Would you lose motivation in your life if you found out...

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#1 Posted by TheGrayEye (2578 posts) -

That you were somehow completely unable to attract any members of the opposite sex what so ever (be it through means of some curse, pheromones, etc)?

Every woman (or which ever sex you're attracted to) you meet or come across in your life would be entirely unable to form any sort of sexual attraction towards you, regardless of how you look, they would simply not just be interested in you from the moment you meet.

If you're lucky, you could pay for sex on occasion, but would you still want to pursue your career or life goals, knowing you could probably never feel what it's like to be in love/have a relationship, or a genuine marriage with kids, etc?

#2 Posted by Stranger_36 (481 posts) -

I've thought about this before. I would like to think I would have some drive to carry on if that were the case.

#3 Edited by Mercenary848 (9074 posts) -

Sex isnt that important, as long as you can function and fufill your dreams.....then function and fufill you dreams. I started attracting women when I built my confidence up and started not careing about what other people thought. Be open, know yourself, and know what you want.

#4 Posted by br0kenrabbit (13049 posts) -

@Mercenary848 said:

I started attracting women when I built my confidence up

It's amazing how many people don't get this. If you don't think you're a good catch, no one else is going to, either.

And confidence =/= arrogance.

#5 Posted by one_plum (6358 posts) -

Maybe now I can become a monk and live in a monastery.

#6 Posted by Mercenary848 (9074 posts) -

@br0kenrabbit: society has conditioned us to compare ourselves to the so called celebraties on tv. The thing I do is go into every situation trying to have as much fun as possible, try to make everyone enjoy their time with me but dont kiss butt, and be an alphamale

#7 Edited by danyopizzle (339 posts) -

@TheGrayEye: I don't know tbh, but id imagine id still keep trying, but ive learned the more you look for that one the less chances because you start looking desperate, ive learned waiting for it to happen is the best way to honestly find someone is letting them find you

#8 Posted by br0kenrabbit (13049 posts) -

@Mercenary848 said:

@br0kenrabbit: society has conditioned us to compare ourselves to the so called celebraties on tv. The thing I do is go into every situation trying to have as much fun as possible, try to make everyone enjoy their time with me but dont kiss butt, and be an alphamale

The difference between arrogance and confidence is that confidence is earned. I don't need someone to take care of me or to have direction, I can do that myself.

I know a few arrogant people (both genders) who think they're hot shit. And sure, they play it smooth and talk themselves up when they meet someone, but they can't make it last because all their talk is built on bullshit. They care more about what other people think of their character than they do actually building character.

#9 Edited by TheFlush (5565 posts) -

Since I'm gay, no. ;-P

#10 Posted by Makhaidos (1614 posts) -

I'm cool with the opposite sex not being attracted to me.

#11 Posted by coolbeans90 (21305 posts) -

@TheGrayEye said:

That you were somehow completely unable to attract any members of the opposite sex what so ever (be it through means of some curse, pheromones, etc)?

Like, short of a life-crippling event, I don't see that happening, in which case that would probably be a secondary source of displeasure.

#12 Edited by -Renegade (8340 posts) -

@TheGrayEye said:

That you were somehow completely unable to attract any members of the opposite sex what so ever (be it through means of some curse, pheromones, etc)?

Every woman (or which ever sex you're attracted to) you meet or come across in your life would be entirely unable to form any sort of sexual attraction towards you, regardless of how you look, they would simply not just be interested in you from the moment you meet.

If you're lucky, you could pay for sex on occasion, but would you still want to pursue your career or life goals, knowing you could probably never feel what it's like to be in love/have a relationship, or a genuine marriage with kids, etc?

this is my problem right now. i have no desire to continue or any real reason to work hard at life because i am not with anyone and have never been with anyone. im so fucking bored with life right now.

#13 Posted by 4myAmuzumament (1750 posts) -

It would make me pursue other things with more passion; like getting rich or changing the world.

#14 Posted by ShepardCommandr (2740 posts) -

How can i lose something i don't have?

#15 Posted by Mercenary848 (9074 posts) -

@-Renegade: trust me man, there is plent of things out there outside realashionships.

#16 Posted by PernicioEnigma (5387 posts) -

It would have a massive effect, since sex is a major motivator for me. Not being sexually satisfied is like always being hungry, or thirsty - It's hard to concentrate because a big part of you is focusing on what your mind thinks you desperately need.

#17 Posted by Gaming-Planet (14022 posts) -

I would just go with same sex. I'm ok with some same sex peeps.

