Who are worst bullies in your opinion: Girls or Guys?

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Posted by mrduckbears3 (133 posts) 3 years, 30 days ago

Poll: Who are worst bullies in your opinion: Girls or Guys? (22 votes)

Girls 68%
Guys 32%

girls and guys bullying differently...girls usually go for the jugular and hurt you emotionally with tough scarring words...and guys..well it's pretty much physical with general pushing or bruise taking punches.

but who are worse in your opinion? i say girls only because words hurt more than physical violence...as long as that physical violence doesn't involve any weapons

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#1 Posted by br0kenrabbit (14686 posts) -

To put what you said more succinctly: When boys fight, they punch each other. When girls fight, they destroy each others lives.

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#2 Edited by -ParaNormaN- (1374 posts) -

Dude, girls are. Like you said, they bully you emotionally. That shit doesn't heal really fast if not at all. Guys play mind games but it's just trash talk that barely really even target you. They target your family instead, mostly the sister or the mother and if they do target you, they just call you (forgive the homophobic words) a ***, gay, bitch, etc. Bruises heal, fights don't last long and fights usually end it all unless something between the two is personal, like if an ex boyfriend who may have used a guys sister for sex, broke her heart and told a bunch of people how easy she is. Then that isn't really bullying anymore, it's a personal vendetta.

Girls though, for guys at least, we don't have many options when facing these bullies. We can't hit women unless they're beating our asses and we act in self defense. Even then we still get fucked. We can't say much unless we actually know something about the girl that we can use against them. We pretty much just have to take their shit and deal with it. Even if we did do something, there could be an older brother coming to hunt your ass next, so it's a lose-lose situation. I don't know how girls handle it but it sucks for us dudes. At least guys like me.

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#3 Edited by coolbeans90 (21305 posts) -

i think emotional bullying is a myth

so guise obv

ok perhaps thats a understating emotional bullying some, but

well

LOL

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#4 Posted by Master_Live (18518 posts) -

Girls are like Bane. They don't torture your body, but your soul. And then when your spirit is ashes, then and only then, you have their permission to die.

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#5 Posted by Barbariser (6785 posts) -

(Based on personal experience), girls are generally quite nice to everyone except creepers and their equivalent of "bullying" is literally just ignoring them and bitching about said creepers to each other. Even the hugely popular cheerleader types almost never harass or denigrate anybody. As far as dudes go, the more aggressive and psychopathic jocks will yell at, push around and openly make fun of people they don't like, the rest of them are as nice as the girls. Don't know about how it's done elsewhere but that's the situation here.

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#6 Posted by indzman (24670 posts) -

Guys are morons. They tend to bully a fellow guy for impressing a girl. Girls are not bullies , they cunning and laugh their ass off watching us guys fight amongst ourselves for them.

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#7 Posted by Lulu_Lulu (19564 posts) -

Bullies are interesting creatures. It depends on Victimology, if your the emotionally vulnerable type then a you will attract the emotional bullies, same goes for Physical bullies and weaklings. As for whic one is worse, thats purely subjective.

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#8 Edited by plageus900 (2099 posts) -

@Barbariser said:

(Based on personal experience), girls are generally quite nice to everyone except creepers and their equivalent of "bullying" is literally just ignoring them and bitching about said creepers to each other. Even the hugely popular cheerleader types almost never harass or denigrate anybody. As far as dudes go, the more aggressive and psychopathic jocks will yell at, push around and openly make fun of people they don't like, the rest of them are as nice as the girls. Don't know about how it's done elsewhere but that's the situation here.

I've seen plenty of girls ruin each other.

Girl A is now dating the previous boyfriend of Girl B. Girl B rounds up her clique and even some of Girl A's friends and they start harassing her to no end via social media, at school, workplace, etc. Soon, Girl A is having a rough life, her grades start falling, her performance in the work place goes down the shitter, etc. Girls go on and on and on and don't stop.

I'm sure you read the news where these two girls harassed a fellow student to the point of suicide and then continued to talk shit about her on Facebook after she was dead.

Story

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#9 Posted by Evil_Saluki (5217 posts) -

Girls always got to have a rival and like to form little groups to conspire against someone.

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#10 Edited by Storm_Marine (12969 posts) -

@Barbariser said:

(Based on personal experience), girls are generally quite nice to everyone except creepers and their equivalent of "bullying" is literally just ignoring them and bitching about said creepers to each other. Even the hugely popular cheerleader types almost never harass or denigrate anybody. As far as dudes go, the more aggressive and psychopathic jocks will yell at, push around and openly make fun of people they don't like, the rest of them are as nice as the girls. Don't know about how it's done elsewhere but that's the situation here.

You must be from a different era. :/

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#11 Posted by Sharpie125 (3904 posts) -

@Barbariser: I live in a good neighbourhood and went to an embarrassingly safe high school, and the worst "bullies" were the queen-bee chicks who had a posse. But amazingly they usually went after girls in other popular cliques, not the loners or what have you. Saw a catfight in the hall, and heard a pretty crazy story of someone getting dragged out of her car and getting beat up by another girl.... no real fights on the guy side but they probably took it off school property.

Man I love high school politics. I will say it's getting harder to say if girls or guys are worse just because of social media. Guys are just as capable of acting like bitches behind a wall of text, as we all know.

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#12 Posted by Behardy24 (5324 posts) -

@Sharpie125: Do we go to same High School!?! But for real, at my hs popular people just fight between each other and there is a lot of drama that goes between them. At my school though there are cat and guy fights. Rare,but not uncommon. It's weird because at my grade level,there isn't that one real popular person or group. Everyone is just hangs out in different groups and know real tension between all the groups. But,like I said, there is probably tension within the groups sometimes.

