What was your first date like?

#1 Posted by Behardy24 (2374 posts) -

What was your first date like? (You can use the guide below).

  • How old were?
  • Who'd you go with? (Names are not necessary)
  • How did you feel about them? How did YOU feel?
  • Where did you go?
  • What did you do?
  • What did you talk about?
  • Anything you wish went better?
  • How did you feel afterward?
  • Please share all the details :D

The reason I'm asking is because I'm 17 and I have never been on a date. I kinda want to hear realistic stories from people I am somewhat familiar with.

Thanks for the responses in advance!

#2 Posted by always_explicit (2632 posts) -

I was 15
I started a new school and she was a pretty popular girl called Becky.
I felt really lucky. I had just started this new school and put quite a lot of effort into my appearance and promised myself to be more confident and to be how i wanted to be not how i wanted other people to perceive me. As it happened she liked that. I felt very close to her for a long time.

We went to the cinema although i forget the film.
I took her for lunch afterwards and we sat in a park under a tree and listened to her Ipod and talked about what music we both liked. Because I lived a long way away in London she had a lot of questions about what it was like and what was different. She was very inquisitive which meant conversation was never awkward. She also liked it when I made fun of her which I love. Its been something I looked for in women ever since. Banter, sense of humour, not taking life too seriously.

It couldnt have gone better, it was just a really nice day. Afterwards I didnt want it to end, we kissed then I had a very long train journey home, which I spent in a strange state of being really happy but also quite miserable.

In terms of advice dude....just be as outgoing and confident as you can, be yourself. Be assertive too.

#3 Edited by indzman (16516 posts) -

19 , took her to a to a amusement park as she insisted visiting there, my cousin brother was with us also as he was staying with us around that time. good ol times :)

#4 Edited by AutoPilotOn (7974 posts) -

Well my first real girlfriend wasn't till my senior year. It was prom. I had talked to her at school and on Aol instant messager, it was very popular back in late 90s lol. We also had hung out but as friends with other friends a little before then.

#5 Posted by ShepardCommandr (2155 posts) -

Never been on a date.

#6 Edited by jasean79 (2303 posts) -

I don't remember my first date, but I remember A date that was amongst my first so I'll use that one:

  • I was probably early 20's
  • It was me and her only
  • I felt okay about it, she seemed nice at first. I was aware that she was a recovering heroin addict (yes, that's right) and was going to NA in the 12-step program at the time
  • I believe we went to an Applebee's or similar and then came back to her house (she lived with her mom) and watched a movie. I remember the movie, 'Flatliners' because it had significance to her that I found out after the date.
  • We talked about normal stuff - where she grew up, where she went to school, her family, etc.
  • I don't think it could've went any better than it did. She was a weird chick.
  • Getting back to the Flatliners reference...when we got back to her house, she asked what movie I wanted to watch and that's what I chose. Now if you've never seen the movie, this won't make much sense, but in the film, the one kid keeps having this flashback about his dad in the bathroom and you don't know what the dad is doing until the end of the movie...turns out the dad was shooting heroin. So, yeah, I felt like an ass, wanting to watch this movie and here's a recovering addict I'm on a date with and this happens.

Anyways, the weirdest thing about this chick was this "guy" she was "friends" with. I remember when we got back to her house, before we watched the movie, she called this "guy" and was checking in with him about how the date was going. I thought that was really odd, considering he wasn't family or anything. In fact, I don't know what his relation to her was.

After that date, I only talked to her once more. She called me from Chi-Chi's (Mexican restaurant) saying how she was getting wasted with this "guy"....at that point I knew she was bad news (she wasn't even old enough to drink yet either).

Obviously, my example is atypical of a normal first date. lol But, it did make for some good entertainment!

#7 Posted by foxhound_fox (86984 posts) -

Wish I could remember. It's been over five years now and I've had many substantially better dates since then (with the same woman).

#8 Posted by bforrester420 (1049 posts) -

I was in 6th grade, so I was probably 12, and we went to a movie (I think it was Batteries not Included). I don't remember the movie, we made out the whole time.

#9 Posted by Lord_Daemon (24231 posts) -

  • I was 19.
  • A girl I sat next to in class.
  • She was a little odd but fun, I was typically excited.
  • She took me to a Samurai film festival to see 'Zatoichi Meets Yojimbo'.
  • We watched the film and talked about other Zatoichi films n' such.
  • The film and class and various things I can't remember.
  • Not really.
  • Excited as I'm not really a dater.
  • Not really much to share that I haven't already mentioned except we made out afterwards but it never really developed into anything serious...which was probably for the best and soon afterwards she transferred to a school in Hawaii (we were in CA at the time).
#10 Posted by AutoPilotOn (7974 posts) -

@foxhound_fox: ouch. Don't let her know you can't remember lol.

