• 10Oct 08

  My current thoughts

  Okay, so this morning I had a Sergeant chasing me all over town - a figure of speech. He called my house, then came around - spoke to my back neighbour who went crook at my mum because he asked her about me , and this is the neighbour I don't have anything to deal with because she once threatened to kill my cats if they ever went into her yard - then my brothers, my parents and then finally left a message on my shop's answering machine to call. Firstly, at 26 I believe that my busines is just that - mine and that he shouldn't have even involved my parents or brothers. Of course he was meant to ring me about 12 mid-day - didn't - so I called the station to say that I was free to talk - he said it wasn't good for him and that he would call back in 2 minutes.....20 MINUTES later (very long 2 minutes) he calls back.
  
  He was meant to mediate - but it came across as ...we think the officer thought he was doing the right thing at the time...No - I'm sorry that you got upset, that wasn't his intention ....just the police officer this and the police officer that - whose name I still don't know. When someone says they are trying to mediate/resolve a situation I believe that they will at least try. I do believe there were many better ways the officer could have dealt with the situation on Thursday - he may not have been entirely wrong - but it has meant that I can no longer believe what I was told as a child. You know when you're in kindy and reception when they come to the school and tell you that you can always trust a police officer and that they will do all they can to help - bunch of bloody lies as far as I am concerned. The sergeant couldn't understand why I was upset - oh he may have made a passing comment saying that he did understand, but is he a woman? no. Was he on the receiving end? no. Does he give a **** my opinion in no. He wanted it all to go away and the officer to go on the way he was. I've worked with high school kids for years and have always told them to be respectful of the police because I felt they deserved the respect. I have never broken the law - for goodness sake I turned over information on my own brother to them. I got guilty the other week when I though I had short-changed the guys at the Noodle Canteen by $2 and had to go back the next day and check (they couldn't remember and weren't worried because I am a good customer, but I put it in their tips - just so I felt better). See, I have a very good conscious. High school kids were always telling me how they hated the police and I honestly told them I couldn't understand why - well once wronged or accused of something you didn't do - I understand how it all probably started...something small. But how small of an event is it when I cried myself to sleep over it on Thursday and Friday night.
  
  The sergeant also said that I wasn't in trouble for being told to leave the station - but if I wasn't in trouble then why did I have to leave? Normally people are not removed from a building - unless they do something WRONG! He said the officer was difussing the situation - I say he allowed the woman to take control of the situation. You can't demand someone leave just because she says so - he should have took charge and warned her to quieten down. Well in the end, after the sergeant had defended his officer's action about 3 times - you know we deal with people...situations like these...when emotions...etc etc - just bloody excuses. I wasn't looking for an "I was wrong." but a "I'm sorry you were upset, it wasn't what the officer intended at the time. The reason he thought it was the right thing to do was...."
  
  So I can't respect police officers now because I never know if they will go with the truth - or just a version of the truth. There is a different. I want to believe that I can trust them - but having had this experience I just can't. I'll always be wary if the police will just back each other up. I know the police have an important role to play and I honestly believe most - nearly all do the right thing. But has our society really gotten to the point when "I'm sorry" is just to hard to say? Police should always set the example and mediators should be neutral in a situation - working in the same station is hardly neutral - that's like a principal reprimanding a teacher - it's not exactly neutral. After I hung up on him (I couldn't sit through reasons/excuses again) I had another cry for about 1 1/2 hours - I was upset that I still felt like a criminal when I had done nothing wrong in the first or second place). People don't get that upset when they aren't really hurt about what happened and what came across as a half-hearted attempt by the police to resolve it doesn't make me feel any better.
  
  Whatever the case I stood up for being (in my opinion) being treated unfairly and disrespectfully. The police would probably disagree - which is their right, but I am entitled to my own opinion. I'm certainly not going to go out and break the law - I still respect that laws are in place for a reason, but I won't be going out of my way to assist the police or to seek their helpif I don't have to. Like I said to my mum - I won't be even stepping foot in the station again. Sorry to have a rant, but I feel better now.
  
