Should I Tell Girls I'm A Virgin

im 25+ years old, thinking about going out on a some dates with some girls, should i tell them im a virgin or will that over complicate things?

Considering your age, you'll probably hook up with girls of your age stratum. So chances are, they won't be virgins and they would have the same impression of you. Now, that could complicate things because if you happened to hit it off with someone they'd be expecting a certain level of performance in bed and "technical experience" with the vagina that you obviously don't have.

I'm not sure though how you should make them aware of your v-status. I can't think of a non-awkward way of going about doing that. I'm sorry buddy it seems you're kind of screwed, unless you manage to contrive something subtle as a spur of the moment. Go to christianmingle.com, I'd assume its a haven for +25 years old virgins rofl

Just be honest about it and mention it at the right time. "Hi, I'm Paul and I'm a virgin" probably won't help your situation much (=P) but if things start taking a romantic turn just let them know it's your first time; chances are, they won't mind, and if they do, they're probably not someone you'd want to have a relationship with. Just don't be embarrassed about it and the girl will see it as something natural as well.

be honest

I don't think you should, it could put them off because they'll wonder why you're still a virgin and possibly suspect there might be something wrong with you. Your number one priority should be getting laid, so who cares if you have to tell a few little white lies here and there if it helps?

When it hits the time that being a virgin or not matters then it won't matter. And If it's all about scoring in the first place then why the hell warn her? Worse case you piss her off after getting off and you really won't care. If it's something that's substantial, and looking long term, then most chances are she won't mind whatsoever.

Simply fucking isn't complicated. Less something is wrong with you in the head you should know exactly what to do. But conquering is something else entirely.

dont bring it up if you dont have to. its nothing to hate yourself over but you dont need to tell the world.

Touch her shoulder, no longer virgin!

Basically that.

You won't be able to hide it.

You don't need to tell them unless they ask. I don't think they would care unless they ask and get freaked out for some reason

I wouldn't consider it first date material, that's for sure. There's no point in sharing that information until a relationship starts getting more serious.

Let some mutual respect for one another develop before divulging that information, preferably before you lose your virginity in order to lessen her expectations. I mean, let's face it, you're going to be a two-pump chump the first time.

It's irrelevant, so why tell?

I think girls love a virgin man... it's like a brand new fresh fruit juice.. )

@MirkoS77: this last girl i was trying to get with asked me if I was a virgin, it's like she knew and I'm trying to figure out how. she just laughed when I said I don't talk about that stuff, of course that response gave it away.

Let your bodies speak for yourselves.

yeah

might think i may not know what to do during sex

just wandering if i should point this out to potential mates before things get serious

This. I wouldn't lie about it if they specifically ask, but in general I don't see the gain in telling her outright.

Always go with the Truth.

Now... it maybe a bit difficult at age 25+

But when I was 19-21 I would admit it when I was with a girl and all of them were fine by it (but it was becuz most of them were 17-20 years old and were virgins them selfs and/or Christians, so they liked that and rather be with some one else who was also virgin cuz they wouldnt feel pressure).

Im not a virgin anymore, but I still some times fake that Im a virgin every now and them when Im with a good girl/Christian/religious girl cuz they feel more comfortable with me and for some reason like me better.

Its different man... when i was a virgin I didnt really care that I was. I wasnt holding out till marriage, but for some unknown reason I was holding out. IDK for wat exactly, I had girls that did throw it at me a few times and I turned them down. Again, IDK why I was holding out and for wat, but I did. And being a virgin never bothered me. I was never frustrated, but I guess it would have been different if I had never gotten attention from no girls, then I can see my self being frustrated and being bothered by being a Virginia.

Again it all depends on the girls too. The good girls and religious girls would most likely like that you are (if you are cool about it and it shows that it is not important to you).

Be honest otherwise it would turn out to be awkward.

How about you stay a virgin until you get married like the Bible says?

at first don't tell them anything if they don't ask, but if they do, tell 'em the truth.

I don't know, but you shouldn't lie.

^^I'm not sure you should listen this dude, he doesn't seem to know much about women.

Find yourself a good woman. She won't care.

I would lie if I were you. Screw telling the truth. I lost my virginity last year when I was twenty four and after I told the girl I was a virgin - which was midway through the act - she asked me to leave and demanded that I never see her again. Women are unempathetic toward male issues regarding masculinity and simply won't care about your reason(s) as to why you're a virgin.

Pretty much this. If the topic of sex arises, and you are asked, then you can say you are. Also, don't sound like you're embarrassed by it. Be proud of it. They'll think you have good reason to wait, that you have standards and aren't just after women to date for sex.

i would agre with this

If a woman laughs at you for being a virgin, she isn't worth your time.

Pretty much this.. If you find someone you love and they love you then it should not matter one bit if you're a virgin.

find some practice girls, or go somewhere where prostitution is legal

but no, don't tell girls that

@foxhound_fox: she laughed but she was still interested but I messed things up with her... ugh still can't get over her cause she was putting way more effort into getting with me then I was with getting with her... I'm socially inept so I couldn't close the deal.

Move on and put energy into a new woman. No woman that can't respect a man for being a virgin is not a woman worth investing time in (unless you are looking for casual sex).

It's not something you want to lie about.

If you're tying to start something serious, then your sexual history can be important to a relationship. Lying about it will only cause problems in the future.

If you're just looking to pick up and they don't know you're a virgin, your awkwardness and lack of experience will be off-putting. Rather than thinking that you don't know what you're doing (but can learn), they'll think that you know what you're doing (but you suck).

So I don't see any advantage to lying about it. If anything, your virginity would be a big selling point, given how relatively rare it is for guys of your age.

The one and only time I told a girl I was a virgin I ended up not losing my virginity to her. In a perfect world none of that would matter. Unfortunately, it has been my experience that girls prefer guys who aren't virgins. My advice? Lie. And to make it perfectly clear you aren't, be the first one to bring it up.

For once you and I agree on something, AirHead.

Also, don't wear dreadlocks. Girls get creeped out by the them. Makes you look like you're going to kill their families with a rusty machete.

I don't have dread locks; I have box braids.

I was talking to the TC. You just got caught in the quote chain.

U should say "I'm a virgin but that doesn't mean in can't change" "wink" "wink"

Why would you randomly tell the OP not to wear dread locks? Don't play games, AirHead. You were talking to me.

I have no idea who you are.

@-Blasphemy-:

Girls that I've talked to say they like it when a guy is a virgin since it's hard to find. You're like a gem. Confidence, however is the most important.

Let them figure out themselves when you jizz just from them touching you.

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