Why does work have to suck so much?

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#1 Posted by SystemsGO (1071 posts) -

I sent to school to become a Nurse, prior to that I never enjoyed working. I would always want to stay home instead of go to work. Granted, I never called-in, or no showed. I just simply despised the idea of having to get up and go to work everyday. Once I was enrolled and accepted into Nursing school I thought maybe I would enjoy going to work, doing interested things all day, and making good enough money to justify getting out of the bed.

I was completely wrong, it only personified my hatred for waking up and going to work every day. The job is stressful, and I get a 3 day weekend every month, which makes getting motivated to go back to work extremely challenging. Anyone else feel this way, and hate going to work?

#2 Posted by Nibroc420 (13567 posts) -

The trick is working a job in a field you enjoy, either by studying something you'll love, or by finding a way to monetize a hobby.

#3 Posted by Stesilaus (3301 posts) -

It's your entire attitude that's at fault.

You're not supposed to work for your own satisfaction or material gain.

Come the end of each grueling day, you're supposed to derive pleasure from the knowledge that some wealthy shareholder who already owns more than you can dream of owning (but whose effective tax rate is nonetheless much smaller than yours) has just become wealthier still, thanks in part to your labor.

Only commie scum fail to find joy beneath the yoke.

:-/

#4 Posted by -Renegade (8340 posts) -

I'm guessing there are no people there to make the experience better try and make some friends to make the experience better

#5 Edited by -ParaNormaN- (763 posts) -

I'm guessing there are no people there to make the experience better try and make some friends to make the experience better

Pretty much this. I'd start looking for another job or a transfer to another branch of whatever company you work for.

#6 Edited by airshocker (29042 posts) -

Sometimes I hate aspects of my job but for the most part I love my work.

It's all about doing a job that you enjoy.

#7 Edited by MirkoS77 (7167 posts) -

Working has huge benefits that are not apparent until you don't do it: it keeps your mind busy, gives you purpose, affords you money to enjoy some things, keeps you socially and physically active.

The majority of suicides are the retired elderly. Ever wonder why? Work is a blessing, be thankful for it.

#8 Edited by Master_Live (14188 posts) -

I sent to school to become a Nurse, prior to that I never enjoyed working. I would always want to stay home instead of go to work. Granted, I never called-in, or no showed. I just simply despised the idea of having to get up and go to work everyday. Once I was enrolled and accepted into Nursing school I thought maybe I would enjoy going to work, doing interested things all day, and making good enough money to justify getting out of the bed.

I was completely wrong, it only personified my hatred for waking up and going to work every day. The job is stressful, and I get a 3 day weekend every month, which makes getting motivated to go back to work extremely challenging. Anyone else feel this way, and hate going to work?

Why did you became a nurse?

#9 Posted by DreamingMind (45 posts) -

It helps if you work towards a well-defined goal. For example, a goal to gather $20k and then open a small business of your own. Or write stuff in your spare time with the goal of publishing an ebook and make some money on the side.

Working without a long-term goal in mind can be extremely daunting, in my opinion.

#10 Posted by HuggyBear1020 (456 posts) -

Your employer pays you money, and in return they expect you to do something productive. Welcome to real life.

#11 Posted by destinhpark (4700 posts) -

It doesn't have to suck if you get knowledge on something that you actually want to do instead of settling for a random degree that you think will give you a job easily. It's worth the extra work if it's something you love, that's what I did. It took me a solid 6 months of looking but I finally got a job doing exactly what I've wanted to do my whole life. Video production.

You can do it.

#12 Posted by BluRayHiDef (10838 posts) -

I hate my job as well, but I hate being broke even more. Also, I tend to waste my days off anyway.

#13 Posted by Kenocratic (92 posts) -

I've read that stressful work or some physically demanding work can shorten your lifespan. I don't know if that's been proven. Sounds like the physically tough jobs could though.

#14 Posted by luke1889 (14617 posts) -

To quote someone once: "if it was fun, they wouldn't call it work".

#15 Posted by bob_toeback (11267 posts) -

It helps if you work towards a well-defined goal. For example, a goal to gather $20k and then open a small business of your own. Or write stuff in your spare time with the goal of publishing an ebook and make some money on the side.

