Do women like men to be polite?

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#1 Posted by chaz1911 (67 posts) -

Please don't think this is some hind of sexist thing or something it's just i'm 18 and allways trie to be polite hold doors open and stuff like that and lately people have been laughing at me for it. They either think i'm trieing to come on to them or say and i quote thats really gay I mean should I just let doors slam in peoples faces or what ladies please help?

#2 Posted by cslayer211 (833 posts) -
Depends if the women is a feminist or not.
#3 Posted by BATTOSAI76 (4084 posts) -

They laugh at you? You're not using lame pick up lines as they walk through are you? Cause that just sounds ass backwards.

#4 Posted by chaz1911 (67 posts) -

They laugh at you? You're not using lame pick up lines as they walk through are you? Cause that just sounds ass backwards.

BATTOSAI76

Not at all they are friends of mine and work collegues and i'm not interested in them romanticly.

#5 Posted by PiscesChick93 (10687 posts) -

There is nothing wrong with being polite by holding doors and such. It's nice to be nice.

Don't stop just because they laugh at you, remember, it's a dumb reason to laugh at someone. And definitely don't slam the door in people's faces..

#6 Posted by indzman (16933 posts) -

Please don't think this is some hind of sexist thing or something it's just i'm 18 and allways trie to be polite hold doors open and stuff like that and lately people have been laughing at me for it. They either think i'm trieing to come on to them or say and i quote thats really gay I mean should I just let doors slam in peoples faces or what ladies please help?

chaz1911

seems you are overdoing politeness. Be normal.

#7 Posted by chaz1911 (67 posts) -
[QUOTE="PiscesChick93"]

There is nothing wrong with being polite by holding doors and such. It's nice to be nice.

Don't stop just because they laugh at you, remember, it's a dumb reason to laugh at someone. And definitely don't slam the door in people's faces..

[/QUOTE See i hold doors for everyone at work and the other day was walking to shop with a girl from work and she laughed when she saw i held doors outside of work too i just don't get it.
#8 Posted by rilpas (8222 posts) -

[QUOTE="chaz1911"]

Please don't think this is some hind of sexist thing or something it's just i'm 18 and allways trie to be polite hold doors open and stuff like that and lately people have been laughing at me for it. They either think i'm trieing to come on to them or say and i quote thats really gay I mean should I just let doors slam in peoples faces or what ladies please help?

indzman

seems you are overdoing politeness. Be normal.

probably this.

I know the concept sounds a bit silly but it can happen

#9 Posted by BATTOSAI76 (4084 posts) -

[QUOTE="BATTOSAI76"]

They laugh at you? You're not using lame pick up lines as they walk through are you? Cause that just sounds ass backwards.

chaz1911

Not at all they are friends of mine and work collegues and i'm not interested in them romanticly.

I'm sure they're just teasing. Some people think holding doors and the like are old fashioned. 21st century people are sometimes numb to the concept of kindness, don't let it get to you.

#10 Posted by indzman (16933 posts) -

[QUOTE="PiscesChick93"]

There is nothing wrong with being polite by holding doors and such. It's nice to be nice.

Don't stop just because they laugh at you, remember, it's a dumb reason to laugh at someone. And definitely don't slam the door in people's faces..

[/QUOTE See i hold doors for everyone at work and the other day was walking to shop with a girl from work and she laughed when she saw i held doors outside of work too i just don't get it.chaz1911

Theres your problem. Do it for your very close lady freinds or g.f. no need to show politeness to every women at work, while its a good gesture many will laugh still.

#11 Posted by chaz1911 (67 posts) -

There is nothing wrong with being polite by holding doors and such. It's nice to be nice.

Don't stop just because they laugh at you, remember, it's a dumb reason to laugh at someone. And definitely don't slam the door in people's faces..

[/QUOTE See i hold doors for everyone at work and the other day was walking to shop with a girl from work and she laughed when she saw i held doors outside of work too i just don't get it.[QUOTE="PiscesChick93"]

There is nothing wrong with being polite by holding doors and such. It's nice to be nice.

Don't stop just because they laugh at you, remember, it's a dumb reason to laugh at someone. And definitely don't slam the door in people's faces..

