Got into a really bad arguement with my brother tonight

Firstly, he's your typical "I-went-to-college-so-I'm-better-than you-doucher" and he thinks because he has a "secure career" that he feels he knows better than I, which is obvious bs.

We argued mainly over the fact about why I choose to stay home and help with my father instead of as he put it "move on", he wasn't trying to listen to me or see it my way at all.

His main bullet points. His in bold, my rebuttals in italics

• Dad isn't so sick/old that he needs constant care or supervision
  
• I'm being content with this situation because I'm afraid (cannot tell you how close I was to screaming at him for this one) to venture out on life.

My rebuttall

• Dad is 67 years old, he's frail and he's worked 40+ years and he needs as much TLC as he can, I respect all that my father has done for me, so unlike him, i'm returning the favor.
• False, I'm not afraid of "life", I expierence it everyday, I had a relationship, I have my father that I tend to, and I have the internet, when I do go out, it's usually for a walk around the neighborhood or grocery shopping.
  

From then on, it simply got really, really, awkward, his girlfriend was there (typical giggly bimbo) and she's what caused the arguement, she had the nerve to make a comment about how I need to stop wasting away my life and need to embody it or whatever, and that's when I Screeched at her and called her a b!tch , so typical beta male brother of mine, instead of taking up for FAMILY he takes the side of his smug, hipster esque girlfriend. Long story short, it ended poorly, I realized just how much I despise him as an individual, he's a spoiled, hoiler than thou brat that needs validation in his life, so he relies on his education (he actually wants to be a high school counselor/threapist.....hold your laughter) or his snarky bitch.

My main problem is, where does are relationship go from here? It weakens each and every time we seem to talk, because we always result to personal attacks, and rarely, it can get violent. My father says I should listen to what he has to say, but what for? He's a 23 year old, inexpierenced d-bag, what could I possibly learn from him?

do you have a job?

do you have a job?

Storm_Marine

You should bang his girlfriend and rough him up a bit.heeweesRus

Firstly, he's your typical "I-went-to-college-so-I'm-better-than you-doucher" and he thinks because he has a "secure career" that he feels he knows better than I, which is obvious bs.

We argued mainly over the fact about why I choose to stay home and help with my father instead of as he put it "move on", he wasn't trying to listen to me or see it my way at all.

 

His main bullet points. His in bold, my rebuttals in italics

• Dad isn't so sick/old that he needs constant care or supervision
  
• I'm being content with this situation because I'm afraid (cannot tell you how close I was to screaming at him for this one) to venture out on life.

My rebuttall

• Dad is 67 years old, he's frail and he's worked 40+ years and he needs as much TLC as he can, I respect all that my father has done for me, so unlike him, i'm returning the favor.
• False, I'm not afraid of "life", I expierence it everyday, I had a relationship, I have my father that I tend to, and I have the internet, when I do go out, it's usually for a walk around the neighborhood or grocery shopping.
  

From then on, it simply got really, really, awkward, his girlfriend was there (typical giggly bimbo) and she's what caused the arguement, she had the nerve to make a comment about how I need to stop wasting away my life and need to embody it or whatever, and that's when I Screeched at her and called her a b!tch , so typical beta male brother of mine, instead of taking up for FAMILY he takes the side of his smug, hipster esque girlfriend. Long story short, it ended poorly, I realized just how much I despise him as an individual, he's a spoiled, hoiler than thou brat that needs validation in his life, so he relies on his education (he actually wants to be a high school counselor/threapist.....hold your laughter) or his snarky bitch.

My main problem is, where does are relationship go from here? It weakens each and every time we seem to talk, because we always result to personal attacks, and rarely, it can get violent. My father says I should listen to what he has to say, but what for? He's a 23 year old, inexpierenced d-bag, what could I possibly learn from him?

