Am I Being Taken Advantage Of? | UPDATE!

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#1 Edited by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

I'm living with my half sister's aunt and her son in a four bedroom, duplex apartment. I just learned that the amount of money I pay to stay here is twice the entire rent. I raised the issue and was verbally ganged-up on by the both of them. With the money I pay to stay here, she can afford to pay the rent and the electricity bill. So, whatever money she makes from her job is purely disposable income. WTF?

She lied to me in the past, telling me that her rent was higher than it actually was.

UPDATE

Today, I payed her half of what I usually pay. She did not argue or raise her voice. She quietly took the money with this look of disappointment and guilt; I can tell that she knows she's wrong for what she's been doing.

#2 Edited by jasean79 (2268 posts) -

What else do you get for living there? Does your rent include food and other utilities?

#3 Edited by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

@jasean79 said:

What else do you get for living there? Does your rent include food and other utilities?

I buy and cook my own food. Also, yes, my rent includes all other utilities. However, the only utility that's payed for here is electricity.

#4 Edited by Aljosa23 (24310 posts) -

Move out.

Problem solved!

#5 Edited by jasean79 (2268 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef:

Well then I would say you're getting shafted. Is your name on the lease? I mean, if you can afford to pay for the entire rent bill in addition to your own food, then best bet would be to move out and find a place of your own. Is that possible?

#6 Posted by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

@jasean79 said:

@BluRayHiDef:

Well then I would say you're getting shafted. Is your name on the lease? I mean, if you can afford to pay for the entire rent bill in addition to your own food, then best bet would be to move out and find a place of your own. Is that possible?

I don't make enough money to live on my own.

#7 Edited by jasean79 (2268 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef:

But you just said that the money you pay is twice the entire rent. So, that would seem as if you can live in your own apartment for half that? What am I not reading correctly here?

#9 Posted by playmynutz (5925 posts) -

Hit up craigslist, cut the losses

#10 Posted by jasean79 (2268 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef:

Well then, I guess you can try to work it out with your aunt and try to explain your side, seeing as how you're unemployed at the moment and need all the money you can get...OR, you can see about moving out - maybe finding a roommate somewhere. You have options.

#11 Posted by mattykovax (22693 posts) -

@jasean79 said:

@BluRayHiDef:

But you just said that the money you pay is twice the entire rent. So, that would seem as if you can live in your own apartment for half that? What am I not reading correctly here?

Her rent is subsidized. I didn't know that.

Yeah....Either move out and get a roommate or suck it up. If she is willing to charge you more than her rent when it is subsidized without telling you, I doubt she is going to listen to reason, she want to live for free.

#12 Edited by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef said:

@jasean79 said:

@BluRayHiDef:

But you just said that the money you pay is twice the entire rent. So, that would seem as if you can live in your own apartment for half that? What am I not reading correctly here?

Her rent is subsidized. I didn't know that.

Yeah....Either move out and get a roommate or suck it up. If she is willing to charge you more than her rent when it is subsidized without telling you, I doubt she is going to listen to reason, she want to live for free.

I plan on giving her half of what I pay from now on.

#13 Posted by mattykovax (22693 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef:

As long as that's less than shes paying. you just should not be paying for her, especially when it was under false pretenses.

#14 Edited by 4myAmuzumament (1743 posts) -

Do you have a bigger/private bathroom? Is your room bigger? I've seen people use these criteria to determine the cost of rent for each roommate. In your case, though, I doubt it would drive up the cost enough to make you complain about. Get a different roommate and find a place with lower rent.

#15 Edited by CyberLips (1620 posts) -

What a horrible person, stop giving her your money she's practically robbing you.

#16 Edited by megagene (22975 posts) -

Dude, you seem to have nothing but grief living in that apartment. Your roommate leaving used condoms lying around and being a thug in general. And now our aunt shafting you. I know you said you don't make enough money to live on your own, but you could still probably find yourself a better deal living elsewhere with different roommates.