#18 Posted by Jacanuk (4728 posts) -

@TheGrayEye said:

That you were somehow completely unable to attract any members of the opposite sex what so ever (be it through means of some curse, pheromones, etc)?

Every woman (or which ever sex you're attracted to) you meet or come across in your life would be entirely unable to form any sort of sexual attraction towards you, regardless of how you look, they would simply not just be interested in you from the moment you meet.

If you're lucky, you could pay for sex on occasion, but would you still want to pursue your career or life goals, knowing you could probably never feel what it's like to be in love/have a relationship, or a genuine marriage with kids, etc?

Of course not and if you are one of those that need sex, you can always pay your way to it.

#19 Posted by k--m--k (1016 posts) -

@ShepardCommandr said:

How can i lose something i don't have?

made me chuckle :)

#20 Edited by HuggyBear1020 (456 posts) -

@TheGrayEye said:

That you were somehow completely unable to attract any members of the opposite sex what so ever

Aren't you already describing at least most of the people here on the forums? But seriously, you are describing a scenario which just isn't plausible in real life. I have a friend who weighs over 300 lbs, works part-time for minimum wage, and has mental health issues. And even HE has a girlfriend who lives with him. If your standards are appropriate for who and what you are, you will be able to find someone no matter what.

#21 Edited by luke1889 (14617 posts) -

@br0kenrabbit said:

@Mercenary848 said:

I started attracting women when I built my confidence up

It's amazing how many people don't get this. If you don't think you're a good catch, no one else is going to, either.

And confidence =/= arrogance.

This is so true! I've been called arrogant in the past for things as simple as taking pride in my own achievements. It's like some people don't want you to be happy about yourself.

#22 Posted by tocool340 (20544 posts) -

I wouldn't care too much. If sex is wanted, I'd go buy it. Wouldn't bother me if I never get into another relationship....

#23 Edited by Nengo_Flow (9832 posts) -

You can always attract a girl with if you offer lots of $$$.

All I have to do is make alot of $$$.

#24 Edited by xdude85 (4428 posts) -

I'm already living that life.

#25 Posted by plageus900 (1081 posts) -

No one can love me like myself.

#26 Edited by Mercenary848 (9074 posts) -

@luke1889: Insecurity my friend is the bane of all happiness. Ignore them and keep winning.

#27 Posted by magicalclick (22813 posts) -

I am gay anyway. I don't think anyone or anything can convince me that, there is some reason that I cannot have love of my life. I would still blindly be a more successful person, hoping it would make me more attractive using external values. I would rather try dying than giving up because at least I can tell myself that I tried.

#28 Edited by m0zart (11568 posts) -

@magicalclick said:

I would rather try dying than giving up because at least I can tell myself that I tried.

If you try dying and succeed, you won't be able to tell yourself anything.

#29 Posted by Ronstera (6110 posts) -

Living for me is more than just having a lifetime partner..

I have a good paying job and that alone can keep my happiness up..

#31 Edited by THE_DRUGGIE (24964 posts) -

Haha, I'm already cursed like that and life is peachy!

Gives me more time to save puppies from burning buildings and eat potato chips!

#32 Posted by HuggyBear1020 (456 posts) -

@pariah3 said:

@xdude85 said:

I'm already living that life.

Yeah Me too man.

I get the feeling that the girls don't like me very much and especially the pretty ones. That's because I'm almost 28 and never had sex with a girl and never had an intimate relationship with a girl either.

I just don't get any affection from the girls and that bothers me.

99% of the time, the problem is just that your standards are too high. A think of lot of guys have been brainwashed by movies, where the dork always somehow gets the hot girl.

#34 Posted by Aquat1cF1sh (10902 posts) -

Yeah I'd be fine. There's a lot more to life than finding someone who makes your hormones do cartwheels. As far as a close relationship goes, I already have several, even if they aren't romantic.

#35 Posted by foxhound_fox (88710 posts) -

Pffh, I'd just get a good job that would let me pay for escorts.

#36 Edited by HuggyBear1020 (456 posts) -

@pariah3 said:

@huggybear1020 said:

99% of the time, the problem is just that your standards are too high. A think of lot of guys have been brainwashed by movies, where the dork always somehow gets the hot girl.

What you are writing doesn't make any sense. I don't think that my standards are too high.

Telling me that my standards are too high is like telling me that I'm just not good enough or that I'm too ugly or too poor for a particular girl to fall in love with me.

