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When friends stop speaking to you
- May 23, 2012 1:23 pm GMT
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May be a bif of a daft topic, but when friends that you were quite close to no longer make the effort with you, i.e they wont spend time or even speak to you anymore, is it worth trying to make more of an effort with them? or just think "screw it" and focus on other people ?
I have/had a group of female friends (im a guy btw) that ive been friends with for a few years now, but the last few months, they dont seem to have much to do with me. Its at the point where they will only contact me, if I contact them first, i.e on facebook. I still care about them as friends, but as hard as it may be, im also considering distancing myself from them and just focusing on others that still contact me now and then.
Any input will be great. Im not gonna lie, its getting me down a tad.
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- May 23, 2012 1:29 pm GMT
Its up to you to determine if they're worth the effort. They're your friends, how much they add to your happiness is your perspective, not any of ours.
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- May 23, 2012 1:30 pm GMT
GUFU - we are the 1%
You get out what you put in. If you make an effort with a friend you should get good times in return for that effort. If the effort to friendship ratio is out of wack, maybe it's not worth your time.- Please wait. Quick reply will be available shortly.
- May 23, 2012 1:45 pm GMT
I make all the effort to talk and hang out with my friends. If your friends make no effort I say focus on the friends you know now, then when new friends come up divert your effort to your new friends.
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- May 23, 2012 1:53 pm GMTdigitally married to the wonderful t3hrubikscubeJust stop talking to them. They won't be the last to stab you in the heart.
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- May 23, 2012 2:06 pm GMTgpusDIEalready wrote:
You all need to leave the forums so i can fix nintendoI say don't distance yourself yet, make an effort to spend some good time together. A big effort, that is, show them that you care. If you get nothing in return, move on and get some friends that actually view you as a friend.- Please wait. Quick reply will be available shortly.
- May 23, 2012 2:27 pm GMT
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I'd say it depends. If they enjoy your company then I wouldn't (its obvious if they do enjoy your company by the way, if you have any doubts they probably don't care much) but if they seem dismissive it isn't worth the effort. I've never been a person to take the initiative in a relationship, so if they're those kinds of people then it could just be that. If they just up and stopped, then I would distance myself.
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- May 23, 2012 3:00 pm GMTFrom my experiences i would advise keeping in touch with them, but not straining yourself about it. By that i mean make an effort to keep in touch with them, text them or talk to them on facebook every once in a while (this way you can figure out whether they aren't interested in hanging out with you or they are just bad at keeping in touch cause some people are just that), but don't make a huge effort and concentrate on the people who you know will make an effort. Hope this helps
From my experiences i would advise keeping in touch with them, but not straining yourself about it. By that i mean make an effort to keep in touch with them, text them or talk to them on facebook every once in a while (this way you can figure out whether they aren't interested in hanging out with you or they are just bad at keeping in touch cause some people are just that), but don't make a huge effort and concentrate on the people who you know will make an effort. Hope this helps :D- Please wait. Quick reply will be available shortly.
- May 23, 2012 3:15 pm GMT
Only make time for those who make time for you.
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- May 23, 2012 3:22 pm GMT
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Cheers for the advice, its helpful and makes a lot of sense- Please wait. Quick reply will be available shortly.
- May 23, 2012 3:27 pm GMT
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Museum of everything wrote:Vistors who've wondered what it would be like to go a bit further with a goat can now experiance this at our heavy petting zoo.Ditch them if you don't enjoy their company don't if you do, simple as that.- Please wait. Quick reply will be available shortly.
- May 23, 2012 3:28 pm GMT
Only you can answer that question. Personally though, I've found the answer typically to be that it's not worth the effort.
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- May 23, 2012 3:40 pm GMT
If they don't like you for who you are, they aren't worth the trouble.On the other hand, if it's something like a small disagreement, having some time away from other each can help. It's easier to look at the problem after the emotions aren't in control anymore.
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- May 23, 2012 5:25 pm GMT
i'm still pretty good friends with literally all my friends from elementary school to high school, but my friendship with a lot of my friends is strained a bit since I don't go to the same university as a lot of my friends.I wish it was easy finding time to hang out with them or talk to them besides texting them or talking to them on facebook,but I hate to stress them out or force them to talk to me.
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- May 23, 2012 5:26 pm GMTTazzman1000 wrote:From my experiences i would advise keeping in touch with them, but not straining yourself about it. By that i mean make an effort to keep in touch with them, text them or talk to them on facebook every once in a while (this way you can figure out whether they aren't interested in hanging out with you or they are just bad at keeping in touch cause some people are just that), but don't make a huge effort and concentrate on the people who you know will make an effort. Hope this helps
I'm terrible at doing that.I think sometimes I stress or annoy a couple of my friends out sometimes because I wish it was easier finding time to talk to them.I'm lucky I'm still friends with those people.
Edited on May 23, 2012 5:28 pm GMT Edited 2 total times.[QUOTE="Tazzman1000"]From my experiences i would advise keeping in touch with them, but not straining yourself about it. By that i mean make an effort to keep in touch with them, text them or talk to them on facebook every once in a while (this way you can figure out whether they aren't interested in hanging out with you or they are just bad at keeping in touch cause some people are just that), but don't make a huge effort and concentrate on the people who you know will make an effort. Hope this helps :D[/QUOTE]
I'm terrible at doing that.I think sometimes I stress or annoy a couple of my friends out sometimes because I wish it was easier finding time to talk to them.I'm lucky I'm still friends with those people.
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- May 23, 2012 5:29 pm GMT
Ebony....Ivory....i missed you girls
i guess it's worth a shot alot of friends a close through school and such and once college or what ever everyone wants to do afterwards you all go your seperate ways to some degree. it sad cause i miss a few of mine but their memeories are worth something. but if you can actually contact them and stay in touch all the better
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- May 23, 2012 5:33 pm GMT
Can you imagine an extra-terrestrial disc jockey? Like, listening to radio waves from space? It was unbelievable!
i had this female friend who just recently found a BF,i called her a few days later after the incident, she picked up the phone and asked who i were? after a while i realized she'd deleted my number from her phonebook because of her BF and i was totally blown away cause she wasn't the type of girl who would do such a thing or at least i couldn't possibly imagine her doing that.that might be your case too.
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- May 23, 2012 5:33 pm GMT
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i guess it's worth a shot alot of friends a close through school and such and once college or what ever everyone wants to do afterwards you all go your seperate ways to some degree. it sad cause i miss a few of mine but their memeories are worth something. but if you can actually contact them and stay in touch all the better
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That's what I'm currently trying to do.That's why i created a FB account in the first place.
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- May 23, 2012 5:48 pm GMT
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I no longer speak to my best friend from high school anymore. But to be fair, none of us made the effort to stay in contact (though we were contacts on Facebook).
I guess it just happens. I managed to make new friends, so sometimes it is just better to move on and find friends who will stay in your life, and who are worth it. Still, it depends - what would you want? =]
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- May 23, 2012 5:56 pm GMT
If they can't make time for you, then they're not worth your time.
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