A serious topic about depression/suicdal tendencies.

I don't make lots of topics, and never thought I would make one asking for help (or about anything real serious) but this seems like one that O.T. can help me with. I have noticed threads on the subject here before, and have often wondered "why so many sad people here?!?"

I never understood depression, so never took it seriously. So of course, now someone close to me has this problem. I don't want to go into too many details, but they are in the hospital & receiving counseling. When they are out, what can I do? Is there anything that I can do to help such a person? Things I should avoid? Any suggestions would be appreciated.

The best thing you can do is simply be a good friend. How you might go about this depends upon the person and their problem.mindstorm

Agreed, I would let him know that you are there to listen, and to be his close friend. Listen to his problems, and offer him solace.

[QUOTE="mindstorm"]The best thing you can do is simply be a good friend. How you might go about this depends upon the person and their problem.Lethargika

Agreed, I would let him know that you are there to listen, and to be his close friend. Listen to his problems, and offer him solace.

Don't presume you know what's best for them. Just listen to what they say and keep your eyes open for indications that they may be a danger to themselves. Let them know they can call or drop by whenever. Yea, just basically be there, but if they start giving away prized possessions, cutting themselves and all that jazz, let a professional know right away.

Just try and avoid reminding them of their failures, obviously...and try to be there for them...it helps knowing that someone actually cares about you...

As the others above have said. Be as good a friend as you can be to this person. Go out and do fun stuff. Take their mind off of the negative thought and make then laugh and enjoy life. Hopefully that person will see the light some day. I have a close friend who is always down and depressed and even thinks about committing suicide. I don't understand why because his life isn't bad and other people have it off way worse then him. The only thing I hate about how he acts and thinks is I know this person is depressed but he doesn't deserve tons of special attention compared to other people just because he can esaily say ''I'm going to kill myself''. But then if he really does kill himself, I can't help but feel likepoop Anyways do what I do. Hang out with this person and just have a good time. One day this person shall see the light in life.

Jus try to show your support. Everyone gets down once in awhile. But try to help it from getting too far. Introduce him to a girlfriend orsomething. Or try to get him a job if he doesnt have one. Money helps. Its the root of all evil.

Jus try to show your support. Everyone gets down once in awhile. But try to help it from getting too far. Introduce him to a girlfriend orsomething. Or try to get him a job if he doesnt have one. Money helps. Its the root of all evil.

Truf89

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Jus try to show your support. Everyone gets down once in awhile. But try to help it from getting too far. Introduce him to a girlfriend orsomething. Or try to get him a job if he doesnt have one. Money helps. Its the root of all evil.

TBoogy

Money wouldn't help fix it..try and show her how special she is..show her she's loved...show her how important she is..show her she isn't worthless and that life is worth living..show her there are people that care...show her that things will get better..but then again..those may not work...it's a hard thing to try and help...

Try to show here how special she is.

Well, probably most of us had to go through rough roads, and we use GameSpot and video games to comfort ourselves.

Be a good friend to whatever this person may be and watch how he/she reacts to stuff. People drop clues when they are depress.

Did she cheat or something? Maybe he should stop thinkin of other people and try to take a step back to observe things. Money problems can be pretty hectic. Relationships are naturally. I hope he doesnt smoke or drink right now either.

Truf89

i notice that there are a lot of sad ppl here too.

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Did she cheat or something? Maybe he should stop thinkin of other people and try to take a step back to observe things. Money problems can be pretty hectic. Relationships are naturally. I hope he doesnt smoke or drink right now either.

TBoogy

I editted it. I type fast. I wish there was something that could help with that.

One of my roommates tried to kill himself recently. What you do from that point on depends on the person. Acting overly "nice" or pleasant around them could make them feel awkward and remind them of the incident. But for others this might not bother them and they may find it comforting. Hard to say really, depends a lot on what kind of person your friend is.Arkasai7

That is true. Mainly though. Try to inivte your friend over..simply try to hang out with them more. Whenever you can really Show them that they mean something to you. These types of thing are always complicated, but from your standpoint do whatever you can.

[QUOTE="Arkasai7"]One of my roommates tried to kill himself recently. What you do from that point on depends on the person. Acting overly "nice" or pleasant around them could make them feel awkward and remind them of the incident. But for others this might not bother them and they may find it comforting. Hard to say really, depends a lot on what kind of person your friend is.Truf89

That is true. Mainly though. Try to inivte your friend over..simply try to hang out with them more. Whenever you can really Show them that they mean something to you. These types of thing are always complicated, but from your standpoint do whatever you can.

One of my roommates tried to kill himself recently. What you do from that point on depends on the person. Acting overly "nice" or pleasant around them could make them feel awkward and remind them of the incident. But for others this might not bother them and they may find it comforting. Hard to say really, depends a lot on what kind of person your friend is.Arkasai7

I have depression - it's terrible. I thought also about killing myself but I would never do that. You never know if the person's gonna do that, so keep your ears open for suicide jokes and any of that stuff which normally wouldn't matter.kamil488

TBoogy, knowing you, you already know what to do and will do a good job. Just be there for them and be a good friend. The 2 friends I have with depression I just treat like all others, I just try to be a bit more patient with.btaylor2404

(the 1st girl wasn't depressed or suicidal, she was fearful & distrustful of men. She had been molested twice as a young girl. One from a man that died of aids. I showed her that not all men are evil.)