Obviously the woman isn't trying to remove the word from the dictionary, but she's trying to change how and when the word is used.
I'm in no way a "********" as the internet likes to dub people, but I agree with the sentiment, because I think "bossy" is a word that has been misused in such a way that it has come to mean something it doesn't, like "gay" and "stupid" have become synonymous, when it's used to describe women and girls. That's not to say it's never used towards men, but the primary use seems to be towards girls.
For example, the word means "fond of giving orders", but the context of the word almost always uses "she" when using it in a sentence, and in a negative way. Both examples that come up when you google the definition of bossy are directed at girls: "we're hiding from his bossy sister", "she was headlong, bossy, scared of nobody, and full of vinegar".
If you look at the synonyms for "bossy", you'll find words like assertive, authoritarian, high-handed, etc. Most example sentences using those and other words that insinuate power, control or the like in a positive manner use "he".
The word "boss" is a term that means power, being the head of something, the best. Everybody strives to be the boss. "Bossy", in the culture we live in, gives the impression that a person is annoying or unwarranted in their assertiveness, in a way that implies that their ideas are invalid and they're bothersome for sharing them. This would be fine if the word was spread evenly between genders, but since it's primarily used towards girls as an insult or put-down to tell them that their thoughts aren't wanted and their assertion is seen as annoying, it's become an issue.
It's the same thing as what being called a "***" or a "pansy" for expressing emotion is for boys. Implying that you're unworthy or less masculine because you have feelings or fear or like to do or wear certain things. It's unacceptable to emasculate a boy or young man by calling him these things because of what one is implying when they say them, and I think the same is true for the word bossy and girls. It's implying that a girl is unworthy to express her opinion or speak up, for fear of being deemed 'bossy'.
It has a horribly detrimental impact on the self esteem of people it's used on when they know they're being told they're annoying and their thoughts aren't valid, just like calling a little boy a sissy if he cries will be detrimental to his self esteem.
I wonder how many guys here and everywhere grew up with dads or male figureheads that told them not to be nancy boys, to walk it off. Or who didn't tolerate crying or the showing of any strong emotion other than anger. "Man up" was probably a phrase heard a lot in your house. I wonder also, how many of these guys now feel some amount of shame when they feel emotion or cry? How many feel less masculine for their choice of everything from beverages (martinis are for women, beer is for men) to clothing. Things deemed 'feminine' are dirty and you should feel ashamed for dabbling in them if you're a 'real man', etc? I see that as the same thing. Not okay.
It's really just not a word that means something pleasant in its' use today, and its' use is meant to hurt or put down the person it's directed at. The meaning of the word needs to change, or people need to stop using it towards kids all together.
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