PiscesChick93
I hold doors for everyone at work and other day girl from work laughed at me when she saw i held door for her outside of work i don't get it.
#12 Posted by chaz1911 (67 posts) -

[QUOTE="chaz1911"][QUOTE="PiscesChick93"]

There is nothing wrong with being polite by holding doors and such. It's nice to be nice.

Don't stop just because they laugh at you, remember, it's a dumb reason to laugh at someone. And definitely don't slam the door in people's faces..

[/QUOTE See i hold doors for everyone at work and the other day was walking to shop with a girl from work and she laughed when she saw i held doors outside of work too i just don't get it.indzman

Theres your problem. Do it for your very close lady freinds or g.f. no need to show politeness to every women at work, while its a good gesture many will laugh still.

What really?
#13 Posted by BATTOSAI76 (4084 posts) -

[QUOTE="chaz1911"][QUOTE="PiscesChick93"]

There is nothing wrong with being polite by holding doors and such. It's nice to be nice.

Don't stop just because they laugh at you, remember, it's a dumb reason to laugh at someone. And definitely don't slam the door in people's faces..

[/QUOTE See i hold doors for everyone at work and the other day was walking to shop with a girl from work and she laughed when she saw i held doors outside of work too i just don't get it.indzman

Theres your problem. Do it for your very close lady freinds or g.f. no need to show politeness to every women at work, while its a good gesture many will laugh still.

I disagree with this statement partially. You should show politeness to everyone, man and women. I hold the door for most everyone, AT CONVENIENCE, I don't run ahead of crowds of women just to hold the door open for them when they're still twenty feet away. Do it as appropriate. If accompanying one person, hold the door for them; if leading a small group, hold the door; if in front of a stranger hold the door, or at least kick it open a little so they have something to gab on to. In short don't go waaaaaay out of your way, if your doing that then you will look a tad silly.

#14 Posted by indzman (16933 posts) -

[QUOTE="indzman"]

[QUOTE="chaz1911"][QUOTE="PiscesChick93"]

There is nothing wrong with being polite by holding doors and such. It's nice to be nice.

Don't stop just because they laugh at you, remember, it's a dumb reason to laugh at someone. And definitely don't slam the door in people's faces..

[/QUOTE See i hold doors for everyone at work and the other day was walking to shop with a girl from work and she laughed when she saw i held doors outside of work too i just don't get it.BATTOSAI76

Theres your problem. Do it for your very close lady freinds or g.f. no need to show politeness to every women at work, while its a good gesture many will laugh still.

I disagree with this statement partially. You should show politeness to everyone, man and women. I hold the door for most everyone, AT CONVENIENCE, I don't run ahead of crowds of women just to hold the door open for them when they're still twenty feet away. Do it as appropriate. If accompanying one person, hold the door for them; if leading a small group, hold the door; if in front of a stranger hold the door, or at least kick it open a little so they have something to gab on to. In short don't go waaaaaay out of your way, if your doing that then you will look a tad silly.

Yeah, do it when neccessary or appropiate in situations as you mentioned.

#15 Posted by Overlord93 (12602 posts) -
How far away are they when you're holding the door open? The other side of the room?
#16 Posted by hyperjj3000 (973 posts) -
Im a woman and i love polite men, it doesn't cost anything to be polite so keep doing what your doing TC.
#17 Posted by PernicioEnigma (5271 posts) -
Depends if the women is a feminist or not.cslayer211
No it doesn't. Most women, whether they're feminist or not, prefer men who are polite over those who are rude.
#18 Posted by TrainerCeleste (1774 posts) -

[QUOTE="indzman"]

[QUOTE="chaz1911"][QUOTE="PiscesChick93"]

There is nothing wrong with being polite by holding doors and such. It's nice to be nice.

Don't stop just because they laugh at you, remember, it's a dumb reason to laugh at someone. And definitely don't slam the door in people's faces..

[/QUOTE See i hold doors for everyone at work and the other day was walking to shop with a girl from work and she laughed when she saw i held doors outside of work too i just don't get it.BATTOSAI76

Theres your problem. Do it for your very close lady freinds or g.f. no need to show politeness to every women at work, while its a good gesture many will laugh still.

