How to make my family respect my beliefs?

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#1 Posted by Ricardomz (2329 posts) -

My family is 100% christian and they really like to worship God, they have a lot of bibles and bunch of christian books... it gets annoying actually. I don't believe in any of that stuff, and I respect it, however they don't respect me... they say I am a fool for not believing in God and that I am just too naive for being 17 years old and that it is just a phase. 

Quite a big phase, because I haven't believed God for years... My sister thinks she knows it all just because she says she sees things of the afterlife or whatever. But whatever, could you give me a couple of tips for me to make them respect my beliefs or maybe even some facts that makes christians speechless for not having an answer for that? 

Thank you.

Inb4 disfunctional family :P

#2 Posted by Pirate700 (46465 posts) -

Have you told them that you respect their beliefs?

#3 Posted by BenedictArnold7 (701 posts) -
You really can't convince people who refuse to be reasonable. Just nod all to their bs and do your own thing.
#4 Posted by Master_Live (14034 posts) -
Do they force you to go to church?
#5 Posted by Ricardomz (2329 posts) -

Have you told them that you respect their beliefs?

Pirate700
Yes
You really can't convince people who refuse to be reasonable. Just nod all to their bs and do your own thing. BenedictArnold7
Oh that's a hard thing to do for someone with a harsh personality like mine. I always like to be the one talking last.
#6 Posted by toast_burner (21340 posts) -

Stop treating non-belief like a belief. 

#7 Posted by Aljosa23 (24614 posts) -

When my family and I have totally different views on something we tend to not talk about it. Just don't draw attention to it.

#8 Posted by Master_Live (14034 posts) -

When my family and I have totally different views on something we tend to not talk about it. Just don't draw attention to it.

Aljosa23
Exactly, OP needs to learn that this is your family not the Harvard debate team.
#9 Posted by norm41x (669 posts) -

You can't. If they're unreasonable or hold their beliefs so tight that they unknowingly disrespect you, then it's impossible. They will act like children and try to yell louder than you. I know because I have a very religious family on my moms side. I don't hang with them too much even though I am also religious. I have different views when it comes to certain things that they feel is probably the devils words coming out of my mouth. Can't do anything about it. Instead I hang around people who do respect my sh!t and avoid confrontation when around my family. Trying to convince these people to respect your views is just adding stress onto your shoulders and causes balding. DON'T DO IT!

#10 Posted by konvikt_17 (22131 posts) -

you'll just have to live with it. you cant make them respect your belief, or lack thereof.

just keep things civil and dont take to heart what they say. maybe eventually they will at least come to terms with it and not berate you anymore.

my mom is kinda like that. she makes some comments to me. i just kinda smile and such. we dont really talk too much about it. shes just kinda accepted it.

my dad, he dont give a fvck.

my moms side of the family however, thats a different story. only exception is my aunt and uncle. my uncle doesnt care, and my aunt actually respects my beliefs. she actually had me sit down with her while she asked me questions and listened to my answers. she was just curious why i believe what i believe. was nice.

religion has never come up on my dads side of the family.

#11 Posted by surrealnumber5 (23044 posts) -
respect goes both ways, and people who respect each other can agree to disagree, if you are harping on this topic you are partially at fault for whatever tension is in the relationship. being agnostic i have never had problems with the religious, because i dont rub it in their face and when they relate something to their faith i dont whip my dick out all over them, metaphorically speaking of course.
#12 Posted by xdude85 (4329 posts) -
Start sacrificing animals.
#13 Posted by Gargus (2147 posts) -

If you want to "make someone respect your beliefs" then you do not deserve their respect.

#14 Posted by Optical_Order (5100 posts) -

Beat them in various feats of strength. 

#15 Posted by i_noseworthy (1581 posts) -

My family is 100% christian and they really like to worship God, they have a lot of bibles and bunch of christian books... it gets annoying actually. I don't believe in any of that stuff, and I respect it, however they don't respect me... they say I am a fool for not believing in God and that I am just too naive for being 17 years old and that it is just a phase. 

Quite a big phase, because I haven't believed God for years... My sister thinks she knows it all just because she says she sees things of the afterlife or whatever. But whatever, could you give me a couple of tips for me to make them respect my beliefs or maybe even some facts that makes christians speechless for not having an answer for that? 

Thank you.

Inb4 disfunctional family :P

Ricardomz
So... you want a way to MAKE them RESPECT your beliefs... You're sure you're not Christian?
#16 Posted by GummiRaccoon (13593 posts) -

My family is 100% christian and they really like to worship God, they have a lot of bibles and bunch of christian books... it gets annoying actually. I don't believe in any of that stuff, and I respect it, however they don't respect me... they say I am a fool for not believing in God and that I am just too naive for being 17 years old and that it is just a phase. 

Quite a big phase, because I haven't believed God for years... My sister thinks she knows it all just because she says she sees things of the afterlife or whatever. But whatever, could you give me a couple of tips for me to make them respect my beliefs or maybe even some facts that makes christians speechless for not having an answer for that? 

