In relationship what qualities you look for in women/men?

I really doubt that I will ever find such a woman.

What I realized is that most women these days have crappy personalities and the better-looking a woman is then probably the more selfish and evil she is.

And what do you have to offer in return?

I'm big and scary, so it's like having a pet modern day Sasquatch but I also have a good job :D

@Expane: Good things to have, no doubt =P

Don't worry and above all else don't lose hope. We will find love. We are decent people!

Being a Sasquatch, it can get a little warm in the summer. Ok, a LOT warm.

@Expane: True, but on the other hand, look at all that shade you make!

You're both awesome people =D Just live your life and don't force it...it'll happen.

Yeah dont force it, but if you are having trouble meeting good people you can increase your effort. Start saying yes more to social invites. That always worked for me post college. Just go out to stuff that might not sound fun at first, but if you randomly meet someone cool it's totes worth it.

The problem is of course that once you meet someone cool, you'll be back to saying no to all the invites because you'll be busy w/ love stuff :) and friends will resent you for it.

@Expane: Good advice ^_^

You are right. I'm a little more set to enrich my social life. And it's not easy for an introverted and kinda socially awkward person like me. But clearly going out twice a week for coffee/dinner/movie with my friends(who are still single like me) is not enough as I have never even come close to meeting "someone". I believe I can take it from there as long as a meeting condition is met. :) Like you said, all this until I find someone. :P

I know the feeling. I have a lot of internalized social anxiety. People I know or work with are always surprised to hear it because at my age, I am confident enough to speak to large groups of people / experts etc.. but just because I can do it, they don't see the internal struggle or how much stress it causes me.

Friends are a huge help, one time after a big breakout my friend would just simply invite me to everything he was invited to, no matter how small. I met 2 potential dates in 3 weeks of just randomly meeting up w/ his friends at a bar or someone's house. I even secured a date with one lady, but I made the mistake of going back to my old relationship instead :D

Meeting up for coffee is a nice start. but something about night-time and booze make it easier to grease the skids.

@korvus: If you say so Pedro, if you say so. I'll make sure to let you know, should I find that special someone someday :D

@johnd13: You're among the smartest and decentest men I've ever known, Ghost of Sparta. You'll get what you deserve.

@Expane: I've improved a lot over the years. I'm no longer the weird shy guy I once was when talking with strangers.

In this regard, my small circle of friends are pretty much clueless like me so I can't depend on them to bring the females on board. On the bright side, I'm not alone in this so we can cheer each other up.

I don't like night-life at all, I think I'm not at that phase yet. But I will give other places a try if it means enhancing my chances.

Thank you for the advice, all well said my friend.

@elkoldo: You are also a great person of equal smarts and decency Erfan. :) So like the gentleman in your pic said, have faith.

Being in a relationship doesn't necessarily mean being together all the time. It's really about how well two people support each other amidst everything else going on in their lives. And it depends how far the relationship is progressed. In the first few months (or first year) of a relationship, why should any normal person want to hang out all the time when there are other aspects of life to focus on as well? Twice a week is plenty of time to hang out. If you work full time - you have only so many hours of availability. Then you need to consider friends, family, personal time, responsibilities, etc. - When the girlfriend is asking to hang out every day or every other day, it makes me wonder how vapid her life must truly be that she has nothing else to pre-occupy her thoughts and time. Then at that point I have to cut ties because there's no equilibrium to the relationship.

It's just unhealthy from a development perspective. There's no reason why you should feel so fixated on someone that you need to spend all of your time with them, especially when you're under 24. Having an appropriate amount of space is really important in a relationship. Anyone who doesn't realize that hasn't been in a lengthy relationship. There's no reason why people who've been together for years wouldn't want to spend all their time together - that is completely fair, but the girls I'm referring to are ones that grow super attached within a couple of months of the relationship. There are tons of young women, after spending a few months with them, that are already imagining the rest of your lives together. It's creepily idealistic and optimistic on their behalves.

What do I look for IN a woman? My d*ck! :P

I like a laid back, open, sweet guy. Has to be into gaming. Cute. Glasses and a beard are a plus. Also helps if we have similar taste in music. :)

so you can get to know the person.

that is what dating is all about though, unless you dont want that then you would need to specify that in the begining. like i said, you dont want a girlfriend, you want a cut friend.