Working without a long-term goal in mind can be extremely daunting, in my opinion.

I'd agree and disagree. So long as what you are working toward is something you are actually going to go through with. Too many people don't focus on enjoying the life they have right now and instead try and feel better about it because down the road they will enjoy it (but by then, it's too late)

#16 Edited by DreamingMind (45 posts) -

@DreamingMind said:

It helps if you work towards a well-defined goal. For example, a goal to gather $20k and then open a small business of your own. Or write stuff in your spare time with the goal of publishing an ebook and make some money on the side.

Working without a long-term goal in mind can be extremely daunting, in my opinion.

I'd agree and disagree. So long as what you are working toward is something you are actually going to go through with. Too many people don't focus on enjoying the life they have right now and instead try and feel better about it because down the road they will enjoy it (but by then, it's too late)

You have a strong point there and I agree with you about enjoying life right here, right now. However, I'd argue that having a well-defined goal can make your whole life more meaningful and perhaps a bit more enjoyable in the present too.

After all, there's no cheaper entertainment than day-dreaming ;)

#17 Posted by TheFlush (5515 posts) -

I love my job, I work as art director at an internet agency. It can be very stressful at times because of deadlines you have to make and customers who can be irrational, but overal it's a fun job and I love my colleagues. We all made this company grow and flourish, so we all feel a sense of pride in the things that we do and create.

#18 Posted by JustSignedUp (1148 posts) -

its better than living out in the woods with no electricity or entertainment and having to hunt for your own food

#19 Edited by indzman (17244 posts) -

Sometimes I hate aspects of my job but for the most part I love my work.

It's all about doing a job that you enjoy.

Your job is very cool , i bet people are scared of your position around you lol.

#20 Posted by BiancaDK (18297 posts) -

@MirkoS77 said:

Working has huge benefits that are not apparent until you don't do it: it keeps your mind busy, gives you purpose, affords you money to enjoy some things, keeps you socially and physically active.

The majority of suicides are the retired elderly. Ever wonder why? Work is a blessing, be thankful for it.

i've had the mixed blessing of working with the elderly in various retirement homes, and the concerns that were aired in those places revolved having no friends or close relatives left in their lives, feeling as if they're being overmedicated, dealing with chronic pains or life-threatening illnesses and/or feeling as if no one is treating them as an emotional and intellectual equal

never once did i hear someone being frustrated about not having a job as their primary issue

#21 Posted by jimy1475 (1167 posts) -

It's all about colleagues that you work with, if there are possibilities to talk to them from time to time you can have a better day at work

#22 Posted by ferrari2001 (16815 posts) -

Do something you enjoy. I currently work in shipping and receiving it's decent work with decent pay and I don't hate doing it but I'm still considering going back to school so I can do something that I enjoy even more. There's nothing wrong with changing careers until you find something that you feel you can love doing.

#23 Edited by FinalFighters (1393 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef said:

I hate my job as well, but I hate being broke even more.

Same here.

lots of people hate their jobs TC, but its apart of everyday life if you want a roof over your head, provide for family, etc. so we have no choice but to do it. Why do you think the first thing people do when they win the jackpot (Lottery) is quit their jobs..

#24 Posted by BiancaDK (18297 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef said:

I hate my job as well, but I hate being broke even more.

Same here.

lots of people hate their jobs TC, but its apart of everyday life if you want a roof over your head, provide for family, etc. so we have no choice but to do it. Why do you think the first thing people do when they win the jackpot (Lottery) is quit their jobs..

choice is basically an idea

new ideas, new choices

here's a few complimentary ideas to start you off

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wo-wkv8gW6k

see you on the other side of existentialism

#25 Posted by airshocker (29042 posts) -

@indzman said:

@airshocker said:

Sometimes I hate aspects of my job but for the most part I love my work.

It's all about doing a job that you enjoy.

Your job is very cool , i bet people are scared of your position around you lol.

Not at all. Law-abiding people have nothing to fear from the Police. People do tend to treat me with a little too much respect, to which I try and make jokes to lighten the mood.

