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#1 Posted by hell_player (454 posts) -

So today i told this girl i like her,when i told her i like her she gave a little smile but then when i say that i would like to get to know each other a little more she was like that i don't want anything now,so i told her no prob we can still be friends...

Before everithing i told her i needed to talk to her,and then she was very anxious and a little nervous

So anyway I screw up or she is thinking about this rigth now?

#2 Edited by Thessassin (1819 posts) -

How old are you?

#3 Edited by hell_player (454 posts) -

@Thessassin: I'm 22

#4 Posted by airshocker (29695 posts) -

You're in the friend zone now, bro.

#5 Posted by Thessassin (1819 posts) -

So whats the issue? you told a girl you like her and want to get to know her better and she rejected you?

#6 Edited by hell_player (454 posts) -

@Thessassin: Sorry, yea the thing is that who smiles like that when you say that kind of stuff...

#7 Posted by Thessassin (1819 posts) -

@hell_player said:

@Thessassin:

forget to type something?

#8 Posted by br0kenrabbit (12988 posts) -

"I like you"? That's what you said? Exactly what you said? Really?

No wonder she replied as she did. That's pretty meek and sheepish right there.

#9 Posted by hell_player (454 posts) -

Well i know it wasn't the best thing to say but still you think someone would smile if they don't wanted anything?

#10 Edited by themajormayor (25792 posts) -

@br0kenrabbit said:

"I like you"? That's what you said? Exactly what you said? Really?

No wonder she replied as she did. That's pretty meek and sheepish right there.

Should he have taken her hand and say come let's get some ice cream?

#11 Edited by Thessassin (1819 posts) -

@themajormayor said:

@br0kenrabbit said:

"I like you"? That's what you said? Exactly what you said? Really?

No wonder she replied as she did. That's pretty meek and sheepish right there.

Should he have taken her hand and say come let's get some ice cream?

protip: don't try this at a park with small children, apparently their parents call the "cops" and you're a "pedophile"

#12 Edited by br0kenrabbit (12988 posts) -

@themajormayor said:


Should he have taken her hand and say come let's get some ice cream?

Anything other than just saying "I like you." Weaksauce.

There's a million ways to come on to a girl, and "I like you" isn't one of them. You've gotta be quite a bit more daring than that.

#13 Posted by br0kenrabbit (12988 posts) -
@hell_player said:

Well i know it wasn't the best thing to say but still you think someone would smile if they don't wanted anything?

Yes.

#14 Posted by EmpiresDownfall (62 posts) -

Pursue her. Maybe she's trying to get a feel about whether you would be serious or not with her? Otherwise, there are plenty of other fish in the sea, as they say.

#15 Posted by HuggyBear1020 (456 posts) -

@hell_player said:

So today i told this girl i like her,when i told her i like her she gave a little smile but then when i say that i would like to get to know each other a little more she was like that i don't want anything now,so i told her no prob we can still be friends...

Before everithing i told her i needed to talk to her,and then she was very anxious and a little nervous

So anyway I screw up or she is thinking about this rigth now?

That's her polite way of saying she isn't attracted to you. Most females know within the first minute of meeting a guy whether or not they would ever consider having a relationship with him. She's already checked the "no" box for you.

#16 Edited by -Renegade (8340 posts) -

@hell_player said:

So today i told this girl i like her,when i told her i like her she gave a little smile but then when i say that i would like to get to know each other a little more she was like that i don't want anything now,so i told her no prob we can still be friends...

Before everithing i told her i needed to talk to her,and then she was very anxious and a little nervous

So anyway I screw up or she is thinking about this rigth now?

she's flattered but not interested just move on. shoulda been like "well fuck you then" when she said she doesnt want anything right now.

#17 Posted by Nengo_Flow (9766 posts) -

@hell_player said:

@Thessassin: I'm 22

#18 Edited by Nengo_Flow (9766 posts) -

@hell_player said:

@Thessassin: Sorry, yea the thing is that who smiles like that when you say that kind of stuff...

Jesus Christ man...................................

you are getting beyond pathetic.

You have so much to learn its not even funny.

#19 Edited by worlock77 (22547 posts) -

Ya done fucked up son.

#20 Edited by Shottayouth13- (6803 posts) -

@hell_player said:

Well i know it wasn't the best thing to say but still you think someone would smile if they don't wanted anything?

Yes. That was her I-don't-like-you-but-I-want-to-let-you-down-gently response.

Just move on brah.

#21 Posted by GamerForca (7094 posts) -

@hell_player said:

@Thessassin: I'm 22

lol 22... after reading the OP, I thought you were going to say something like 4...

#22 Edited by Braun_Roid_Rage (720 posts) -

LMAO, english your first language brah ? Sounds like some middle school shit.

#23 Edited by hell_player (454 posts) -

Well i think I'm moving on then, and yes english is not my first language...

#24 Edited by Sword-Demon (6970 posts) -

I'm screwed?