#17 Edited by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

@megagene said:

Dude, you seem to have nothing but grief living in that apartment. Your roommate leaving used condoms lying around and being a thug in general. And now our aunt shafting you. I know you said you don't make enough money to live on your own, but you could still probably find yourself a better deal living elsewhere with different roommates.

My living situation is just one of my problems, the biggest of which is my general inability to coexist with others. I was walking in Downtown Brooklyn (NYC) today all the while being mean-mugged, scoffed at, and avoided. I get a bad vibe from everybody. I honestly think about committing suicide on a daily basis. I don't have a place in this world.

#18 Posted by ferrari2001 (16677 posts) -

@megagene said:

Dude, you seem to have nothing but grief living in that apartment. Your roommate leaving used condoms lying around and being a thug in general. And now our aunt shafting you. I know you said you don't make enough money to live on your own, but you could still probably find yourself a better deal living elsewhere with different roommates.

I don't have a place in this world.

That's just not true. You just need to find something you are passionate about and do everything you possibly can to excel in that area. It'll give you a real sense of purpose and accomplishment, it might even make you more self confident and more easily able to coexist with others.

#19 Posted by megagene (22975 posts) -

@megagene said:

Dude, you seem to have nothing but grief living in that apartment. Your roommate leaving used condoms lying around and being a thug in general. And now our aunt shafting you. I know you said you don't make enough money to live on your own, but you could still probably find yourself a better deal living elsewhere with different roommates.

My living situation is just one of my problems, the biggest of which is my general inability to coexist with others. I was walking in Downtown Brooklyn (NYC) today all the while being mean-mugged, scoffed at, and avoided. I get a bad vibe from everybody. I honestly think about committing suicide on a daily basis. I don't have a place in this world.

I don't believe that. I've watched some your youtube vids and you seem like a pretty alright guy.

#20 Edited by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

@megagene said:
@BluRayHiDef said:

@megagene said:

Dude, you seem to have nothing but grief living in that apartment. Your roommate leaving used condoms lying around and being a thug in general. And now our aunt shafting you. I know you said you don't make enough money to live on your own, but you could still probably find yourself a better deal living elsewhere with different roommates.

My living situation is just one of my problems, the biggest of which is my general inability to coexist with others. I was walking in Downtown Brooklyn (NYC) today all the while being mean-mugged, scoffed at, and avoided. I get a bad vibe from everybody. I honestly think about committing suicide on a daily basis. I don't have a place in this world.

I don't believe that. I've watched some your youtube vids and you seem like a pretty alright guy.

Sorry, son, but that's not the impression people get of me when they see me in person. Just yesterday I was walking down a sidewalk and a woman who was walking toward me entered the street and walked around a car just to avoid walking past me. Reactions such as this one are typical for me.

#21 Posted by megagene (22975 posts) -

@megagene said:
@BluRayHiDef said:

@megagene said:

Dude, you seem to have nothing but grief living in that apartment. Your roommate leaving used condoms lying around and being a thug in general. And now our aunt shafting you. I know you said you don't make enough money to live on your own, but you could still probably find yourself a better deal living elsewhere with different roommates.

My living situation is just one of my problems, the biggest of which is my general inability to coexist with others. I was walking in Downtown Brooklyn (NYC) today all the while being mean-mugged, scoffed at, and avoided. I get a bad vibe from everybody. I honestly think about committing suicide on a daily basis. I don't have a place in this world.

I don't believe that. I've watched some your youtube vids and you seem like a pretty alright guy.

Sorry, son, but that's not the impression people get of me when they see me in person. Just yesterday I was walking down a sidewalk and a woman who was walking toward me entered the street and walked around a car just to avoid walking past me. Reactions such as this one are typical for me.

So?.... Why let your value and sense of self worth be determined by stupid, shallow, and judgemental people? I mean I know that stuff like that can affect you sometimes, but when you know within yourself that you're not some thug, then who cares what others think?

#22 Posted by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

@megagene said:

@BluRayHiDef said:

@megagene said:
@BluRayHiDef said:

@megagene said:

Dude, you seem to have nothing but grief living in that apartment. Your roommate leaving used condoms lying around and being a thug in general. And now our aunt shafting you. I know you said you don't make enough money to live on your own, but you could still probably find yourself a better deal living elsewhere with different roommates.

