, beating the crap out of a pillow w/e.. just change scenery and chill out.

As for stress, its the little victories that would make you keep on going. If you find yourself unable to have that motivation back in your head and the inspiration to keep on going then find a way you can reward yourself for doing so much work everytime you get some sh!t done. Trust me, it works.

Better days will come.

dazzzilla

Is letting it out good though? I've been told by people not to do it because it becomes a habit or something... but what do I know... I wouldn't be asking if i did! haha.

I seem to struggle with the balance of things, like in 2010, I had so much time to relax, but I hated my life, I honestly did wish it would end back then!, now that I'm working and at uni, I'm finding it very stressful... just can't seem to break even.. I know it'll get better when I'm done with uni and doing what I like not a side job to make up money while I get the degreee.

Let it out, people who tend to hold it suffer much more than people who express their anger. However, you should pay attention on how you let out your anger as you might hurt people who are close to you with your actions or words. If that happens a sincere apology should suffice, and people do understand.It is much more better for your mental health if you let out your anger.

I know how it feels, I've been in the same position as you once were. Just keep it on your mind that there is nothing of benefit that comes from lamenting on the past, and since you are finding yourself stressed then that means you have changed from the person you once where and now you are progressing, you simply need to find a method that you can control all the amount of workload and stress that you are facing.

Start smokingthemajormayor

[QUOTE="TehFuneral"]

Whoa, slow down there buddy..

First of all, you seem to be having anger management problems. chill brah. If you feel angry just find a way to let it out, whether it be going to the gym, running, beating the crap out of a pillow w/e.. just change scenery and chill out.

As for stress, its the little victories that would make you keep on going. If you find yourself unable to have that motivation back in your head and the inspiration to keep on going then find a way you can reward yourself for doing so much work everytime you get some sh!t done. Trust me, it works.

Better days will come.

dazzzilla

Is letting it out good though? I've been told by people not to do it because it becomes a habit or something... but what do I know... I wouldn't be asking if i did! haha.

I seem to struggle with the balance of things, like in 2010, I had so much time to relax, but I hated my life, I honestly did wish it would end back then!, now that I'm working and at uni, I'm finding it very stressful... just can't seem to break even.. I know it'll get better when I'm done with uni and doing what I like not a side job to make up money while I get the degreee.

I'm sorry you had a bad experience with a psychologist in the past, but, now you're asking for help on a gaming forum, while specifically ignoring getting advise from trained professionals. If you can find a way on your own (and with support from friends and family or whatever), then that's fantastic. But if it's a serious thing that is holding you back and you don't know where to go otherwise, professional help will always be better than random strangers' advise.

Boxing can be a good outlet for anger/stress. So I suggest finding the nearest police officer and punching him. He'll give you a good fight back and help dissipate that anger.

I'm having a life issue to right now.

Well, I've tried to relax a bit and for a part of it it's worked, i've avoided some things that annoy me. However, the remainder is I am certain now coming from my frustrations of not being able to speak to this girl. I want to but I simply turn into the biggest pansy known to man and don't say a word. I don't know why, if anyone has some advice on how I can force myself to do this and get over it, it's even worse now because I suspect she knows I like her, yet I haven't said anything and feel even more nervous now about saying anything, saw the person last week, I wanted to avoid them, stupid as it sounds, I want to speak to her, but when I see her, I crumble. What's even worse is that I am not really a person who is worried about what people think of me 98% of the time, if someone is iritating me I will tell them, even if it offends them.

What makes it worse is that I usually run into her at places difficult to speak at such as disco's. 

But I need to finish this otherwise it will simply drive me mad and I'll be a bitter bastard for eternity at this rate.

Any help or motivation will do, what do I think when I get the urge to just run away from her? It's the strongest feeling I can possibly describe, and it seems impossible to force myself to approach her.

Thanks.

If it snows where you live, take a nice long shower with cold water only.

Well, I've tried to relax a bit and for a part of it it's worked, i've avoided some things that annoy me. However, the remainder is I am certain now coming from my frustrations of not being able to speak to this girl. I want to but I simply turn into the biggest pansy known to man and don't say a word. I don't know why, if anyone has some advice on how I can force myself to do this and get over it, it's even worse now because I suspect she knows I like her, yet I haven't said anything and feel even more nervous now about saying anything, saw the person last week, I wanted to avoid them, stupid as it sounds, I want to speak to her, but when I see her, I crumble. What's even worse is that I am not really a person who is worried about what people think of me 98% of the time, if someone is iritating me I will tell them, even if it offends them.

What makes it worse is that I usually run into her at places difficult to speak at such as disco's. 

But I need to finish this otherwise it will simply drive me mad and I'll be a bitter bastard for eternity at this rate.

