Why do i have such a jealousy problem?

Whenever my gf talks to one of her guy friends, even though hes just a friend shes not even that close with, i get pissed at her (even though i try not to show it because id look like a psycho if i got angry at her just for being friends with another guy)

Anyone else like this? :( or am i alone in this

Just don't go flipping Ape **** and be cool, a little bit of jealousy is healthy and just means that you care for her

Maybe you have low self-esteem?

Maybe you have low self-esteem?

entropyecho

dont think so :( i feel pretty good about myself actually

Maybe you have low self-esteem?

entropyecho

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Maybe you have low self-esteem?

Sajedene

Okay, im sure every trust issue is related directly to my self esteem issue. So if i have a hard time trusting my new friend its just tha i have a low self esteem? Im betting that youre bitter about a past relationship so youre judging me off of little information right now

Whenever my gf talks to one of her guy friends, even though hes just a friend shes not even that close with, i get pissed at her (even though i try not to show it because id look like a psycho if i got angry at her just for being friends with another guy)

Anyone else like this? :( or am i alone in this

RabidChocobo1

Jeaslosy is very healthy, but Trust is even more healthy. If you establish really really good Trust with your girl, or anyone, it makes it extremely difficult to wrong that person. Place your trust in her, tell he you'd be crush if she did something stupid with another man, well alot more detailed then that, and establishing that, you know she couldnt hurt you, if she gives her trust back. This will take time though trust is built strongly only through time... GOOD LUCK ;)

[QUOTE="Sajedene"][QUOTE="entropyecho"]

Maybe you have low self-esteem?

RabidChocobo1

Okay, im sure every trust issue is related directly to my self esteem issue. So if i have a hard time trusting my new friend its just tha i have a low self esteem? Im betting that youre bitter about a past relationship so youre judging me off of little information right now

Whenever my gf talks to one of her guy friends, even though hes just a friend shes not even that close with, i get pissed at her (even though i try not to show it because id look like a psycho if i got angry at her just for being friends with another guy)

Anyone else like this? :( or am i alone in this

RabidChocobo1

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[QUOTE="Sajedene"] It's not a maybe. It is -- with that, you lose trust on her because you fear she will do something to you. Sajedene

Okay, im sure every trust issue is related directly to my self esteem issue. So if i have a hard time trusting my new friend its just tha i have a low self esteem? Im betting that youre bitter about a past relationship so youre judging me off of little information right now

You know, i thought youd assume i was being defensive when i "lashed out" at you. But you cant judge me from what you barely know about me, if you know a thing about me, actually. You know i was hoping for a non-obvious psychological reason why i may be like this, because before posting here i knew that it wasnt because of self esteem issues.
As for providing for her, im justa teenager so what could i possibly provide for her other than a relationship....which i do.

Just don't go flipping Ape **** and be cool, a little bit of jealousy is healthy and just means that you care for her

M1MyRifle

[QUOTE="Sajedene"][QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"]

Okay, im sure every trust issue is related directly to my self esteem issue. So if i have a hard time trusting my new friend its just tha i have a low self esteem? Im betting that youre bitter about a past relationship so youre judging me off of little information right now

RabidChocobo1

You know, i thought youd assume i was being defensive when i "lashed out" at you. But you cant judge me from what you barely know about me, if you know a thing about me, actually. You know i was hoping for a non-obvious psychological reason why i may be like this, because before posting here i knew that it wasnt because of self esteem issues.
As for providing for her, im justa teenager so what could i possibly provide for her other than a relationship....which i do.

I am not the only one in this thread saying it is your esteem issues. Get some confidence in yourself. You are playing defensive right now HOPING you'd hear a better, perhaps easier to fix answer. But jealousy based on unfounded reasons are caused by ones self esteem issues. Nothing else. Any possible hormonal or psychological imbalance you would have would not make you jealous but could be the reason for your anger issues though. It all ties in...

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[QUOTE="Sajedene"] Um actually no... your jealousy and lack of trust is not YOUR girlfriend's issue but yours. The reason being is that you have self esteem issues. Why is it that YOU think YOUR girl will do something to cheat on you? Are you not providing enough for her? Is there something about you that you feel is lacking that you think she needs to go looking for it somewhere else? I mean... the fact that you had to attack me for pointing it out means you cannot accept that you have problems with yourself so you feel the need to lash out and project -- which is EXACTLY what you do with your girl when she talks to other guys.Sajedene

You know, i thought youd assume i was being defensive when i "lashed out" at you. But you cant judge me from what you barely know about me, if you know a thing about me, actually. You know i was hoping for a non-obvious psychological reason why i may be like this, because before posting here i knew that it wasnt because of self esteem issues.
As for providing for her, im justa teenager so what could i possibly provide for her other than a relationship....which i do.