Nope

#25 Posted by PernicioEnigma (5374 posts) -

Don't assume a girl likes you until you're actually f*cking her, and even then don't assume she likes you THAT much.

#26 Edited by johnd13 (8145 posts) -

It was probably her polite way of saying "oh that's good but sorry I'm not interested". You should move on - more chances will come up.

#27 Posted by Gaming-Planet (14022 posts) -

@hell_player said:

@Thessassin: I'm 22

I thought you were 12.

#28 Posted by k--m--k (1013 posts) -

People really judgmental and rude here on such a simple matter.

Why is it bad to tell a girl that he likes her? Fastest way to know if a girl like you back or not.

#29 Posted by playmynutz (5983 posts) -

Better not to have screwed than pregnancy scares

Nice job closing the deal

#30 Posted by Nengo_Flow (9766 posts) -

@PernicioEnigma said:

Don't assume a girl likes you until you're actually f*cking her, and even then don't assume she likes you THAT much.

This man speaks the truth.

#31 Edited by hell_player (454 posts) -

So how i was supposed to handle this then?

#32 Edited by ExtremeBanana (152 posts) -

giv her a noscope tourny on de rust 1v1 intervenshion son no hax allowed

#33 Edited by LJS9502_basic (151089 posts) -

She's not interested....move on.

#34 Posted by thegerg (15250 posts) -

@playmynutz: Haha, it's not like pregnancy scares and not getting laid are the only options.

#35 Posted by br0kenrabbit (12988 posts) -

@hell_player said:

So how i was supposed to handle this then?

Wear the pants.

You can't be indecisive or sheepish. Most girls want a man who will step up and take control of a situation. I'm not saying you have to totally dominate her, but you have to show some initiative and boldness. A meek little "I like you" is like a guy sticking his big toe in the water and the cowering at the chill rather than just doing a swan-dive into that shit and taking it like man.

#36 Posted by 4myAmuzumament (1750 posts) -

Get her a necklace from Tiffany. See what she says then.

#37 Edited by GazaAli (22858 posts) -

@br0kenrabbit said:

@hell_player said:

So how i was supposed to handle this then?

Wear the pants.

You can't be indecisive or sheepish. Most girls want a man who will step up and take control of a situation. I'm not saying you have to totally dominate her, but you have to show some initiative and boldness. A meek little "I like you" is like a guy sticking his big toe in the water and the cowering at the chill rather than just doing a swan-dive into that shit and taking it like man.

That may hold in teenage and early adulthood years. But as both men and women grow more emotionally mature and intellectually developed, this becomes nothing but an obsolete and overly simplistic and immature conception. That is not to say that it loses all significance and that it has completely been done away with. Its just that much more complex and sophisticated expectations and features appear on the romantic scene. The priorities of men and women alike change and what is or is not desirable becomes radically different. Different people come to have different strokes. Some women may still want such a man, but may sacrifice this for something else. Some other women come to realize from past experience that they need the complete opposite if they want to have a fulfilling and lasting relationship, and so on and so forth.

#38 Edited by br0kenrabbit (12988 posts) -

@GazaAli said:

That may hold in teenage and early adulthood years. But as both men and women grow more emotionally mature and intellectually developed, this becomes nothing but an obsolete and overly simplistic and immature conception. That is not to say that it loses all significance and that it has completely been done away with. Its just that much more complex and sophisticated expectations and features appear on the romantic scene. The priorities of men and women alike change and what is or is not desirable becomes radically different. Different people come to have different strokes. Some women may still want such a man, but may sacrifice this for something else. Some other women come to realize from past experience that they need the complete opposite if they want to have a fulfilling and lasting relationship, and so on and so forth.

You know I'm 37, right?

I've found just the opposite: women my age have put up with enough shit from men wanting to sit on their buttholes and expecting everything to be done for them that they're more than happy when a man comes along who can get shit done.

#39 Posted by GazaAli (22858 posts) -

@br0kenrabbit said:

@GazaAli said:

That may hold in teenage and early adulthood years. But as both men and women grow more emotionally mature and intellectually developed, this becomes nothing but an obsolete and overly simplistic and immature conception. That is not to say that it loses all significance and that it has completely been done away with. Its just that much more complex and sophisticated expectations and features appear on the romantic scene. The priorities of men and women alike change and what is or is not desirable becomes radically different. Different people come to have different strokes. Some women may still want such a man, but may sacrifice this for something else. Some other women come to realize from past experience that they need the complete opposite if they want to have a fulfilling and lasting relationship, and so on and so forth.

You know I'm 37, right?

I've found just the opposite: women my age have put up with enough shit from men wanting to sit on their buttholes and expecting everything to be done for them that they're more than happy when a man comes along who can get shit done.

That's not what I meant. Of course every self-respecting woman wants a man that is worthy of her and is a responsible one. I was more referring to the macho, take charge, dominating "badass" man who worships his masculinity and fully indulge in the archaic stereotypes that come with it . I'm not sure how to put it really.

