No luck finding a girl.

So I date online but the selection is really bad. I mean, I live in florida, where you think all the beautiful girls would live but no. Lots of old and unattractive girls. Unless Im dating on the wrong sites, I'm on Okcupid and PoF, Slim pickings. I rarely get a chance to leave the house and when I do it's to get a gallon of milk or something.

Any tips for a guy like me?

You're dating the wrong sites...I used to live in Florida and there's amazing looking women everywhere.

As far as tips, I don't really have any. I've been married for 13 years and was with my wife 2 years before that. I have no idea how dating works these days lol especially since it seems a lot of that happens online now. I would say though get out of the house more. Pick up some hobbies that are social and would put you into contact with similar minded women.

For instance, if you like gaming maybe try a board game social group:

http://www.meetup.com/

Find a large-ish group with plenty of women and start attending/playing. Don't be a creep though and just go to meet a girl, you know have fun and make friends. At some point it should progress from there.

The reality is you are going to have a hard time meeting women sitting in your house all day. Then again what the hell do I know? I haven't dated in almost 2 decades :lol:

Join in the marriage programs on tv ;)

I'll check out meetup.com, thank you.

Try a foreign wife service.

She doesn't look terrified in the slightest,

If you have a job women will come to you.

Use meetup instead. Find a singles event and then mingle instead of messaging each person separately on a dating site.

I'm Disabled and can't work. :(

False.

That only goes for us South Asians, bruh.

@and1salttape: Not in my experience. Above a certain age once women learn you are single and employed they are like sharks.

Agreed, I work in a hospital so I know that's a fact!! lol....seriously though, it's not like I'm fighting them off everyday but it is something that I deal with.

I'm in a situation now where I consider it a hit or a miss....

First you get de money, den you get the power, and DEN you get de WOMEN!!

I checked grindr but it seems to be for gays. Are any of those straight options?

Things are different in South Asia, lol.

I feel you. If you want sex you can visit quality call girls. Most of the quality call girls are clean and give you awesome time as they can be expensive, making you feel not lonely. Just use protection and don't end up as Charlie Sheen with HIV. As for finding your soul mate, join a gym or any programme/job where girls also work, you may find someone there :)

So are you rich, or just work at home ? Your age is older ? Or younger ? Have you tried different dating services ? If i were rich, and was single, i would still go to school. I mean there are lots of honeys there. Also hit the bars, lots of people to meet also. At least this was from my experience when younger. Also even though its not practical to date coworkers, there are possibilities there, even if it ends messed up because you can just quit.

I never like the idea of using dating sites, to many shit that can go wrong. Why not just go out, talk to a girl, get all the info. who you like and she if she like to go out, or just go to a Bar and find someone to hook up.

Your life is?. I'm not that lonely to go dating on websites. I would never do that how many creeps on there. I would go out and ask a total stranger round my town first. The only thing these days asking total stranger in street. You cant tell how old they are by looking. some 16 year olds look 25, 30 these days.

http://www.msn.com/en-gb/news/uknews/sussex-couple-george-kirby-103-and-doreen-luckie-91-become-the-oldest-couple-in-the-world-to-marry/ar-BBn9CTl?li=AA59G2&ocid=iehp

Could happen they joined a organisation to find friends for older people. got married 91 and a 103 year old.

I have a hard time just walking up and talking to strangers. Also bars are full of middle aged women.

tinder is what you are looking for

Wrong place dude

On a side note, what with this I live in Florida where the hot girls are supposed to be swarming the place? isn't Florida the place where old people go to die?

Absolutely no offense meant dude, but women usually run away from this.

Well highwind dude, thats why you go out with friends. At time friends can start the conversation for you, or have single girl friends which might be of your liking.

Yeah... friends...

That's only during spring break. Once it's over, you're left with the snowbirds (aka retirees/senior citizens). ;-)

Unless you're a hunk/stud, be happy you're in their friend zone. Maybe then, after they get to know you better, the friendship might mature to something more.

@TheHighWind: low self esteem is such a turn on.

Get money.