PrototypeTheKid

[QUOTE="heeweesRus"]You should bang his girlfriend and rough him up a bit.PrototypeTheKid

[QUOTE="PrototypeTheKid"]

Firstly, he's your typical "I-went-to-college-so-I'm-better-than you-doucher" and he thinks because he has a "secure career" that he feels he knows better than I, which is obvious bs.

We argued mainly over the fact about why I choose to stay home and help with my father instead of as he put it "move on", he wasn't trying to listen to me or see it my way at all.

 

His main bullet points. His in bold, my rebuttals in italics

• Dad isn't so sick/old that he needs constant care or supervision
  
• I'm being content with this situation because I'm afraid (cannot tell you how close I was to screaming at him for this one) to venture out on life.

My rebuttall

• Dad is 67 years old, he's frail and he's worked 40+ years and he needs as much TLC as he can, I respect all that my father has done for me, so unlike him, i'm returning the favor.
• False, I'm not afraid of "life", I expierence it everyday, I had a relationship, I have my father that I tend to, and I have the internet, when I do go out, it's usually for a walk around the neighborhood or grocery shopping.
  

From then on, it simply got really, really, awkward, his girlfriend was there (typical giggly bimbo) and she's what caused the arguement, she had the nerve to make a comment about how I need to stop wasting away my life and need to embody it or whatever, and that's when I Screeched at her and called her a b!tch , so typical beta male brother of mine, instead of taking up for FAMILY he takes the side of his smug, hipster esque girlfriend. Long story short, it ended poorly, I realized just how much I despise him as an individual, he's a spoiled, hoiler than thou brat that needs validation in his life, so he relies on his education (he actually wants to be a high school counselor/threapist.....hold your laughter) or his snarky bitch.

My main problem is, where does are relationship go from here? It weakens each and every time we seem to talk, because we always result to personal attacks, and rarely, it can get violent. My father says I should listen to what he has to say, but what for? He's a 23 year old, inexpierenced d-bag, what could I possibly learn from him?

hippiesanta

lol PrototypeTheKid thread.

[QUOTE="Storm_Marine"]

do you have a job?

PrototypeTheKid

Not to judge because obviously i don't know enough about you or your father. But from some perspectives you might be seen as leaching off of your father under the guise of 'taking care of him'.

How does your dad feel? Does he want your help? What do you want out of life? Not just taking care of your old man I hope. What's your five year plan?

[QUOTE="PrototypeTheKid"][QUOTE="Storm_Marine"]

do you have a job?

Storm_Marine

Not to judge because obviously i don't know enough about you or your father. But from some perspectives you might be seen as leaching off of your father under the guise of 'taking care of him'.

How does your dad feel? Does he want your help? What do you want out of life? Not just taking care of your old man I hope. What's your five year plan?

Yusuke420

if his dad was a decent dad I think he'd want his son to have his own life.

Also, from the gist of that, it seems like that you just want to mooch off of your father and browse the web.sammyjenkis898

[QUOTE="Storm_Marine"]

[QUOTE="PrototypeTheKid"] I take care of my father and keep his house as clean as possible.PrototypeTheKid

Not to judge because obviously i don't know enough about you or your father. But from some perspectives you might be seen as leaching off of your father under the guise of 'taking care of him'.

You can't do that AND have your own life?

[QUOTE="sammyjenkis898"]Also, from the gist of that, it seems like that you just want to mooch off of your father and browse the web.PrototypeTheKid

[QUOTE="hippiesanta"][QUOTE="PrototypeTheKid"]

Firstly, he's your typical "I-went-to-college-so-I'm-better-than you-doucher" and he thinks because he has a "secure career" that he feels he knows better than I, which is obvious bs.

We argued mainly over the fact about why I choose to stay home and help with my father instead of as he put it "move on", he wasn't trying to listen to me or see it my way at all.

 

His main bullet points. His in bold, my rebuttals in italics

• Dad isn't so sick/old that he needs constant care or supervision
  
• I'm being content with this situation because I'm afraid (cannot tell you how close I was to screaming at him for this one) to venture out on life.