#26 Posted by indzman (17244 posts) -

@indzman said:

@airshocker said:

Sometimes I hate aspects of my job but for the most part I love my work.

It's all about doing a job that you enjoy.

Your job is very cool , i bet people are scared of your position around you lol.

Not at all. Law-abiding people have nothing to fear from the Police. People do tend to treat me with a little too much respect, to which I try and make jokes to lighten the mood.

i like cops :)

#27 Posted by jimy1475 (1167 posts) -

@indzman said:

@airshocker said:

@indzman said:

@airshocker said:

Sometimes I hate aspects of my job but for the most part I love my work.

It's all about doing a job that you enjoy.

Your job is very cool , i bet people are scared of your position around you lol.

Not at all. Law-abiding people have nothing to fear from the Police. People do tend to treat me with a little too much respect, to which I try and make jokes to lighten the mood.

i like cops :)

elaborate

#28 Edited by indzman (17244 posts) -

@jimy1475 said:

@indzman said:

@airshocker said:

@indzman said:

@airshocker said:

Sometimes I hate aspects of my job but for the most part I love my work.

It's all about doing a job that you enjoy.

Your job is very cool , i bet people are scared of your position around you lol.

Not at all. Law-abiding people have nothing to fear from the Police. People do tend to treat me with a little too much respect, to which I try and make jokes to lighten the mood.

i like cops :)

elaborate

Well they protect us, help us in many respect. I know there are many corrput and bad cops around too, but i and my family feel safe with cops around in general. Our neighbour is our citys ex commisnor , helped our family in one instance in past. Overall i got a good impression of cops, hope this does not change lol.

#29 Edited by Dogswithguns (10702 posts) -

At least my new now so much better than the one before... I hated that couldn't find a job at all 3 years back.

#30 Edited by one_plum (6348 posts) -

I'm gonna remain optimistic because I know what career I want to be in. If my plan doesn't go through, I'll come back and whine about my boring job at the office.

#31 Posted by DreamingMind (45 posts) -

@Nibroc420 said:

The trick is working a job in a field you enjoy, either by studying something you'll love, or by finding a way to monetize a hobby.

Words of a child. At best, unless you can dictate what your job is, you'll find something tolerable (with ups and downs) that pays the bills. Even in areas you find interesting, there is a lot of bull shit to deal with.

I would not call Nibroc420's post 'words of a child', as I my personal experience agrees with him and I'm 30 years old now. I've been making good money doing stuff that I love to do - and it gets better with every passing day.

I monetized my hobby (writing) and even though at first it was tough, there haven't been a day I didn't love, so far (even if some of them had a lot of bull to deal with!)

#32 Posted by GazaAli (22519 posts) -

@BiancaDK said:

@FinalFighters said:

@BluRayHiDef said:

I hate my job as well, but I hate being broke even more.

Same here.

lots of people hate their jobs TC, but its apart of everyday life if you want a roof over your head, provide for family, etc. so we have no choice but to do it. Why do you think the first thing people do when they win the jackpot (Lottery) is quit their jobs..

choice is basically an idea

new ideas, new choices

here's a few complimentary ideas to start you off

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wo-wkv8gW6k

see you on the other side of existentialism

Clicked on the link expecting to get my mind blown away, came back really disappointed.

On topic, if you apply yourself enough and refuse to yield to the tyranny of the current mode of existence, there's a chance you'll discover what you're really capable of and as a result love what you do to death. To have to work for your means of subsistence sucks in essence, but it can be a powerful thing that would mold you in ways you couldn't anticipate.

#33 Posted by Yusuke420 (2793 posts) -

Life is hard and having a job is one of the things that make it so. The advice given in this thread is solid and having long term goals that you can see yourself appreciably working toward is a great panacea for the grind of daily life.

#34 Edited by MirkoS77 (7167 posts) -

@BiancaDK said:

@MirkoS77 said:

Working has huge benefits that are not apparent until you don't do it: it keeps your mind busy, gives you purpose, affords you money to enjoy some things, keeps you socially and physically active.