#40 Posted by br0kenrabbit (12988 posts) -

@GazaAli said:


That's not what I meant. Of course every self-respecting woman wants a man that is worthy of her and is a responsible one. I was more referring to the macho, take charge, dominating "badass" man who worships his masculinity and fully indulge in the archaic stereotypes that come with it . I'm not sure how to put it really.

There's nothing 'badass' about it. I'm not saying you have to be full of yourself, but you have to show some confidence and an ability to take charge of the situations you put yourself into.

"I like you" is not a come-on, it's a plea for validation.

#41 Posted by GazaAli (22858 posts) -

@br0kenrabbit said:

@GazaAli said:

That's not what I meant. Of course every self-respecting woman wants a man that is worthy of her and is a responsible one. I was more referring to the macho, take charge, dominating "badass" man who worships his masculinity and fully indulge in the archaic stereotypes that come with it . I'm not sure how to put it really.

There's nothing 'badass' about it. I'm not saying you have to be full of yourself, but you have to show some confidence and an ability to take charge of the situations you put yourself into.

"I like you" is not a come-on, it's a plea for validation.

Certainly yes. I know that if in the future I happen to fall for a woman (I'm single right now and plan to be for at least the next 1-2 years) I'll be as decisive and assertive as can be.

#42 Posted by hell_player (454 posts) -

@br0kenrabbit: So what are you supposed to say then?

For example in you're in a bar what do you talk about with a girl so after a little while you can kiss her?

#43 Posted by worlock77 (22547 posts) -

@PernicioEnigma said:

Don't assume a girl likes you until you're actually f*cking her, and even then don't assume she likes you THAT much.

This is good advice actually.

#44 Posted by thegerg (15250 posts) -

@hell_player said:

@br0kenrabbit: So what are you supposed to say then?

For example in you're in a bar what do you talk about with a girl so after a little while you can kiss her?

You talk about common interests.

#45 Edited by br0kenrabbit (12988 posts) -

@hell_player said:

@br0kenrabbit: So what are you supposed to say then?

For example in you're in a bar what do you talk about with a girl so after a little while you can kiss her?

It depends.

You've really got to get comfortable flying by the seat of your pants. You gotta pick up and read what she isn't saying. Is she alone? With friends? Does she look like she's having a good time or is she sulking alone? Is she dressed to kill or just off from work?

Always start out talking about her...compliment her dress, her accent...something...talk about that for a minute and then change the subject. Talk about the weather, local events, music (NOT religion and NOT politics) and don't gripe or complain about anything ("I hate this music, I wish they'd play something good" for instance).

Make eye contact and don't look away when she returns it, but don't stare. Glance at her mouth as she's talking, watch her hand as she runs it through her hair, and then return to her eyes. You want her to know that she's got your attention, but you don't want to burn a hole through her.

If things go well for a bit, get her out of there. Don't ask. If you sense she's hungry, say "Come on, let's go eat." Grab her hand or put yours behind her back and lead her out. If not dinner, then say something like "It's a nice evening, let's step outside." If in conversation she's mentioned a movie she's wanting to see, take her to see it.

You've really got to figure these things out on the fly, but the most important thing is to have fun. If you're not laughing and smiling, she isn't going to be, either.

And if you make a fool of yourself then you've got that experience to build upon next time. It's like anything: the more you do it, the better you get at it.

Hit on girls you have no intention of picking up, just for the practice. Straight-up talk to strangers and see if you can make them laugh: "Beautiful evening, what with the rain coming in all sideways and all." It's talking, almost exclusively, that's going to get a girl interested in you. The better you are at it, the better your chances. So practice talking to people you don't know every day. At the grocery store, in the parking lot, in the waiting room...gab, gab, gab.

Once you're used to talking to strangers, it's no big deal. Then you can focus on being clever and flirty and not have to worry about thinking "what am I going to say next?"

#46 Edited by hippiesanta (9867 posts) -

I tought this topic is about Justine Sacco' tweet

#47 Posted by hell_player (454 posts) -

@br0kenrabbit: WOW that's some pretty good advice!!

#48 Edited by elkoldo (1116 posts) -

oh nice tip there brOkenrabbit.

gonna keep that in my mind next time I see the girl I've been fancying.

#49 Edited by br0kenrabbit (12988 posts) -

@hell_player said:

@br0kenrabbit: WOW that's some pretty good advice!!

Always be practicing. You don't have to be a social butterfly but when you're out in public, take the time to greet people or have a laugh with them. Chat up your cashier. Flirt with the waitress. Talk to people in line around you. It's getting over that 'Cold Start' that's the most difficult. Once you have that mastered, you're well on your way.

Be positive and be friendly. No one likes to listen to people complain. You want to be fun to be around.

You can practice talking to people anywhere. Then when you see her, things will come so much more naturally. Once you take that first step in her direction, commit yourself to seeing it through.

If it doesn't work, don't dwell on it. No one has a 100% success rate, but once you get above 50/50 you'll feel like you can take on the world.