Dating Advice Thread

Good lawdy lawdy.

I can't get a date to save my life. I don't drink or go to events so I date online. It seems like every girl who can't get a date is online. I am by no means shallow but these girls are not attractive to me. Out of about 500 girls I looked at over the past few months I try to contact ONE and she ignores me. Also finding common interests is hard for me because I really like video games and that's about it. The truth is Im 29, single, and haven't been on a date in over 1 year.

How are you guys doing on the dating scene? Do you have any advice for me, maybe I need to switch things up a bit.

To impress a chick do the helicopter dick.

I came to the right place.

lower your standards :)

Hey, we are masters in helping people getting laid and get their relationship back on track

A serious piece of advice though... Try to get out of the house.

@horgen said:

@TheHighWind said:

I came to the right place.

Hey, we are masters in helping people getting laid and get their relationship back on track

A serious piece of advice though... Try to get out of the house.

Well my problem is I am Disabled and don't work so I don't get out much. I hate bars and there are no cute girls at the grocery store. By the way I might as well live in Boring, Wyoming as far as places to hang out are concerned! >:(

You make this a challenge. Hmm...

You're probably not going to like my advice so feel free to ignore it but here it goes anyway: Stop searching for a girlfriend. No, I'm not trolling, hear me out.

Some people are great at the seduction game, some people are at their best when they're chatting somebody up, some people manage to attract everyone around them with seemingly no effort at all; from what you say, you are not one of those people. If you are just focused on finding a gf you're more than likely going to blow it every time you approach a girl because you have one thing on your mind. If you can't "sell it" then not many girls are going to fall for you simply by you being in the same room as them.

So does that mean I'm telling you to be alone for the rest of your life? Not at all...I'm just saying focus on making friends, female friends even, just not a gf. There are women of all shapes and sizes and with all different manner of tastes...if you like something I guarantee you that there are women out there who like the same thing; just do things that interest you, talk to people who share your interests and after you have a friendship going on and things are going well THEN think whether you should make your next move. It gets so much easier to make girls take an interest to you when you don't act like a dog sniffing everybody's butt...

Remember, you are at your best when you're just being you, and it's easier to be yourself when you're just having fun with someone with no strings attached; you'll be more fun, less clingy, less forceful and overall more likable. So that's my advice to you: let go of the "I really need to find a girlfriend" mentality.

@korvus: "some people manage to attract everyone around them with seemingly no effort at all"

That's pretty much my mentality. I go into new environments looking to not make new friends. This causes people to like me anyway.

@PSP107: You're playing to your strengths and that was my exact point...know what you're good at and go with it. Also, confidence is probably the single most important factor in pulling that off...you're attractive to others because you think you are. That makes you intriguing to them and thus people naturally gravitate towards you; not everyone can pull it off but those who can are always a good show.

Just go out to parties and drink. It may not appeal to you, but sometimes in life you need to do things that you don't like in order to get what you want.

How many times have you actually gone out to clubs/bars? If you're like me the answer is probably never, yet I know if I was able to relax in such environments I would probably enjoy myself.

Edit: You also can't rely on girls to make the first move when it comes to anything related to romance or sex - they almost all have crippling self-esteem issues. No wonder they value confidence in guys so much...

Try Prostitutes. Can't go wrong with them girls.

I see what you mean. I'm trying too hard.

@davillain-: "Try Prostitutes. Can't go wrong with them girls."

Please explain your experience.

I know being lonely sucks but you want to show the best of yourself, right? Not to mention that romances that have a solid friendship as a base have the potential to be much more rewarding in the long run.

@PSP107: Good if your into a quickie, not playing the waiting game. Though Korvus has the best opinion so far I say, he's kinda right.

I see you advised MDK as well =P Although he took it as dating them.

@davillain-: "Good if your into a quickie,"

lol, i didn't expect that response.

Offer a girl your half eaten big mac.

panty dropper right there.

@korvus: I'm glad you agree with me. My logic is undeniable :-D

Oh boy...i do not want to know about dates any time soon >.<

Anyway...yep, you are trying to hard...you don't really need to go to online dates sites...you could start by saying hello to a random girl you see when you go to work/school.

@TheHighWind: Ok, look at it this way, you are fishing but you keep casting and casting, the fish will be scared But if you are to passive they eat the bait of the hook and leave...