My living situation is just one of my problems, the biggest of which is my general inability to coexist with others. I was walking in Downtown Brooklyn (NYC) today all the while being mean-mugged, scoffed at, and avoided. I get a bad vibe from everybody. I honestly think about committing suicide on a daily basis. I don't have a place in this world.

I don't believe that. I've watched some your youtube vids and you seem like a pretty alright guy.

Sorry, son, but that's not the impression people get of me when they see me in person. Just yesterday I was walking down a sidewalk and a woman who was walking toward me entered the street and walked around a car just to avoid walking past me. Reactions such as this one are typical for me.

So?.... Why let your value and sense of self worth be determined by stupid, shallow, and judgemental people? I mean I know that stuff like that can affect you sometimes, but when you know within yourself that you're not some thug, then who cares what others think?

It's easy to say that, but in reality, as a Human being, it hurts to be constantly rejected by other Human beings.

#23 Edited by ferrari2001 (16677 posts) -

@megagene said:

@BluRayHiDef said:

@megagene said:
@BluRayHiDef said:

@megagene said:

Dude, you seem to have nothing but grief living in that apartment. Your roommate leaving used condoms lying around and being a thug in general. And now our aunt shafting you. I know you said you don't make enough money to live on your own, but you could still probably find yourself a better deal living elsewhere with different roommates.

My living situation is just one of my problems, the biggest of which is my general inability to coexist with others. I was walking in Downtown Brooklyn (NYC) today all the while being mean-mugged, scoffed at, and avoided. I get a bad vibe from everybody. I honestly think about committing suicide on a daily basis. I don't have a place in this world.

I don't believe that. I've watched some your youtube vids and you seem like a pretty alright guy.

Sorry, son, but that's not the impression people get of me when they see me in person. Just yesterday I was walking down a sidewalk and a woman who was walking toward me entered the street and walked around a car just to avoid walking past me. Reactions such as this one are typical for me.

So?.... Why let your value and sense of self worth be determined by stupid, shallow, and judgemental people? I mean I know that stuff like that can affect you sometimes, but when you know within yourself that you're not some thug, then who cares what others think?

It's easy to say that, but in reality, as a Human being, it hurts to be constantly rejected by other Human beings.

I know you probably don't want to hear this but how can you be sure that other people are actually and legitimately judging and condemning you. Is it not possibly that you believe so strongly that people are actually doing these things that you believe they are even when they aren't? I only say this because, in my experience in large cities people could care less who is walking near them. More often then not they are just drowning everyone and everything out and going about their business.

#24 Posted by Wilfred_Owen (20799 posts) -

Take your anxiety meds dude and stop making excuses for yourself. It won't help you.

#25 Edited by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

@ferrari2001 said:

@BluRayHiDef said:

@megagene said:

@BluRayHiDef said:

@megagene said:
@BluRayHiDef said:

@megagene said:

Dude, you seem to have nothing but grief living in that apartment. Your roommate leaving used condoms lying around and being a thug in general. And now our aunt shafting you. I know you said you don't make enough money to live on your own, but you could still probably find yourself a better deal living elsewhere with different roommates.

My living situation is just one of my problems, the biggest of which is my general inability to coexist with others. I was walking in Downtown Brooklyn (NYC) today all the while being mean-mugged, scoffed at, and avoided. I get a bad vibe from everybody. I honestly think about committing suicide on a daily basis. I don't have a place in this world.

I don't believe that. I've watched some your youtube vids and you seem like a pretty alright guy.

Sorry, son, but that's not the impression people get of me when they see me in person. Just yesterday I was walking down a sidewalk and a woman who was walking toward me entered the street and walked around a car just to avoid walking past me. Reactions such as this one are typical for me.

So?.... Why let your value and sense of self worth be determined by stupid, shallow, and judgemental people? I mean I know that stuff like that can affect you sometimes, but when you know within yourself that you're not some thug, then who cares what others think?

