Do you actually fear death?

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#1 Edited by uninspiredcup (6962 posts) -

For me the idea of the pain and heightened stress before death e.g. struggling to breath as you drown scares me. However the concept of being dead does not. I think it's basically like a light switch going off.

Whats your thoughts on this? Does death scare you?

#2 Posted by Master_Live (13639 posts) -

Sometimes I do, sometimes I just wish it would come swiftly. Sometimes I think about how incredible and how many sacrifices my mom has done for me, and how I feel that I'm just wasting away and I get really depressed; to think my family might go before I succeed or to see me fail altogether. Sometimes I wish I just went to sleep one night and never woke again.

#3 Posted by always_explicit (2632 posts) -

Sometimes I do, sometimes I just wish it would come swiftly. Sometimes I think about how incredible and how many sacrifices my mom has done for me, and how I feel that I'm just wasting away and I get really depressed; to think my family might go before I succeed or to see me fail altogether. Sometimes I wish I just went to sleep one night and never woke again.

Jesus.

Success is over rated dude. Focus on the little things.

Go to a bar alone and drink a shit tonne of whisky and listen to some rock and roll until an awkwardly attractive girl gives you the eye. Then do what you do. Always cheered me up a treat. Might not make your momma proud tho!

#4 Posted by Dogswithguns (10670 posts) -

Yes.. I'm scared but I know I will be gone one day.. never wanna see that day.

#5 Posted by johnd13 (7818 posts) -

I guess I am, yes. Mostly I'm afraid of the cause and the suffering it could bring. For example, having a heart disease or cancer.

#6 Edited by elkoldo (931 posts) -

I got only this to say ; I'd rather die like an honorable man than live as a worthless piece of scum.

Plus Master Live's last line : Sometimes I just wish I fell asleep, never to wake up to this damn life again.

#7 Posted by Netret0120 (1910 posts) -

As I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil. I don't fear death but I respect it.

#8 Edited by Randolph (10346 posts) -

I fear the way in which I might die, but like you, the idea of death itself, of being dead… I don't fear that much. Especially once I moved past my childhood religious brainwashing. I used to be terrified of eternity, and not hell so much. I was terrified of heaven as the only alternative to hell. Hell sounded awful, heaven sounded almost as bad. Boring and meaningless, spending eternity as a mindless drone with no free will robotically worshipping god for all time with no end. It's practically hell without the flames.

#9 Edited by betamaxx83 (351 posts) -

I stress more about how I will die, but I have come to peace with the idea of death. Plus I wouldn't want to live forever anyways.

#10 Edited by The_Mancunian (20 posts) -

Well, no, not at all. I'm not religious so I don't believe we go to some magical place when we're dead, I believe 'that's it' and we just cease to exist (exactly what it was like before we were born). Despite this, I'm fine with it and intend to just make the most of my life whilst I'm alive. I might fear the method in which I die (I hope its peaceful and quick!) but as for death itself, no way :)

#11 Posted by Qixote (10648 posts) -

Most people who say they don't fear death have never faced it, so of course it is easy for them to say that. They are still healthy and relatively young. But the day will come when this all changes. There is an old saying about foxholes and atheists. . .

#12 Edited by SNIPER4321 (10142 posts) -

Im very religious so no im not.

one day every livingthing will have to die. human, plants, animals. etc

#13 Posted by Hatiko (4505 posts) -

@Qixote said:

Most people who say they don't fear death have never faced it, so of course it is easy for them to say that. They are still healthy and relatively young. But the day will come when this all changes. There is an old saying about foxholes and atheists. . .

One time an old professor asked our class if we feared death. Most of the class said no because we all die eventually and there is no point in being afraid and stuff like that. The professor then said "Well, that's because you all think you're going to live forever, you're all young and healthy and feel fine. But, one day it is going to hit you that you will die. And if that doesn't scare you, when you have children, the thought that one day they will be dead will horrify you."

#14 Posted by Hiddai (6056 posts) -

I do afraid of it. The thing is that we don't think about it most of the time.

#15 Edited by foxhound_fox (86973 posts) -

I'll welcome Mistress Death with open arms when she arrives.

