How much would your life change if....

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#1 Posted by Darthkaiser (12448 posts) -

You find out today from your GF, last girl you were involved with, whatever, that she's pregnant (guys)

You find out today you're pregnant (girls)

How much would your life change? What would you have to give up or how would you adjust to something like that?

For me I think if I leave a girl pregnant my parents would probably be pissed, I would probably have to get a job at night to be able to go to college in the morning either that or I would be force to study even harder to finish my carreer as soon as possible. I would have to marry that girl and either agree to live in our separate places (if parents agree) or we would be kicked out from our house and would have to look for a sh*tty place to live.

I would probably take a little longer to graduate, I wouldn't be able to spend things on me after I get a job I'd be forced to buy a house a car, start thinking on that kid's educaction, food, clothes pretty much all my life goals would have to be put on standby or cancelled completely. The first few years would probably be though but after a while things economically would look better. All in all I'm not ready for that kind of responsibility.

How about you?

#2 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -

My hopes and dreams would be ruined, I'd probably get someone to push her down some stairs. Though to be honest I wouldn't get involved with a chick who wouldn't get an abortion.

#3 Posted by konvikt_17 (22171 posts) -

Id be confused as fvck, as ive never had a GF.

#4 Posted by theone86 (20555 posts) -

I'd be broker than I am now after paying for the abortion.

#5 Posted by sune_Gem (12463 posts) -

Aww, thought the question would be something outside or reality.

#6 Posted by Darthkaiser (12448 posts) -

I'd be broker than I am now after paying for the abortion.

theone86
:lol: (I'm going to hell for laughin at this)
#7 Posted by theone86 (20555 posts) -

[QUOTE="theone86"]

I'd be broker than I am now after paying for the abortion.

Darthkaiser

:lol: (I'm going to hell for laughin at this)

I'll have some margaritas waiting for you.

#8 Posted by konvikt_17 (22171 posts) -

though if i were in this situation, id definately be able to handle it.

i basically raised my sisters daughter from birth.

my niece has been living with us pretty much her whole life(she is 4 now). id say there was a window of 3 months, where she was with my sister in Florida. other than that, shes been living with us, and ive been taking care of her.

its really not that bad, nor that hard.

sure you have to change diapers and stuff but thats really not hard.

then when they get older, and try to form words and sentences, is just great. the things they say/try to say, are awesome.

my niece is an absolute joy to have around the house.

right now, she is sitting on the floor playing with her new Cinderella toy castle thing she got today. shes talking to herself and such. quite humorous.

#9 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -

Id be confused as fvck, as ive never had a GF.

konvikt_17

I'm scared, but I want to get a vasectomy; and if any chick tells me she's pregnant I can do a swift beach slap.

#10 Posted by SirWander (5176 posts) -

a lot, I suppose.

raising a human is a burden that is too far often trivialized.

#11 Posted by konvikt_17 (22171 posts) -

[QUOTE="konvikt_17"]

Id be confused as fvck, as ive never had a GF.

Fightingfan

I'm scared, but I want to get a vasectomy; and if any chick tells me she's pregnant I can do a swift beach slap.

9898849.jpg:P

#12 Posted by Shottayouth13- (6755 posts) -

For me I think if I leave a girl pregnant my parents would probably be pissed, I would probably have to get a job at night to be able to go to college in the morning either that or I would be force to study even harder to finish my carreer as soon as possible. I would have to marry that girl and either agree to live in our separate places (if parents agree) or we would be kicked out from our house and would have to look for a sh*tty place to live.

I would probably take a little longer to graduate, I wouldn't be able to spend things on me after I get a job I'd be forced to buy a house a car, start thinking on that kid's educaction, food, clothes pretty much all my life goals would have to be put on standby or cancelled completely. The first few years would probably be though but after a while things economically would look better. All in all I'm not ready for that kind of responsibility.

How about you?

Darthkaiser
This is pretty much what I'd do too.
#13 Posted by chilly-chill (8902 posts) -
Bullet to the brain, I want to have a son but not now my life is just getting started.
#14 Posted by XilePrincess (13128 posts) -
I would adjust. It would be earlier than what I'd wanted, but I could figure it out. I'm in a stable, long term relationship, but even then we're not financially ready to be on our own with the responsibility of a child, so that would suck. There would have to be a lot of "get everything done ASAP so we can get on our feet" before the kid showed up, and a lot of working our asses off to get things rolling smoothly. I don't think my parents can be mad at me at this age, I'm an adult, but I'd still end up relying on them for a while for help to some extent. I dunno, I could make it work. Not an ideal situation, but it could work. Better now than when I was sixteen, that's for sure.
#15 Posted by XilePrincess (13128 posts) -

though if i were in this situation, id definately be able to handle it.

i basically raised my sisters daughter from birth.