It's easy to say that, but in reality, as a Human being, it hurts to be constantly rejected by other Human beings.

I know you probably don't want to hear this but how can you be sure that other people are actually and legitimately judging and condemning you. Is it not possibly that you believe so strongly that people are actually doing these things that you believe they are even when they aren't? I only say this because, in my experience in large cities people could care less who is walking near them. More often then not they are just drowning everyone and everything out and going about their business.

A woman entered the street and walked around a car just to avoid walking by me; it's quite obvious that she judged me. Also, I already mentioned some of the experiences I had today when walking in Downtown Brooklyn, but I did not mention all of them; someone actually yelled out to me "Get the fuck out of here!" He was talking directly to me and when I replied "What?" he became scared and said he was talking about a truck. Yea, right; people tell trucks to get the fuck out of here.

I'm convinced that when people see me, a short and slim Black male with braids, they think of me as an "urban youth" (i.e. a young, fleet footed, trouble-making Black male). I don't think they're afraid of me, but afraid that I'll try to do something to them.

#26 Posted by ferrari2001 (16677 posts) -

@ferrari2001 said:

I know you probably don't want to hear this but how can you be sure that other people are actually and legitimately judging and condemning you. Is it not possibly that you believe so strongly that people are actually doing these things that you believe they are even when they aren't? I only say this because, in my experience in large cities people could care less who is walking near them. More often then not they are just drowning everyone and everything out and going about their business.

A woman entered the street and walked around a car just to avoid walking by me; it's quite obvious that she judged me. Also, I already mentioned some of the experiences I had today when walking in Downtown Brooklyn, but I did not mention all of them; someone actually yelled out to me "Get the fuck out of here!" He was talking directly to me and when I replied "What?" he became scared and said he was talking about a truck. Yea, right; people tell trucks to get the fuck out of here.

I'm convinced that when people see me, a short and slim Black male with braids, they think of me as an "urban youth" (i.e. a young, fleet footed, trouble-making Black male). I don't think they're afraid of me, but afraid that I'll try to do something to them.

It doesn't sound to me that they are judging you personally. It sounds to me you live in a city and an area where urban youth are a commonality. As a result the culture of the area has become a defensive one. People protecting themselves from the unknown. It's a natural response to someone they don't know. I would imagine they yell at dozens of people everyday. It certainly doesn't sound like it was a personal attack against you. I'd imagine if you moved to a more suburban area you'd find people to be far more excepting and a lot less hostile.

#27 Posted by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef said:

@ferrari2001 said:

I know you probably don't want to hear this but how can you be sure that other people are actually and legitimately judging and condemning you. Is it not possibly that you believe so strongly that people are actually doing these things that you believe they are even when they aren't? I only say this because, in my experience in large cities people could care less who is walking near them. More often then not they are just drowning everyone and everything out and going about their business.

A woman entered the street and walked around a car just to avoid walking by me; it's quite obvious that she judged me. Also, I already mentioned some of the experiences I had today when walking in Downtown Brooklyn, but I did not mention all of them; someone actually yelled out to me "Get the fuck out of here!" He was talking directly to me and when I replied "What?" he became scared and said he was talking about a truck. Yea, right; people tell trucks to get the fuck out of here.

I'm convinced that when people see me, a short and slim Black male with braids, they think of me as an "urban youth" (i.e. a young, fleet footed, trouble-making Black male). I don't think they're afraid of me, but afraid that I'll try to do something to them.

I'd imagine if you moved to a more suburban area you'd find people to be far more excepting and a lot less hostile.

I lived in Update New York (Potsdam, in St. Lawrence County) while attending Clarkson University. No difference. Young White women ran away from me numerous times, and their White boyfriends would look at me with hostility whenever I was around, as if I was going to attempt to kidnapp their girlfriends. I'd walk into stores in that town and the clerks would focus all of their attention on me, etc. I know you mean well, ferrari, but you are mistaken. The sad fact is that most people are bigots.

Anyhow, I don't want this to turn into an endless exchange about whether I'm right or not, so let's drop this.

