I Feel Like 1 Outta 3 Chicks I Meet Has Been Molested/Raped

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#1 Posted by black_chamber99 (1696 posts) -

:( just heard another sob story..and its the same old story too..we've heard it all before: girl is molested by her uncle at a young age. trauma, guilt, the works.

goddamn it pisses me off. these things leaves these chicks with zero self-esteem. damaged for life :evil:

what a sick world we live in

#2 Posted by Riverwolf007 (23411 posts) -

you don't have to "feel" it.

i'm pretty sure that 33% or so is the actual statistic.

#3 Posted by Riverwolf007 (23411 posts) -
#4 Posted by shadowkiller11 (7953 posts) -
They should of done The Safety Dance.
#5 Posted by sSubZerOo (43003 posts) -

here it is.

Lifetime rate of rape /attempted rape for women by race:1

  • All women: 17.6%
  • White women: 17.7%
  • Black women: 18.8%
  • Asian Pacific Islander women: 6.8%
  • American Indian/Alaskan women: 34.1%
  • Mixed race women: 24.4%

http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims

Riverwolf007

Any idea why American Indian and Alaskan women are so crazy high compared to the rest?

#6 Posted by Dogswithguns (10688 posts) -
Not just young girls.. even young boys too.. sad world.
#7 Posted by Riverwolf007 (23411 posts) -

[QUOTE="Riverwolf007"]

here it is.

Lifetime rate of rape /attempted rape for women by race:1

  • All women: 17.6%
  • White women: 17.7%
  • Black women: 18.8%
  • Asian Pacific Islander women: 6.8%
  • American Indian/Alaskan women: 34.1%
  • Mixed race women: 24.4%

http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims

sSubZerOo

Any idea why American Indian and Alaskan women are so crazy high compared to the rest?

no clue.

probably something horrible like the stat is the same for all races but they report it more.

#9 Posted by -Tish- (3620 posts) -
Where the hell do you live?
#10 Posted by the_bi99man (11047 posts) -

[QUOTE="Riverwolf007"]

here it is.

Lifetime rate of rape /attempted rape for women by race:1

  • All women: 17.6%
  • White women: 17.7%
  • Black women: 18.8%
  • Asian Pacific Islander women: 6.8%
  • American Indian/Alaskan women: 34.1%
  • Mixed race women: 24.4%

http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims

sSubZerOo

Any idea why American Indian and Alaskan women are so crazy high compared to the rest?

Because the majority of Alaskan Natives still live in Alaska, and rape rates are through the roof there, across the board. I grew up in the dead center of Alaska. It's ridiculous. Pretty sure every girl I know has been raped. Most of them a couple times.

#11 Posted by muller39 (14944 posts) -

Asking women if they have been molested/rape doesn't really come up in discussion when I meet someone.

#12 Posted by mrbojangles25 (31985 posts) -

if I can be Devil's Advocate for a second, the definition of rape/molest is pretty vague.

Two drunk people hook up, that is rape.
You get slapped on the ass, that is molestation.

Those are two of the mild examples of what rape and molestation count. Obviously there are the more serious violent, forced sex rapes, in addition to childhood molestation and whatnot, but to think that these more severe cases happen to 33% of the population is fear-mongering.

Hell, by the technical definition, I've been raped three times, and molested over 10 times a week. But for all practical reasons, I dont count it as rape.

I think we are simply seeing the knee-jerk counter reaaction to tradtional thinking: 30+ years ago, it was "blame the victim" when someone got raped, "she was asking for it" and stuff like that; now, we are overly sensitive and the definition has been broadened as to not exclude anyone, even if it includes things that shouldnt be there.

#13 Posted by the_bi99man (11047 posts) -

if I can be Devil's Advocate for a second, the definition of rape/molest is pretty vague.

Two drunk people hook up, that is rape.
You get slapped on the ass, that is molestation.