#16 Posted by Boddicker (2283 posts) -

I have a brain tumor that's recently changed grades to become more malignant. I've been dealing with this for over a decade. The tumor can be removed but ALWAYS returns probably due to chromosomal damage, but they really don't know. I'm having invasive surgery in about a month and there is a chance I will die on the operating table. I'm 34.

The average lifespan for a grade 3 oligodendroglioma is 3 years.

Anyone who says they don't fear death is either lying, insane, devoutly religious (even then I think most of them are deluding themselves), or extremely elderly (most people just want it to be over). It's one of our most primal fears that have been around since we were simple proto-humans. Most people if they were drowning with another person would push that person underwater to reach air because at that point they're no longer a reasoning individual but are acting solely on instinct.

For those who say they wouldn't fear it, wait until death is literally knocking on your door and then tell me you're ok with unlocking that door and embracing it. I guarantee most of you would panic, lock, and barricade that door. I have a brain tumor and know I would.

If I'm going I would want it to be on that operating table. No fear, no pain. But instead I will probably just slide into dementia due to fear of waking seizures and from having portions of my brain removed.

I think I will get my parents to buy me a PS4 after the surgery. When you're dying you can do shit like that.

#17 Posted by alim298 (1022 posts) -

Death is quite terrifying. The only thing good about it is that it only comes to you once. (That is if you go to heaven instead of hell of course). Now in my religion a good man should not fear dead but I keep thinking of all the opportunities that will be lost when I die. Besides I haven't been a committed person in the past three years so yeah I'm terrified.

#18 Edited by Stranger_36 (458 posts) -

I am scared of death. Lately though, it seems like for me there's more dread toward the thought of getting old than death.

#19 Edited by Masculus (2801 posts) -

Only when my life is not at risk, I'm not afraid. I am a macho guy in those circumstances.

But whenever I am in car driven by my brother, those times I know I'm afraid of dying (lol).

#20 Posted by Wilfred_Owen (20802 posts) -

Death itself. No. But the manner of which I'm going to die in does.

#21 Posted by LoG-Sacrament (20395 posts) -

well, i'd be terrified if i thought i was about to die because, you know, i like living. however, i know that it's very unlikely to happen any time soon so i'm never scared of it.

like i'd be terrified if i were just walking down the street and a tiger jumped out in front of me. i'm just not constantly terrified at the prospect of tigers because i know that's very unlikely to happen.

#22 Edited by 4myAmuzumament (1743 posts) -

I'm interested in knowing what it feels like. In entertainment, we see characters always get that last sentence out before actually dying. I wonder what that feeling of knowing you aren't about be living anymore is or if it just kind of hits you and you're dead.

I think I'll embrace death when/if it happens.

#23 Edited by konvikt_17 (22108 posts) -

Nope. i find solace in it actually.

#24 Edited by geniobastardo (941 posts) -

Not afraid (not trying to be cool) . Yea seriously, just tell me before you want to kill me. Even if you won't, that's cool with me.

#25 Edited by Korvus (2458 posts) -

As a child (from around 3yo) I had to fall asleep with the thought that it might be my last night...with severe asthma I would go from sleeping to passed out without even waking up...my mother always arrived in time but I knew I might run out of luck at a point...

I remember once she locked me in the house by mistake when she went to work and I had a really bad asthma attack; couldn't breathe, tried calling my mother's work but wasn't able to speak so I just sat on the couch and thought "this is it"...it was very peaceful and there was no drama there (I was 4yo, that's probably why =P We also didn't have any inhalers or nebulizers back then). Woke up in the hospital because my mother guessed it was me on the phone since nobody talked and caught a cab home and found me passed out on the floor.

So yeah, growing up like that I'm not really afraid of dying. I'm not afraid of getting into a car crash, getting broken beyond repair and dying, but I'm scared to think I might get into a car crash, get broken beyond repair and NOT die. I'm not afraid of dying but I'm afraid of ending up as a quadriplegic...

#26 Posted by 187umKILLAH (1337 posts) -

Anyone who says they don't fear death is either lying, insane, devoutly religious (even then I think most of them are deluding themselves), or extremely elderly (most people just want it to be over).