The majority of suicides are the retired elderly. Ever wonder why? Work is a blessing, be thankful for it.

i've had the mixed blessing of working with the elderly in various retirement homes, and the concerns that were aired in those places revolved having no friends or close relatives left in their lives, feeling as if they're being overmedicated, dealing with chronic pains or life-threatening illnesses and/or feeling as if no one is treating them as an emotional and intellectual equal

never once did i hear someone being frustrated about not having a job as their primary issue

You don't think having no friends and not being treated as an emotional/intellectual equal (especially) are consequences of not working? That that wouldn't help at all? I don't buy it.

And even if you don't buy "work gives you purpose", it does all of the other things I mentioned.

#35 Posted by Welkabonz (1680 posts) -

I sent to school to become a Nurse, prior to that I never enjoyed working. I would always want to stay home instead of go to work. Granted, I never called-in, or no showed. I just simply despised the idea of having to get up and go to work everyday. Once I was enrolled and accepted into Nursing school I thought maybe I would enjoy going to work, doing interested things all day, and making good enough money to justify getting out of the bed.

I was completely wrong, it only personified my hatred for waking up and going to work every day. The job is stressful, and I get a 3 day weekend every month, which makes getting motivated to go back to work extremely challenging. Anyone else feel this way, and hate going to work?

Why do you work? Update your expectations drivers. Ted talks: synthetic happiness.

#36 Posted by DreamingMind (45 posts) -

@DreamingMind said:

@coolbeans90 said:
@Nibroc420 said:

The trick is working a job in a field you enjoy, either by studying something you'll love, or by finding a way to monetize a hobby.

Words of a child. At best, unless you can dictate what your job is, you'll find something tolerable (with ups and downs) that pays the bills. Even in areas you find interesting, there is a lot of bull shit to deal with.

I would not call Nibroc420's post 'words of a child', as I my personal experience agrees with him and I'm 30 years old now. I've been making good money doing stuff that I love to do - and it gets better with every passing day.

I monetized my hobby (writing) and even though at first it was tough, there haven't been a day I didn't love, so far (even if some of them had a lot of bull to deal with!)

"Unless you can dictate what your job is" - That is what I said in my post. It seems, based on a little inference from your post, that you more or less managed to do that. Truth be told, I am a wee bit jealous.

As a newbie writer, you often have to write stuff you don't particularly like, but know it would sell, or is what your clients have asked you to write about. So in a sense, I could not fully dictate what my job was at first. I had to go with the flow to make some cash and a name for myself.

#37 Edited by DreamingMind (45 posts) -

@DreamingMind said:

@coolbeans90 said:

@DreamingMind said:

@coolbeans90 said:
@Nibroc420 said:

The trick is working a job in a field you enjoy, either by studying something you'll love, or by finding a way to monetize a hobby.

Words of a child. At best, unless you can dictate what your job is, you'll find something tolerable (with ups and downs) that pays the bills. Even in areas you find interesting, there is a lot of bull shit to deal with.

I would not call Nibroc420's post 'words of a child', as I my personal experience agrees with him and I'm 30 years old now. I've been making good money doing stuff that I love to do - and it gets better with every passing day.

I monetized my hobby (writing) and even though at first it was tough, there haven't been a day I didn't love, so far (even if some of them had a lot of bull to deal with!)

"Unless you can dictate what your job is" - That is what I said in my post. It seems, based on a little inference from your post, that you more or less managed to do that. Truth be told, I am a wee bit jealous.

As a newbie writer, you often have to write stuff you don't particularly like, but know it would sell, or is what your clients have asked you to write about. So in a sense, I could not fully dictate what my job was at first. I had to go with the flow to make some cash and a name for myself.

Did you "love" it (writing what you didn't particularly care for) back then, or was it a tolerable means to achieve a goal?

That's a tough question!

I loved it all, but I'll be honest; at first, I suppose I could compare my writing career with going out on countless hot dates but failing to go to second base. Again. And again. And again.

It was all so tantalizingly close, yet so far away, but it made me even more determined to push forward, try new things and reinvent myself in a battle of words that, at times, seemed hopelessly lost.

It was a means to achieve a goal, yes, and sometimes was utterly intolerable, but exactly like dating, all that waiting and failing and fooling around made success all the more bangingly sweet in the end.

