Is It Possible?

Good day everyone, a question came to mind, and I wanted to gain your input and see your responses in regards to it, if you would be so kind.

Do you believe it is truly possible to be equally in love with more than one person at the same time?

@sheikhspeare: If only that were the case, lol.

Been there, done that. It isn't possible to be in love with one another, It's just too much trouble and make it double.

@angelcrr: My opinion is probably more biased than average since I'm the "they lived happily ever after" kind of guy, so I'd have to say you can only be truly, deeply, madly in love with one person at a time, but I can see how you could be romantically inclined towards more than one. Is this a hypothetical situation or are you trying to bite more than you can chew? =P Of course you don't need to answer, and if you wish to do so in private just send me a message.

@korvus: Happily Ever After is a beautiful notion and one I do agree with. To answer your question, no, I am chewing quite comfortably at the moment, lol.

@sheikhspeare: Oh wow, thanks! We're going to make a sweetheart out of you yet! =D

@davillain-: I understand, and It's nice to hear the response of someone who has experienced it. It helps keep my mind from blasting off at the speed of light. ;)

@sheikhspeare: That's beautiful :)

Love is a state of mind. I think you have to not be looking though....which means you are either uninterested in love at the moment....or you have fallen out of love with your partner already. I think you can love more than one at a time but I don't think you are in love. If you get the difference.

@LJS9502_basic: I understand, thank you so much for sharing your opinion. :)

No pretty sure it's not possible. You can love more than one person but you can't be romantically in love with more than one person. Heck I'd even say you can NEVER love two things equally let alone two persons. What you should do however when you're in such a tight spot is to express the same amount of love toward both persons even though deep down you love one more than the other.

@alim298: Based on what you have written, I do have a question if you don't mind. Being that you stated you can't love two people equally let alone two things, then when in that particular situation...can you realistically express the same amount of love towards them both? Wouldn't there be an overlap? By the way, thank you, you are challenging my thought process, and I appreciate it. :)

@angelcrr: The amount of love you can express is not necessarily all the love you can feel. One might even argue that because you are not entirely sure of your feelings and you are "dividing" between 2 people neither of them are receiving from you the full extent of devotion you are capable of.

@angelcrr: Also just like to point out that I dated a lot of girls when I was in High School but I wouldn't call it love, just lust is how I would put it. Like Korvus said, I bite more then I can chew and when I met my baby mama, I just stuck with her and I guess you could say that I kinda found true love but I'm not looking to marrying my baby mama and I'm not of those humans who believe in happy ever after. (No offence Korvus, I'm just saying like it is)

@davillain-: No offense taken my friend. Like Morpheus said when Jason told him not everyone believes as he believes: "My beliefs do not require them to." The important thing is to be happy with your own life.

@korvus: Wow...you actually have me at a loss for words. I have definitely never thought about it that way. Hmm...thank you Kor.

@davillain-: So one should first identify the true nature of one's feeling before even beginning to proceed. I didn't think about the possible lust side that could be present. Thank you Dav.

@angelcrr: I am just sharing my personal experience. When I first met the girl who was now my wife I was just dazzled, when I talked to her I was enthralled and by the time we parted (we lived in different countries) I was in love. It was the most amazing and at the same time suffocating emotion I have ever experienced. It was joy and pain, it was a rush and despair...I felt like I would not be able to deal with it for the 2 long years it took for me to move to her country.

Ever since we moved in together, every night I go to bed thinking that no matter what, there is no way I can love her any more and every morning, when her face is the first thing I see when I wake up I realise (all over again) that I was wrong.

Love is always changing, always evolving and it's all-encompassing in my life so I can tell you with absolute certainty that there is no place in my heart for romantic feelings towards another person. I give her everything I have, everything I am...I don't see how this would be possible towards 2 people. (I'm referring specifically in the romantic sense, of course you can love you husband/wife and your kids)

@korvus: That is so beautiful Kor, and I am so very happy for you, you are truly living a Happily Ever After. You say love is all consuming, so in actuality that type of passion could never be given to more than one person. How...does your heart know...is it always going to be a suffocating experience...pain....bliss...when do you come to the dramatic and ultimate conclusion that...this is the "one" person for me, and is it possible to get it wrong?

@angelcrr: I'm not sure there's a "correct" answer to that. I obviously can't speak for anyone other than myself...for me, I knew she was the one when no matter what situation I could possibly imagine she'd always be the one I'd see next to me. The good, the bad, the embarrassing, the accomplishments and the let downs, she was the one I wanted to share everything with.

Not sure I'm being able to convey to you that to me there's a difference between not being able to stop thinking about someone and the deeper feeling of not being able to imagine yourself without them in your life. Being in love with someone is not the most powerful feeling you can experience, but it is the one that matures into it; the one that "starts it", so to speak.

@korvus: I realize, I still have a lot self reflection that needs to happen...I can't thank you enough Kor, you and everyone else for sharing their opinions and provoking my thoughts. :)

@angelcrr: No problem; we're all very provocative here =P

@korvus: Lol you are never short on humor are you.

@angelcrr: The humour is constant...the quality of said humour, however, if very inconsistent.

I guess you can be equally in love with two people, I don't see why not. But then I suppose you wouldn't be fully in love with either of them. At least in my experience completely loving someone keeps all others out of my mind.

Haven't got the faintest idea.

You're welcome.

I'm not sure... Yeah I guess there will always be an overlap. But one should try at least :-)

I think you would always truly love one of the two more wholly than the other.

Even the woman you love will have physical or personal faults, nobody is perfect, therefore I believe its possible to feel like you love a second woman who lacks these negative traits. In reality this is more likely just lust and the human desire to seek the best of both worlds.

Iv certainly lusted after other women before falsely convincing myself that I was in love with them and that my current partner was lacking. In reality I was just lacking in self control and curious to be with and have sex with somebody with a different personality and body than my long term girlfriend. I dont blame myself for that. Il be looking at other woman till the day I die, but there's only one id die for.

I would like to thank everyone for their responses, you have provided me with much needed insight. You all have my sincerest gratitude. ;)

this basically settles the question

@BiancaDK: A picture truly is worth a thousand words, thank you :)

Glad i never had that problem. I lusted over someone else, but was in love with only one. When it came to time, it was not even a choice. I knew exactly who i loved. I can't imagine loving 2 at a time ? Wow, i don't think its possible. Unless, you were captured or lost in another Country, and then met someone else. But like i said, glad i'm not you. lol ..