I have a question for you.
At what point did you feel you were "ready" for kids? Was there always a desire to want to start a family and have children?
The reason I ask is because my wife really wants children (sooner rather than later). We've been married for 2 years, together about 7 years. As most women I know who've gotten married, children is always a wish they want to have fulfilled. I however, don't feel the same way about it, never really did and she knows this and it does bother her. I could ultimately be a deal breaker for our marriage, and I'm aware of this.
I guess for me, I never really had the desire to want to have any children of my own. I'm not really fond of kids, but that's not to say that I don't like them. I guess I just have a hard time relating to anyone that young. That's why I'm curious as to why some men would and what the reasons are. Is it because it's something that you and your woman create? To carry on your family name?
People always tell me, "It's different when you have your own". I'm sure it is, but I don't know if taking a risk and having kids, solely for this reason is going to change how I feel about them. I was just hoping someone could shed some light on the subject; maybe was in a similar position as I am now and changed their mind?