I'm at nearly 7 years in the relationship I'm in now, and I'm an open book. I don't keep anything from him. He can ask me where I am and what I'm doing at any given moment and I'll give him full details because nothing I'm doing is anything I should be ashamed of or want to hide from him.
The last time I lied to him or kept something from him was his birthday a couple years back, where I snuck into his house earlier than I said I would be coming, hid in a bathroom and waited for him to leave so I could decorate the house. Surprise-party secrets are the only acceptable type of secrets.
I don't think everything needs to be SHARED, specifically, but you shouldn't hide things. You don't have to volunteer all information (like that the girl who works in your office flirts with you, if you're not reciprocating) but if they ask you should be willing to share it. Honesty is why my relationship is where it is today and lying and secrets only hurt things.
If, for example, you and your girlfriend were fighting and you got drunk and made out with some girl, I think (unfortunately from experience here) that you should tell her, and let her decide what happens next. If she finds out later that you did something like that, even if it meant nothing, the damage will be FAR harder to repair than if you'd been honest at the beginning.
My boyfriend and I have been together so ridiculously long and through so much that we've shared almost every detail of our lives with each other, including grade school crushes and things as frivolous as that. Past relationships are something we've discussed at length, when appropriate, but are not something that really have much to do with us in our current situation.
EDIT: The facebook password comment above got me thinking too; yes we both know or could guess each other's passwords for the majority of things, and I would never mind him going on my accounts and he doesn't mind me going on his.
I think shared passwords are a slippery slope, and not always appropriate and certainly not required. If you're okay with sharing, great. If you're not, that's fine too. Accounts are private things, and you're no more obligated to share your facebook information than you are your debit pin with a significant other.
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