#28 Posted by ferrari2001 (16677 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef Well don't be discouraged. I just hope you find something you love doing and you can find joy in it. You're definitely pretty awesome here.

#29 Posted by LJS9502_basic (149522 posts) -

Pay what she charges or move out. Simple really dude...

#30 Posted by foxhound_fox (86947 posts) -

Seriously, why the fuck are you still living there? You make at least one thread a week complaining about your living arrangement. Shit isn't going to get better for you if you can't man up and make the changes happen.

#31 Posted by indzman (16455 posts) -

Another BRHD complain thread about his cousin ... wait cousins mom this time. Its better you live on street than living with them , you are only making yourself more miserable and getting ripped. MOVE THE FVCK OUT ASAP ( get cheapest place since you can't afford a good place atm ).

#32 Posted by AmazonTreeBoa (16479 posts) -
#33 Posted by JDWolfie (1843 posts) -

My advice would be to A) go to colleges/dorms and post that you need a roommate and go from there how much you would split rent B) Possibly apply for Section 8 housing or C) move out of New York. New York isn't exactly cheap.

#34 Edited by JDWolfie (1843 posts) -

Honestly, I think if you can get your hair to look like number one or three in the link, I think it would do wonders for you. Hell, some people look better bald (Think Stone Cold Steve Austin).

http://www.latest-hairstyles.com/mens/black.html

#35 Posted by lamprey263 (22450 posts) -

@jasean79 said:

@BluRayHiDef:

But you just said that the money you pay is twice the entire rent. So, that would seem as if you can live in your own apartment for half that? What am I not reading correctly here?

Her rent is subsidized. I didn't know that.

I bet whatever agency is subsidizing her rent would like to know that.

#36 Edited by lamprey263 (22450 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef said:

I just learned that the amount of money I pay to stay here is twice the entire rent...

...With the money I pay to stay here, she can afford to pay the rent and the electricity bill.

So how much are we talking about here, $300? That's not bad for a room anywhere.

#37 Posted by gamerguru100 (10401 posts) -

I'm living with my half sister's aunt and her son in a four bedroom, duplex apartment. I just learned that the amount of money I pay to stay here is twice the entire rent. I raised the issue and was verbally ganged-up on by the both of them. With the money I pay to stay here, she can afford to pay the rent and the electricity bill. So, whatever money she makes from her job is purely disposable income. WTF?

She lied to me in the past, telling me that her rent was higher than it actually was.

She's a mooching bitch.

#38 Edited by the_bi99man (11028 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef said:

@jasean79 said:

@BluRayHiDef:

Well then I would say you're getting shafted. Is your name on the lease? I mean, if you can afford to pay for the entire rent bill in addition to your own food, then best bet would be to move out and find a place of your own. Is that possible?

I don't make enough money to live on my own.

You make enough money to pay more than the entire rent on a four bedroom duplex apartment, and still buy all your own groceries and whatnot, but you don't make enough to live on your own?

Go ahead and think about that one for a minute. And also about the fact that you absolutely, 100% are being taken advantage of.

Edit: Read more of the thread, and saw you mention that her rent is subsidized. As someone else said, I'm sure the agency subsidizing her rent (most likely the government) would be pretty interested to hear that she's also exploiting someone else to pay for what little there is left for her to cover. Sounds like a real stand-up citizen. Would I be wrong to assume there's a drug problem involved? No matter.

Anyway, there are definitely other options. Regardless of how much her rent may be subsidized, if you make enough money to cover ALL OF IT (and then some), then you make enough money to cover a similar arrangement with different roommates. I lived for years on part-time work at minimum wage, and I could still afford decent apartments / small houses, with no more than two roommates, and usually just one. If that's literally impossible to do where you are, then you need to think more long-term, and move somewhere else, where the cost of living isn't so high.

#39 Edited by ad1x2 (5407 posts) -

Her rent is subsidized. I didn't know that.

Just to put it out there, what you and your aunt are doing may be illegal depending on the terms of her subsidized rent. And I don't mean simply raising her rent illegal, but criminal charges for fraud illegal. You could have claimed ignorance in the past but since you are writing a thread about it that might not be possible now.

