You're probably not going to like my advice so feel free to ignore it but here it goes anyway: Stop searching for a girlfriend. No, I'm not trolling, hear me out.
Some people are great at the seduction game, some people are at their best when they're chatting somebody up, some people manage to attract everyone around them with seemingly no effort at all; from what you say, you are not one of those people. If you are just focused on finding a gf you're more than likely going to blow it every time you approach a girl because you have one thing on your mind. If you can't "sell it" then not many girls are going to fall for you simply by you being in the same room as them.
So does that mean I'm telling you to be alone for the rest of your life? Not at all...I'm just saying focus on making friends, female friends even, just not a gf. There are women of all shapes and sizes and with all different manner of tastes...if you like something I guarantee you that there are women out there who like the same thing; just do things that interest you, talk to people who share your interests and after you have a friendship going on and things are going well THEN think whether you should make your next move. It gets so much easier to make girls take an interest to you when you don't act like a dog sniffing everybody's butt...
Remember, you are at your best when you're just being you, and it's easier to be yourself when you're just having fun with someone with no strings attached; you'll be more fun, less clingy, less forceful and overall more likable. So that's my advice to you: let go of the "I really need to find a girlfriend" mentality.
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