#11 Posted by Korvus (2473 posts) -

You mean romantic date, or just going out with a girl? I've gotten used to go out with lots of girls since I was 12, most of my friends were/are girls and I'd normally go out with one of them every week but never saw it as a date, just friends going out and having fun. The first romantic date I went to was with the girl who later became my wife.

  • How old were? 26 (what can I say? I'm picky with relationships)
  • Who'd you go with? (Names are not necessary) Just me and her
  • How did you feel about them? How did YOU feel? Felt great to finally be able to go on a proper date with her; we lived in different countries so it was really special to be able to spend the day with her without stressing about other stuff.
  • Where did you go? I showed her the city I grew up in. Some museums, some castles, cable car ride across the river, a movie, etc.
  • What did you do? Read above
  • What did you talk about? After the first hour of "Can't believe you're finally here!" (we had been planning those vacations for 6 months) it just turned into normal conversation and lots of cuddly moments :p
  • Anything you wish went better? Nope, everything was absolutely perfect.
  • How did you feel afterward? Very happy; that first date consolidated a lot of things for us.
  • Please share all the details :D Details? On Gamespot? With the weirdos that roam in OT? Are you nuts?
#12 Posted by foxhound_fox (86984 posts) -

@foxhound_fox: ouch. Don't let her know you can't remember lol.

She can't remember either. We saw each other every day for the first several months of our relationship.

#13 Posted by comp_atkins (31109 posts) -
  • 7th grade so probably 13 at the time
  • it was a double-date thing w/ my friend and 2 girls
  • i really liked the girl at the time but she didn't like me all that much
  • we just went to the mall to hang out and get lunch
  • hung around the mall for a while ( that's what kids did in the suburbs ) grabbed lunch @ the food court
  • i don't remember what we talked about.. it was a long ass time ago
  • in the short run it would have been cool if she liked me more at the time
  • disappointed
  • sorry, no juicy details
#14 Edited by AutoPilotOn (7974 posts) -

@foxhound_fox: we were together 4 out of 7 days a week first few months. Then we moved in together. She still gives me a quiz on what we did and what she was wearing at the time lol. I was there so much at her dorm they kicked me out a few times cause u were only aloud to stay so much.

#15 Posted by Korvus (2473 posts) -

@AutoPilotOn: Did you get the questions right? Between me and my wife I'm the one who remembers all the dates, all the places and all the conversations.

#16 Edited by AutoPilotOn (7974 posts) -

@korvus: oh yea she had on a tight green corset. She wore in purpose to get my attention it worked lol. I brought her flowers. Waited outside in snow at wrong door to her dorm when I could of waited in lobby. We saw a movie a theater her sister worked at so I met her and both had chicken tenders at longhorn steakhouse lol. This was jan 2008.

Oh the movie was Juno.

#17 Edited by Netret0120 (1917 posts) -
@indzman said:

19 , took her to a to a amusement park as she insisted visiting there, my cousin brother was with us also as he was staying with us around that time. good ol times :)

You hit that?;)

#18 Edited by GazaAli (22491 posts) -

I'm yet to go on an actual date. Here, I said it.

I have been involved "with" someone a couple of times in the past few years and the opposite party was aware of it at the time and on board over the span of the relationship though. Both instances were just fucked up, they rendered me emotionally handicapped and romantically impotent.

#19 Posted by Korvus (2473 posts) -

@AutoPilotOn: Well done! Proud of you =P It's little things like those that gets you points in a relationship...it gives me a good advantage XD

Actually it was funny; last week my wife was meeting with a big group of (female) friends, and I only knew one or 2 of them so we were being introduced and one of them shook my hand and said her name, so I said "Weren't you in (insert place name here) last year in October?" and she said "Yeah, I was....how did you know?" and I replied "I saw you perform, you were wearing a really cute white dress" *huge collective shocked gasp* and a bunch of them were saying to my wife "Holy crap, he remembered what she was wearing!!! I didn't know men could do that!!!" so obviously my wife decided to brag about me, saying I always pay attention when she gets new clothes, earring, hair style, etc. I became an instant success with the whole group XD

#20 Posted by GazaAli (22491 posts) -

@korvus said:

Between me and my wife I'm the one who remembers all the dates, all the places and all the conversations.

Would you say that you sometimes feel as if your wife has amnesia/dementia as far as names, past events and conversations are concerned? If yes then how does that make you feel and what is the cause of it?

Sorry if I'm being presumptuous here, feel free to ignore the post in case I'm intruding.

#21 Posted by Kevlar101 (5977 posts) -

Never been on a date.

Not even a "friends hanging out" kind of date, let alone a romantic date.