Those are two of the mild examples of what rape and molestation count. Obviously there are the more serious violent, forced sex rapes, in addition to childhood molestation and whatnot, but to think that these more severe cases happen to 33% of the population is fear-mongering.

mrbojangles25

That really depends where you are. As I said, Alaska is terrible for that. The place is totally loaded with drunks, drug addicts, and violent criminals (many of whom came to alaska in the first place, running away from charges in other places). I know. I grew up there. I worked right in the heart of downtown Fairbanks for years and years. The rape rate there is more than 33%, i'm pretty sure, and the majority of that is, in fact, real cases of actual, violent, forced sex kind of rape. And that's why the American Indian/Alaskan rate mentioned in that earlier post is so high, compared to the others. Because the majority of the Alaskan Native population is in Alaska. And yeah, they're getting raped by drunks and drug addicts all the time.

#14 Posted by mingmao3046 (2474 posts) -
Sure some get raped, but there are plenty who cry rape when it actually wasnt. I saw one Australian commercial that said 1/2 of females there get raped. i laughed.
#15 Posted by hartsickdiscipl (14787 posts) -

1 out of 3 chicks have met Chuck Norris. Coincidence?

#16 Posted by the_bi99man (11047 posts) -

1 out of 3 chicks have met Chuck Norris. Coincidence?

hartsickdiscipl

By God, I think you're onto something.

#17 Posted by mindstorm (15242 posts) -
It happens more often than people realize.
#18 Posted by rilpas (8222 posts) -
Sure some get raped, but there are plenty who cry rape when it actually wasnt. I saw one Australian commercial that said 1/2 of females there get raped. i laughed.mingmao3046
while that is true, you have to remember that there are also plenty of victims who never report it out of fear and/or shame
#19 Posted by iowastate (7873 posts) -

regarding some types of molestation such as grabbing or teasing I don't know - they are very common.

HOWEVER:

you will never mistake it when you meet a REAL victim of rape - they are SO devastated that it is unmistakable.

One young Korean girl serving in the cafeteria on the Air Base - when a couple air men started making extremely rude suggestions in Korean she dropped the trays she was carrying and curled up on the floor in a ball.

I helped pick up the things and gave her a hand to sit down and got her some tea but it took a long time for her to come out of it.

she looked to me for help often after that and eventually we were a couple - but only so far because she had been raped by a G.I. and it was several years before she was comforable enough to become 'close' with a man.

eventually she had her confidence back again - after we had been together for about three years she discovered that her father was alive - part of the problem was she had thought all her family was dead - another story - the father had been working for a high official of the government who became targeted as unreliable. he and most of his associates disappeared.

#20 Posted by ShadowDeathX (10547 posts) -
Yeah. Most of the women I have met say that they have been molested or raped. So it is much higher than 1/3 in my experience. It really sucks.
#21 Posted by black_chamber99 (1696 posts) -

regarding some types of molestation such as grabbing or teasing I don't know - they are very common.

HOWEVER:

you will never mistake it when you meet a REAL victim of rape - they are SO devastated that it is unmistakable.

One young Korean girl serving in the cafeteria on the Air Base - when a couple air men started making extremely rude suggestions in Korean she dropped the trays she was carrying and curled up on the floor in a ball.

I helped pick up the things and gave her a hand to sit down and got her some tea but it took a long time for her to come out of it.

she looked to me for help often after that and eventually we were a couple - but only so far because she had been raped by a G.I. and it was several years before she was comforable enough to become 'close' with a man.

eventually she had her confidence back again - after we had been together for about three years she discovered that her father was alive - part of the problem was she had thought all her family was dead - another story - the father had been working for a high official of the government who became targeted as unreliable. he and most of his associates disappeared.

iowastate

you should turn this into a movie. hey maybe I could direct it

#22 Posted by Vatusus (4342 posts) -

My ex told me once her uncle tried to rape her but she ended up escaping... I wouldnt be surprised if she was lying to me and ended up being really raped though... idk, but she sure was sexually open minded. Thats basically why it didnt work either... she was too much of a free spirit for me likes :)

#23 Posted by black_chamber99 (1696 posts) -

Yeah. Most of the women I have met say that they have been molested or raped. So it is much higher than 1/3 in my experience. It really sucks.ShadowDeathX

its messed up man

#24 Posted by Necrifer (10629 posts) -

And every 3/3 I meet have been too!

