How do you ensure becoming friends with a cute girl?

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#1 Posted by gotdangit (8149 posts) -

Yea so tips I guess on how not to mess things up and keep up a good frienship with a girl that is really cute, and she probably knows it and all the guys are trying to flirt with her.

Cause that's the situation I'm in now. Cute girl in my class that I got to hang around and talk to. She's really attractive, and funny, and nice. I was being nice and whatever and we talked the whole class. This is volleyball btw so we're all together and able to talk adn cheer and whatever.

So all these other dudes start coming around and trying to flirt with her, but lucky for me I am on her team so I get to talk to her the most.

After class ended I caught up with her and tried to talk, small talk. What year she is, blah blah. And suddenly she starts running away and says bye. Get into some car (mystery person) and drives off.

This girl must be mine... So let's see what we can do to not mess it up. I want to try to start off my asking her if she wants to play volleyball outside of class but it's not so simple considering she just bolted off.

#2 Posted by Pffrbt (6589 posts) -

I don't know.

#3 Posted by 22Toothpicks (11347 posts) -

i don't know what to tell you other then to be yourself that's what i do and i can be a huge dork sometimes (a dork brimming with confidence, though...women love confidence BTW. but not arrogance of course) and guess what? i have no trouble finding a date

#4 Posted by -eddy- (11443 posts) -
If you want her, the last thing you want is the friendszone. It ain't hard to get there.
#5 Posted by Hakumen21 (342 posts) -

"
I love you like a brother!"

(ACHIEVEMENT UNLOCKED - 25G)

[ FAMILY ZONE'D ]

#6 Posted by gotdangit (8149 posts) -

If you want her, the last thing you want is the friendszone. It ain't hard to get there.-eddy-
That's not what I'm aiming for.

I also think we both did a pretty good job of making a dork of ourselves. Which is good, she can mess around and be herself.

#7 Posted by 22Toothpicks (11347 posts) -
actually, i do have a tip: try not to make it obvious that you are into her. it sounds stupid but act as if she isn't THAT important...nah-wud-i-mean?
#8 Posted by gotdangit (8149 posts) -

actually, i do have a tip: try not to make it obvious that you are into her. it sounds stupid but act as if she isn't THAT important...nah-wud-i-mean?22Toothpicks

Yes I know what you mean, but it's hard to not make it obvious when you're the one talking to her you know?

How do you find the good mix between interested a little, but also don't care if you're there kinda thing.

#9 Posted by senses_fail_06 (6736 posts) -
Pretend you're gay That way she thinks you won't be tryin to get in them pants.
#10 Posted by 22Toothpicks (11347 posts) -

[QUOTE="22Toothpicks"]actually, i do have a tip: try not to make it obvious that you are into her. it sounds stupid but act as if she isn't THAT important...nah-wud-i-mean?gotdangit

Yes I know what you mean, but it's hard to not make it obvious when you're the one talking to her you know?

How do you find the good mix between interested a little, but also don't care if you're there kinda thing.

merely talking to someone shouldn't make it obvious unless you are complimenting her all that time or laughing at here unfunny jokes like a jackass (i've sen guys do this..terrible idea) i guess just act as if you never see her again it wont be a big deal "The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays,"
#11 Posted by gotdangit (8149 posts) -

[QUOTE="gotdangit"]

[QUOTE="22Toothpicks"]actually, i do have a tip: try not to make it obvious that you are into her. it sounds stupid but act as if she isn't THAT important...nah-wud-i-mean?22Toothpicks

Yes I know what you mean, but it's hard to not make it obvious when you're the one talking to her you know?

How do you find the good mix between interested a little, but also don't care if you're there kinda thing.

merely talking to someone shouldn't make it obvious unless you are complimenting her all that time or laughing at here unfunny jokes like a jackass (i've sen guys do this..terrible idea) i guess just act as if you never see her again it wont be a big deal "The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays,"

Not just talking to her all the time, but I imagine next week, i won't be as lucky to be on the same court next to her. So what then? I'd obviously need to go out of my way to meet up with her and start talking. I don't know whether we get to choose our court or not. But I guess we'll see what happens next week.