My uncle and aunt met when they were teenagers. They dated all throughout high school and college until they moved in together when they both graduated from grad school and eventually got married and had 2 kids. My uncle came from a poor family and had quite a bit of student debt while she came from a middle class family and had assistance paying her debts from her family, my aunts mother was opposed to the marriage. However, after a long period of work, my uncle made it is a stockbroker and became a multi millionaire with his own company, he ultimately became the 25th richest person in America. She put her faith in and married him when he was a penniless **** and she woke up one day married to millionaire. To this day, they have one of the best marriages I have ever seen.

That was the 1940's, shit like that doesn't happen anymore. You need to get money before a bitch gives a shit about you. When you make 200k + a year, then you might have a shot at dating a landwhale.

not sure landwhale is the right term. unless you are into that kind of thing

I'm with indzman.Get yourself a really nice looking escort.It's like ordering a pizza,you pick the type of woman you want,and most escort agencies are pretty clean.Much cleaner then your avg street hooker.

Best advice I can give is stop looking.

I stopped looking and was connected with someone on an eHarmony account I didn't check anymore (got an email saying I had a message) who I've been with for almost 7 years and am marrying next year.

That sucks. It probably won't happen if you want something long term.

Pretty much.

But you can find every flavor of Latina in Florida.

I just misread no f*ck instead of luck. :p

You are looking at middle aged women the wrong way. Get yourself a couger, or as above why not pay for it, if that is the motivation at least. Socially a gym is a good route to take, not for the sole aim of meeting someone for romantic aims, but for meeting women. Maybe meet a friend of friend and all that. Good luck.

Forget women.

Work hard and raise your social status. Women will come and go, but when you work hard you guarantee yourself and your children a better future. Women will come when you're the best version of yourself.

Worst excuse I ever heard. No one cares you're disabled or not, you can still work and achieve something can't you?

but he's not looking for a bitch, he's looking for a girl

@TheHighWind: I'm in kind of a similar situation. Granted, I don't live in Florida, but I'm actually surprised how hard it is to come across women who live in Central New York. I did read that my area has slightly higher male-to-female ratio, so maybe that has something to do with it.

POF, I've been on it for like a week now. I gotta say, my first impression of it isn't real great. Lots of attractive-looking women, both in my city and within a 40-mile radius. But I've probably sent out like 30 different messages by now, and only one person has messaged me back - not because they are interested, but because they want to talk about a band they're in. This person has never even looked at my profile!

I've gotten a few page views, mostly from people who I've favorited and tried to contact. Nobody has favorited me. And I got like 3 "meet-up" requests, but when I tried to contact the users they never said anything back to me.I'm trying to stay kind of optimistic, in case maybe I haven't given it enough time. But I feel like the women on there are either bots, or else they have super-high-unrealistic standards, or else they just don't like me.

I think you should consider trying to go places and meet people. I mean no offense, but it seems like this computer dating shit is a joke. You can spend countless hours trying to get into contact with different women, and put a lot of effort into it, and you might just end up wasting a bunch of time that you could have spent meeting actual women right in your town.

I'm thinking about maybe hitting up bars one of these weeks. And hey, some of those middle-aged chicks are pretty good-looking! I mean, I'm sure younger girls go someplace to hang out, and you can look there, too. But give the bars and clubs a chance, you might meet someone - at least a friend or someone who wants to have some fun!

Good luck, bro-ski. We've just gotta have a little faith and keep it up.

@Ovirew: "middle-aged chicks are pretty good-looking" I always think are mums getting younger or me getting older?.

But you can walk right?

Women = Money x Time

Time = Money

Plug in.

Women = Money x Money

Women = Money^2

However...

Money = sqrt(Evil)

Women = sqrt(Evil)^2

Women = Evil

Even if this might not apply to the OP's situation (being disabled and unable to work), I think generally this is the best answer.

That's what my dad did for me. Once I got laid, I wasn't in a big hurry to find a steady girlfriend.

@skelly34: a greasy guitar playing dude would scoff at that equation, as would the poor painter and the NGO guy :d

Your point?

Disabled does not always mean you're in a wheelchair.

Sorry, but post menopausal women are just out of my league.

Why do you say that?