how honest should i be on a first date... if it even happens

so im planning to ask a girl out in a few days.... we really dont know each other but shes caught my eye big time and well i guess im gonna take a chance.

im 20 and this is sorta the first time ive ever asked a girl out that meaning ive never been on a date in my life.

now im saying if she says yes and thats a big if imo

anyway ive always pictured my ideal first date as a nice picnic in a park

now im a very honest person i mean very honest. and my friends(what friends i have) told me not to be too honest or youll scare her away

but i thought first dates are sposed to be getting to know the person and theres not much i can say to praise myself.

pretty much all i can say to about myself is : im a loner well i have a few friends, loser, no job(looking), sits at home on his ass playing video games most days who still lives with his parents and has never been kissed nor dated in 20 years.... but just assuming that wont go down well i dont know what to do.... and dont say go on a movie date..... im not gonna waste my first damn kiss in a dark theater with a chick i dont even know...as much as id love to kiss her :P

to add to that im asking random people on a game forum for advice :P

sorry for lack of caps and fullstops etc its 2:15 am and im nearly asleep

completely honestturbotoby95

Only your name. Base everything else on what she likes.

Be honest, but don't put all your cards on the table. That might scare her away.

[QUOTE="turbotoby95"]completely honestBiancaDK

Answer any question he/she ask honestly. You will regret it later if you lie now and it turns into something serious. I would say not to give her all the information, but be honest. You can save some info on certain topics for other dates or when you guys are just sitting down talking.

[QUOTE="BiancaDK"][QUOTE="turbotoby95"]completely honest360forlifeagain

[QUOTE="360forlifeagain"][QUOTE="BiancaDK"] the diametrical opposite of this ^BiancaDK

And why can't he get both? lol

Be honest but be selective about what you're honest about. And feel free to, exaggerate and framethings to your benefit. If she asks if you play sports, well, if you ever played a game of street hockey once, say you're into hockey. You're not unemployed, say that you'relooking forthe rightopportunity to come along, stuff like that.

Be honest, but don't put all your cards on the table. That might scare her away.

Jfisch93

You don't have to be totally honest...this is what happened in my case.

Her: i am gaining so much weight you know

Me: Really?

Her: Yes, I am thinking of adding a few more pounds, I want to know how it feels like being fat

Me:...

Her: I was only kidding, let's order something.

[QUOTE="BiancaDK"][QUOTE="turbotoby95"]completely honest360forlifeagain

Minions? What are you? An evil genius

And why can't he get both? lolbigblunt537

Tell her you have an extensive Yugioh card collection. If she happens to ask of course.

Tell her you have an extensive Yugioh card collection. If she happens to ask of course.

lilasianwonder

I deleted my original post first.

Cause to be honest i don't think you should go on a date. Its sounds to me that you have to find a way to make yourself happy at this moment. You do seem a little lonely and unhappy that you don't have a job and live with your parents. If anything i think you should try to make yourself happy cause if you can't do that how are you going to make someone else happy.

Granted you probably need to get laid but women can sense insecurities like a shark can sense blood and insecurities are not attractive. If you go on a date, go to have fun, enjoy yourself and go to meet a new friend not your life partner or wife.

Be honest but be selective about what you're honest about. And feel free to, exaggerate and framethings to your benefit. If she asks if you play sports, well, if you ever played a game of street hockey once, say you're into hockey. You're not unemployed, say that you'relooking forthe rightopportunity to come along, stuff like that.

_BlueDuck_

I say be how ever honest you want to be, if she doesnt like it thats on her. Sure you might not actually have a relationship with her, but you wont be wasting a ton of time on a relationship that will never last.

Group activities are better for first dates, less intimidating for girls.UT_Wrestler

I deleted my original post first.

Cause to be honest i don't think you should go on a date. Its sounds to me that you have to find a way to make yourself happy at this moment. You do seem a little lonely and unhappy that you don't have a job and live with your parents. If anything i think you should try to make yourself happy cause if you can't do that how are you going to make someone else happy.

Granted you probably need to get laid but women can sense insecurities like a shark can sense blood and insecurities are not attractive. If you go on a date, go to have fun, enjoy yourself and go to meet a new friend not your life partner or wife.

xxxAdvocatexxx

be honest, but don't seem depressed

she will probably say yes. just ask her if she wants to have a picnic with you. it's a whole lot more intimate than a movie imo. when you talk, just try to ask questions and keep the conversation about what you'd like to do, what your personality is like, and share some funny stories. you don't have to tell her everything bad about yourself and hope for the best. sounds like you have low self esteem, but you want to come across as confident to her. paullywog

[QUOTE="xxxAdvocatexxx"]

I deleted my original post first.

Cause to be honest i don't think you should go on a date. Its sounds to me that you have to find a way to make yourself happy at this moment. You do seem a little lonely and unhappy that you don't have a job and live with your parents. If anything i think you should try to make yourself happy cause if you can't do that how are you going to make someone else happy.

Granted you probably need to get laid but women can sense insecurities like a shark can sense blood and insecurities are not attractive. If you go on a date, go to have fun, enjoy yourself and go to meet a new friend not your life partner or wife.

360forlifeagain

If your happy with life then you have nothing to worry about... Go on your date and be inquisitive if you feel that your life isn't an intersting topic ask her about herself. I'm sure she has some interesting stories to tell and when she ask stuff about you, be honest.

Sure you probably don't want to tell her everything to... cause you want to save it for another date.

yeah, tell her honestly about what she asks, but spend the evening listening to her. It can be straining, but usually it pays off ^^

[QUOTE="360forlifeagain"][QUOTE="xxxAdvocatexxx"]

I deleted my original post first.

Cause to be honest i don't think you should go on a date. Its sounds to me that you have to find a way to make yourself happy at this moment. You do seem a little lonely and unhappy that you don't have a job and live with your parents. If anything i think you should try to make yourself happy cause if you can't do that how are you going to make someone else happy.

Granted you probably need to get laid but women can sense insecurities like a shark can sense blood and insecurities are not attractive. If you go on a date, go to have fun, enjoy yourself and go to meet a new friend not your life partner or wife.

xxxAdvocatexxx

im happy with my life the way it is but some people dont find my life appealing or to their liking so but yeah with all i know it could be the best night of my life, none of my life comes up in the talking and she falls head over heels for me :P it could happen

If your happy with life then you have nothing to worry about... Go on your date and be inquisitive if you feel that your life isn't an intersting topic ask her about herself. I'm sure she has some interesting stories to tell and when she ask stuff about you, be honest.

Sure you probably don't want to tell her everything to... cause you want to save it for another date.

the only interesting things i can tell anyone about my life is my kitten and my big music collection and when i say big i mean 55 000 songs and ive been told i can talk for hours on end about music and to quote my bestie "with such passion"
so i think ill make sure to bring up music :P

well im off to bed its 3am

thanks all for the kind and good advice!

yeah, tell her honestly about what she asks, but spend the evening listening to her. It can be straining, but usually it pays off ^^

Maddie_Larkin

dont tell her everything right away.weezyfb

Only your name. Base everything else on what she likes.

Colin1192

Lying is the bedrock on which every relationship is built.

Uhm. Be yourself. Don't say outlandish things. Be interested in her. And yeah, be yourself.

Watch that scene from the 40 Year Old Virgin where he talks to that chick Beth in the bookstore and doesn't say anything, just asks her questions, chicks love to talk. Plus the less you say about yourself, the more "mysterious" you will seem. Be David Caruso in Jade.