I can try to talk to her before class starts, and after, but you know... Need a game plan.

#12 Posted by hiphops_savior (7998 posts) -

My solution? This.

#13 Posted by lamprey263 (24729 posts) -
pretend you're gay
#15 Posted by Kats_RK (2080 posts) -

That's a tricky situation.Just straight up flirt with her.Don't just talk and be friendly..be flirty so she knows you're into her xD

#16 Posted by MikeMoose (3075 posts) -

Never get friend-zoned; most frustrating thing ever. If you really want to be more than a friend, make sure she knows you intentions so she doen't get the wrong idea. Once you are in the friend zone it is pretty hard to get out.

#17 Posted by medani123 (5 posts) -
well each and every girl is unique in there own ways, so find out what her interests are and what she doesn't like. and work according to that.
#18 Posted by johnd13 (7841 posts) -

That's a tricky situation.Just straight up flirt with her.Don't just talk and be friendly..be flirty so she knows you're into her xD

Kats_RK

Pretty much this.

That way you' ll know if she' s seeing somebody else.

#19 Posted by thegerg (15739 posts) -
actually, i do have a tip: try not to make it obvious that you are into her. it sounds stupid but act as if she isn't THAT important...nah-wud-i-mean?22Toothpicks
Horrible advice. If you want more than friendship out of the relationship don't establish the relationship as friendship. Be honest with her.
#20 Posted by worlock77 (22547 posts) -

Do not be her friend if you want something more than friendship. It's dishonest and it puts you in the Friend Zone. Once you're in the Friend Zone there is no escape.

#21 Posted by MonsieurX (31216 posts) -
Why would you want a cute friend? You'll want to hit on her
#22 Posted by michael_1234576 (8620 posts) -
touch her shoulder
#23 Posted by th3warr1or (20641 posts) -
Are you actually trying to get yourself into the friendzone?
#24 Posted by megagene (23027 posts) -
Are you actually trying to get yourself into the friendzone? th3warr1or
That's what it seems like. I'd say he's already doing a pretty good job.
#25 Posted by KC_Hokie (16099 posts) -

http://www.ebaumsworld.com/video/watch/82599814/

#27 Posted by Diablo-B (4053 posts) -
To become friends with a cute girl all you need is stupidity. Why would you actively try to push yourself into the friend zone with an attractive female. Now don't get me wrong, ONE attractive friend could be useful at times, to help you get your foot in the door with other attractive girls. But anymore then 1 is a complete waste. But to answer your question all you need is to be nice and listen to her talk/problems. That is the sure fire way to get a one-way ticket to friend-zone
#28 Posted by sexyweapons (5302 posts) -

Talk to her.

#29 Posted by lonewolfman10 (541 posts) -

I guess be nice, but don't end up in the friendzone

#30 Posted by nintendoman562 (5593 posts) -

Why would you willingly be friends with her?

#31 Posted by Yoweeh (3025 posts) -

A lot of the girls I know like to flirt, but they never end up with a guy seriously who they flirt with. Leave her alone; if she enjoyed your company a lot, she'll talk to you first. If not, still leave her a lone and only talk to her when it seems like you have to aka whenever you're on the same team or nearby.

#32 Posted by Bucked20 (6651 posts) -
Flirt with her,cop some feels,don't agree with every damn thing she say,don't laugh at all her wack jokes and never let her talk about other dudes to you
#33 Posted by Jacobistheman (3975 posts) -

Just touch her shoulder

#34 Posted by ghoklebutter (19327 posts) -

Just get to know her more and do the stuff you want to do with her (e.g. play volleyball with her as you suggested). There's no guarantee you'll make her like you as a friend or more than a friend, though, and the sooner you internalize that, the better. 

Also, if you want her to like you as more than a friend, you need to be open with her about how you feel. Don't be one of those "nice guys," who think that friendship is the one road to romance.

