Relationship help, I need some suggestions and good advise.

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#1 Posted by LegitGamer3212 (1593 posts) -

Hey my father has been lecturing me about my girl friend. I got into a argument with him tonight. He keeps telling me to break up with my girl friend. The main reason is because he said...when my girl friend laughs her upper gums show in her mouth, in other words she has a weird smile and a short upper lip that exposes her upper teeth and gums when she smiles. My dad also claims she's poor, short, and unattractive. He lectured me about how I can do way better than to be with her. He believes if I was to have a kid with her, the kids will be short, unattractive, and have a weird smile like her. I told my father that I like her personality, I'm happy with her, and looks aren't everything. Father got pissed and called a dating service in an attempt to hook me up with another girl. It is true she has a short upper lip and her upper gums show when she smiles. I been with her for 4 months now, I was the first guy she slept with. I'm 22 and she's 21. How should I approach this and what do you suggest I do?

#2 Posted by lundy86_4 (43010 posts) -

Wat?

Seriously?

Tell him to shut up.

#3 Posted by konvikt_17 (22170 posts) -

OTgirlproblems.png.

#5 Posted by ghoklebutter (19327 posts) -
Your dad is a judgmental douchebag. Ignore him.
#6 Posted by jimkabrhel (15417 posts) -

Your dad is a judgmental douchebag. Ignore him. ghoklebutter

#7 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -
Just say you're only in it for the sex, that'll get you in good terms with him and you won't be bullied anymore :P
#8 Posted by Treflis (11480 posts) -
Tell him to piss off and get out of your love life.
#9 Posted by XilePrincess (13128 posts) -
Your dad is a dlck and probably isn't getting laid so he's trying to c*ckblock you.
#10 Posted by WolfattheDoor34 (3278 posts) -
daddy knows best
#11 Posted by LegitGamer3212 (1593 posts) -

Your dad is a dlck and probably isn't getting laid so he's trying to c*ckblock you.XilePrincess

hey Xile whats up, yeah I don't know he told me he wants the best for me, I believe him. I feel he's being overbearing.

#12 Posted by Brosephus_Rex (507 posts) -

Your dad is right. A woman showing her gums to anyone but her husband or father is inappropriate behavior. She is probably a slut.

#13 Posted by Wilfred_Owen (20834 posts) -
Whip them out. See which is bigger. We'll take it from there.
#14 Posted by mindstorm (15242 posts) -
You are 22. While you should certainly respect your parents, you are old enough to make your own decisions.
#15 Posted by Hallenbeck77 (14401 posts) -

Your dad is right. A woman showing her gums to anyone but her husband or father is inappropriate behavior. She is probably a slut.

Brosephus_Rex
I always wondered why the local dentist's office is so much like a whorehouse...this explains a lot.
#16 Posted by LegitGamer3212 (1593 posts) -

[QUOTE="Brosephus_Rex"]

Your dad is right. A woman showing her gums to anyone but her husband or father is inappropriate behavior. She is probably a slut.

Hallenbeck77

I always wondered why the local dentist's office is so much like a whorehouse...this explains a lot.

She cant help it, she was born like that

#17 Posted by XilePrincess (13128 posts) -

[QUOTE="XilePrincess"]Your dad is a dlck and probably isn't getting laid so he's trying to c*ckblock you.LegitGamer3212

hey Xile whats up, yeah I don't know he told me he wants the best for me, I believe him. I feel he's being overbearing.

Nobody who tells you you shouldn't be with somebody because their gums stick out/they're ugly/your children with them will be ugly is looking out for your best interests. Disregard him completely, he doesn't want what's best for you, he wants what he thinks is best for you. His happiness = your happiness in his mind, and he doesn't feel you can be truly happy with an 'ugly' girl, and that's sad. Calling a dating service to find your adult child a new girlfriend because you think his is ugly is downright psychotic. I would take everything he says with a grain of salt and keep him at arm's length.
#18 Posted by Kevlar101 (6072 posts) -
Your dad's an ass.
#19 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -
Just read that again, did he call an escort for you? Dude. That's awesome!
#20 Posted by Kurushio (10485 posts) -
As long as you find her attractive and like being with her then you should continue it. If she was just into you for your family's money or a stuck up princess type then maybe but from the information you've given us at least there isnt much reason to just ditch her because your dad said so.
#21 Posted by Boddicker (2522 posts) -

Default OT romance thread response:

She views you as worthless and weak.

#22 Posted by TacticalDesire (10713 posts) -

Default OT romance thread response:

She views you as worthless and weak.

Boddicker

Lol, doesn't work for this one :P.

#23 Posted by metroidfood (11173 posts) -

Have sex with her on your parent's kitchen table. If your father comes in, stare him down until you finish.

#24 Posted by super600 (30311 posts) -

Don't listen to your dad.