The trick is to have patience, seduce the fish to bite the bait and just at the right moment you reel them in! :D

@TheHighWind: "Also finding common interests is hard for me because I really like video games and that's about it." - Forget about finding a girlfriend for no, focus on trying to find things to be interested too. And from there you might expand your social circle and meet someone.

LOL

why are people advicing him to do this and that when all he needs to do is write more than 1 message per goddamn semester xD

Wow, this is a tough one... I'd have to go with Korvus, and just accept that it won't lead to dates as often as, say, being a master flirter, but it'll bring quality people into your life with time.

Edit: As in, go with what he said, not with him...

If you are ugly like me it can be extremely difficult to get attention from women.

I'm turning 30 soon and never even had one date.

So unless you have a lot of money, being ugly like I am can be a significant barrier in getting reciprocal affection from women.

The problem is that I don't think I'll ever be rich enough or handsome enough in order to impress beautiful women.

So I'll probably always be alone. When I'll turn 70 I'll probably be some of those old men sitting in the park alone.

In fairness if you have only emailed one woman out of the few billion that exist then the odds are not in your favour haha.

I was never a huge fan of bars and clubs but that all changed a few years ago when I got fed up with my student friends not going out and went to a bar alone to prove a point. Once you get over the fact your alone it can be fun. I used to smoke though so I was forever using the "do you have a lighter" line.

@korvus said:

@ianhh6 said:

Wow, this is a tough one... I'd have to go with Korvus

@ianhh6 said:

Edit: As in, go with what he said, not with him...

lol sorry, just personal preference!

(dat cat tho)

@pariah3: if you can provide or help support a relatively safe and predictable everyday life, you'd be surprised how positive some women react to those things alone

a simple car, simple home and a simple job paired with a genuinely friendly guy doesn't seem like an exciting concept to you and me, but some women value these things above all else

I'm just messing with you; I'm happily married =)

@korvus: So I've read! rubbin it in to the poor singles on OT? :P

don't do online dating

@ianhh6: Only for luck =D

Actually, I met my wife on Match.com. In my early-mid 20s, I wasn't a bar scene kind of guy, so I usually dated (more like banged) people from work, neighbors, or friends of friends. My experience on Match was the opposite of yours. I met 3 or 4 different really attractive girls before my wife. I liked the fact that I could email and talk to them before meeting them, so I could weed out the ones with which I didn't have a connection or shared interests before we met in person.

This is not meant to offend you but are you really married or are you just lying?

That's the problem with Internet forums. The extreme anonymity.

You can never know if what the person you are communicating with says is really true.

In the Internet if a person says he's married he could be lying or if a person says that he slept with 4 women then he could be lying as well.

@pariah3: You don't offend me at all, but I think the main question is: why does it matter? Even if I wasn't married I could easily find a photo of a couple and post it here to "prove" to you that I was, so on the internet you basically have 2 choices; you either trust or you don't. I choose to trust the non-important things and not trust things that might put me at risk.

Why do you say that? On the one hand I sorta think anybody I consider (in all brute sincerity) worth dating isn't the type I'd find on an online dating site, because it's sort of indicative of some social difficulty or another.

At the same time there are plenty of people worth dating who simply don't have the access to meeting new people as easily as others do, so it makes sense for them to use a tool they have at their reach. There's also the simple fact that we're all online, so I understand that some might think "well, I might as well make use of it".

For the sake of debate let's say I sorta agree with you :P

If video games is all you can say about the things you like, you need to get out more.

We all love video games. We wouldn't be here if we didn't. But I have other things that interest me. You should too.

I always wanna give advice in these kinds of threads, but then I see a huge wall of text from korvus full of advice and I feel redundant :/

@deeliman: We all know that huge walls of text are always good advice, right? =P

Especially if they are rambly and incoherent ;)

If you're damn handsome like myself just show them your dick.

Also, you gotta learn how to play the game bro. Women are hornier than guys in most respects, use that to your advantage. Don't go out there looking for true love, just wreck something.

also if you're into the furry fandom at all, cut that shit out right now.

I'm just giving him some advice. I never said he was a fur it was just an observation.

The fact you're gay and go along with the fur shit might actually help you but this dudes trying to land girls.

pikachu wonders how did this fact came about