my niece has been living with us pretty much her whole life(she is 4 now). id say there was a window of 3 months, where she was with my sister in Florida. other than that, shes been living with us, and ive been taking care of her.

its really not that bad, nor that hard.

sure you have to change diapers and stuff but thats really not hard.

then when they get older, and try to form words and sentences, is just great. the things they say/try to say, are awesome.

my niece is an absolute joy to have around the house.

right now, she is sitting on the floor playing with her new Cinderella toy castle thing she got today. shes talking to herself and such. quite humorous.

konvikt_17
Are you not still a teenager living with your parents? You say 'us' so I assume you're either a teen or just not able to provide for yourself financially, which means you're also not providing for the child. I seem to recall you saying you babysit for your parents instead of having a job? Maybe that was somebody else. That's what you're missing here, it's all fine and dandy to not mind changing diapers and feeding her and playing with her, but providing for a kid financially is the strain. We're all able to give love, love is free. But the hard part is being able to make ends meet to give the kid everything they need. You're pretty much playing big brother to her, you're not putting food in her mouth or a roof over her head, you're doing all the 'easy' and 'fun' stuff and that's not what being a parent is about. You're giving it a pop-culture teen pregnancy gloss-over, even if you do spend most of your day with her, you're not really out busting your a** to make sure she has clothes and food if your parents are paying for everything for her.
#16 Posted by Darthkaiser (12448 posts) -

Even if you do spend most of your day with her, you're not really out busting your a** to make sure she has clothes and food if your parents are paying for everything for her.XilePrincess

Gotta agree on this, it's one thing to babysit and another to provide for the kid

#17 Posted by LJS9502_basic (150376 posts) -
Ah yes the little buggers can be expensive....but there's no greater feeling in the world than being a parent.
#18 Posted by jimkabrhel (15417 posts) -

This topic just prove that if you aren't ready to have a child, you should either keep it in your pants, or wrap it up before you slap it up.

I'm scared enough about being a dad, and I'm married and my wife is 7 months pregnant.

#19 Posted by Pffrbt (6528 posts) -

Gay, so that wouldn't happen.

#20 Posted by IdioticIcarus (2242 posts) -

I'd be very, very confused, as that would be impossible.

But hypothetically, I'd work on getting a steadier job and give up on going back to school. I wouldn't think of it as giving up my dream, but rather replacing and old dream with a new dream. I'd get a cheaper two bedroom apartment. Luckily I know my parents, and various other family members, would support a hypothetical child of mine, even if they would never speak to me again and would constantly send the baby clothing and diapers and the like, which they do for their other grandchildren and would help me out a lot. And I have so many family members that I could negotiate babysitting agreements with several of them to help. I'd kind of actually be happy. Though it would be a selfish kind of happy, because I'm not prepared at this time to be a parent.

#21 Posted by konvikt_17 (22171 posts) -

Are you not still a teenager living with your parents? You say 'us' so I assume you're either a teen or just not able to provide for yourself financially, which means you're also not providing for the child. I seem to recall you saying you babysit for your parents instead of having a job? Maybe that was somebody else. That's what you're missing here, it's all fine and dandy to not mind changing diapers and feeding her and playing with her, but providing for a kid financially is the strain. We're all able to give love, love is free. But the hard part is being able to make ends meet to give the kid everything they need. You're pretty much playing big brother to her, you're not putting food in her mouth or a roof over her head, you're doing all the 'easy' and 'fun' stuff and that's not what being a parent is about. You're giving it a pop-culture teen pregnancy gloss-over, even if you do spend most of your day with her, you're not really out busting your a** to make sure she has clothes and food if your parents are paying for everything for her.XilePrincess

correct, though im 21.

yea i didnt really think about supporting her on my own. slipped my mind:P

yea, i imagine it would be difficult, and would change my life quite tremendously.

probly need to get a job, maybe two and such.

#22 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -
Supporting a child doesn't require any work; it's called child support. It's sooo easy to simply mail a check.
#23 Posted by Optical_Order (5100 posts) -

That someone would be getting a well placed Falcon Punch from me.

#24 Posted by XilePrincess (13128 posts) -

correct, though im 21.

yea i didnt really think about supporting her on my own. slipped my mind:P

yea, i imagine it would be difficult, and would change my life quite tremendously.

probly need to get a job, maybe two and such.

konvikt_17
Ah right, I figured I was wrong about the teenage thing. But either way, it's a great thing that you give her all the emotional support that you can, being the 'big brother' figure and adding some structure in her life by being a constant (caring and apparently quite attentive) caregiver. That's great by the way, I applaud you for putting heart into being there for that little girl in the way that you are. It sounds like you really care for her and that she really needs all the love that you give her.
#25 Posted by Kevlar101 (6075 posts) -
Suddenly, my dream of losing my virginity before I turn 16 is ruined.
#26 Posted by konvikt_17 (22171 posts) -

[QUOTE="konvikt_17"]

correct, though im 21.

yea i didnt really think about supporting her on my own. slipped my mind:P

yea, i imagine it would be difficult, and would change my life quite tremendously.

probly need to get a job, maybe two and such.