#25 Posted by codymcclain14 (6017 posts) -
tell your dad to shut the f*ck up. and that it's your life. then pull out your wittle pee-pee and b*tch slap him with it!...
#26 Posted by needled24-7 (15900 posts) -

tell him to get off your ass and it's none of his business who you date.

#27 Posted by Tigerman950 (2416 posts) -

No offense but your dad sounds like a jerk. It's up to you who you get to date/marry, not his, and just because he doesn't find her attractive doesn't mean you don't. They may be his grandchildren but not his children, therefore he doesn't have a say in that. If you haven't told him any of this you need to.

#28 Posted by GummiRaccoon (13598 posts) -

1) Move out of your parents house

2) No longer have to listen to their f*cking stupid rants

What country are you in?

#29 Posted by Shottayouth13- (6754 posts) -
Tell your dad to suck it.
#30 Posted by soulless4now (41370 posts) -

You're an adult, you don't have to take his sh*t. Ignore him.

#31 Posted by GummiRaccoon (13598 posts) -

In the spirit of the rest of these responses:

Tell your dad you are a grown ass man and you can do whatever the f*ck you want.

#32 Posted by bobaban (10554 posts) -
How hot is your mom>
#33 Posted by bobaban (10554 posts) -

Ok a serious response:

All parents judge who their kids date. Whether its looks, race, religion, etc. Usually itd just behind your back and if she/he is unliked they hope the relationship will break if not they may start liking the person you date.

#34 Posted by LordQuorthon (5286 posts) -

Apparently, your father is George Constanza, and that's pretty damn awesome.

#35 Posted by juden41 (4447 posts) -
Your dad is overstepping his bounds.
#36 Posted by dragonfly110 (27058 posts) -

Call your dad a dick and proceed with your day, he's just jealous because the p***y he's getting isn't as fresh as the stuff you've got.

#37 Posted by VaguelyTagged (10121 posts) -

am i the only one who thinks this is supposed to be a joke thread?

#38 Posted by tenaka2 (17019 posts) -

Hey my father has been lecturing me about my girl friend. I got into a argument with him tonight. He keeps telling me to break up with my girl friend. The main reason is because he said...when my girl friend laughs her upper gums show in her mouth, in other words she has a weird smile and a short upper lip that exposes her upper teeth and gums when she smiles. My dad also claims she's poor, short, and unattractive. He lectured me about how I can do way better than to be with her. He believes if I was to have a kid with her, the kids will be short, unattractive, and have a weird smile like her. I told my father that I like her personality, I'm happy with her, and looks aren't everything. Father got pissed and called a dating service in an attempt to hook me up with another girl. It is true she has a short upper lip and her upper gums show when she smiles. I been with her for 4 months now, I was the first guy she slept with. I'm 22 and she's 21. How should I approach this and what do you suggest I do?

LegitGamer3212

How short are we talking about?

#40 Posted by thegerg (14859 posts) -
My advice is that you get rid of the ugly chick and learn the difference between the words "advise" and "advice."
#41 Posted by Mike-uk (2088 posts) -

Knock your dad out. Then poop on him.

#42 Posted by LegitGamer3212 (1593 posts) -

[QUOTE="LegitGamer3212"]

Hey my father has been lecturing me about my girl friend. I got into a argument with him tonight. He keeps telling me to break up with my girl friend. The main reason is because he said...when my girl friend laughs her upper gums show in her mouth, in other words she has a weird smile and a short upper lip that exposes her upper teeth and gums when she smiles. My dad also claims she's poor, short, and unattractive. He lectured me about how I can do way better than to be with her. He believes if I was to have a kid with her, the kids will be short, unattractive, and have a weird smile like her. I told my father that I like her personality, I'm happy with her, and looks aren't everything. Father got pissed and called a dating service in an attempt to hook me up with another girl. It is true she has a short upper lip and her upper gums show when she smiles. I been with her for 4 months now, I was the first guy she slept with. I'm 22 and she's 21. How should I approach this and what do you suggest I do?

tenaka2

How short are we talking about?

not very short at all 5 feet 3

#43 Posted by michaelP4 (16680 posts) -
From your description, it sounds like your GF has a cleft palate, which can indeed be passed on to children but not always. Even then, there do exist operations which can fix it to the point where only a scar is left. Regardless, your Dad has no right to tell you who to date so do what you think and feel is best.
#44 Posted by ShadowMoses900 (17081 posts) -

Your Dad sounds like an **** You shouldn't listen or worry about what he thinks or says, only what you think. If you find her attractivce and want to keep seeing her then go ahead. I wouldn't let my Dad talk about my girl that way.

#45 Posted by NirdBerd (2116 posts) -

You should break up with her, and when she asks why, just tell her because your dad can see her gums when she smiles, and he is just concerned with what's best for you.

I'm sure she'll understand.

Seriously did you just make a thread asking for relationship help and I come into this thread and it's about that?

That?

THAT?!