 

Any help or motivation will do, what do I think when I get the urge to just run away from her? It's the strongest feeling I can possibly describe, and it seems impossible to force myself to approach her.

 

Thanks.

dazzzilla

You can release all of this tension using only a sack of kittens and a vice.

got to a shrink...SSRI pills can really calm you down.

Well, I've tried to relax a bit and for a part of it it's worked, i've avoided some things that annoy me. However, the remainder is I am certain now coming from my frustrations of not being able to speak to this girl. I want to but I simply turn into the biggest pansy known to man and don't say a word. I don't know why, if anyone has some advice on how I can force myself to do this and get over it, it's even worse now because I suspect she knows I like her, yet I haven't said anything and feel even more nervous now about saying anything, saw the person last week, I wanted to avoid them, stupid as it sounds, I want to speak to her, but when I see her, I crumble. What's even worse is that I am not really a person who is worried about what people think of me 98% of the time, if someone is iritating me I will tell them, even if it offends them.

What makes it worse is that I usually run into her at places difficult to speak at such as disco's. 

But I need to finish this otherwise it will simply drive me mad and I'll be a bitter bastard for eternity at this rate.

 

Any help or motivation will do, what do I think when I get the urge to just run away from her? It's the strongest feeling I can possibly describe, and it seems impossible to force myself to approach her.

 

Thanks.

dazzzilla

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Well, I've tried to relax a bit and for a part of it it's worked, i've avoided some things that annoy me. However, the remainder is I am certain now coming from my frustrations of not being able to speak to this girl. I want to but I simply turn into the biggest pansy known to man and don't say a word. I don't know why, if anyone has some advice on how I can force myself to do this and get over it, it's even worse now because I suspect she knows I like her, yet I haven't said anything and feel even more nervous now about saying anything, saw the person last week, I wanted to avoid them, stupid as it sounds, I want to speak to her, but when I see her, I crumble. What's even worse is that I am not really a person who is worried about what people think of me 98% of the time, if someone is iritating me I will tell them, even if it offends them.

What makes it worse is that I usually run into her at places difficult to speak at such as disco's. 

But I need to finish this otherwise it will simply drive me mad and I'll be a bitter bastard for eternity at this rate.

Any help or motivation will do, what do I think when I get the urge to just run away from her? It's the strongest feeling I can possibly describe, and it seems impossible to force myself to approach her.

Thanks.

dazzzilla

If that's not enough, then just try to get to know her by talking to her more. Don't give her the impression that you only want to be her friend, but don't come on too strong, either.

Get the @#$% off Off Topic.

Seriously, this place is a one way ticket to anger and stress street.

Sleep. I'm serious, the best thing is sleep, a good workout, and then great food afterwards.

1: If you work/school take a week off. (EVERYONE NEEDS ONE OF THESE)

2: Get out of house or whatever, Go to park and walk in the trails. Very peaceful and relaxing and talk to yo self. Even go geocatching so it give a incentive to go out. It's Treasure game that's run by the community around the world. You can use your smartphone or even a $50 gps. (Been doing it for few years.)

3: get  some insurance and get a counselor and don't be afraid to switch until you find you you like or it be no good. (used to go to one. Switched 4 different times found someone i liked and smooth sailing.)

Just my opinion

P.S i used to be a devil's child...

[QUOTE="dazzzilla"]

Well, I've tried to relax a bit and for a part of it it's worked, i've avoided some things that annoy me. However, the remainder is I am certain now coming from my frustrations of not being able to speak to this girl. I want to but I simply turn into the biggest pansy known to man and don't say a word. I don't know why, if anyone has some advice on how I can force myself to do this and get over it, it's even worse now because I suspect she knows I like her, yet I haven't said anything and feel even more nervous now about saying anything, saw the person last week, I wanted to avoid them, stupid as it sounds, I want to speak to her, but when I see her, I crumble. What's even worse is that I am not really a person who is worried about what people think of me 98% of the time, if someone is iritating me I will tell them, even if it offends them.

What makes it worse is that I usually run into her at places difficult to speak at such as disco's. 

But I need to finish this otherwise it will simply drive me mad and I'll be a bitter bastard for eternity at this rate.

 

Any help or motivation will do, what do I think when I get the urge to just run away from her? It's the strongest feeling I can possibly describe, and it seems impossible to force myself to approach her.

 

Thanks.

BATTOSAI76

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I suggest the following recommendations (or I recommend the following suggestions):

1. Talk about it with someone you trust, a friend, relative, co-worker, some kind of mentor.

2. Maybe see a doctor in case (as another poster mentioned) it is anything physical.

3. Make sure to get adequate sleep.

4. Try to find something relaxing to do, whether it is taking a little stroll, cooking, sitting in a park or something like that.

Eat more chicken wing and potato chips .... that will help out ur stresshippiesanta

i love chicken wings:D