#25 Posted by magicalclick (22364 posts) -
I met a guy who get the same thing. He ended up being their sex toy. That sounds hot in fantasy, but, I don't think living through it is a good thing.
#26 Posted by hoola (6422 posts) -

Murderers, rapists, child molesters and other violent people need to be locked up forever. It isn't worth taking a second chance.

#27 Posted by -Tish- (3620 posts) -
It happens more often than people realize.mindstorm
That may be true, but not THAT often.
#28 Posted by Capitan_Kid (6516 posts) -

regarding some types of molestation such as grabbing or teasing I don't know - they are very common.

HOWEVER:

you will never mistake it when you meet a REAL victim of rape - they are SO devastated that it is unmistakable.

One young Korean girl serving in the cafeteria on the Air Base - when a couple air men started making extremely rude suggestions in Korean she dropped the trays she was carrying and curled up on the floor in a ball.

I helped pick up the things and gave her a hand to sit down and got her some tea but it took a long time for her to come out of it.

she looked to me for help often after that and eventually we were a couple - but only so far because she had been raped by a G.I. and it was several years before she was comforable enough to become 'close' with a man.

eventually she had her confidence back again - after we had been together for about three years she discovered that her father was alive - part of the problem was she had thought all her family was dead - another story - the father had been working for a high official of the government who became targeted as unreliable. he and most of his associates disappeared.

iowastate
Jesus Christ thats really fvcked up. Youre a good guy for helping her through that
#29 Posted by needled24-7 (15900 posts) -

my most recent ex-girlfriend was molested by her mom's boyfriend when she was really young..i hated when she'd tell me things about it because it made me so mad. also it made her vagina look even uglier than vaginas already do.

#30 Posted by mindstorm (15242 posts) -
[QUOTE="mindstorm"]It happens more often than people realize.-Tish-
That may be true, but not THAT often.

Probably so. However, there is very much a sense in which I would argue that the numbers are not easy to determine due to how many people hide such horrible past events in their lives.
#31 Posted by thegerg (14599 posts) -
[QUOTE="ShadowDeathX"]Yeah. Most of the women I have met say that they have been molested or raped. So it is much higher than 1/3 in my experience. It really sucks.

You have that discussion with most of the women you meet?
#32 Posted by thegerg (14599 posts) -
[QUOTE="ShadowDeathX"]Yeah. Most of the women I have met say that they have been molested or raped. So it is much higher than 1/3 in my experience. It really sucks.

You have that discussion with most of the women you meet?

[QUOTE="Riverwolf007"]

here it is.

Lifetime rate of rape /attempted rape for women by race:1

  • All women: 17.6%
  • White women: 17.7%
  • Black women: 18.8%
  • Asian Pacific Islander women: 6.8%
  • American Indian/Alaskan women: 34.1%
  • Mixed race women: 24.4%

http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims

sSubZerOo

Any idea why American Indian and Alaskan women are so crazy high compared to the rest?

Because they're poor.
#33 Posted by ghoklebutter (19327 posts) -

if I can be Devil's Advocate for a second, the definition of rape/molest is pretty vague.

Two drunk people hook up, that is rape.
You get slapped on the ass, that is molestation.

mrbojangles25

Most studies on the prevalance of rape don't count drunk hook-ups as rapes. What matters is whether the victim did or was able to consent.

As for slapping someone on the ass, that's probably a form of sexual harassment. And yes, slapping someone on the ass without their consent is not okay and never will be.

I think we are simply seeing the knee-jerk counter reaaction to tradtional thinking: 30+ years ago, it was "blame the victim" when someone got raped, "she was asking for it" and stuff like that; now, we are overly sensitive and the definition has been broadened as to not exclude anyone, even if it includes things that shouldnt be there.

mrbojangles25

Rape is still sexual intercourse without consent - no one is saying otherwise. It may have broadened, but not to any significant degree. And plenty of people are still blamed for being raped.

