So... You don't want to play this game. You wan't it to do it automatically for you is it? It is the requirement of skill that pushes this genre, with only one game as its antecessor (Mount & Blade). However that was also the problem with that game. It atempts to be so realistic that it's incredibly hard to play.

I believe however this is a very good thing. Once you're passed that initial learning curve, it can be in my opinion, one of the best games ever made. War of the Roses has the potential to achieve that as well but too many bugs and mechanics still need to be fixed. It's in beta still and many re-arrangements will still be done.

Please give this type of game a chance.

Good Luck!