You forgot another category, those who have seen the other side and come back. Up to 2005, 95% of world cultures have been documented making some mention of near death experiences. Almost 3500 individual cases between 1975 and 2005 had been reviewed in one or another study.

Something I rarely mention to anyone is my own near death experience, I was kayaking in a quiet river when the kayak tipped over and I couldn't get it up (...he he!). Anyway long story short, I looked down on my kayak from above the river then saw a tunnel of light, felt warmth and a feeling of complete fulfilment. Then before I knew it I was clambering up the side of the bank still stuck inside the kayak, if it was just a hallucination like some claim then it's better than any illegal substance I've heard of. I thought if that's what dieing is like then I have nothing to worry about, I've only talked about that to a few close family members as I'm not interested in arguing about it with anyone.

Anyway best of luck for the upcoming surgery :)

#27 Posted by DeadMan1290 (15499 posts) -

Death doesn't scare me. I'm more sort of curious of it. But I'm not in a rush to go yet.

#28 Posted by danten81 (129 posts) -

The after-life(if there is one) scares the crap out of me. Death itself is nothing, unless I have to suffer extreme pain to get there. I'm not a bad person, and haven't harmed anyone physically since high school(bullies need some retaliation), but it's pretty much a fear of the unknown.

#29 Posted by mjf249 (2837 posts) -

“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.”
Mark Twain

#30 Posted by gamerguru100 (10401 posts) -

Physically being dead seems like it would be a relief, but the actual process of dying seems scary, especially if there is physical pain or psychological stress involved, which is the case for the vast majority of deaths.

#31 Posted by ShepardCommandr (2150 posts) -

I'll welcome Mistress Death with open arms when she arrives.

#32 Posted by bowchicka07 (1069 posts) -

Yes it's scary. Maybe not so much after I finish my bucket list.

#33 Posted by thehig1 (892 posts) -

@mjf249 said:

“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.”

Mark Twain

I don't like that saying although I do understand the point its trying to make.

I fear death at times somewhat as it's a frightening concept of ceasing to exist.The suffering pre death etc does not scare me as much as the end result of no longer existing.

#34 Posted by Assassin_87 (2295 posts) -

I don't fear the concept of death or the process of dying. However, I may change my mind when I'm faced with the reality of it.

#35 Edited by wis3boi (30921 posts) -

not really, no

#36 Posted by CrimsonBrute (23084 posts) -
@danten81 said:

The after-life(if there is one) scares the crap out of me. Death itself is nothing, unless I have to suffer extreme pain to get there. I'm not a bad person, and haven't harmed anyone physically since high school(bullies need some retaliation), but it's pretty much a fear of the unknown.

#37 Posted by vfibsux (4205 posts) -

Sometimes I do, sometimes I just wish it would come swiftly. Sometimes I think about how incredible and how many sacrifices my mom has done for me, and how I feel that I'm just wasting away and I get really depressed; to think my family might go before I succeed or to see me fail altogether. Sometimes I wish I just went to sleep one night and never woke again.

You might want to get some help for that bro.....just sayin.

I have a brain tumor that's recently changed grades to become more malignant. I've been dealing with this for over a decade. The tumor can be removed but ALWAYS returns probably due to chromosomal damage, but they really don't know. I'm having invasive surgery in about a month and there is a chance I will die on the operating table. I'm 34.

The average lifespan for a grade 3 oligodendroglioma is 3 years.

Anyone who says they don't fear death is either lying, insane, devoutly religious (even then I think most of them are deluding themselves), or extremely elderly (most people just want it to be over). It's one of our most primal fears that have been around since we were simple proto-humans. Most people if they were drowning with another person would push that person underwater to reach air because at that point they're no longer a reasoning individual but are acting solely on instinct.

For those who say they wouldn't fear it, wait until death is literally knocking on your door and then tell me you're ok with unlocking that door and embracing it. I guarantee most of you would panic, lock, and barricade that door. I have a brain tumor and know I would.

If I'm going I would want it to be on that operating table. No fear, no pain. But instead I will probably just slide into dementia due to fear of waking seizures and from having portions of my brain removed.