I disagree with this statement partially. You should show politeness to everyone, man and women. I hold the door for most everyone, AT CONVENIENCE, I don't run ahead of crowds of women just to hold the door open for them when they're still twenty feet away. Do it as appropriate. If accompanying one person, hold the door for them; if leading a small group, hold the door; if in front of a stranger hold the door, or at least kick it open a little so they have something to gab on to. In short don't go waaaaaay out of your way, if your doing that then you will look a tad silly.

^this I hold doors for everyone when possible :P But the only person I will ever run ahead of is my girlfriend :lol:
#19 Posted by TrainerCeleste (1774 posts) -
[QUOTE="cslayer211"]Depends if the women is a feminist or not.PernicioEnigma
No it doesn't. Most women, whether they're feminist or not, prefer men who are polite over those who are rude.

Feminist women don't need no man holding their doors, they be trying to get in their pants :O
#20 Posted by cslayer211 (833 posts) -
[QUOTE="cslayer211"]Depends if the women is a feminist or not.PernicioEnigma
No it doesn't. Most women, whether they're feminist or not, prefer men who are polite over those who are rude.

Feminist find men who are overly polite to be degrading.
#21 Posted by LJS9502_basic (150066 posts) -
Theres your problem. Do it for your very close lady freinds or g.f. no need to show politeness to every women at work, while its a good gesture many will laugh still.indzman
I've never seen anyone laugh at that. They generally say thank you.....
#22 Posted by indzman (16933 posts) -

[QUOTE="indzman"]Theres your problem. Do it for your very close lady freinds or g.f. no need to show politeness to every women at work, while its a good gesture many will laugh still.LJS9502_basic
I've never seen anyone laugh at that. They generally say thank you.....

women from TC's workplace are laughing at TC for opening doors for them.dem silly womenz :P

#23 Posted by AutoPilotOn (8124 posts) -
In general try and be polite and respectful to anyone. If your going through the door and there is man or woman going to hold it the extra second for them.
#24 Posted by chaz1911 (67 posts) -
How far away are they when you're holding the door open? The other side of the room?Overlord93
No walking with me/right next to me.
#25 Posted by chaz1911 (67 posts) -
[QUOTE="indzman"]Theres your problem. Do it for your very close lady freinds or g.f. no need to show politeness to every women at work, while its a good gesture many will laugh still.LJS9502_basic
I've never seen anyone laugh at that. They generally say thank you.....

They do thank me just say is silly as well.
#26 Posted by TrainerCeleste (1774 posts) -
[QUOTE="Overlord93"]How far away are they when you're holding the door open? The other side of the room?chaz1911
No walking with me/right next to me.

In this case the girl you were walking with is just a bi*ch There's nothing wrong with that :P maybe she's a feminist
#27 Posted by nunovlopes (2603 posts) -

[QUOTE="indzman"]

[QUOTE="chaz1911"][QUOTE="PiscesChick93"]

There is nothing wrong with being polite by holding doors and such. It's nice to be nice.

Don't stop just because they laugh at you, remember, it's a dumb reason to laugh at someone. And definitely don't slam the door in people's faces..

[/QUOTE See i hold doors for everyone at work and the other day was walking to shop with a girl from work and she laughed when she saw i held doors outside of work too i just don't get it.BATTOSAI76

Theres your problem. Do it for your very close lady freinds or g.f. no need to show politeness to every women at work, while its a good gesture many will laugh still.

I disagree with this statement partially. You should show politeness to everyone, man and women. I hold the door for most everyone, AT CONVENIENCE, I don't run ahead of crowds of women just to hold the door open for them when they're still twenty feet away. Do it as appropriate. If accompanying one person, hold the door for them; if leading a small group, hold the door; if in front of a stranger hold the door, or at least kick it open a little so they have something to gab on to. In short don't go waaaaaay out of your way, if your doing that then you will look a tad silly.

This man got it right. It's what I do.

I always let a woman get out of the elevator first, enter a room first, etc., they seem to like it.

#28 Posted by themajormayor (25672 posts) -
Yes
#29 Posted by BatCrazedJoker (1978 posts) -
For the most part women like a gentleman.
#30 Posted by comp_atkins (31204 posts) -
generally speaking, yes
#31 Posted by CreasianDevaili (3992 posts) -
Throw the girls for a loop and start shaking their hands like they are a man.