  Much love, History
  
  PS: It said it had to censor a word but I have no idea which one since I didn't swear - weird.
  • Posted Oct 10, 2008 10:22 pm PT
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• 8Oct 08

  I am having a very, very bad day

  So today was to be mostly relaxation - this morning I was going to do some paperwork (which I did) and then I was going to have lunch with my mum - move a cupboard and then go in to work to tutor my students. I had it all planned...
  
  And now I am having a very, very bad day. Which is ironic considering I was on top of the moon last night. You see everyone, I am convinced that Lady Luck hates me because everytime I have something going right, she turns the bloody wheel and I am stuck back...having very bad days.
  
  My mum rang me to confirm she was bringing up lunch - be about 1/2 hour - then about 15 minutes later she rings to tell me my brothers have been involved in a car accident on Commercial Street - at a notorious intersection where people fail to give way.
  
  Mum came and collected me and we went down there. I was ahead of mum and went over to my brother and asked him if he was alright. The other woman (who's car was involved) didn't allow my brother to answer and replied sarcastically saying "I'm fine thanks". I of course shot her a look of - "I wasn't asking you" - it was clear that she had failed to give way to my brother - but she was convinced SHE was in the right. She turned to my brother (this is the one who was Schizophenia Pychosis) and says "It's okay, I'm not going to sue". I admit I raised my voice and said that since she was in the wrong she couldn't sue - she replied that since my brother hit her - she was right. She started getting all self-righteous - as she and my brother are vague aquaintances. Anyway she hadn't given over her details - despite swearing she had. My brother does the right thing and has full insurance - she of course has none. At the local police station (and before today I had the utmost respect for the police) she says to the officer she wants me removed from the station because I was "mean to her" - referring to when I told her she was in the wrong. The police office then tells me I need to leave the station - I live in the Mount - it is cold outside and with black clouds overhead I asked if I could just sit on the seats - I wouldn't have said a word - and he says no. So I was treated like a criminal based on this very nasty woman's word and had to sit outside in the freezing cold - and I mean freezing. Of course she was found by the officer to be in the wrong and at fault and cautioned for failing to give way - but that's beside the point. The reason I am so p'd off is that I always do the right thing - I have never drunk and drove, I have never had a speeding ticket, never had a parking fine, always register my car, always use my seatbelt - I thought that meant something - for goodness sake, I even dobbed my brother into the police when he broke the law - that's still going through the courts. My point is I had done nothing wrong, and worse still I wasn't given the benefit of the doubt - my respect is gone despite that I was right because he had no right to treat me that way when she didn't want to be in the wrong. My brother's car has damage at the front of the car - the bumper is cracked and he had horrible purple paint all over it - thanks to her. The insurance company says he won't have to pay the excess as they will go after her for the money since both were present at the police station for the report. I hope it bites her squarely on the arse.
  
  Other things have happened to but I'm in the middle of writing a letter of complaint to SA Police.
  
  Love History
  • Posted Oct 8, 2008 11:28 pm PT
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• 3Oct 08

  It's a long weekend?

  I know it's a long weekend - but it isn't for me. I have to work tomorrow, though only a half day which isn't too bad. I don't think I've mentioned yet that in December I'm moving my business back to my residential address. It's more convenient and as long as there are no complaints from neighbours things will be fine.
  
  This weekend I need to get the shop side of the business up and running as much as possible. I've been trying all year and just haven't made it. I reckon I have 1001 things to do this weekend and about enough time to do 5 - guess that only leave 996 right? Could be worse.
  
  Read a fascinating account of Christian Shaw the other day. Because of her accusation of witchcraft in Paisley, Scotland not long after the Salem Witch trials 6 people were burnt to death and the other 1 hanged himself before it was his turn. Ironically she became an very well-off woman in business for herself. Anyway, until next time, Love History
  
  PS: That guy, things haven't gone anywhere - he's gone a little weird so I'm backing off!
  • Posted Oct 3, 2008 1:49 am PT
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