I think I will get my parents to buy me a PS4 after the surgery. When you're dying you can do shit like that.

That's some real shit bro, best of luck to you man. Too young for this shit.

#38 Posted by jun_aka_pekto (15830 posts) -

Uh, yeah. Better them than me.

#39 Posted by Brutal_Elitegs (16136 posts) -

Yes. I like living.

#40 Edited by slipknot0129 (5484 posts) -

I dont fear death. Im just curious to see what happens after you die.

#41 Edited by lamprey263 (22458 posts) -

Death scares me, not the pain though, but the thought of not living a more fulfilling life does.

#42 Posted by Boddicker (2283 posts) -

@vfibsux said:

@Master_Live said:

Sometimes I do, sometimes I just wish it would come swiftly. Sometimes I think about how incredible and how many sacrifices my mom has done for me, and how I feel that I'm just wasting away and I get really depressed; to think my family might go before I succeed or to see me fail altogether. Sometimes I wish I just went to sleep one night and never woke again.

You might want to get some help for that bro.....just sayin.

@Boddicker said:

I have a brain tumor that's recently changed grades to become more malignant. I've been dealing with this for over a decade. The tumor can be removed but ALWAYS returns probably due to chromosomal damage, but they really don't know. I'm having invasive surgery in about a month and there is a chance I will die on the operating table. I'm 34.

The average lifespan for a grade 3 oligodendroglioma is 3 years.

Anyone who says they don't fear death is either lying, insane, devoutly religious (even then I think most of them are deluding themselves), or extremely elderly (most people just want it to be over). It's one of our most primal fears that have been around since we were simple proto-humans. Most people if they were drowning with another person would push that person underwater to reach air because at that point they're no longer a reasoning individual but are acting solely on instinct.

For those who say they wouldn't fear it, wait until death is literally knocking on your door and then tell me you're ok with unlocking that door and embracing it. I guarantee most of you would panic, lock, and barricade that door. I have a brain tumor and know I would.

If I'm going I would want it to be on that operating table. No fear, no pain. But instead I will probably just slide into dementia due to fear of waking seizures and from having portions of my brain removed.

I think I will get my parents to buy me a PS4 after the surgery. When you're dying you can do shit like that.

That's some real shit bro, best of luck to you man. Too young for this shit.

The crazy shit is I just graduated college as valedictorian of my class in November and moved back to my home state to learn about this shit. I figured it was going to remain a grade 2 forever and I was going to live another decade atleast. FUCK!!!!!!!

Before even learning this the funeral home (degree is in embalming/funeral directing) that swore up and down that they were going to hire me stabbed me in the back and turned me down due to "hospitalization concerns" on their insurance. The old men that run the fucking funeral home are too stupid to know how illegal that is, but I don't have the endurance for a legal battle anymore.

Ugh. Rant over.

#43 Posted by -Sun_Tzu- (17316 posts) -

My only fear is not being able to experience it (peacefully, ideally). Judging from near-death experience (and DMT) accounts it's not something I really want to miss out on.

With that said, I'm also in no rush.

#44 Edited by -TheSecondSign- (9155 posts) -

Yeah. I'd rather not die any time soon.

#45 Edited by spaceninja818 (415 posts) -

I used to. But then I realized that fearing it or worrying about it is a waste of time/life. Especially after losing some very close...friends. Its inevitable and it will happen to everyone at some point. Fearing it isn't gonna change anything. My guess is, it will feel as it felt as before we were born.

#46 Posted by IMAHAPYHIPPO (2537 posts) -

@uninspiredcup: Scared of death? No. Scared of dying before I do everything I've set out to do. Terrified.

#47 Posted by GrayF0X786 (3819 posts) -

i fear God, not death

#48 Posted by MacaroniMoses (663 posts) -

I was already dead before i was born so no.

#49 Posted by tocool340 (20418 posts) -

I don't fear death itself, just how I would die and how much pain will be involved....

#50 Posted by Mikey132 (5101 posts) -

Quote from a line at the starting of the movie The Book Thief. "When the time comes don't panic, it doesn't seem to help!"