#38 Edited by ShadowsDemon (10127 posts) -

Get a job you love is my advice.

#39 Posted by jimy1475 (1167 posts) -

Get a job you love is my advice.

easy to say then do, you know

#40 Posted by BiancaDK (18297 posts) -

@MirkoS77 said:

@BiancaDK said:

@MirkoS77 said:

Working has huge benefits that are not apparent until you don't do it: it keeps your mind busy, gives you purpose, affords you money to enjoy some things, keeps you socially and physically active.

The majority of suicides are the retired elderly. Ever wonder why? Work is a blessing, be thankful for it.

i've had the mixed blessing of working with the elderly in various retirement homes, and the concerns that were aired in those places revolved having no friends or close relatives left in their lives, feeling as if they're being overmedicated, dealing with chronic pains or life-threatening illnesses and/or feeling as if no one is treating them as an emotional and intellectual equal

never once did i hear someone being frustrated about not having a job as their primary issue

You don't think having no friends and not being treated as an emotional/intellectual equal (especially) are consequences of not working? That that wouldn't help at all? I don't buy it.

And even if you don't buy "work gives you purpose", it does all of the other things I mentioned.

i'm not saying work doesn't potentially hold any of the benefits you mentioned. As you can see with my initial comment, i am talking about the retired elderly and their complaints

if you think having a job can do all these things for everyone, then that's on you and i'm quite fine with that

#41 Posted by BiancaDK (18297 posts) -

@GazaAli: thanks for the feedback, however the material wasn't addressed to you, so i'm not entirely sure why you intially thought that you would get something out of it

#42 Edited by GazaAli (22519 posts) -

@BiancaDK said:

@GazaAli: thanks for the feedback, however the material wasn't addressed to you, so i'm not entirely sure why you intially thought that you would get something out of it

Fair enough, I just got excited from the description.

#43 Edited by wis3boi (31117 posts) -

go into a field you enjoy instead of torturing yourself

#44 Posted by SystemsGO (1071 posts) -

@wis3boi: It's not that I don't enjoy the field. I love being a nurse, and helping to save lives. More often than not though, you're simply helping keep someone comfortable when they die, rather than saving them from the grips of death. At any rate, some of my colleagues are tolerable, and some of them of fun to be around. It's just the tremendous amount of stress involved in the field of Nursing that makes it so difficult to achieve. I became a nurse, because I helped my grand parents in their last days, and then became a CNA and helped a young man my age who was rendered brain-dead. I used to go talk to him even though he couldn't respond. One day, he woke up from his comatose state, and remembered nearly everything I said to him. That was why I decided it was something I had to do, but I think that's a once in a lifetime type of thing.

#45 Edited by Diablo-B (4024 posts) -

@SystemsGO: sounds to me like you picked a profession you don't like. I love going to work. A major part of enjoying your job isn't just what you do but where you do it and with whom. If you work in a good environment that will make the process of waking up every morning much more enjoyable. (At least when it's not cold outside).

#46 Posted by Evdne971 (223 posts) -

Your not the only one.

I'd always have the idea to go to work was pointless if your just making someone else money.

I'm still at my first job ever, and making friends REALLY helped.

I hate working, but when I make friends..it's not so bad, now I kinda don't mind going to work...but sometimes I despise it, then when I arrive at work, my hate kinda goes away because if the awesome boss and co workers I have.

I work at a daycare and I'm a 19 year old guy that works out, has a good sense of fashion and cares for himself only (and family)

Sometimes the places you hate can teach you something.

But take my word for it, find something you LIKE

#47 Posted by JohnF111 (14051 posts) -

I hate my job but my colleagues are so great and fun it pretty much cancels out the tedious nature of work. So I don't mind it to be honest, except for when I'm being shouted at for something someon else did(or didn't do). That gets me down but then i go home and a new day starts! Stop trying to hate it as much, find some humour and have a laugh or two, it also doesn't hurt to take a... how can I put it... undocumented break once in a while, taking an extra 10 minutes to make the coffee or have a cigarette(or a dump) won't hurt.