How can I stop loving her (if I love her in the first place)? Please I need help

I know this is a gaming forum, but I just didn't find somewhere else to post it... So...

She's my best friend, and I think, but I'm not sure, that I fell in love with her. We have met only 3 times so far (not been friends for a long time, but she became my best friend). This is the first time I have a girl as a friend, let alone as a best friend. Could it be that I'm excited and I just think that I'm in love?

Please I don't want to lose her. :( If I tell her that I love her (if I do) then I'm almost sure everything will end. She frequently calls my mother, and she has already told her that she loves me a lot but as a friend, so I understood from that that she wants just to be friends, nothing more. And that's what I want too, but I really hope that this is not love that I feel.

I feel that I miss her a lot. But that's maybe because we're not meeting often, and she's my best friend. I text her almost everyday, because she gives me the best support out of all my friends (I have mental issues, and she knows, yet she still sticks to me and NEVER leave me alone in times of need).

She has told me that I'm the best and cutest (not in terms of love) person she has ever met. A few days ago she visited me in my home, and I almost cried when she left. I know it sounds stupid, but I felt so bad when she left.

Please tell me what I can do. I can't imagine my life without her. If you think that I do love her, please tell me how can I stop loving her? (of course I do love her, but as a friend, and I don't want to form a relationship with her).

Thanks a lot for any help.

P.S.: If it matters, I'm 21 years old, very shy, and never had a girlfriend before.

P.S.2: If you have insulting replies, then please don't reply at all. I feel bad enough, I don't want to feel even more bad. I'm saying this because I posted it somewhere else and someone insulted me.

Are you sure of your orientation?

Just love her, man. It's allright.
You want what's best for her. Maybe she doesn't feel that as strongly. That happens. But you can't stop the love, man. You're not wicked.
Just know that there are many other people who would care for you just like her, if they would get to know you. Being shy has some disadvantages.
I avoid people and always will, so I will never have a relationship. You seriously have to question if you want to let it come to that.

I can only tell you what I would do if I were you and that is try to put the moves on her.  At least this will make it clear where you stand with her.  

Guys, I don't think telling her that I like her (if I really do) is a good idea. I think if I do tell her then everything, everything between us will end, and I sincerely don't want that.

I'm so lost. :( Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hand her a note with two boxes:

"Do you like me?"

1. Yes

2. No

See which one she puts a check mark next to.

lol shes not even a real life friend so no its probably just a waste of time

Guys, I don't think telling her that I like her (if I really do) is a good idea. I think if I do tell her then everything, everything between us will end, and I sincerely don't want that.

I'm so lost. :( Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Ameer27

Not to be harsh but it has to be said, after re-reading your post I think I sort of have an idea whats going on:

TC, re-read your post. You guys only met three times so far and she already regards you as the cutest and best person she has ever met? Bullcrap, you guys barely know each other. You're best friends? Bullcrap, you don't turn best friends over a weekend, that's a bond that gets forged over months and years of experiences together, not meeting up three times. Is this girl really as good as you think she is?

What I'm trying to tell you here is, cool your jets. Its your first time having a lady friend and its understandable that you're feeling really hot for her since this is the first girl that's treating you in such a warm way, but those feelings are just straight up hornyness combined with desperation, not love, and if you act on them then well, prepare yourself for rejection. So please, just let them subside (trust me, over time they will) and stay friends with her for now (also, drop the I can't imagine life without her crap, its extremely bad for you and her).

Guys, I don't think telling her that I like her (if I really do) is a good idea. I think if I do tell her then everything, everything between us will end, and I sincerely don't want that.Ameer27

Then suck it up buttercup. The best course of action for you after the aforementioned sucking it up would be to find some other girl to bone. That'll take your mind off this girl real quick.

I know this is a gaming forum, but I just didn't find somewhere else to post it... So...

She's my best friend, and I think, but I'm not sure, that I fell in love with her. We have met only 3 times so far (not been friends for a long time, but she became my best friend). This is the first time I have a girl as a friend, let alone as a best friend. Could it be that I'm excited and I just think that I'm in love?

Please I don't want to lose her. :( If I tell her that I love her (if I do) then I'm almost sure everything will end. She frequently calls my mother, and she has already told her that she loves me a lot but as a friend, so I understood from that that she wants just to be friends, nothing more. And that's what I want too, but I really hope that this is not love that I feel.

I feel that I miss her a lot. But that's maybe because we're not meeting often, and she's my best friend. I text her almost everyday, because she gives me the best support out of all my friends (I have mental issues, and she knows, yet she still sticks to me and NEVER leave me alone in times of need).

She has told me that I'm the best and cutest (not in terms of love) person she has ever met. A few days ago she visited me in my home, and I almost cried when she left. I know it sounds stupid, but I felt so bad when she left.

Please tell me what I can do. I can't imagine my life without her. If you think that I do love her, please tell me how can I stop loving her? (of course I do love her, but as a friend, and I don't want to form a relationship with her).

Thanks a lot for any help.

P.S.: If it matters, I'm 21 years old, very shy, and never had a girlfriend before.

P.S.2: If you have insulting replies, then please don't reply at all. I feel bad enough, I don't want to feel even more bad. I'm saying this because I posted it somewhere else and someone insulted me.

Ameer27

Wait a minute, you've only met her 3 times and she's "your best friend"? ...I would consider slowing the f*ck down, socializing a bit more with other people and exploring other options. You need to be prepared for rejection from MANY different women, because in many cases it won't work out as you're planning it to/hoping it to. You need to socialize more and stop being a clingy, whiny little man. No girl likes a clingy, needy guy who falls in love after meeting her three times.chrisrooR

This too.

I think you have some serious emotional problems (im being serious).

Talking to a psychologist will benefit you a lot!

[QUOTE="Ameer27"]

Guys, I don't think telling her that I like her (if I really do) is a good idea. I think if I do tell her then everything, everything between us will end, and I sincerely don't want that.

I'm so lost. :( Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

chrisrooR

[QUOTE="Ameer27"]

Guys, I don't think telling her that I like her (if I really do) is a good idea. I think if I do tell her then everything, everything between us will end, and I sincerely don't want that.

I'm so lost. :( Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

chrisrooR

Kid that's not love.

Which is good, because I don't think you're emotionally ready to love and be loved.

You need to work on yourself and grow as a person.

What you're feeling is a form of infatuation.

I think you have some serious emotional problems (im being serious).

Talking to a psychologist will benefit you a lot!

TehFuneral

 

Kid that's not love.

Which is good, because I don't think you're emotionally ready to love and be loved.

You need to work on yourself and grow as a person.

What you're feeling is a form of infatuation.

LazySloth718

[QUOTE="LazySloth718"]

 

Kid that's not love.

Which is good, because I don't think you're emotionally ready to love and be loved.

You need to work on yourself and grow as a person.

What you're feeling is a form of infatuation.

Ameer27

if she is a good friend, then maybe it´s better to stay friends...