XilePrincess

Ah right, I figured I was wrong about the teenage thing. But either way, it's a great thing that you give her all the emotional support that you can, being the 'big brother' figure and adding some structure in her life by being a constant (caring and apparently quite attentive) caregiver. That's great by the way, I applaud you for putting heart into being there for that little girl in the way that you are. It sounds like you really care for her and that she really needs all the love that you give her.

thanks.

i do care for her.

my parents are working on getting custody over her, as my sister is not fit to raise her, but thinks she is.

#27 Posted by aaronmullan (33400 posts) -
Honestly I wouldn't know what to do with myself.
#28 Posted by Iceozo (6531 posts) -

Would not give a fvck. The girl I was last with isn't my problem anymore.

EDIT: Actually, her boyfriend may get mad, oh well. A bunch of words will probably get said, that's about it.

#29 Posted by FMAB_GTO (14385 posts) -
I think I'll run away if I found out I;m somehow pregnant,people here are REALLY strict about that X_X
#31 Posted by VaguelyTagged (10129 posts) -

i'd change my number and address as soon as i could. :)

#32 Posted by jun_aka_pekto (15922 posts) -

If you like to do the grownup stuff then you should be prepared to take on grownup responsibilities as well.

If that happened to me, my folks would've been pissed. But, they'd probably still support me, providing shelter and putting me through college. Knowing them, I'd probably have to marry the girl and and she moving in with me at home. Forget things like video games, spring break, or parties. Every free moment I have will be spent supporting the wife n baby.

#33 Posted by Cyanide4Suicid3 (783 posts) -
Not too much, my girlfriend and I already have a 2 month old boy, lol.
#34 Posted by Darthkaiser (12448 posts) -
Supporting a child doesn't require any work; it's called child support. It's sooo easy to simply mail a check.Fightingfan
yeah but when you have to work in order to meet the monthly amount of that check, it suddenly turns a lot harder
#35 Posted by BPoole96 (22784 posts) -

Persuade them into having an abortion. I am never going to have kids

#36 Posted by Allicrombie (25133 posts) -
so I'd be like the Virgin Mary?
#37 Posted by danygo1996 (372 posts) -

Whats a girl?

#38 Posted by lundy86_4 (43021 posts) -

"Do I know you?"

#39 Posted by shadowkiller11 (7954 posts) -
Run away or abandon it. I don't like kids and while I want a family later in life I'm not getting tied down at 18.
#40 Posted by Darthkaiser (12448 posts) -
so I'd be like the Virgin Mary?Allicrombie
You can always find a Joseph
#41 Posted by Allicrombie (25133 posts) -
[QUOTE="Allicrombie"]so I'd be like the Virgin Mary?Darthkaiser
You can always find a Joseph

a deadbeat dad?
#42 Posted by SirWander (5176 posts) -

[QUOTE="Darthkaiser"][QUOTE="Allicrombie"]so I'd be like the Virgin Mary?Allicrombie
You can always find a Joseph

a deadbeat dad?

he said a Joseph not a God, as Joseph was stuck with raising the messiah.

#43 Posted by Nintendevil (6598 posts) -

I'd kiss uni goodbye and be the ice cream man the rest of my life most likely.

#44 Posted by whipassmt (13996 posts) -

Id be confused as fvck, as ive never had a GF.

konvikt_17

same here. Stupit b1tches best not be tryin' to frame us.

#45 Posted by SaudiFury (8707 posts) -

if it were a past girlfriend i'd need a paternity test, that is... unless it's been years, and if it's that case. did she like save my semen?!!! :lol:

k..ew.

seriously though. :|

it'd be a big change, but i'm done with college, just been looking for work in my field, but if i had to i could do it i think. it's just going to be a big change.

I believe and live by the phrase "the moment your child is born, at that very moment. your life as you knew it is over, it's all about them after that".

#46 Posted by UltimoIce (3068 posts) -

Meh, I don't think it would change my life TOO much. Knowing some of the women I've dated in the past, they would probably try to take me to the bank, but that's life, everyone trying to get theirs.

#47 Posted by t3hrubikscube (20416 posts) -
Well, I'd firstly be pretty confused and astonished that I was the victim of virginal conception. After getting over that, though, I'd have an abortion.
#48 Posted by NiKva (8768 posts) -
I think it's obvious to say that my life would change a lot. Seeing as I haven't had a GF since 7th grade, with no sexual activities involved. Wait did I say a lot? I meant not at all. I'd hang up the phone on her and laugh.