I am not the only one in this thread saying it is your esteem issues. Get some confidence in yourself. You are playing defensive right now HOPING you'd hear a better, perhaps easier to fix answer. But jealousy based on unfounded reasons are caused by ones self esteem issues. Nothing else. Any possible hormonal or psychological imbalance you would have would not make you jealous but could be the reason for your anger issues though. It all ties in...

Im not the kind of person to lie to myself (or at least, TRY to lie to myself) Im actually considering the possibility of me having self esteem issues(thanks to this thread) the only reason i dont believe i have self esteem issues is that i cant really find a reason to. I get good grades, im smart (some people call me arrogant sometimes) i play some sports, im pretty good at them, (i may be short), but my gf tells me my penis size is perfect (gasp he said penis Or is there some other hidden reason that ill have to do some inconvenient soul searching for?

also, i do provide those things... at least i like to think so...y...yeah i do

[QUOTE="Sajedene"]

[QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"]

You know, i thought youd assume i was being defensive when i "lashed out" at you. But you cant judge me from what you barely know about me, if you know a thing about me, actually. You know i was hoping for a non-obvious psychological reason why i may be like this, because before posting here i knew that it wasnt because of self esteem issues.
As for providing for her, im justa teenager so what could i possibly provide for her other than a relationship....which i do.

RabidChocobo1

I am not the only one in this thread saying it is your esteem issues. Get some confidence in yourself. You are playing defensive right now HOPING you'd hear a better, perhaps easier to fix answer. But jealousy based on unfounded reasons are caused by ones self esteem issues. Nothing else. Any possible hormonal or psychological imbalance you would have would not make you jealous but could be the reason for your anger issues though. It all ties in...

Im not the kind of person to lie to myself (or at least, TRY to lie to myself) Im actually considering the possibility of me having self esteem issues(thanks to this thread) the only reason i dont believe i have self esteem issues is that i cant really find a reason to. I get good grades, im smart (some people call me arrogant sometimes) i play some sports, im pretty good at them, (i may be short), but my gf tells me my penis size is perfect (gasp he said penis Or is there some other hidden reason that ill have to do some inconvenient soul searching for?

also, i do provide those things... at least i like to think so...y...yeah i do

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[QUOTE="Sajedene"] Providing as in -- emotional, intellectual, stimulating, humor, companionship, etc provisions... does not mean monetary.

I am not the only one in this thread saying it is your esteem issues. Get some confidence in yourself. You are playing defensive right now HOPING you'd hear a better, perhaps easier to fix answer. But jealousy based on unfounded reasons are caused by ones self esteem issues. Nothing else. Any possible hormonal or psychological imbalance you would have would not make you jealous but could be the reason for your anger issues though. It all ties in...

Sajedene

Im not the kind of person to lie to myself (or at least, TRY to lie to myself) Im actually considering the possibility of me having self esteem issues(thanks to this thread) the only reason i dont believe i have self esteem issues is that i cant really find a reason to. I get good grades, im smart (some people call me arrogant sometimes) i play some sports, im pretty good at them, (i may be short), but my gf tells me my penis size is perfect (gasp he said penis Or is there some other hidden reason that ill have to do some inconvenient soul searching for?

also, i do provide those things... at least i like to think so...y...yeah i do

[QUOTE="Sajedene"]

[QUOTE="RabidChocobo1"]

Im not the kind of person to lie to myself (or at least, TRY to lie to myself) Im actually considering the possibility of me having self esteem issues(thanks to this thread) the only reason i dont believe i have self esteem issues is that i cant really find a reason to. I get good grades, im smart (some people call me arrogant sometimes) i play some sports, im pretty good at them, (i may be short), but my gf tells me my penis size is perfect (gasp he said penis Or is there some other hidden reason that ill have to do some inconvenient soul searching for?

also, i do provide those things... at least i like to think so...y...yeah i do

RabidChocobo1

Because you don't trust your girlfriend. If you trust her to remain faithful to you, you won't have a problem with jealousy at all. Her guys friends will just be that, guy friends... and if you are doing your job as boyfriend, she won't have any reason to leave you.

I think it's natural for everyone to be a bit jealous or at least concerned when their significant other is close to other guys/girls. It's the people that let their s.o. do whatever they want that I worry about! I'm in a committed relationship and while I have guy friends, I'm not best friends or overly friendly with any of them. I have no desire to hang out with any of them alone or go out with them alone. My boyfriend has become my best friend and no other guys can really compare. So I guess I don't have these kinda issues really because now that I've found someone that's so important to me, no one else comes close. My boyfriend has nothing to get jealous about. Maybe other people have this kinda relationship too, I don't know. But this is what works for me, so maybe if you 2 get to this kinda place it'll be different for you? Good luck, anyway. Don't get too crazy or jealous but don't be afraid to keep your eyes peeled.