#35 Posted by Rattlesnake_8 (18415 posts) -
First off change your sig.. girls don't like cats with their faces in bread. Secondly, don't ask on OT.. go talk to her, hang out with her and see where it goes.
#36 Posted by gotdangit (8149 posts) -

My plan is to be her friend as in that way we can actually talk and get to know each other. Because once I get her number and am able to hang out with her outside of class, that's when I'll start flirting a little and she'll probably know.

I think it's a safer road than trying to flirt with her, she'll just brush me off like the other guys. I gotta show her I'm not just interested in getting with her, I want to be her friend and more.

I won't get trapped in the friend zone. Trust. I'll try to be a little flirty, but I'm also acting myself. Good advice guys.

#37 Posted by fastesttruck (25353 posts) -
I'd just give up
#38 Posted by worlock77 (22547 posts) -

My plan is to be her friend as in that way we can actually talk and get to know each other. Because once I get her number and am able to hang out with her outside of class, that's when I'll start flirting a little and she'll probably know.

I think it's a safer road than trying to flirt with her, she'll just brush me off like the other guys. I gotta show her I'm not just interested in getting with her, I want to be her friend and more.

I won't get trapped in the friend zone. Trust. I'll try to be a little flirty, but I'm also acting myself. Good advice guys.

gotdangit

Dude, just give up, because you're plotting for yourself a straight, fast lane highway course to the Friend Zone.

#39 Posted by ghoklebutter (19327 posts) -

My plan is to be her friend as in that way we can actually talk and get to know each other. Because once I get her number and am able to hang out with her outside of class, that's when I'll start flirting a little and she'll probably know.

I think it's a safer road than trying to flirt with her, she'll just brush me off like the other guys. I gotta show her I'm not just interested in getting with her, I want to be her friend and more.

I won't get trapped in the friend zone. Trust. I'll try to be a little flirty, but I'm also acting myself. Good advice guys.

gotdangit
You don't have to be her friend in order to get to know her. Trust us, you really need to be open with her. As long as you can take rejection well (which isn't to say that she'll reject you for sure), you'll be just fine.
#40 Posted by thegerg (15739 posts) -

My plan is to be her friend as in that way we can actually talk and get to know each other. Because once I get her number and am able to hang out with her outside of class, that's when I'll start flirting a little and she'll probably know.

I think it's a safer road than trying to flirt with her, she'll just brush me off like the other guys. I gotta show her I'm not just interested in getting with her, I want to be her friend and more.

I won't get trapped in the friend zone. Trust. I'll try to be a little flirty, but I'm also acting myself. Good advice guys.

gotdangit
This is a horrible plan. If she's dumb enough to think that you're actually trying to be her friend then she's either going to be freaked out when you start to hit on her, or she's going to be upset that you're not man enough to be honest with her about your intentions.
#41 Posted by gotdangit (8149 posts) -

[QUOTE="gotdangit"]

My plan is to be her friend as in that way we can actually talk and get to know each other. Because once I get her number and am able to hang out with her outside of class, that's when I'll start flirting a little and she'll probably know.

I think it's a safer road than trying to flirt with her, she'll just brush me off like the other guys. I gotta show her I'm not just interested in getting with her, I want to be her friend and more.

I won't get trapped in the friend zone. Trust. I'll try to be a little flirty, but I'm also acting myself. Good advice guys.

ghoklebutter

You don't have to be her friend in order to get to know her. Trust us, you really need to be open with her. As long as you can take rejection well (which isn't to say that she'll reject you for sure), you'll be just fine.

You don't just get thrown into the friendzone after hanging out 3 times. And if you do, it's easy to get out.

#42 Posted by thegerg (15739 posts) -

[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"][QUOTE="gotdangit"]

My plan is to be her friend as in that way we can actually talk and get to know each other. Because once I get her number and am able to hang out with her outside of class, that's when I'll start flirting a little and she'll probably know.

I think it's a safer road than trying to flirt with her, she'll just brush me off like the other guys. I gotta show her I'm not just interested in getting with her, I want to be her friend and more.