My rebuttall

• Dad is 67 years old, he's frail and he's worked 40+ years and he needs as much TLC as he can, I respect all that my father has done for me, so unlike him, i'm returning the favor.
• False, I'm not afraid of "life", I expierence it everyday, I had a relationship, I have my father that I tend to, and I have the internet, when I do go out, it's usually for a walk around the neighborhood or grocery shopping.
  

From then on, it simply got really, really, awkward, his girlfriend was there (typical giggly bimbo) and she's what caused the arguement, she had the nerve to make a comment about how I need to stop wasting away my life and need to embody it or whatever, and that's when I Screeched at her and called her a b!tch , so typical beta male brother of mine, instead of taking up for FAMILY he takes the side of his smug, hipster esque girlfriend. Long story short, it ended poorly, I realized just how much I despise him as an individual, he's a spoiled, hoiler than thou brat that needs validation in his life, so he relies on his education (he actually wants to be a high school counselor/threapist.....hold your laughter) or his snarky bitch.

My main problem is, where does are relationship go from here? It weakens each and every time we seem to talk, because we always result to personal attacks, and rarely, it can get violent. My father says I should listen to what he has to say, but what for? He's a 23 year old, inexpierenced d-bag, what could I possibly learn from him?

lo_Pine

[QUOTE="Yusuke420"]

How does your dad feel? Does he want your help? What do you want out of life? Not just taking care of your old man I hope. What's your five year plan?

Storm_Marine

if his dad was a decent dad I think he'd want his son to have his own life.

[QUOTE="Storm_Marine"]

[QUOTE="Yusuke420"]

How does your dad feel? Does he want your help? What do you want out of life? Not just taking care of your old man I hope. What's your five year plan?

PrototypeTheKid

if his dad was a decent dad I think he'd want his son to have his own life.

The hell did you make the thread for then? Positive affirmations of your life to make you feel better?

[QUOTE="PrototypeTheKid"][QUOTE="Storm_Marine"]

if his dad was a decent dad I think he'd want his son to have his own life.

Storm_Marine

The hell did you make the thread for then? Positive affirmations of your life to make you feel better?

Do you earn any money? Is it your car or your fathers car that you use to buy groceries (of which I'm sure you consume some)? Also what about that five year plan? Where do you see yourself in five years and what ae you doing to achieve those goals?

@Storm_Marine Ok, just stay out of my thread for now, ok? PrototypeTheKid

:lol: U Mad

[QUOTE="Storm_Marine"]

[QUOTE="PrototypeTheKid"]  @Storm_Marine Ok, just stay out of my thread for now, ok? PrototypeTheKid

The hell did you make the thread for then? Positive affirmations of your life to make you feel better?

Your own life and where it's headed is far more important  than your relationship with your brother and his gf.

Unless you're wiping his ass, having to give him baths yourself, and controlling a strict regiment of medicine along with precise food/liquid consumption then you are not anywhere NEAR the "taking care of him" that you cannot have a job. Not anywhere near. Hell. You may just be a bad person in general.

 

A good son will pay back the good parent by giving them their time while doing their utmost to not drain any of the good parent's remaining resources. That isn't you.CreasianDevaili

He gets girls, you're a shut in and he's the beta?Rhazakna

I don't think your brother went about approaching you the right way especially with his GF being there. But maybe you do need to start doing things for yourself with whatever spare time you have. I'm sure your dad wouldn't mind if you started working towards a degree or took a job to get some experience. What will happen to you when your dad passes away ? Don't you ever want a place of your own and maybe a woman or family or just be able to travel? Try and think of the future a bit. Sounds like you weren't completely mad at your brother but maybe a little mad at yourself as well. Once you get a job or get a social life everything will start to make more sense for you and your family will be proud of you.

