"It's best to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all"

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#1 jm4847
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Do you agree with this statement?

The issue about whether the pain of having your heart broken and your dreams shattered is worth the joy has always fascinated me, but I'm still not able to find an answer or a way to deal with the potential pain.

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#2 a55assin
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I'd rather never have felt love..if it was love. I still can't get over it...and it was like a week long..God damn you for reminding me.
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Total horse shhht!
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#4 kylekatarn10
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Meh, I have loved before. Though I think this phrase is completetely and utterly stupid to say the least...
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#5 yamum2
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Yes i do agree with that statement.
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Do you agree with this statement?

The issue about whether the pain of having your heart broken and your dreams shattered is worth the joy has always fascinated me, but I'm still not able to find an answer or a way to deal with the potential pain.

jm4847
Whoever said that bulls*** was obviously never in love.
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#7 Lobster_Ear
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The statement is true. The loneliness of never feeling love can be way worse. At least if you have had your heart broken you feel human and you can tell that you have once loved another being. People whom have never loved get really depressed and it can even lead to suicide. Having your heart broken may hurt temporarily, but it is nothing compared to the feeling of not having a heart to be broken in the first place.
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#8 Def_Jef88
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no, i dont.  Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...
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#9 MagnumPI
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Do you agree with this statement?

The issue about whether the pain of having your heart broken and your dreams shattered is worth the joy has always fascinated me, but I'm still not able to find an answer or a way to deal with the potential pain.

jm4847

No, that's like saying it's better to be a loser and have a taste of that which you cannot have instead of avoiding the desire. Or it's better to have had some cocaine and get cutt off than never have been addicted to it in the first place.

  Love & Sex are a drugs. Once you get it you stop chasing after it or looking for it. But if you never had it, it means nothing, because you don't what you are missing. So you don't care.

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#10 Lobster_Ear
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no, i dont. Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...Def_Jef88
No you wouldn't. Believe me. Being alone may feel good for awhile (maybe even years), but sooner or later the depression and emptiness will get you.
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#11 TehAirHendrix
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Yeah....... what's with the dumbass posts tonight? They're supposed to get bettah. Ah damnn....
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#12 Matthew_Kaeser
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Love is highly overrated... Perhaps I am only saying that because my wife of 10 years no lobger loves me and we are getting a divorce.
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#13 Lobster_Ear
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[QUOTE="jm4847"]

Do you agree with this statement?

The issue about whether the pain of having your heart broken and your dreams shattered is worth the joy has always fascinated me, but I'm still not able to find an answer or a way to deal with the potential pain.

MagnumPI

No, that's like saying it's better to be a loser and have a taste of that which you cannot have instead of avoiding the desire. Or it's better to have had some cocaine and get cutt off than never have been addicted to it in the first place.

Love & Sex are a drugs. Once you get it you stop chasing after it or looking for it. But if you never had it, it means nothing, because you don't what you are missing. So you don't care.

Humans desire love and sex even if they have never had it. So that is a bad comparison.
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no, i dont. Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...Def_Jef88
very true...especially the really long relationships and be destroyed with a couple of words.....
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#15 Def_Jef88
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[QUOTE="Def_Jef88"]no, i dont. Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...Lobster_Ear
No you wouldn't. Believe me. Being alone may feel good for awhile (maybe even years), but sooner or later the depression and emptiness will get you.

ive been alone for a long time, trust me.  I did feel depression and emptiness, but i got over it...
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#16 rimnet00
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It's a great quote, and I agree with it.
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#17 Lobster_Ear
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[QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"]no, i dont. Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...Def_Jef88
No you wouldn't. Believe me. Being alone may feel good for awhile (maybe even years), but sooner or later the depression and emptiness will get you.

ive been alone for a long time, trust me. I did feel depression and emptiness, but i got over it...

May I ask how long? You will desire love again sooner or later. It is human nature. You can't fight it.
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#18 Def_Jef88
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[QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"]no, i dont. Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...Lobster_Ear
No you wouldn't. Believe me. Being alone may feel good for awhile (maybe even years), but sooner or later the depression and emptiness will get you.

ive been alone for a long time, trust me. I did feel depression and emptiness, but i got over it...

May I ask how long? You will desire love again sooner or later. It is human nature. You can't fight it.

about 3 years...
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#19 MagnumPI
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[QUOTE="Def_Jef88"]no, i dont. Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...Lobster_Ear
No you wouldn't. Believe me. Being alone may feel good for awhile (maybe even years), but sooner or later the depression and emptiness will get you.

