I was wondering if anybody out there could advise me on if I'm completely out of my mind or have a point. Basiccaly my brother & his girlfriend are living with me at the moment and the situation came to a head last night so i was wanting independent opinions on if my expectations are too high or unreasonable

BACKGROUND (PET PEEVES)

The following are a few 'issues' I have with the girlfrien, my opinion is she has no respect and puts no thought into the household

- Make-up gets left on the bathroom counter (the bathroom is the size of a small ensuite, she did start putting it away after i got sick of picking it up and threw it all in the bin)

- She uses my things such as a new hairbrush which she broke and i had to replaced

- The kitchen looks like a bomb hit it every time she cooks

- She takes bowls & cuterly to work with lunch (im ok with that part) but it doesnt come back for months and only after i kept asking and kept putting a list of items on the fridge, and after i got them all back she has started doing it again. time for a recount to find out whats missing

- Clean & dirty clothes get left in washing machines, washing baskets or washing lines for days at a time

- She has two rabbits and a dove (did have mice) which she doesnt look after and I'm the one that checks and feeds them half the time (the last time she went near the rabbits was sunday when she gave them brocilli, I fed them properly on tuesday and moved them to fresh grass today)

- She occasionaly does not lock the front door

Now to the occurance last night which involved the last item above.

I got home yesterday morning from the gym after she had left for work to find the front door was unlocked (I have been testing the door before i unlock it myself) and so i left a not on the fridge along the lines of "Please lock the door as this morning it was left unlocked and someone robbed the place" I then proceeded to fill their esky which has been sitting on the lounge room floor for the last week with various items from socks to avocados and i also included the controller to brothers xbox (i apologise to all game freaks for this cardinal sin). Well when i got home which was about half an hour after the brother he basically threw a tantrum and managed to call me immature at the same time. I argued back that i was sick of the above issues, at which girlfriend responded that she would like to be able to have a taste of the icecream in the fridge before its all gone. Now i may be a little on the large size but i actually dont eat that much, in terms of the icecream given that i actually consider that they brought it and that i share a house with other people i only ever have 1 average bowl of it and leave the rest to them as they do seem to eat 4 times as much as me. I then went to the other side of the house and spent all afternoon and half the night crying as I had reached breaking point. Now, at 8.00 I went to hang my washing outside and found the jigsaw i have spent hours on has been half knocked on the floor and a note on the fridge basically saying "I would appreciate it if people would not pig out on the pasta sauce in the fridge as it was going to be our tea". Yes I had pasta for lunch because the chicken i had brought to use all got eaten on tuesday night by them and i havent a cent left to replace it, and i had what might equate to one cup of the sauce and there was more than enough left for them.

Anyway that was the end of it and i had calmed down this morning and come to the decision that if they can get over last night which i have then i dont have a problem with them staying, however i change my mind when i went to brush my teeth and found that she has also put soap on my toothbrush that it is time for them to go and will be telling them tonight that they have till the end of the month to leave.

So the question is am i being unreasonable to expect what i consider very basic things to be done? im willing to accept i could have handled my side of things differently, but trust me even when i have 'mentioned' something hasnt been done it does not seem to matter. sometimes actions speak louder than words.

I've got a mountain of work to get through today so i thought i would avoid it by updating my life.

Lets see, since the last blog, i have:

Finally got my new car, and am now spoilt with air conditioning, power steering and 4 hubcaps. Though it does need to go to the mechanics tomorrow as the radiator has a leak somewhere.

Got a couple of house guests (brother, his girlfriend, 1 dog, 2 rats & 3 mice) so i can now afford christmas. Apparently imnot allowed to feed the rats and mice to my cats.

My cousin had her 2nd baby boy on my nieces 5th birthday, the first boy shares a bday with another cousins kid.

My youngest brother has just finished his year 12 exams and has a guaranteed full time job lined up in retail at our local Mitre 10 which is better than the 2 years i spent unemployed after i finished school.

Other than that life has been boring as always, Sassy has been lending me books to read so i blame her for keeping me up at night. I've been growing grass and other plants in the cat enclosure and built a sand pit for their poo though ive still got to get the sand before they can use it. And of course work is never ending, which reminds me, better get back to it. See ya.

My cats after a hard day cleaning the house.

Daisy curled up in their cat enclosure, they like to spy on the neighbours

Bella & me last weekend, my legs went to sleep too.

Dad (in background), brother & friend starting the tree removal

And cause i can, my Poppy. Sassy gave her to me for my birthday a few years ago, but I had to put her down last year after she got sick.

I was so looking forward to a quiet weekend this week, just me and my cats, and noone else. And then the phone calls started.

Friday night the following was arranged:

Mum & Dad were picking me up Saturday morning to go look at a car as we are selling mine.

Mums birthday (50) was saturday so my aunt rang to say we were taking her out for tea saturday night.

Family & friend who is a professional was coming on Sunday to take a huge Norfolk Pine out of my back yard.

So this was my quiet weekend:

Saturday morning: It was a station wagon, while it drove well and was fancy compared to mine, it was a station wagon. I have no need for a station wagon. Lets look for something else.

Saturday evening: Dinner with mum & her side of the family. Wasnt too bad, I generallydont talkaround my parents, and I dont talk that much anyway. I definetly take after my grandfather which goes to show i will never grow up.

Sunday: Somewhere along the line some clever someone planted a pine tree metres from my house and right next to the fence. I suspect this tree was the root of all evil when it blocked my sewer pipe and we had a bit of an overflow last year. Dad used to work for a company that chopped trees down so he got his friend to come and do it. He had to climb it to do the job. So we spent the day cleaning up tree limbs and mess.

and now for the quiet.

Note: IM AT HOME. Sassy will tell you the trouble we've both had at trying to log me on here at home. Kinda figured it was most likely the firewall but couldn't solve the problem. So I turn mu computer on and just kinda decided to try again, changed my cookie control in the firewall and here i am, and i have smily faces , the 'tool bar' doesnt show up at work