I won't get trapped in the friend zone. Trust. I'll try to be a little flirty, but I'm also acting myself. Good advice guys.

gotdangit

You don't have to be her friend in order to get to know her. Trust us, you really need to be open with her. As long as you can take rejection well (which isn't to say that she'll reject you for sure), you'll be just fine.

You don't just get thrown into the friendzone after hanging out 3 times.

That's because you're not a friend yet.
#43 Posted by worlock77 (22547 posts) -

[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"][QUOTE="gotdangit"]

My plan is to be her friend as in that way we can actually talk and get to know each other. Because once I get her number and am able to hang out with her outside of class, that's when I'll start flirting a little and she'll probably know.

I think it's a safer road than trying to flirt with her, she'll just brush me off like the other guys. I gotta show her I'm not just interested in getting with her, I want to be her friend and more.

I won't get trapped in the friend zone. Trust. I'll try to be a little flirty, but I'm also acting myself. Good advice guys.

gotdangit

You don't have to be her friend in order to get to know her. Trust us, you really need to be open with her. As long as you can take rejection well (which isn't to say that she'll reject you for sure), you'll be just fine.

You don't just get thrown into the friendzone after hanging out 3 times. And if you do, it's easy to get out.

And you know this from your vast experience with girls, which is why, of course, you've come here asking for girl help?

#44 Posted by br0kenrabbit (13296 posts) -

If you want her, the last thing you want is the friendszone. It ain't hard to get there.-eddy-

Yup. Hit on her early and hit on her often. It doesn't even have to be anything clever or fancy, a simple up-down followed by "Damn, you and me girl, we're going to go get some food, right now" works more often than you'd think.

Don't be a pansy about it, don't mutter or stutter, no "umms" or "uhhs", just straight-up tell her she's about to go get dinner with you.

#45 Posted by ghoklebutter (19327 posts) -

It doesn't even have to be anything clever or fancy, a simple up-down followed by "Damn, you and me girl, we're going to go get some food, right now" works more often than you'd think.

br0kenrabbit
I completely agree. It's a very friendly way of asking someone out, and it doesn't sound awkward at all. That's how I'd feel if a guy asked me out that way. Also, you pretty much always seem to have good advice. :V
#46 Posted by br0kenrabbit (13296 posts) -

 I completely agree. It's a very friendly way of asking someone out, and it doesn't sound awkward at all. That's how I'd feel if a guy asked me out that way. Also, you pretty much always seem to have good advice. :Vghoklebutter

I've always been bold around the ladies. I find it comes off better (and less creepy) just putting it out there than trying to be romantic and all touchy-feely (that part belongs in a relationship, not a date). If I get turned down (it happens) I just move on, no big deal.

It's standing around thinking about it that holds most guys back. If I see a cute girl and I'm interested, I just straight-up hit on her. Often times I don't even get their name first.

Seriously, the most sexual tension you'll ever experience with a girl is when you first meet. Play on that.

#47 Posted by Zeviander (9503 posts) -
Attempt to initiate coitus at every opportunity.
#48 Posted by worlock77 (22547 posts) -

[QUOTE="ghoklebutter"]

 I completely agree. It's a very friendly way of asking someone out, and it doesn't sound awkward at all. That's how I'd feel if a guy asked me out that way. Also, you pretty much always seem to have good advice. :Vbr0kenrabbit

I've always been bold around the ladies. I find it comes off better (and less creepy) just putting it out there than trying to be romantic and all touchy-feely (that part belongs in a relationship, not a date). If I get turned down (it happens) I just move on, no big deal.

It's standing around thinking about it that holds most guys back. If I see a cute girl and I'm interested, I just straight-up hit on her. Often times I don't even get their name first.

Seriously, the most sexual tension you'll ever experience with a girl is when you first meet. Play on that.

This man knows what he's talking about.

#49 Posted by br0kenrabbit (13296 posts) -

Attempt to initiate coitus at every opportunity.Zeviander

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#50 Posted by Zeviander (9503 posts) -
2mxh6dg.jpgbr0kenrabbit
:lol: Well done.