  Yes, Sooner or later depression is gonna get ya. Sooner or later depression is GONNA GET YA!! Then sooner or later love is gonna get ya, LOVE IS GONNA GET YA!! Then you at that point you might as well face it.. you're addicted to love.

  See, the songs speak the truth.

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[QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"]no, i dont. Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...Def_Jef88
No you wouldn't. Believe me. Being alone may feel good for awhile (maybe even years), but sooner or later the depression and emptiness will get you.

ive been alone for a long time, trust me. I did feel depression and emptiness, but i got over it...

May I ask how long? You will desire love again sooner or later. It is human nature. You can't fight it.

about 3 years...

That's nothing. Absolutely nothing.
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#21 Def_Jef88
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[QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"]no, i dont. Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...Lobster_Ear
No you wouldn't. Believe me. Being alone may feel good for awhile (maybe even years), but sooner or later the depression and emptiness will get you.

ive been alone for a long time, trust me. I did feel depression and emptiness, but i got over it...

May I ask how long? You will desire love again sooner or later. It is human nature. You can't fight it.

about 3 years...

That's nothing. Absolutely nothing.

well i dont need anybody, and i never will.  Loneliness doesent bother me.  People bother me
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#22 MagnumPI
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[QUOTE="MagnumPI"][QUOTE="jm4847"]

Do you agree with this statement?

The issue about whether the pain of having your heart broken and your dreams shattered is worth the joy has always fascinated me, but I'm still not able to find an answer or a way to deal with the potential pain.

Lobster_Ear

No, that's like saying it's better to be a loser and have a taste of that which you cannot have instead of avoiding the desire. Or it's better to have had some cocaine and get cutt off than never have been addicted to it in the first place.

Love & Sex are a drugs. Once you get it you stop chasing after it or looking for it. But if you never had it, it means nothing, because you don't what you are missing. So you don't care.

Humans desire love and sex even if they have never had it. So that is a bad comparison.

  Well.. I didn't desire it as much as I do now. All I knew is that other people did it and wanted. I had no idea why they were desprate for it. I do now. Then I learned because it's a damn drug. You don't want to lose your supply.

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[QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"]no, i dont. Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...Def_Jef88
No you wouldn't. Believe me. Being alone may feel good for awhile (maybe even years), but sooner or later the depression and emptiness will get you.

ive been alone for a long time, trust me. I did feel depression and emptiness, but i got over it...

May I ask how long? You will desire love again sooner or later. It is human nature. You can't fight it.

about 3 years...

That's nothing. Absolutely nothing.

well i dont need anybody, and i never will. Loneliness doesent bother me. People bother me

You say that now. 5 to 10 more years without love or any sexual contact and you will have a whole different perspective.
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#24 Lobster_Ear
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[QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="MagnumPI"][QUOTE="jm4847"]

Do you agree with this statement?

The issue about whether the pain of having your heart broken and your dreams shattered is worth the joy has always fascinated me, but I'm still not able to find an answer or a way to deal with the potential pain.

MagnumPI

No, that's like saying it's better to be a loser and have a taste of that which you cannot have instead of avoiding the desire. Or it's better to have had some cocaine and get cutt off than never have been addicted to it in the first place.

Love & Sex are a drugs. Once you get it you stop chasing after it or looking for it. But if you never had it, it means nothing, because you don't what you are missing. So you don't care.

Humans desire love and sex even if they have never had it. So that is a bad comparison.

Well.. I didn't desire it as much as I do now. All I knew is that other people did it and wanted. I had no idea why they were desprate for it. I do now. Then I learned because it's a damn drug. You don't want to lose your supply.

It all depends on how long you go without it. I will admit that in a way sex can be like a drug, but LOVE is different. People desire love. It is human instinct to want to be loved and give love.
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#25 Def_Jef88
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[QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"]no, i dont. Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...Lobster_Ear
No you wouldn't. Believe me. Being alone may feel good for awhile (maybe even years), but sooner or later the depression and emptiness will get you.

ive been alone for a long time, trust me. I did feel depression and emptiness, but i got over it...

May I ask how long? You will desire love again sooner or later. It is human nature. You can't fight it.

about 3 years...

