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Sometimes there are perfectly practical reasons for moving. Stuff like, "I need to move in order to get out of such a crime-ridden city" or "I need to move in order to take this awesome job I just got offered."

But then there's also "running from ones self." Crime or cost of living or employment opportunities are largely external factors. But "not being able to open up" is an internal thing. In all likelihood there's nothing stopping you from "opening up" right where you are now, and a change of location is likely to not make much if any difference. That sounds a whole lot like "running away from yourself", which in all likelihood won't amount to a hill of beans since wherever you go you're still going to be YOU.

Anyway, I'm not saying that you shouldn't go away or do something else. But I would recommend thinking about why you want to do it, what you expect that to solve, and if the problem is your location rather than yourself. Whatever you end up doing, just try to be smart about it.

I'm an introvert. I moved from Canada to Australia for school. It's pretty cool. I say go for it.

Your family musn't love you too much if they'll despise you for leaving for one year, despite you feeling it's for your own good, no?

Go for it, a change that big could really help you to improve your life and be happy, and if it doesn't, like you say it's only a year (but wait, if it does make you happy, will it still only be a year? Or will you be able to extend it?)

I have completely changed my American eating habits since beating Cancer, dairy and meats are minimal, processed foods are out, and I'm eating a lot of foods I would never have thought to eat, also green smoothies a lot, and specific vitamins. I feel much better.

I've left my country (permanently as far as I'm concerned) and I couldn't be happier. My family hated it but they came around when they realised the choices were either having less contact with me or not having contact with me at all.

The hardest part for me was the cultural shock and the language...it didn't take me long to be able to speak at a conversational level but even after almost 3 years here I still feel that a lot of my personality is missing since I'm a "quick humour" kind of guy and that's hard to achieve when you haven't mastered the language. Will you need to learn a new language where you're going?

Do what your gut tells you. Sounds like your ready to be molded into the unknown yourself. I'd say travel the world. If you feel military is right, it might just be. Sounds like you've had a great life to this point. Do what your heart, and gut tell you. Live your dream OBi Wan ! Do it, just do it !

do it

@Watch_My_6: No problem; let us know what you've decided and feel free to ask any questions you might have =)

And alcohol?

Sit down. Make a list PROS and CONS. If the pros outweigh the cons, go for it. If they're equal, go for it. If the con list is MUCH LONGER than the pro list, then think long and hard. (If I were you, I'd take the job first. Military life can be really hard.)

@Watch_My_6: Definitely. I love the country, but home is home....and it's expensive and the internet sucks here.

@Iszdope: atleast you are changing it now again, gaming is a way better drug ;p

You sound like you regret who you are or something. Drastic solutions are an immature way to try to solve your problems (and usually don't work). Going to some place you've never been, without any real incentive (that job isn't much of an incentive), sounds like a dumbass decision. Want to be less introverted or less shy? Try talking to people. Go to parties. Loosen up. Baby steps. Don't jump into the deep end of the pool. You're just going to be some lonely shallow dude living away from the people you know, moving won't automatically solve any problems for you, trust me. I know plenty of people who move to solve their problems and it *never* works.

If you're introverted or shy and regret it - remember that you're in control of the way you act. If you're introverted, there's probably a good reason for it, and if you don't believe so - then make an effort to spend time with other people.

If you genuinely want to live somewhere else for other reasons...then move. But doing it because you think it'll automatically change who you are for the better is a mistake. I honestly think you'd be better off joining the military, that would put things into perspective.

To me, it sounds like the real solution to your problems is to get a new job (since you believe you're overqualified), make friends there, and maybe do some other activities to make some friends. Work on your life directly. What this thread is suggesting is the equivalent to one of those generic crap plots in a sitcom (or even what the Dr. did in Babylon 5).

@Iszdope: WHOOO! HYPPPPEEE!

@Iszdope: K.O.!

I don't think you guys should be telling him who he will or will not become if he does this...not everybody reacts the same to big changes and since he is not you there is no way of knowing how he'll change.

@dylandr: You're happy I moved to your country, right? RIGHT?!

You are a honest hard working foreigner so i don't see a problem with that :)

@dylandr: I am also adorable!

@korvus: i bet that you are such a player xD