so i'm planning on asking someone out but i've never been on a date in my life. i was thinking maybe the movies or something but i wanted to here your guys suggestions. edit 1: ok since we don't see each other at school anymore and i don't have her number i asked her over facebook if she would like to have starbucks this weekend on me she read my message about four hours ago and completely ignored it (in fact, she went ahead and commented on/liked some of my friends stuff instead of responding) did i goof up, OT? edit 2: well, apparently i jumped the gun: she suggested we meet at 9am on friday. however, there's some unexpected stuff.... her mum's going to pick her up at 10 to do some shopping. as i mentioned before i'm not a very good conversationalist, so idk if i can keep one going 1on1 for an hour without boring her (i was hoping i could just drop her off if the conversation got stale). i had some topics in mind but i'd be open to any suggestions as towards topics to discuss. and later she asked me who else was going??? i told her no one else so far and i think i'll just say that everyone i know won't wake up until noon or has work (which isn't far from the truth). but i was wondering if should i just take this as clarifying question? or should i anticipate a lot of awkwardness when it's just her and me? and i really appreciate all of the (serious) responses you guys. for reasons i can't really get into, i can't trust my irl friends when it comes to this sort of thing.
so i'm planning on asking someone out but i've never been on a date in my life. i was thinking maybe the movies or something but i wanted to here your guys suggestions.VanHelsingBoA64
is there any worse place to flirt/socialize/whatever than the movies?
[QUOTE="VanHelsingBoA64"]so i'm planning on asking someone out but i've never been on a date in my life. i was thinking maybe the movies or something but i wanted to here your guys suggestions.Storm_Marine
is there any worse place to flirt/socialize/whatever than the movies?
that was sort of my intention? i'm not very good at small talk so i thought there would be less opportunities for me to screw up
Take her to a place that both of you can do something enjoyable and can have interaction. Movies are good only if you will talk about it afterwards. Bowling, walking, going to a decent bar are good options. Think of it as this. Where do you have fun and can make her enjoy as well?
[QUOTE="VanHelsingBoA64"]so i'm planning on asking someone out but i've never been on a date in my life. i was thinking maybe the movies or something but i wanted to here your guys suggestions.VanHelsingBoA64
is there any worse place to flirt/socialize/whatever than the movies?
that was sort of my intention? i'm not very good at small talk so i thought there would be less opportunities for me to screw up Movies are OK later. For the first date, I always liked something where you could talk, laugh, and just generally have a good time in each other's company. The idea you want to embrace is not to avoid screwing up but rather to impress.
[QUOTE="VanHelsingBoA64"]so i'm planning on asking someone out but i've never been on a date in my life. i was thinking maybe the movies or something but i wanted to here your guys suggestions.VanHelsingBoA64
is there any worse place to flirt/socialize/whatever than the movies?
that was sort of my intention? i'm not very good at small talk so i thought there would be less opportunities for me to screw up
Lunch or dinner is best. If you really want to do movies I suppose you could do it after y'all eat.
I wouldn't worry about screwing up man. Relaxing is key.
I wish you the best of luck. My first date was horrible because the girl's ex was our waiter lol. Can't get much worse than that.
so i'm planning on asking someone out but i've never been on a date in my life. i was thinking maybe the movies or something but i wanted to here your guys suggestions.VanHelsingBoA64
[QUOTE="VanHelsingBoA64"]so i'm planning on asking someone out but i've never been on a date in my life. i was thinking maybe the movies or something but i wanted to here your guys suggestions.Storm_Marine
is there any worse place to flirt/socialize/whatever than the movies?
exactly, take her out for a cup of coffee or something. Somewhere where you can have a real conversation.
Don't take her to the movies for a first date. You can't talk to her without annoying everyone else around you. So avoid things like that. The goal is to get to know her. You know what i'd do? Write her a crown of sonnets.
Seriously though, do whatever you want. It doesn't need to be anything special. Â
if you can transform your place to a cozy corner and cook some nice and simple dish, and a glass of wine and nice soothing music... it's perfect... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sUBzjL2XN9Q
ok since we don't see each other at school anymore and i don't have her number i asked her over facebook if she would like to have starbucks this weekend on me she read my message about four hours ago and completely ignored it (in fact, she went ahead and commented on/liked some of my friends stuff instead of responding) did i goof up, OT?
[QUOTE="VanHelsingBoA64"]ok since we don't see each other at school anymore and i don't have her number i asked her over facebook if she would like to have starbucks this weekend on me she read my message about four hours ago and completely ignored it (in fact, she went ahead and commented on/liked some of my friends stuff instead of responding) did i goof up, OT?maybe she is thinking about it. I would wait on it a while. Its only Tuesday.
Never to the movies on the first, unless you want to spend 3 hours next to her without being able to talkDarthkaiser
i already updated the original post with this: [QUOTE="VanHelsingBoA64"]ok since we don't see each other at school anymore and i don't have her number i asked her over facebook if she would like to have starbucks this weekend on me she read my message about four hours ago and completely ignored it (in fact, she went ahead and commented on/liked some of my friends stuff instead of responding) did i goof up, OT?
maybe she is thinking about it. I would wait on it a while. Its only Tuesday.wolverine4262
yeah i think waiting is really my only option now. but i'm honestly confused as to wether or not she's purposefully giving me the cold shoulder. oh well.
[QUOTE="VanHelsingBoA64"] yeah i think waiting is really my only option now. but i'm honestly confused as to wether or not she's purposefully giving me the cold shoulder. oh well. You could always press the matter. Id wait until Thursday, though. Dont be surprised if you just get an excuse back though
Definitely not a movie. In a movie you can't talk and you'll barely look at each other. I made that mistake once and it was one of the lamest dates I've ever been on.
Unfortunately I don't know what to tell you about the phone number over fb thing. You'll just have to wait and see if she responds :/ know the feeling.Â
Good luck man, if it doesn't work out you'll get plenty of chances some otha time ;)
looks like you should just pretend you didnt ask her on a date. She's ignoring you, so you should just play it off and start to back off.
Dont talk to her unless she talks to you first. Go out and distract yourself, and if you do ever see her or she contacts you, you brag about how amazing your life has been over whatever time that has passed since you seen/talk to her.
Dont be mean to her, dont end contact with people for silly stuff like this. But its obvious she isnt giving you the respect you deserve. So you, at the very least can pretend you are doing good for yourself and are not affected by her presence or lack of presence.
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