That's nothing. Absolutely nothing.

well i dont need anybody, and i never will. Loneliness doesent bother me. People bother me

You say that now. 5 to 10 more years without love or any sexual contact and you will have a whole different perspective.

i doubt it...  I have a few close friends and thats all i need.
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[QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="Def_Jef88"]no, i dont. Id rather spend all my days alone than to ever be given a glimmer of hope and just as quickly have it snatched from my very hands...Def_Jef88
No you wouldn't. Believe me. Being alone may feel good for awhile (maybe even years), but sooner or later the depression and emptiness will get you.

ive been alone for a long time, trust me. I did feel depression and emptiness, but i got over it...

May I ask how long? You will desire love again sooner or later. It is human nature. You can't fight it.

about 3 years...

That's nothing. Absolutely nothing.

well i dont need anybody, and i never will. Loneliness doesent bother me. People bother me

You say that now. 5 to 10 more years without love or any sexual contact and you will have a whole different perspective.

i doubt it... I have a few close friends and thats all i need.

Well, if you can go the rest of your life without even having the desire to be loved then I give you props because you would have then disproved human nature.
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#27 jm4847
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Love is highly overrated... Perhaps I am only saying that because my wife of 10 years no lobger loves me and we are getting a divorce. Matthew_Kaeser
Yeah that might make you a bit biased.
You say that now. 5 to 10 more years without love or any sexual contact and you will have a whole different perspective.Lobster_Ear
That's a good point actually. Is the necessity of love like drug addiction, or just part of human nature? Can we get over it?
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I wouldn't know, so I can't say.

...Damn, why did I bother posting at all...

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#29 MagnumPI
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[QUOTE="MagnumPI"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="MagnumPI"][QUOTE="jm4847"]

Do you agree with this statement?

The issue about whether the pain of having your heart broken and your dreams shattered is worth the joy has always fascinated me, but I'm still not able to find an answer or a way to deal with the potential pain.

Lobster_Ear

No, that's like saying it's better to be a loser and have a taste of that which you cannot have instead of avoiding the desire. Or it's better to have had some cocaine and get cutt off than never have been addicted to it in the first place.

Love & Sex are a drugs. Once you get it you stop chasing after it or looking for it. But if you never had it, it means nothing, because you don't what you are missing. So you don't care.

Humans desire love and sex even if they have never had it. So that is a bad comparison.

Well.. I didn't desire it as much as I do now. All I knew is that other people did it and wanted. I had no idea why they were desprate for it. I do now. Then I learned because it's a damn drug. You don't want to lose your supply.

It all depends on how long you go without it. I will admit that in a way sex can be like a drug, but LOVE is different. People desire love. It is human instinct to want to be loved and give love.

  Ahh, you mean comfort. Which depends on what type of person you are. Some people don't need it and some don't want it because they have set themselves for enough disappointments within their lifetime. Life is much easier when everyone is a customer and it's all business. Attatchment just leads to breakdown.

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#30 Lobster_Ear
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[QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="MagnumPI"][QUOTE="Lobster_Ear"][QUOTE="MagnumPI"][QUOTE="jm4847"]

Do you agree with this statement?

The issue about whether the pain of having your heart broken and your dreams shattered is worth the joy has always fascinated me, but I'm still not able to find an answer or a way to deal with the potential pain.

MagnumPI

No, that's like saying it's better to be a loser and have a taste of that which you cannot have instead of avoiding the desire. Or it's better to have had some cocaine and get cutt off than never have been addicted to it in the first place.

Love & Sex are a drugs. Once you get it you stop chasing after it or looking for it. But if you never had it, it means nothing, because you don't what you are missing. So you don't care.

Humans desire love and sex even if they have never had it. So that is a bad comparison.

Well.. I didn't desire it as much as I do now. All I knew is that other people did it and wanted. I had no idea why they were desprate for it. I do now. Then I learned because it's a damn drug. You don't want to lose your supply.

It all depends on how long you go without it. I will admit that in a way sex can be like a drug, but LOVE is different. People desire love. It is human instinct to want to be loved and give love.

Ahh, you mean comfort. Which depends on what type of person you are. Some people don't need it and some don't want it because they have set themselves for enough disappointments within their lifetime. Life is much easier when everyone is a customer and it's all business. Attatchment just leads to breakdown.

Believe it or not people that just have "customers" end up being some of the most depressed people out there because they feel empty. Love is temporary. Just because you don't want it does not mean that you don't need it.You just need to face the fact that almost 90% of the time you will not stay with the person you love. Humans were not meant to stay with one person forever. That does not mean you do not need love though. Just like love, the breakdown is also temporary. You will get over it and love again. You need love. It's just the way of life.
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Yes.