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#13 Posted by BranKetra (51726 posts) -

I do not really know. I think girls and women are less nice on average where I am currently residing than these boys and men.

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#14 Posted by Glitter (355 posts) -

To me they are both just as bad, I feel depending on the person, a female bully can be just as bad as a male bully.

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#15 Edited by Gaming-Planet (17678 posts) -

The girls from what I've witnessed. They some some terrible things to other girls and when they fight, they fight like animals.

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#16 Edited by coolbeans90 (21305 posts) -

@Storm_Marine said:

@Barbariser said:

(Based on personal experience), girls are generally quite nice to everyone except creepers and their equivalent of "bullying" is literally just ignoring them and bitching about said creepers to each other. Even the hugely popular cheerleader types almost never harass or denigrate anybody. As far as dudes go, the more aggressive and psychopathic jocks will yell at, push around and openly make fun of people they don't like, the rest of them are as nice as the girls. Don't know about how it's done elsewhere but that's the situation here.

You must be from a different era. :/

he is in a part of the world that time left behind

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#17 Posted by hippiesanta (10292 posts) -

Guys bully more during school years ...

but

Girls are the worst especially at work or during adulthood

they their weak husband, nagging at their children, bully junior staff, their rivals and other weaker females ... and they always used feminism as a shield and excuse to defend themself

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#18 Edited by Barbariser (6785 posts) -

@plageus900: That story's from Florida. I live in a country that is literally the entire U.S.A. + the Pacific Ocean away, and my observations may or may not be just confined to a local private school and college.

@Sharpie125 said:

@Barbariser: I live in a good neighbourhood and went to an embarrassingly safe high school, and the worst "bullies" were the queen-bee chicks who had a posse. But amazingly they usually went after girls in other popular cliques, not the loners or what have you. Saw a catfight in the hall, and heard a pretty crazy story of someone getting dragged out of her car and getting beat up by another girl.... no real fights on the guy side but they probably took it off school property.

Man I love high school politics. I will say it's getting harder to say if girls or guys are worse just because of social media. Guys are just as capable of acting like bitches behind a wall of text, as we all know.

That's quite true. Of all the tweeters I know, the only one who really uses that website for bitching about other people is a dude. Your situation was still a lot wilder than mine - our equivalent of popular girls all got along fairly well, and no serious physical fights ever took place on the grounds at all. If not for google, I'd probably get the impression that this kind of stuff might be a mainly Western or Anglophone thing.

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#19 Edited by ReadingRainbow4 (18733 posts) -

Definitely girls, with guys shit doesn't usually drag out and constantly eat at you. Girls will remind you of something you did (or didn't do) years down the road even if it's insignificant shit that no one cares about anymore.

Guys hit, girls will find a way to rake hot coals over your soul and some will also hit.

Also Girl on girl bullying is fucking vicious.

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#20 Edited by sukraj (26615 posts) -

both genres are bad

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#21 Posted by jasean79 (2593 posts) -

@hippiesanta said:

Guys bully more during school years ...

but

Girls are the worst especially at work or during adulthood

You hit the nail right on the head with this one. I work in an office that is mostly women (including management). They are the most malicious, back-stabbing, hurtful gender to work with (and under). I try to remain neutral with them, because to get on their "bad side" is an invitation to make your work life a living hell.

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#22 Posted by Diablo-B (4063 posts) -

I went to a black HS. Both the male and female bullies used physical violence. Based on the above posts I guess that makes me "lucky" :-/

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#23 Posted by LJS9502_basic (158521 posts) -

Ah yes...let's generalize everyone by sex. Because that totally works.

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#24 Edited by Brain_Duster (473 posts) -

I have no idea. I think it depends on the person.

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#25 Posted by Sword-Demon (7007 posts) -

just generalizing:

with guys, it's just about asserting dominance.

with girls, it's about making you hate yourself, destroying you from the inside.

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#26 Edited by GamerForca (7203 posts) -

My experience was the same as some of the posts above, in that the bullying in high school mostly revolved around popular cliques going after each other. Sometimes they'd bully the loners, but it was mostly against each other.

As to who's worse, I think it's fairly even. I don't agree that male bullying can't mess a guy's life up. Guys who are bullied often lose all their confidence, other guys won't want to hang out with them, and girls see them as weak and won't want anything to do with them. Shattered confidence can follow guys for a long time. And they get the bruises to go along with it. I don't think it hurts guys as bad after high school though. Girls really will ruin each other's lives. I've known quite a few attractive girls who were/are convinced that they're ugly and have to constantly try to prove themselves wrong by getting screwed by every guy who approaches them. Lack of self-esteem caused by bullying can really **** a girl up.

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#27 Posted by halipokes (48 posts) -

I'm going to join here and say the bullying is very different, but it might be as bad. Yes, girls may be tedious and destroy ones life from inside out and leave you wondering your existence, but sometimes boys are pretty damn horrible to others. Example here:

At eight grade, in my class there was this little, a bit chubby boy, who spent all his free time reading Dragon Ball or Inuyasha, pretty much... just manga. He didn't really have friends, because boys seemed to avoid him and girls... well, girls are what they are. Not even other nerds would hang out with him.

Other boys closed the door in front of him, making him run to the other side of the building, just to make him run and then be late for class, and then laughed and threw paper, pen, everything to him in the class. When he was quietly sitting in the corridor, boys would come to him and pretend they were gonna kick him, and you could see from his face he was frightened of this.

One day they took his Dragon Ball -manga and they ripped it apart. This was sorta the point when someone first touched the subject of bullying on him, when I went and told the only teacher who had authority towards children in the whole school about it.

That boy's life was pretty much wrecked at that point. He started crying in class and I am almost certain he switched school few times after that.

I am not saying girls are not good at destroying lives, I'm just adding that they are not the only ones.