But even if my standards are too high this doesn't mean that I should just settle for a girl that I'm not particularly attracted to.

Interesting. So you won't "settle" but you are hoping that a disproportionately attractive female will "settle" for you. Good luck with that.

#38 Posted by mrintro (1354 posts) -

that just means you're not trying hard enough

#39 Posted by foxhound_fox (88710 posts) -

@pariah3 said:

@huggybear1020 said:

99% of the time, the problem is just that your standards are too high. A think of lot of guys have been brainwashed by movies, where the dork always somehow gets the hot girl.

What you are writing doesn't make any sense. I don't think that my standards are too high.

Telling me that my standards are too high is like telling me that I'm just not good enough or that I'm too ugly or too poor for a particular girl to fall in love with me.

But even if my standards are too high this doesn't mean that I should just settle for a girl that I'm not particularly attracted to.

Anyone who *wants* a relationship is capable of finding one. And for most long-term relationships to last, physical attractiveness is not a leading factor.

#40 Posted by Mercenary848 (9074 posts) -

@huggybear1020: I understand what he is say and I understand you. You are saying he should find girls more in line with his charachter, and he thinks he should not just settle. Both of you are right. He should find girls more on his level but personality wise, and the things is there are a lot of amazing girls out there but you have got to stop DOUBTING YOURSELF.

#42 Posted by MakeMeaSammitch (3949 posts) -

yes

#43 Edited by AmazonTreeBoa (16745 posts) -

No I wouldn't.

#44 Posted by BluRayHiDef (10839 posts) -

@-Renegade said:

@TheGrayEye said:

That you were somehow completely unable to attract any members of the opposite sex what so ever (be it through means of some curse, pheromones, etc)?

Every woman (or which ever sex you're attracted to) you meet or come across in your life would be entirely unable to form any sort of sexual attraction towards you, regardless of how you look, they would simply not just be interested in you from the moment you meet.

If you're lucky, you could pay for sex on occasion, but would you still want to pursue your career or life goals, knowing you could probably never feel what it's like to be in love/have a relationship, or a genuine marriage with kids, etc?

this is my problem right now. i have no desire to continue or any real reason to work hard at life because i am not with anyone and have never been with anyone. im so fucking bored with life right now.

Are you male or female?

#45 Edited by BluRayHiDef (10839 posts) -

I'm in that boat right now. In fact, it's worse because I can't form relationships with people in general; everyone thinks I'm weird or creepy. The only people who are friendly toward me are those who have pity for me. I don't have any actual friends that see me eye-to-eye. I often contemplate suicide, but I don't have the guts to put my self through the pain of doing so.

#46 Edited by AmazonTreeBoa (16745 posts) -

@pariah3 said:

@huggybear1020 said:
Interesting. So you won't "settle" but you are hoping that a disproportionately attractive female will "settle" for you. Good luck with that.

Also for long-term relationships looks should not matter.

This is correct. I have been with my girl for over 20 years now and don't really look at her skin beauty when I look at her so much as I do her inner beauty. Now when I first got with her and for many years after, I did, but over time I stopped looking at her that way.

#48 Edited by HuggyBear1020 (456 posts) -

@pariah3 said:

@huggybear1020 said:

Interesting. So you won't "settle" but you are hoping that a disproportionately attractive female will "settle" for you. Good luck with that.

There are shallow girls out there who won't accept anyone but that guy who looks like fucking Justin Bieber.

I mean girls have it so easy these days. That's because all they to do is to look pretty and wait. Its different with guys who have to do everything while they just sit there and look pretty.

Have you ever noticed how girls never do anything to for example start a conversation with person they might be intrested in?

Well thats because we dont expect them to do so, and believe me you need to be either a huge man hunk or a millionare to even get eye contact from them!

And i think this is wrong since this leaves people who are painfully shy like me completely helpess in overall contacting with girls! And worst thing is that this thing will never brobably fade away since girls are getting even more selfish as time goes on and that is a problem that leaves a lot of men witout a girlfriend for the rest of their lifes...

My source:

http://www.loveforum.net/threads/86525-Solidarity-does-not-exist-in-relationship-world

That sounds like it was written by a 12 year old. The guy I was talking to is 28 and still a virgin. I have a friend who weighs over 300 lbs, works part time for minimum wage, and takes medication for mental health issues, and even he has a girlfriend who lives with him. Anyone can have a relationship if they have realistic standards.

#50 Posted by toast_burner (21751 posts) -

So i'm still attractive to the same sex?