#22 Edited by Korvus (2473 posts) -

@GazaAli: Nah, I'll let you know if you ever offend me; it hasn't happened yet =D

Maybe I made it sound worse than it is. She remembers birthdays, anniversaries, etc etc but I remember a lot more things. I remember places, clothes, conversation topics, etc. Like last month, she said "I wanted to buy Debby a pair of earrings for her birthday and she said she likes to match her earrings to her eye colour but I never really payed attention to her eye colour" and I just automatically said "amber but they look greenish in sunlight" and she looks at me like "How the hell...?"

#23 Edited by AutoPilotOn (7974 posts) -

@korvus: eye colors are something I can't remember. We were at her cousins wedding. It was all fancy and proper. But had open bar so I was flat out wasted lol. The song Brown eyed girl played she asked me her eye color during the song for some reason and of course I just said brown.. Wrong green. I also picked her up on dance floor and accidentally pulled back if her dress up to show all the guests her underwear lol.

#24 Edited by GazaAli (22491 posts) -

@korvus said:

@GazaAli: Nah, I'll let you know if you ever offend me; it hasn't happened yet =D

Maybe I made it sound worse than it is. She remembers birthdays, anniversaries, etc etc but I remember a lot more things. I remember places, clothes, conversation topics, etc. Like last month, she said "I wanted to buy Debby a pair of earrings for her birthday and she said she likes to match her earrings to her eye colour but I never really payed attention to her eye colour" and I just automatically said "amber but they look greenish in sunlight" and she looks at me like "How the hell...?"

I see rofl. I ask this because I myself have a terrible memory when it comes to such trivialities and minuscule details *blushes*

For some reason, it feels as if my memory has this hole at the bottom that lets most names, marginal past events and conversations and general details just fall through freely -_-

#25 Edited by Korvus (2473 posts) -

@AutoPilotOn: Well...at least it's a story worth telling, right? =p I don't drink, so if I mess up something like that I'm screwed XD

@GazaAli: Don't worry, it's not any better to have your head full of mostly insignificant and useless details. Then maybe if you wife tells you to remind her of something the next day you actually will be able to; sometimes I forget...but if she needs somebody's eye or shoe colour I can tell her! hehe

#26 Posted by AutoPilotOn (7974 posts) -

@korvus: I don't drink much but it was open bar with a bunch of people I didn't know in Indianapolis so what better way to meet her cousins and other relatives than completely wasted

#27 Posted by elkoldo (936 posts) -

What was your first date like? (You can use the guide below).

  • How old were?
  • Who'd you go with? (Names are not necessary)
  • How did you feel about them? How did YOU feel?
  • Where did you go?
  • What did you do?
  • What did you talk about?
  • Anything you wish went better?
  • How did you feel afterward?
  • Please share all the details :D

The reason I'm asking is because I'm 17 and I have never been on a date. I kinda want to hear realistic stories from people I am somewhat familiar with.

Thanks for the responses in advance!

Not sure if it even was a date ,but ,well,that's all there is.I went up to her and asked her out for a coffee , she rejected furiously, implicitly telling me to go away.

  • 20 years and 1 month and 20 days old.
  • It would be me and her alone.I'd really like to mention her name ,it's Mina.(Hey Mina ,in case you're reading this ,it's me Erfan ! oh baby girl... )
  • Can't articulate.
  • Took the train back home.It was beginning to snow as I left.
  • You don't wanna know.
  • ....
  • Yeah.That's anyone's guess.
  • Despaired.Failed.
  • If you want more details just ask.
#28 Edited by plageus900 (936 posts) -

I was 14 years old. She was 14 as well.

We went to the movies together. My step father drove me to her house to pick her up. I brought her flowers.

I was nervous and so was she.

We talked quit a bit about our own interests.

Nothing went wrong so overall I'd say mission accomplished.

#29 Posted by speedfreak48t5p (6246 posts) -
#30 Edited by Vatusus (4238 posts) -

It actually went pretty well. I acted cool and smooth. The 2nd date though, it was rather awkward cause I didnt had any conversation left in me. Plenty of awkward silences. I managed to kiss the girl at the end of the night but it didnt went any further than that.

To answer your questions:

  • How old were? 22 I think
  • Who'd you go with? (Names are not necessary) With an Hungarian chick
  • How did you feel about them? How did YOU feel? A mix of slightly happy and confident
  • Where did you go? A cafe/bar
  • What did you do? only talk and drank two beers
  • What did you talk about? studies, projects, future, past, family, hobbies, music, etc, etc
  • Anything you wish went better? Yes, that I banged her and get over with it
  • How did you feel afterward? happy and confident
#31 Posted by lensflare15 (6174 posts) -