I spent a few years in NYC, while my family is there it just isn't worth it in my opinion. Consider moving elsewhere to a place that is cheaper and you have a better chance of fitting in. Places like Atlanta will embrace you with your look as long as you aren't trying to hang out in Buckhead with the rich people.

#40 Edited by GazaAli (22491 posts) -

Move out, problem solved.

#41 Posted by AutoPilotOn (7944 posts) -

Wow she is already getting subsidized housing and making money? Damn, we had my wife's sister and her bf in our house for over 6 months and she never paid a dime. Didn't even provide her own laundry soap or anything.

#42 Posted by airshocker (28306 posts) -

I don't get it. You know you're being taken advantage of. You make plenty of money to live in your own in another state or city. Why not just move?

#43 Edited by AutoPilotOn (7944 posts) -

@airshocker: plus he doesn't seem happy where he is. I say pack up and move start fresh.

I have a friend who had his wife cheated on his his contractor job was slowing way down. He packed up and went to Florida and now he lives close to beach and has new fiancé and new job.

#44 Edited by BattleSpectre (5952 posts) -

Your Gaming PC is causing too much heat in the apartment, don't be rude bro pay up....

LOL

#45 Edited by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

Your Gaming PC is causing too much heat in the apartment, don't be rude bro pay up....

LOL

Actually, I did the math and determined that in a worst case scenario, I'd add only $30.00 to the electricity bill. Contrary to what you may think, most devices don't cost much to run; it's mainly refrigerators, electrical heating systems and air-conditioning that drive up electricity bills.

#46 Posted by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

I don't get it. You know you're being taken advantage of. You make plenty of money to live in your own in another state or city. Why not just move?

I don't think it would be easy to find a job in another state.

#47 Posted by airshocker (28306 posts) -

@airshocker said:

I don't get it. You know you're being taken advantage of. You make plenty of money to live in your own in another state or city. Why not just move?

I don't think it would be easy to find a job in another state.

It's not easy to find a job anywhere. Everything that you're getting while living in your current situation is of your own doing. You want that to change you have to make it change. So either you take your aunt to court or you move somewhere else. Why don't you try moving to Orange or Rockland County? You'll pay much less in rent than you are now but you'll still be in New York. Here are some places to look for apartments in Rockland: West Nyack, Nyack, New City, Suffern, Spring Valley, Pearl River, Stony Point and Haverstraw. Garnerville is especially cheap since it's a low-income area of Haverstraw. If you want to pay a little bit less you can hop over the border into New Jersey. Mahwah, Paramus and Ramsey are the major suburban cities there and they do have plenty of apartments.

#48 Edited by BattleSpectre (5952 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef: Listen, I read through the entire thread after I posted that silly joke, and what I saw nearly made me cry - I kid you not. I'm sorry you have to deal with such shallow minded people, that are so pathetic and desperate inside, that they find the need to take it out on others to make themselves feel better.

You mentioned you think about suicide every day, but I tell you what? Why should we lose someone as talented and blessed as you? You might feel insecure by what others do wrongly to you, but let me tell you right now there's nothing you should feel insecure about. I'm a guy and can tell you straight up no homo, that you're a good looking young man with a great physique to match. Why throw that all away just because some people are too dumb to see the real you and get to know you?

Perhaps those people that avoid you don't know you, maybe they're intimidated by you, but you know what? It's not personal. When I walk down the street and see someone maybe with tattoos, ripped jeans and an aggressive looking appearance (no matter the skin colour) I ignore them and straight away judge them. This is the human nature, but what I don't know is that this one person may be the complete opposite of what I thought, and completely surprise me. What I'm trying to say is don't let a few people get in your way, it's like being bullied over the internet, it shouldn't hurt you because they don't know who you really are.

Let me tell you one thing though, you keep on doing your thing and don't stop for anyone. You have nothing to prove to anyone, and you will prove all these people wrong that doubt you when you finally succeed in life. I've said it before and I'll say it again, you do have a talent Adrian. You're a YouTube personality, you have the voice, the looks mate. you have everything to make it big. You keep on putting in the hard yards and you'll reap the rewards. It won't be easy and of course at times you'll feel like giving up.