Thank you.

Inb4 disfunctional family :P

Ricardomz

First pretend to convert to Islam.

 

Then after about 6 months of that, tell them you are an Atheist.

 

#17 Posted by mindstorm (15242 posts) -
They are likely to be more willing to respect your beliefs if they first respect you as a person. In that sense there are two things of note, if they are truly living as Christians should then they should be a respecter of all people, especially one so close to them as being blood related. If they do not respect you then they simply are not living Christianly despite their claims. If someone claims to be a Christian and is hateful toward those who are not Christians then they care more about their perceived holiness and superiority than the teachings of their faith. Those who follow Jesus are called to love all people, regardless of race or creed. And two, if you act as one who is humble toward them, respecting their own opinions and views then you'd make their respecting of you all the more easier.
#18 Posted by the_bi99man (11047 posts) -

Stop caring. That's the answer to way more problems than most people think.

#19 Posted by the_bi99man (11047 posts) -

[QUOTE="Ricardomz"]

My family is 100% christian and they really like to worship God, they have a lot of bibles and bunch of christian books... it gets annoying actually. I don't believe in any of that stuff, and I respect it, however they don't respect me... they say I am a fool for not believing in God and that I am just too naive for being 17 years old and that it is just a phase. 

Quite a big phase, because I haven't believed God for years... My sister thinks she knows it all just because she says she sees things of the afterlife or whatever. But whatever, could you give me a couple of tips for me to make them respect my beliefs or maybe even some facts that makes christians speechless for not having an answer for that? 

Thank you.

Inb4 disfunctional family :P

i_noseworthy

So... you want a way to MAKE them RESPECT your beliefs... You're sure you're not Christian?

Well done.

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#20 Posted by mrbojangles25 (31985 posts) -

you can't make anyone respect your beliefs, they either will or will not.

All you can do is attempt live in peaceful ignorance in this one specific part of your life.

Be the bigger person and respect their beliefs whether they respect yours or not.

#21 Posted by cain006 (8625 posts) -

I haven't told my family not because they'd do dumb shit like that but because they'd constantly be trying to get me to be a Christian again so I wouldn't go to hell.

#22 Posted by wis3boi (31012 posts) -

Respect is not demanded, it is earned, this goes both ways.  If you want them to understand it better, they have to be reasonable and genuinly interested in learning more...if not, and many cases this is sadly how it is, then it is of no use.  Exmaplin yourself as simply as possible or just let them deal with it themselves.

#23 Posted by Lulu_Lulu (9943 posts) -
Avoid confrontation, atleast until you get your own place. . . . Until then, keep a low profile.

or just suggest family councelling.

#24 Posted by THE_DRUGGIE (24961 posts) -

They are likely to be more willing to respect your beliefs if they first respect you as a person. In that sense there are two things of note, if they are truly living as Christians should then they should be a respecter of all people, especially one so close to them as being blood related. If they do not respect you then they simply are not living Christianly despite their claims. If someone claims to be a Christian and is hateful toward those who are not Christians then they care more about their perceived holiness and superiority than the teachings of their faith. Those who follow Jesus are called to love all people, regardless of race or cree.mindstorm

Tell your family this verbatim.

#25 Posted by Amvis (510 posts) -

My family is 100% christian and they really like to worship God, they have a lot of bibles and bunch of christian books... it gets annoying actually. I don't believe in any of that stuff, and I respect it, however they don't respect me... they say I am a fool for not believing in God and that I am just too naive for being 17 years old and that it is just a phase.

Quite a big phase, because I haven't believed God for years... My sister thinks she knows it all just because she says she sees things of the afterlife or whatever. But whatever, could you give me a couple of tips for me to make them respect my beliefs or maybe even some facts that makes christians speechless for not having an answer for that?

Thank you.

Inb4 disfunctional family :P

Ricardomz

I can sort of relate in the strangest way possible. My father was a Methodist pastor, and around the same age I was fully convinced that the Methodist Church wasn't right. So I looked into other denominations. My father didn't like it, and for the most part I had to keep it to myself and under wraps. Either I did that, or threatened to be put out of the house if I became too expressive. Eventually, we came to an agreement that as long as I lived with him, I would attend his church. It wasn't the ideal, but I took what I could get.

All I can say is that your best hope is to wait until you get out on your own. And to try to cooperate with your parents. They clothe you, feed you, and take care of you (unless they are really shitty). You're not in much of a position to defy them on such a serious matter until you really are out on your own.

The best way to handle it for now is to respect their beliefs, and hope they do the same. And if they don't then, as ironic as it may sound, turn the other cheak.

#26 Posted by Wolf-Man2006 (4187 posts) -

With all due respect, you can't make anybody respect you.. Best thing for you to do is try to convince them... It's not a 100% guarantee, but it is worth a shot

#27 Posted by Wilfred_Owen (20821 posts) -
Poop your pants. That'll scare'em off for a while.