#34 Posted by KC_Hokie (16099 posts) -
lol..OT loves the hookers
#35 Posted by FMAB_GTO (14385 posts) -
yes it is sad,however where I live rape/molestation is EXTREMELY rare =o 24.4% .....that's a BIT high eh.
#36 Posted by ghoklebutter (19327 posts) -
lol..OT loves the hookersKC_Hokie
"Hookers"? Seriously?
#37 Posted by KC_Hokie (16099 posts) -
[QUOTE="KC_Hokie"]lol..OT loves the hookersghoklebutter
"Hookers"? Seriously?

Vodka..give me some break!
#38 Posted by ghoklebutter (19327 posts) -
[QUOTE="FMAB_GTO"]yes it is sad,however where I live rape/molestation is EXTREMELY rare =o 24.4% .....that's a BIT high eh.

That's like 1/4 people. Damn.
#39 Posted by FMAB_GTO (14385 posts) -
[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"][QUOTE="FMAB_GTO"]yes it is sad,however where I live rape/molestation is EXTREMELY rare =o 24.4% .....that's a BIT high eh.

That's like 1/4 people. Damn.

mhmm,Lebanese people are mixed race,but i doubt they included them in the statistics. Things don't get reported over here X_X
#40 Posted by Rhazakna (11022 posts) -
Rape is inexcusable, but consent can have some grey areas in some cases. For example, I've woken women I've slept with up by performing oral sex on them while they're still asleep, and women have woken me up in that way too. In either case, I didn't have her explicit consent, nor she mine, but it's always been a very pleasurable experience, and a great way to start the day. Is that rape? Is spontaneously performing a sex act on someone without express permission sexual assault?
#41 Posted by Drasonak (1509 posts) -
This was called "sex" in the 1950s.
#42 Posted by Oil_Rope_Bombs (2671 posts) -

1 out of 3 chicks have met Chuck Norris. Coincidence?

hartsickdiscipl
Rape is when you don't accept it.
#43 Posted by junglist101 (5457 posts) -

I have no problem with this. This is where we get most of our female porn stars and strippers from.

#44 Posted by black_chamber99 (1696 posts) -

I have no problem with this. This is where we get most of our female porn stars and strippers from.

junglist101

cold blooded :lol:

#45 Posted by mingmao3046 (2474 posts) -

[QUOTE="mrbojangles25"]

if I can be Devil's Advocate for a second, the definition of rape/molest is pretty vague.

Two drunk people hook up, that is rape.
You get slapped on the ass, that is molestation.

ghoklebutter

Most studies on the prevalance of rape don't count drunk hook-ups as rapes. What matters is whether the victim did or was able to consent.

As for slapping someone on the ass, that's probably a form of sexual harassment. And yes, slapping someone on the ass without their consent is not okay and never will be.

I think we are simply seeing the knee-jerk counter reaaction to tradtional thinking: 30+ years ago, it was "blame the victim" when someone got raped, "she was asking for it" and stuff like that; now, we are overly sensitive and the definition has been broadened as to not exclude anyone, even if it includes things that shouldnt be there.

mrbojangles25

Rape is still sexual intercourse without consent - no one is saying otherwise. It may have broadened, but not to any significant degree. And plenty of people are still blamed for being raped.

the feminists running these studies would most certainly include drunk sex
#46 Posted by Grandotaku (2118 posts) -

I have no problem with this. This is where we get most of our female porn stars and strippers from.

junglist101

Oh man, made my night.

#47 Posted by BranKetra (47789 posts) -
This is disgusting.
#48 Posted by OB-47 (10908 posts) -

Do these studies query or find out whether it was actual rape/molestation or just a drunk night out?

#49 Posted by kingkong0124 (8710 posts) -

Society is f***** up

#50 Posted by WilliamRLBaker (28333 posts) -

Sadly in todays world one has to look out and be aware that the majority of time its simply untrue. I've seen way too many people steam rolled by families and courts in this matter without any proof.

Seen way too many girls lie about being raped, way too many overactive parents that think a hug meant something more...etc..etc
does it happen? yes. Does it happen to the degree your saying? no.