But what's important right now, and that I hope you can see is that you're a great human being and just because some people treat you differently doesn't mean the whole world will. You should be proud to be who you are, everyday on YouTube you see stories about kids with major disabilities and deformed appearances but they still smile, why? Because they find something or someone that makes them happy.

You Adrian, you have everything to live for. Don't you fucking dare take the cowardly option out and end your life. Everything, and I mean everything will set it's course for you in life. You might feel like you'll never find another job, or maybe you're not good enough for a girlfriend but that's all bullshit. You're a good man Adrian a girl would be very lucky to have you. Remember there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

Anyways to end things here, what I read tonight from you really upset and hurt me. No one on here knows what it's like until it happens to them, and some people can be so hurtful like you've mentioned in your experiences but remember, those people don't know you. They're not open minded at all, and as hard as it may be try and forget about them.

You seem like a really down to earth guy, trust me I'd be honoured to call you my mate. You keep on making those YouTube videos, and playing those games like we all do. Because that's what makes us happy. Everything else will find it's way into your life. But sometimes you have to fight for it. Regardless of that just remember what I said, you have everything to live for Adrian. Others would die to have the chance that you do. Like I mentioned some people are born with sicknesses they battle through their whole life, some die with it. They get no chance to live a normal life or even have a chance at life.

But you, you're young, healthy and have everything right in front of you. This is all coming from the heart and sorry for the long post but it had to be said. You're a good fuckin' man Adrian, I respect you for that.

#49 Posted by BluRayHiDef (10837 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef: Listen, I read through the entire thread after I posted that silly joke, and what I saw nearly made me cry - I kid you not. I'm sorry you have to deal with such shallow minded people, that are so pathetic and desperate inside, that they find the need to take it out on others to make themselves feel better.

You mentioned you think about suicide every day, but I tell you what? Why should we lose someone as talented and blessed as you? You might feel insecure by what others do wrongly to you, but let me tell you right now there's nothing you should feel insecure about. I'm a guy and can tell you straight up no homo, that you're a good looking young man with a great physique to match. Why throw that all away just because some people are too dumb to see the real you and get to know you?

Perhaps those people that avoid you don't know you, maybe they're intimidated by you, but you know what? It's not personal. When I walk down the street and see someone maybe with tattoos, ripped jeans and an aggressive looking appearance (no matter the skin colour) I ignore them and straight away judge them. This is the human nature, but what I don't know is that this one person may be the complete opposite of what I thought, and completely surprise me. What I'm trying to say is don't let a few people get in your way, it's like being bullied over the internet, it shouldn't hurt you because they don't know who you really are.

Let me tell you one thing though, you keep on doing your thing and don't stop for anyone. You have nothing to prove to anyone, and you will prove all these people wrong that doubt you when you finally succeed in life. I've said it before and I'll say it again, you do have a talent Adrian. You're a YouTube personality, you have the voice, the looks mate. you have everything to make it big. You keep on putting in the hard yards and you'll reap the rewards. It won't be easy and of course at times you'll feel like giving up.

But what's important right now, and that I hope you can see is that you're a great human being and just because some people treat you differently doesn't mean the whole world will. You should be proud to be who you are, everyday on YouTube you see stories about kids with major disabilities and deformed appearances but they still smile, why? Because they find something or someone that makes them happy.

You Adrian, you have everything to live for. Don't you fucking dare take the cowardly option out and end your life. Everything, and I mean everything will set it's course for you in life. You might feel like you'll never find another job, or maybe you're not good enough for a girlfriend but that's all bullshit. You're a good man Adrian a girl would be very lucky to have you. Remember there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

Anyways to end things here, what I read tonight from you really upset and hurt me. No one on here knows what it's like until it happens to them, and some people can be so hurtful like you've mentioned in your experiences but remember, those people don't know you. They're not open minded at all, and as hard as it may be try and forget about them.