But really you hold the door open for people for yourself, not for them. If they scoff or laugh at ya it shouldn't matter unless you were doing it based on what you want people to see you as. Which, often then, get what you bargain for.
#32 Posted by XilePrincess (13115 posts) -
It's human decency to hold a door or help a person out. I like ALL people of either gender and anywhere between to be polite.
#33 Posted by ghoklebutter (19327 posts) -
I like both men and women to be polite.
#34 Posted by CreasianDevaili (3992 posts) -
This reminds of when I drove a friend of my friend, who isn't my friend, to a pizza place to pick it up. This girl is walking out with 2 large pizzas. Short thing. So she stops, and he is outside and he stops. So he opens the door and she starts to walk out. He dives in and lets the door slam the pizza boxes and her back. I started laughing and said jackass out loud followed by her looking at me and saying hes an ass. I don't let him be around me in public anymore suffice to say.
#35 Posted by leviathan91 (7763 posts) -

Be polite. Don't let anyone step on you. Know the limits.

#36 Posted by Diablo-B (4022 posts) -
Sounds like you need to hang out around new people. In high school I remember coming into to class in a great mode, with a smile on my face and a girl and her friend asked if I was gay just cause i was smiling. Some people are just dumb and miserable.
#37 Posted by chaz1911 (67 posts) -
Sounds like you need to hang out around new people. In high school I remember coming into to class in a great mode, with a smile on my face and a girl and her friend asked if I was gay just cause i was smiling. Some people are just dumb and miserable.Diablo-B
You think i need new friends? Just recently i wrote a poem for a girl i was sweet on and everyone said that i was gay because of that.
#38 Posted by m25105 (3135 posts) -
Yes women do like polite men. The key thing is being polite, but still confident. No woman likes a guy who's unsure of himself all the time. So be a gentlemen, but be a confident gentlemen. If you wanna be a bad boy, then go for girls instead.
#39 Posted by Allicrombie (25114 posts) -
no, we like guys that are brash, rude, and treat every situation that arises with a shotgun in one hand and a chainsaw in the other.
#40 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -
Everyone regardless of sex likes nice people?
#41 Posted by Fightingfan (38011 posts) -

no, we like guys that are brash, rude, and treat every situation that arises with a shotgun in one hand and a chainsaw in the other.Allicrombie

Future husband?

#42 Posted by chaz1911 (67 posts) -
no, we like guys that are brash, rude, and treat every situation that arises with a shotgun in one hand and a chainsaw in the other.Allicrombie
I'm detecting a layer of sarcasm in your answer.
#43 Posted by Allicrombie (25114 posts) -

[QUOTE="Allicrombie"]no, we like guys that are brash, rude, and treat every situation that arises with a shotgun in one hand and a chainsaw in the other.Fightingfan

Future husband?

if that guy isn't careful, he's gonna lose a finger.
#44 Posted by chaz1911 (67 posts) -

Ok poetry now i ain't saying i'm a great poet but i realy didn't expect to be called gay for writing a poem for a girl keep in mind i'm 18 do women really not like men to create things for them?

#45 Posted by kingkong0124 (8710 posts) -

long live chivalry

#46 Posted by TrainerCeleste (1774 posts) -
[QUOTE="Diablo-B"]Sounds like you need to hang out around new people. In high school I remember coming into to class in a great mode, with a smile on my face and a girl and her friend asked if I was gay just cause i was smiling. Some people are just dumb and miserable.chaz1911
You think i need new friends? Just recently i wrote a poem for a girl i was sweet on and everyone said that i was gay because of that.

Yes, you need new friends :P They obviously have the wrong idea about you, and don't choose to learn about you. What kind of friend is that :lol: I wrote poems for my girlfriend all the time, they are bad but hey I do :lol: Not gay either o3o
#47 Posted by TrainerCeleste (1774 posts) -
[QUOTE="Fightingfan"]

[QUOTE="Allicrombie"]no, we like guys that are brash, rude, and treat every situation that arises with a shotgun in one hand and a chainsaw in the other.Allicrombie

Future husband?

if that guy isn't careful, he's gonna lose a finger.

Does it make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside? :P :lol:
#48 Posted by Suzy_Q_Kazoo (9901 posts) -

Umm, do you mean polite or chivalrous?

Anywho, YEEEEES on the polite. Acting like a rude douche is one of the fastest ways to lose [my] interest.