When friends stop speaking to you

May be a bif of a daft topic, but when friends that you were quite close to no longer make the effort with you, i.e they wont spend time or even speak to you anymore, is it worth trying to make more of an effort with them? or just think "screw it" and focus on other people ?

I have/had a group of female friends (im a guy btw) that ive been friends with for a few years now, but the last few months, they dont seem to have much to do with me. Its at the point where they will only contact me, if I contact them first, i.e on facebook. I still care about them as friends, but as hard as it may be, im also considering distancing myself from them and just focusing on others that still contact me now and then.

Any input will be great. Im not gonna lie, its getting me down a tad.

Its up to you to determine if they're worth the effort. They're your friends, how much they add to your happiness is your perspective, not any of ours.

I make all the effort to talk and hang out with my friends. If your friends make no effort I say focus on the friends you know now, then when new friends come up divert your effort to your new friends.

I'd say it depends. If they enjoy your company then I wouldn't (its obvious if they do enjoy your company by the way, if you have any doubts they probably don't care much) but if they seem dismissive it isn't worth the effort. I've never been a person to take the initiative in a relationship, so if they're those kinds of people then it could just be that. If they just up and stopped, then I would distance myself.

Only make time for those who make time for you.

Only you can answer that question. Personally though, I've found the answer typically to be that it's not worth the effort.

If they don't like you for who you are, they aren't worth the trouble.On the other hand, if it's something like a small disagreement, having some time away from other each can help. It's easier to look at the problem after the emotions aren't in control anymore.

i'm still pretty good friends with literally all my friends from elementary school to high school, but my friendship with a lot of my friends is strained a bit since I don't go to the same university as a lot of my friends.I wish it was easy finding time to hang out with them or talk to them besides texting them or talking to them on facebook,but I hate to stress them out or force them to talk to me.

From my experiences i would advise keeping in touch with them, but not straining yourself about it. By that i mean make an effort to keep in touch with them, text them or talk to them on facebook every once in a while (this way you can figure out whether they aren't interested in hanging out with you or they are just bad at keeping in touch cause some people are just that), but don't make a huge effort and concentrate on the people who you know will make an effort. Hope this helps :DTazzman1000

I'm terrible at doing that.I think sometimes I stress or annoy a couple of my friends out sometimes because I wish it was easier finding time to talk to them.I'm lucky I'm still friends with those people.

i guess it's worth a shot alot of friends a close through school and such and once college or what ever everyone wants to do afterwards you all go your seperate ways to some degree. it sad cause i miss a few of mine but their memeories are worth something. but if you can actually contact them and stay in touch all the better

i had this female friend who just recently found a BF,i called her a few days later after the incident, she picked up the phone and asked who i were? after a while i realized she'd deleted my number from her phonebook because of her BF and i was totally blown away cause she wasn't the type of girl who would do such a thing or at least i couldn't possibly imagine her doing that.that might be your case too.

i guess it's worth a shot alot of friends a close through school and such and once college or what ever everyone wants to do afterwards you all go your seperate ways to some degree. it sad cause i miss a few of mine but their memeories are worth something. but if you can actually contact them and stay in touch all the better

almasdeathchild

That's what I'm currently trying to do.That's why i created a FB account in the first place.

I no longer speak to my best friend from high school anymore. But to be fair, none of us made the effort to stay in contact (though we were contacts on Facebook).

I guess it just happens. I managed to make new friends, so sometimes it is just better to move on and find friends who will stay in your life, and who are worth it. Still, it depends - what would you want? =]

If they can't make time for you, then they're not worth your time.

If someone doesn't make the effort to contact you it usually means they don't care and have moved on. Friends come and go like seasons.

May be a bif of a daft topic, but when friends that you were quite close to no longer make the effort with you, i.e they wont spend time or even speak to you anymore, is it worth trying to make more of an effort with them? or just think "screw it" and focus on other people ?

