Am I selfish?

So we' re supposed to do a project for a class in college which can be done either individually or in teams of two. Most students, including me, are doing it on their own.

I have a friend who, even though is a nice guy (and overly religious), is not really gentle when it comes to getting a good grade. He doesn' t study methodically and so wants me and others to explain every little detail to him by constantly spamming us on skype when we' re already occupied with our own studying and whenever we have an assignment he just wants others to tell him what to do without putting a decent amount of effort himself.

So this time he left everything for the last 2 weeks when we had initially 2 months for the project and a few minutes ago asked me to hand my assignment together(and get the same grade) and that he could do whatever he could to help(at this point he can' t really help). I said no. Am I being selfish?

Am I being selfish?

johnd13

No.

If you stand your ground now and in the future, then no. If you break and feel like an ass and help him, which encourages him to be a lazy bastard, then yeah. CreasianDevaili

I won' t change my mind. I put a lot of effort into this project and that' s probably why I said no even though for a moment I seriously considered it.

[QUOTE="CreasianDevaili"]If you stand your ground now and in the future, then no. If you break and feel like an ass and help him, which encourages him to be a lazy bastard, then yeah. johnd13

I won' t change my mind. I put a lot of effort into this project and that' s probably why I said no even though for a moment I seriously considered it.

Yes you are being selfish, and there is nothing wrong with that. Your friend sounds like a nuisance and from what I can tell there is no good reason for you to carry him through a class.Laihendi

[QUOTE="Laihendi"]Yes you are being selfish, and there is nothing wrong with that. Your friend sounds like a nuisance and from what I can tell there is no good reason for you to carry him through a class.UCF_Knight

no, you're just standing out to yourself. which is good considering you are likely being pushed to do most of the work.

no, you're just standing out to yourself. which is good considering you are likely being pushed to do most of the work.

punkpunker

I would do ALL the work lol.

So we' re supposed to do a project for a class in college which can be done either individually or in teams of two. Most students, including me, are doing it on their own.

I have a friend who, even though is a nice guy (and overly religious), is not really gentle when it comes to getting a good grade. He doesn' t study methodically and so wants me and others to explain every little detail to him by constantly spamming us on skype when we' re already occupied with our own studying and whenever we have an assignment he just wants others to tell him what to do without putting a decent amount of effort himself.

So this time he left everything for the last 2 weeks when we had initially 2 months for the project and a few minutes ago asked me to hand my assignment together(and get the same grade) and that he could do whatever he could to help(at this point he can' t really help). I said no. Am I being selfish?

no ur not selfish.

johnd13

[QUOTE="UCF_Knight"][QUOTE="Laihendi"]Yes you are being selfish, and there is nothing wrong with that. Your friend sounds like a nuisance and from what I can tell there is no good reason for you to carry him through a class.Laihendi

His habits are really getting on my nerves lately and I just thought this time he crossed the line. I don' t have anything to lose if I help him-but after working so hard and taking so much of my free time for this project I thought it would be unfair and most people seem to agree with this.

[QUOTE="johnd13"]

[QUOTE="CreasianDevaili"]If you stand your ground now and in the future, then no. If you break and feel like an ass and help him, which encourages him to be a lazy bastard, then yeah. CreasianDevaili

I won' t change my mind. I put a lot of effort into this project and that' s probably why I said no even though for a moment I seriously considered it.

It' s worth 40% and for the teacher is the best chance to see if we get the basics of Java(I' m CS).

No. You don't want people like him competing for your job in the future. What you are doing is going help him in life.

Despite what others are saying, yes, you are being selfish... Zeviander

Yes.

no.

So we' re supposed to do a project for a class in college which can be done either individually or in teams of two. Most students, including me, are doing it on their own.

I have a friend who, even though is a nice guy (and overly religious), is not really gentle when it comes to getting a good grade. He doesn' t study methodically and so wants me and others to explain every little detail to him by constantly spamming us on skype when we' re already occupied with our own studying and whenever we have an assignment he just wants others to tell him what to do without putting a decent amount of effort himself.

So this time he left everything for the last 2 weeks when we had initially 2 months for the project and a few minutes ago asked me to hand my assignment together(and get the same grade) and that he could do whatever he could to help(at this point he can' t really help). I said no. Am I being selfish?

johnd13