@ariabed said:
@korvus: @always_explicit: very true, indeed guys, but some couples do stick together for the kids sake, just going through the motions on autopilot, and it might not be that they argue all the time but have just grown apart. I think it's a more old fashioned view to stick together for the kids.
You just described my parents in a nutshell. They were married 32 years before they split and my dad said that he stuck it out until my sister was old enough to graduate high school. But, for about 5 years prior to their divorce is when it all started to go downhill. My brother, sister, and I all knew where it was headed and that it was just a matter of time.
Do I think my folks made the right decision? Yes and no. I wish they would've reconciled their differences and stayed married until death do them part. I think there was a lot of selfishness on their parts, and each had their own problems that they never worked out before working on the relationship. Now that they've been apart for 8 years, my dad has moved on and gotten remarried and seems to be content. My mom, however, never found someone again. She's lonely and I think, although she wouldn't admit it, is still hurt by how things turned out. Were it not for her kids and grandkids, I think she would probably sink into a deep depression.
There's a lot more to this story, but to answer your question, I think in a marriage, which by vows is to work things out "for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health", that man and wife with kids CAN make it work. They just have to try. The problem with most failed marriages is just that - people stop trying. They think that they don't have to put forth any more effort now that they're married. That couldn't be furthest from the truth. Marriage is tough, and those that are willing to work towards staying married will do so, no matter the circumstances.
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