I have/had a group of female friends (im a guy btw) that ive been friends with for a few years now, but the last few months, they dont seem to have much to do with me. Its at the point where they will only contact me, if I contact them first, i.e on facebook. I still care about them as friends, but as hard as it may be, im also considering distancing myself from them and just focusing on others that still contact me now and then.

Any input will be great. Im not gonna lie, its getting me down a tad.

Chris_53

They prolly don't like you anymore because they found out that you make lame topics.

[QUOTE="Tazzman1000"]From my experiences i would advise keeping in touch with them, but not straining yourself about it. By that i mean make an effort to keep in touch with them, text them or talk to them on facebook every once in a while (this way you can figure out whether they aren't interested in hanging out with you or they are just bad at keeping in touch cause some people are just that), but don't make a huge effort and concentrate on the people who you know will make an effort. Hope this helps :Dsuper600

I'm terrible at doing that.I think sometimes I stress or annoy a couple of my friends out sometimes because I wish it was easier finding time to talk to them.I'm lucky I'm still friends with those people.

[QUOTE="Tazzman1000"]From my experiences i would advise keeping in touch with them, but not straining yourself about it. By that i mean make an effort to keep in touch with them, text them or talk to them on facebook every once in a while (this way you can figure out whether they aren't interested in hanging out with you or they are just bad at keeping in touch cause some people are just that), but don't make a huge effort and concentrate on the people who you know will make an effort. Hope this helps :Dsuper600

I'm terrible at doing that.I think sometimes I stress or annoy a couple of my friends out sometimes because I wish it was easier finding time to talk to them.I'm lucky I'm still friends with those people.

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[QUOTE="Tazzman1000"]From my experiences i would advise keeping in touch with them, but not straining yourself about it. By that i mean make an effort to keep in touch with them, text them or talk to them on facebook every once in a while (this way you can figure out whether they aren't interested in hanging out with you or they are just bad at keeping in touch cause some people are just that), but don't make a huge effort and concentrate on the people who you know will make an effort. Hope this helps :DTazzman1000

I'm terrible at doing that.I think sometimes I stress or annoy a couple of my friends out sometimes because I wish it was easier finding time to talk to them.I'm lucky I'm still friends with those people.

Thanks for the wonderful advice.I will tell my friends this eventually.

My friends are like that.They never contact me so I don't contact them

It seems like people make it out to be more than it is. Dont hold a grudge against anybody you lose contact with. People grow up, they grow apart, they get seperated by life, it happens.

Some people will make a huge deal about it & create some hostility over it. You guys are simply growing apart. Dont hate them for it, & dont push them ot be more active friends. Freinds come & go, freindshops also cool down, or pick up, rinse & repeat.

I had friends that hated me for distantcing myself from them yet the only thing i was doing was focusin on bettering myself, & my relationship with the one i loved. So like i said dont make a big deal oit of it.

Its wierd to me that freinds want to hold you to a standard for the rest of your life. Like if you're are super close now & hang out every dya then apparently in the future you have to conitue to hang out with those freinds every day for the rest of your life. Thats not how things work

Freindships may change with certain freinds where the amount of time you talk & hang will change. Dont hate them for it. Thats just how things work. Life, jobs, personal things, may get anyway, or people may change. It doesnt mean they hate you, they're just at a different point in life.

i just make new friends elsewhere, screw those old friends who don't wanna pay attention to you anymore

May be a bif of a daft topic, but when friends that you were quite close to no longer make the effort with you, i.e they wont spend time or even speak to you anymore, is it worth trying to make more of an effort with them? or just think "screw it" and focus on other people ?

I have/had a group of female friends (im a guy btw) that ive been friends with for a few years now, but the last few months, they dont seem to have much to do with me. Its at the point where they will only contact me, if I contact them first, i.e on facebook. I still care about them as friends, but as hard as it may be, im also considering distancing myself from them and just focusing on others that still contact me now and then.

Any input will be great. Im not gonna lie, its getting me down a tad.

Chris_53

Generally I just move on.