I don't think your brother went about approaching you the right way especially with his GF being there. But maybe you do need to start doing things for yourself with whatever spare time you have. I'm sure your dad wouldn't mind if you started working towards a degree or took a job to get some experience. What will happen to you when your dad passes away ? Don't you ever want a place of your own and maybe a woman or family or just be able to travel? Try and think of the future a bit. Sounds like you weren't completely mad at your brother but maybe a little mad at yourself as well. Once you get a job or get a social life everything will start to make more sense for you and your family will be proud of you.

nooblet69

Tell me how much your brother makes a year and his career and then I'll hand down my judgment on this situation.

So far it sounds like your brother is jealous of you being a good person by taking care of your father. 

[QUOTE="nooblet69"]

I don't think your brother went about approaching you the right way especially with his GF being there. But maybe you do need to start doing things for yourself with whatever spare time you have. I'm sure your dad wouldn't mind if you started working towards a degree or took a job to get some experience. What will happen to you when your dad passes away ? Don't you ever want a place of your own and maybe a woman or family or just be able to travel? Try and think of the future a bit. Sounds like you weren't completely mad at your brother but maybe a little mad at yourself as well. Once you get a job or get a social life everything will start to make more sense for you and your family will be proud of you.

PrototypeTheKid

[QUOTE="PrototypeTheKid"][QUOTE="nooblet69"]

I don't think your brother went about approaching you the right way especially with his GF being there. But maybe you do need to start doing things for yourself with whatever spare time you have. I'm sure your dad wouldn't mind if you started working towards a degree or took a job to get some experience. What will happen to you when your dad passes away ? Don't you ever want a place of your own and maybe a woman or family or just be able to travel? Try and think of the future a bit. Sounds like you weren't completely mad at your brother but maybe a little mad at yourself as well. Once you get a job or get a social life everything will start to make more sense for you and your family will be proud of you.

nooblet69

Tell me how much your brother makes a year and his career and then I'll hand down my judgment on this situation.

So far it sounds like your brother is jealous of you being a good person by taking care of your father. 

junglist101

Firstly, he's your typical "I-went-to-college-so-I'm-better-than you-doucher" and he thinks because he has a "secure career" that he feels he knows better than I, which is obvious bs.

We argued mainly over the fact about why I choose to stay home and help with my father instead of as he put it "move on", he wasn't trying to listen to me or see it my way at all.

 

His main bullet points. His in bold, my rebuttals in italics

• Dad isn't so sick/old that he needs constant care or supervision
  
• I'm being content with this situation because I'm afraid (cannot tell you how close I was to screaming at him for this one) to venture out on life.

My rebuttall

• Dad is 67 years old, he's frail and he's worked 40+ years and he needs as much TLC as he can, I respect all that my father has done for me, so unlike him, i'm returning the favor.
• False, I'm not afraid of "life", I expierence it everyday, I had a relationship, I have my father that I tend to, and I have the internet, when I do go out, it's usually for a walk around the neighborhood or grocery shopping.
  

From then on, it simply got really, really, awkward, his girlfriend was there (typical giggly bimbo) and she's what caused the arguement, she had the nerve to make a comment about how I need to stop wasting away my life and need to embody it or whatever, and that's when I Screeched at her and called her a b!tch , so typical beta male brother of mine, instead of taking up for FAMILY he takes the side of his smug, hipster esque girlfriend. Long story short, it ended poorly, I realized just how much I despise him as an individual, he's a spoiled, hoiler than thou brat that needs validation in his life, so he relies on his education (he actually wants to be a high school counselor/threapist.....hold your laughter) or his snarky bitch.

My main problem is, where does are relationship go from here? It weakens each and every time we seem to talk, because we always result to personal attacks, and rarely, it can get violent. My father says I should listen to what he has to say, but what for? He's a 23 year old, inexpierenced d-bag, what could I possibly learn from him?

PrototypeTheKid

Haha, where the hell are you from?  This reads like some shitty high school drama show.

For the record, dump the old man and get on with your life.  My grandpa is 80 years old and takes care of himself.  At 67, your father should be caring for himself.  Why isn't he working?