You seem like a really down to earth guy, trust me I'd be honoured to call you my mate. You keep on making those YouTube videos, and playing those games like we all do. Because that's what makes us happy. Everything else will find it's way into your life. But sometimes you have to fight for it. Regardless of that just remember what I said, you have everything to live for Adrian. Others would die to have the chance that you do. Like I mentioned some people are born with sicknesses they battle through their whole life, some die with it. They get no chance to live a normal life or even have a chance at life.

But you, you're young, healthy and have everything right in front of you. This is all coming from the heart and sorry for the long post but it had to be said. You're a good fuckin' man Adrian, I respect you for that.

I appreciate your sentiment and have considered what you said about not allowing the opinions of strangers to get to me. Perhaps if I mustered up the courage to approach people and talk to them, they'd see me for who I truly am and subsequently I'd learn not to take the reactions of strangers so seriously, because they're nothing personal. Maybe one day I will.

As for YouTube, I'll continue to do my best in producing content whether or not it pays off, because it's fun to do.

Thanks for the encouragement, mate.

#50 Edited by jasean79 (2268 posts) -

@BluRayHiDef: Listen, I read through the entire thread after I posted that silly joke, and what I saw nearly made me cry - I kid you not. I'm sorry you have to deal with such shallow minded people, that are so pathetic and desperate inside, that they find the need to take it out on others to make themselves feel better.

You mentioned you think about suicide every day, but I tell you what? Why should we lose someone as talented and blessed as you? You might feel insecure by what others do wrongly to you, but let me tell you right now there's nothing you should feel insecure about. I'm a guy and can tell you straight up no homo, that you're a good looking young man with a great physique to match. Why throw that all away just because some people are too dumb to see the real you and get to know you?

Perhaps those people that avoid you don't know you, maybe they're intimidated by you, but you know what? It's not personal. When I walk down the street and see someone maybe with tattoos, ripped jeans and an aggressive looking appearance (no matter the skin colour) I ignore them and straight away judge them. This is the human nature, but what I don't know is that this one person may be the complete opposite of what I thought, and completely surprise me. What I'm trying to say is don't let a few people get in your way, it's like being bullied over the internet, it shouldn't hurt you because they don't know who you really are.

Let me tell you one thing though, you keep on doing your thing and don't stop for anyone. You have nothing to prove to anyone, and you will prove all these people wrong that doubt you when you finally succeed in life. I've said it before and I'll say it again, you do have a talent Adrian. You're a YouTube personality, you have the voice, the looks mate. you have everything to make it big. You keep on putting in the hard yards and you'll reap the rewards. It won't be easy and of course at times you'll feel like giving up.

But what's important right now, and that I hope you can see is that you're a great human being and just because some people treat you differently doesn't mean the whole world will. You should be proud to be who you are, everyday on YouTube you see stories about kids with major disabilities and deformed appearances but they still smile, why? Because they find something or someone that makes them happy.

You Adrian, you have everything to live for. Don't you fucking dare take the cowardly option out and end your life. Everything, and I mean everything will set it's course for you in life. You might feel like you'll never find another job, or maybe you're not good enough for a girlfriend but that's all bullshit. You're a good man Adrian a girl would be very lucky to have you. Remember there is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

Anyways to end things here, what I read tonight from you really upset and hurt me. No one on here knows what it's like until it happens to them, and some people can be so hurtful like you've mentioned in your experiences but remember, those people don't know you. They're not open minded at all, and as hard as it may be try and forget about them.

You seem like a really down to earth guy, trust me I'd be honoured to call you my mate. You keep on making those YouTube videos, and playing those games like we all do. Because that's what makes us happy. Everything else will find it's way into your life. But sometimes you have to fight for it. Regardless of that just remember what I said, you have everything to live for Adrian. Others would die to have the chance that you do. Like I mentioned some people are born with sicknesses they battle through their whole life, some die with it. They get no chance to live a normal life or even have a chance at life.

But you, you're young, healthy and have everything right in front of you. This is all coming from the heart and sorry for the long post but it had to be said. You're a good fuckin' man Adrian, I respect you for that.